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  1. FluffySnowball

    Dillards 80: Everybody Take a Shot!

    Found a photo of us...
  2. Lillymuffin

    Dillards 80: Everybody Take a Shot!

    I lost a (very wanted) baby shortly before birth this summer. I took no pictures of her, and allowed no one else to, either. Her father predeceased her, so that wasn’t an issue. My family thinks I will regret this, but I’m fine with my decision. I’m going against family tradition here, but I strongly dislike seeing the guest of honor at a viewing or funeral after they’ve been made up. I definitely don’t want to remember my sweet girl that way.
  3. feministxtian

    Dillards 80: Everybody Take a Shot!

    There might be pictures at Mr. Xtian's funeral on Thursday. It will probably be me and the family. This is the first time the WHOLE family will be in one place. However, there will be no pictures of Mr. Xtian's urn. That's just not cool in my point of view. It's the same reason I didn't publish an obituary for him. He was a very private person and I will continue to respect that. I have some pictures from when he was in hospice, those are PRIVATE as hell, and will never be shared on any form of social media. The only reason I took them was on advice of my attorney for the malpractice lawsuit to show how fast he went down hill from the time he started radiation (about 2 months before).
  4. neurogirl

    Josiah and Lauren 15: The Drama Llama Rolls On

    Someone on reddit did have an interesting note that at first, neither Lauren nor Josiah mentioned the miscarriage. Then once people started questioning if they weren't having sex (at all or correctly) or possibly preventing, they posted about it publicly (Feb 11). That post got a HUGE amount of likes and comments. Their Valentine's Day post didn't mention the loss, nor did the next two posts, but Lauren thanked everyone for their support March 24 (again, with a lot of likes/comments). Then the miscarriage wasn't mentioned again (still nameless, genderless) until Josiah's post to Lauren on Mother's Day (May 11). May 20th they announced the 2nd pregnancy, with a gray balloon in the picture for "Asa," once again with out any gender mention. To me, it seemed like a Biblical "gender neutral" name like the Bates have with their miscarried pregnancies who were given hymn names. "angel baby" was mentioned in almost every post about the new pregnancy (and their anniversary, and Grandma Mary's death) except, surprisingly, the gender reveal announcement. Finally, the baby shower post with the cake was the first mention of "big bro Asa." Asa (said Ay-saw I think) was a King of Judah who was fairly righteous and "rooted out idolatry." So it does make sense that Lauren and Josiah, who at least try to appear pious, would give their first born a righteous king name. But it's also very interesting that the talk about the miscarriage really seemed to ramp up in an opposite fashion than one might expect. The uncharitable reason could of course be that Lauren is attention seeking. The kinder explanation could be that Lauren NEEDS THERAPY (I think this is screamingly obvious) and the likes/comments really did help her feel validated in her emotions and not alone. Also. I also think Lauren's comment about "more downs than ups in this first year of marriage" that received a lot of criticism can be related, that the loss gives her a reason to have had a hard first year (which could have been "just" a hard transition to married life and all that entails for fundie women), and I think that's an excellent point. At the risk of getting too personal (RAMBLING ALERT), I can also relate. I didn't have a miscarriage, but my and my husband's first year of marriage was pretty shitty. We were on such high coming off the wedding (beautiful, amazing, perfect day) and romantic honeymoon. I was swept off my feet. We had been together for 6 years (and lived together with a roommate for two) and I didn't have doubts about our future. Then we moved into a one bedroom just the two of the us for the first time (with no roommates), he started a new job, and his father had a prolonged health scare for months in which he very nearly died a couple times. My husband coped unhealthily with all this stress, and I was also stressed by all this and by grad school, and was not as understanding as I should've been. We withdrew from each other and the next spring when everything went more or less back to normal we realized we had become distant and were having awful conversations about to fix our marriage which was LESS THAN A YEAR OLD. It was heartbreaking. We are doing much much better now, but still going to try therapy, as we have returned to a comfortable intellectual snuggly love, but one that feels more aged than it should (not romantic/passionate, and we are in our 20s and have only been married a year). I would have given anything to have had ONE reason that could be "fixed" or at least been the sole thing to blame for my relationship, which had been the most secure thing in my life for years, now feeling shaky. Especially since people make jokes about newlyweds all the time and I felt like we were doomed if our first year, which should've been spent magically between the sheets, was just really shitty. TLDR; Lauren's commenting about the miscarriage has increased over the year and could be a result of the attention she gets (seen charitably or uncharitably). I hope she treats her very present baby girl with as much love and attention. The first year of marriage CAN be really hard without a tragic event (living together, different expectations for routines and duties, sex), and society frequently says otherwise, making it hurt worse.
  5. formergothardite

