Jinger and Jeremy: Love and Marriage

[Casserole]

18 minutes ago, Coconut Flan said:

They wouldn't need 1000 though.  They only have to send one per family. 

Really? I know I'm in the Northeast where average weddings cost more than houses elsewhere... but I have never been to a wedding that didn't invite everyone individually. 1. It was more personal and 2. it cut down on surprised guests/questions of can I bring a date/kids? etc. and offered more control to the bride and groom.

Invitation to the Casserole Family - does this include kids? can the kids bring dates? Separate invitations to Casserole and guest, CasseroleSister + Husband, Miss MiniCasseroleNiece - much easier to identify who you want there. And majority of weddings in my life have been no one under 18 invited with the exception of bridal party kids, so it's very helpful.

As I type this, I obviously realize it isn't necessary in the Duggar world, but I'd think they'd still need 400+ invitations. Not every family is the Bateses or the Rodriguii sized. I'm still happier they went with a mass produced, print your own invite and served their guests food and kept their guests warm indoors. 

 

[JermajestyDuggar]

29 minutes ago, Coconut Flan said:

They wouldn't need 1000 though.  They only have to send one per family. 

So about 100? 

;-)

[front hugs > duggs]

12 minutes ago, Casserole said:

Really? I know I'm in the Northeast where average weddings cost more than houses elsewhere... but I have never been to a wedding that didn't invite everyone individually. 1. It was more personal and 2. it cut down on surprised guests/questions of can I bring a date/kids? etc. and offered more control to the bride and groom.

 

 

Interesting! I'm in the Northeast too and I have never heard of each person living in a house receiving a different invite. I get where you are coming from where it clears up any and all confusion, but it seems like such a waste of money and paper! I just got married and if only a couple was invited, I addressed it Mr. and Mrs. So&So (or Mrs. and Mrs, Mr. and Mr., etc. ). But when I invited my cousins and their four children, it was the So&So Family, and they understood it meant all of them.

I actually did send my grandma and Aunt a separate invite, and my gram now lives with my aunt. I do this though because they each like having their own pictures and momentos, so I know it makes them feel special to have their own

Edited to add: We also handled dates the following- anybody who had a partner, the partner did get invited, and we addressed both names on the envelopes. We didn't allow anyone just a +1 date, because we are young and paid for our own wedding, and didn't want anyone just finding some random person to bring. So we had no "and guest" on any envelopes, but all specific names or "Lastname Family".

[VineHeart137]

7 minutes ago, Casserole said:

Really? I know I'm in the Northeast where average weddings cost more than houses elsewhere... but I have never been to a wedding that didn't invite everyone individually. 1. It was more personal and 2. it cut down on surprised guests/questions of can I bring a date/kids? etc. and offered more control to the bride and groom.

Invitation to the Casserole Family - does this include kids? can the kids bring dates? Separate invitations to Casserole and guest, CasseroleSister + Husband, Miss MiniCasseroleNiece - much easier to identify who you want there. And majority of weddings in my life have been no one under 18 invited with the exception of bridal party kids, so it's very helpful.

As I type this, I obviously realize it isn't necessary in the Duggar world, but I'd think they'd still need 400+ invitations. Not every family is the Bateses or the Rodriguii sized. I'm still happier they went with a mass produced, print your own invite and served their guests food and kept their guests warm indoors. 

 

That's interesting. I've never heard of using an invite for every individual person. If kids aren't invited but you want to invite a couple who has kids, you would address the invite to the couple specifically "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" as opposed to "The Smith Family." If plus ones are allowed for singles, you would say "Mr. John Smith and Guest." If your invite doesn't indicate in any way that you're allowed a guest, then it's assumed that plus ones are not allowed.

By the end of this year I will have attended five weddings in 2016 alone, and only one will have specified no children allowed besides nursing children. I guess we love kids down here lol. To be fair, I don't think I've ever been to a super formal or black tie wedding either. I can see not wanting children in that atmosphere.