    Andrea Mills 3: Still Buying Junk Food

    Gather around my friends and put on your tin foil hat! It is conspiracy time. This is Tom. Tom knew if he joined as a man to defend the family and Rachel we would automatically know it was him. So he created a woman in her 20's who has been persecuted by the liberals when she became a Christian. This woman used ACE as a child just like Andrea. The outdated term "career woman" was used because that was trendy when he was young and he has been in fundie culture so long he didn't realize it has fallen out of use. He is used to ACE where children teach themselves using workbooks, so the idea that a person would have to devote a huge chunk of time to educating their children didn't enter his mind. So he thought saying Rachel isn't busy would not be controversial and he doesn't want to get into a discussion about education. Tom could never admit ACE has a dark side so he must ignore all evidence and go on the attack. Tom loves Trump and this person seems offended by my profile picture. This is almost certainly wrong. And just an FYI, sadly I am not a doctor who went to an ivy league college and is a raw vegan. Sorry to disappoint people who wanted me to provide raw vegan medical advice I learned at a prestigious university. I can dispense the advice that no matter what the internet says, a carrot will never taste like a hot dog. Don't believe that Pinterest lie.
  6. Xan

    Andrea Mills 3: Still Buying Junk Food

    Formergothardite has 20,572 posts and has been here for quite a while. I think we can all figure out for ourselves who is exactly the troll here...
  7. sixcatatty

    Josiah and Lauren 15: The Drama Llama Rolls On

    What pissed me off--again--is saying "the Lord blessed" them with the baby coming, my five miscarriages mean I'm not a good Christian and don't deserve/haven't been blessed. I don't have the blessing of children but I've been blessed. He blessed me with my husband, who is the finest man I've ever known. He blessed me with talents with which to do my job. He blessed me by calling me to the job I love. Two days ago, He blessed with me once again with the ability to get up from a sitting position without help after a July diagnosis of lumbar damage and a summer spent relying on my husband to get up from everywhere because I was in so much pain, so stiff, so off-balance and numb from ankle to foot. TLDR: I'm not her type of Christian nor do I want to be. My Bible says love one another with no modifiers after the word another.
  8. feministxtian

    Dillards 80: Everybody Take a Shot!

    In my mind I feel very alone...I know I'm not but it just feels that way. Mostly because I've had half of me taken away. I'll eventually learn to live as a "party of one"...but it's only been 7 weeks since he died...it's still an adjustment to not having him here.
  9. His follow list is vomit inducing.
  10. lumpentheologie

    Josiah and Lauren 15: The Drama Llama Rolls On

    I don't think Lauren was necessarily claiming that she saw something in the shape of a fetus. Since it's a baby from the moment of conception for them, I'm sure she considered whatever came out of her uterus to be "the baby." And can we stop with questioning whether she was even pregnant? There's no reason to doubt that. I know a lot of people don't like Lauren and she's a fundie, but given a larger culture of dismissing women's perceptions (especially medical perceptions) of their own bodies, we should leave that alone.
  11. VVV