[OrchidBlossom]

9 hours ago, Fundie Bunny said:

None of the girls used a blusher. I personally haven't even seen them in weddings, they are quite out of style. Jill barely even wore a veil (it was short and barely there). If Jessa could wear a non white dress and no one questioned her virginity, Jinger can handle not wearing a blusher

I thought Jessa did have a veil covering her face?

[devoutjedi]

30 minutes ago, Casserole said:

I have never been to a wedding that didn't invite everyone individually. 1. It was more personal and 2. it cut down on surprised guests/questions of can I bring a date/kids? etc. and offered more control to the bride and groom.

We sent 1 invite/family with everyone's names spelled out on the invite. We had 300+ guests (100-150 families?) so it wouldn't have made sense to do otherwise. 

[Dugg@rTime]

1 hour ago, Rosierose1222 said:

Not sure if anyone's mentioned this anywhere yet, but has anyone else seen this picture from the keeping up with fundies tumblr?

 

 

Barf. 

 

 

 

 

[ClaraOswin]

Some comments from the last few pages (didn't feel like quoting everyone...)

I don't think there's anything wrong with Jinger's invitation. These days, many people are going less formal with invitations and I think that's perfectly fine. I'm glad I don't live with so many rules about what is "proper" or some shit.

I've never heard of everyone in the household getting an invitation. Typically it's addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Smith and Family or something. The parents and the kids. That's it. There's often an RSVP card where you write in the number. I was invited to a wedding recently where not all kids were invited (except for close family.) So on those invitations, it didn't say "and family" and there was a number with a blank in front of it.... ___/2 or whatever.

And EWW on that photo. I am guessing it was JB's idea. Hopefully they only did this during photos and not while everyone was still in the church. Freaking weirdos.

[sansan]

2 hours ago, rosebud95 said:

My inner traditional Southern belle is crying at the lack of engraving or calligraphy.  It's not their fault, though.  Bless their hearts.

I guess being from Texas I would not be considered a Southern belle but truly I do not see anything wrong with the invitation. It must be my "good ole girl thinkin' ". Now the Bless their hearts... we all know you are thinking, the dumbasses.

[catlady]

i'm ok with the invitation, too.  it's not my taste, but as long as J&J like it, that's what matters.  someone on the last page did say "too many fonts," which i do agree with; my preference is one font.  the company i work for hosts a years-of-service reception every year, and they mail out simple white card-type invitations.  for a few years, the woman in charge of planning used three or four fonts, and i thought it looked haphazard.  someone else is designing them now, and they look nicer with one.

[Bad Wolf]

Well, at least they didn't have their registry on it.

[JessaBlessa]

I can't believe the Vuolos went along with that photo.

[weirdemmaline]

When I was in college for graphic design, they basically told us we could use as many fonts as we wanted-- within reason-- but at most two font "families". Anything more than that really starts making things look cluttered. 

I think whoever designed that invite was likely told something similar. At least the fonts kinda go together?

[Mela99]

2 hours ago, SportsgalAnnie said:

Can Jim bob be anymore of an attention whore?

Man, don't encourage him -- I'm sure he can. 

[patsymae]

On 11/15/2016 at 7:51 PM, eleanora3 said:

I don't get why it's modest to sew skin-colored material underneath lace. People will still think they're looking at your skin so it's not going to stop any impure thoughts (not that I think lace even stirs up impure thoughts to begin with)

Really. Back in the day I wore a mesh dress with a nude body stocking underneath to a party ('60s, of course) and my brother later told me that everybody, especially guys, spent a lot of time speculating...so not exactly modest by fund standards.But you are (and feel) covered.  It's kind of like do you wear a Dolly Parton wig because you like how it looks and makes you feel, or do you wear a Dolly Parton wig because it fulfills the requirement of covering your own mousy hair?

[Gobsmacked]

3 hours ago, wikinggirl said:

Why? Why????!?!?!?! 

I don't need to see all of these people kiss. 

I agree, gross and ridiculously daft. My parents never even considered such a thing at my wedding, or my sisters wedding. Why would they??? Why would anyone with any sort of morals. It's just not culturally correct surely??

I blame the Holy J- Boob. The man is disgusting, sleazy, immodest and totally yucky. 

Fundies tell us frequently that they are modest and the rest of us normal folk are not. They do things correctly but we lesser mortals do not. 

The Duggars are not modest. At all. 

No one in my family ( both sides) have ever disgraced themselves like this at weddings. 

Fundies appear to think of nothing but sex. All the time.

Just so not normal. 

Rant over.

[CorruptionInc.]

1 hour ago, JessaBlessa said:

I can't believe the Vuolos went along with that photo.

I'm not all that surprised, the Vuolo's are also their own special kind of crazy with Religion and such.

[patsymae]

On 11/15/2016 at 3:27 PM, Fascinated said:

It looks like Jana someone may have added some lining material to the neckline of the bridesmaids' dresses?  All in all, very nice photos. I still think Jinger looked stunning.  

Nothing to this poster, just only place I could backtrack to to comment on bridesmaids dresses (quit FB for a week because of election cray-cray but apparently I can't stay away from a screen anyway). IMO these are horrible bridesmaids dresses and as some poster said probably samples that they got for free--there is no ombre "theme." Plus to me they look really, really matronly--I'd say mother of the bride dresses but really more like grandmother, or even, given their 20-year-generational thing, great-grandmother dresses. Grandma Duggar was better dressed than these bridesmaids.

 

[Cassia]

I've got a stomach of steel but this picture really squicks me out.

#awkwardfamilyphotos much?!

[JessaBlessa]

JB would perform the sex act in public if he could get away with it. He almost tried on the mini-golf course. I think he's a porn star wannabe.

[Justmurrayed]

13 minutes ago, Cassia said:

I've got a stomach of steel but this picture really squicks me out.

#awkwardfamilyphotos much?!

There is not enough brain bleach in this world to get rid of that mental picture. Bleck. 

On a side note, I am surprised by how much I like Michelle's dress since usually she picks some fugly dresses. 

[Mela99]

JB would perform the sex act in public if he could get away with it. He almost tried on the mini-golf course. I think he's a porn star wannabe.

He's no different than a drunk frat boy with a sock stuffed in his crotch. He loves showing off his sexually submissive wife and gloating about all their sweet fellowship. I'm sure he has some fundie version of a notch in the headboard somewhere in the TTH.

[Gobsmacked]

Thankyou Mela99!! Now I'm laughing and coughing at the same time. Painful!!

You are spot on though!!

[RabbitKM]

I don't think theres anything wrong with the invitation. It's just a very casual invitation that some people would use as a Save the Date with a more formal invite to follow. But hey, it's better than going into debt over a silly thing like wedding invites.

As for sending to the whole family thing.. maybe what the poster meant was for the adult children they all get their own invite? In my family, all the kids are grown up, but not necessarily married or even moved out. But lately, I've been getting my own invite to weddings (even family weddings where my parents were also invited) because I think it basically recognizes me as a separate entity from my parents. So, in the case of children like Jana, JD, etc, it would follow that they would get their own (and therefore, provide their own gift).  But certainly the littles and teens would still be grouped with parents (Mr. and Mrs Duggar and Family; Miss Jana Duggar; etc). Obviously, with such large families, it doesn't really make sense to use up so many stamps like that, but in my family and others, I've noticed that my age cohort has been getting separate invites and thank you's and the like. 

[bellina]

13 hours ago, Fundie Bunny said:

None of the girls used a blusher. I personally haven't even seen them in weddings, they are quite out of style. Jill barely even wore a veil (it was short and barely there). If Jessa could wear a non white dress and no one questioned her virginity, Jinger can handle not wearing a blusher

Jill and Jessa both used blushers. Anna did, too. Jill and Jessa's veils were both elbow-length or longer, neither short nor "barely there".

Re: the invitation, there's nothing wrong with it. It's fine for a casual invitation. And with a 2:00 p.m. wedding with no one wearing morning dress, black tie, or white tie, with a cake and punch reception, it's obviously a casual event. As someone else said, at least the registry wasn't on there (as far as we can see...has anyone seen the back of it, though?). 

Re: that couples photo...vom. That's a family tradition I don't understand.