    Andrea Mills 3: Still Buying Junk Food

    "I've never heard Ace being supported by white supremacy groups" = I am not willing to read the links formergothardite provided. "But you can believe whatever you want" = I can't refute your arguments "I dont feel like feeding a troll like you more ttyl" Brand new member with eleven posts vs respected longtime member with over 20,000 posts, that's a hard one to call. 🙄 Editing because I posted at the same time as Xan...great minds lol.
  12. So...John, the PILOT, did an plane-based date and that was most original?! No one else is bothered by this? Just me? Ok then.
  13. I found myself actually answering this “out loud” to my husband who was not paying attention. I would be sea salt and caramel because I can be a bit salty and he would be just plain chocolate because he is boring. and then I lost remote control privileges!
  14. theotherelise

    Dillards 80: Everybody Take a Shot!

    I think in general though, we need to be careful about a "too bad, so sad" mentality towards people who struggle with medical bills from unexpected medical events, even if they have insurance. And even if they chose a plan with the lower premium because that's what they could afford. In my community, many employers are switching their insurance options so that you technically have a choice between a Preferred Provider Organization (PPO) and a High Deductible Helath Plan (HDHP), but the only choice that makes financial sense is the HDHP. My husband's workplace is like $200/month for HDHP for himself only with a $5000 deductible and $12000 out of pocket max. Their PPO option is over $600/month premium for himself only and the deductible is still about $2500). They also give you $750 in your HSA if you go with the HDHP. At my employer, my HDHP option is $0 premium for myself only (354 for me and spouse; 213 for me and kids; 611 for family). My deductible is $2800 (5600 family) and my out of pocket max is $5,000 (10k family). My employer also puts $1500 in my HSA or $3000 if I'm covering family. My PPO option is $17 premium for myself only (387 for spouse; 239 for me and kids, 658 for family). Deductible is still $1500 though or $4500 for family. And out of pocket max is $4000 for single, $12000 for family. Plus you don't get the HSA contribution or ability to save into an HSA. So yeah, even people with insurance can easily find themselves with $10k or $12k or $20k in medical costs. PLUS, those were all in-network costs. Jill had an emergency situation and if they had a network, it's not unlikely that either the hospital or anesthesiologist or doctors were out of network. Insurance is freaking expensive and you still can find yourself in deep debt.
  15. singsingsing

    Josiah and Lauren 15: The Drama Llama Rolls On

    I’m 100000% sure JD was always gross and creepy and the only reason he seemed quiet and funny before is because we didn’t see as much of him.
  16. I’d say that’s roughly 2 dollars more then it’s worth.
  17. Genuine question from an Atheist. Why would the Lord lead Jinger to wear pants? I'm serious. Why does he lead some women to wear skirts and then others to wear pants? I mean, personally, I think Jinger just wanted to wear pants, and so she has convinced herself that it was the Lord that made her think that way. But I'm a heathen, so what do I know?
  18. singsingsing

    Joy & Austin 29: RV Living

    Maybe they put Gideon with SiRen so that TLC can film one of their tired old 'parents expecting a baby learn what it's really like to have kids, can they cope?!?!1' things.
  19. Screamapillar

    Seewalds 42: Trying to Stay Relevant

    Baby #4: Hero of the Christian Faith "Yeezy Seewald"
  20. llg1234

    Josiah and Lauren 15: The Drama Llama Rolls On

    If she had a positive pregnancy test, she was most likely pregnant. False positives are pretty rare. A chemical pregnancy is still technically a pregnancy - it’s just a term some people use for an early miscarriage. I think Lauren’s been quite OTT, but she didn’t have a late period. It’s annoying seeing people say that, mostly because many snarkers consider themselves to be science minded.
  21. anjulibai

    Josiah and Lauren 15: The Drama Llama Rolls On

    I'm sure she was pregnant. And she probably figured her due date from the first day of her last period - that's generally how it's done, unless you get an ultrasound saying differently. I'm sure the miscarriage was very difficult for her, but if she's claiming her loss was the same as losing Grandma Mary, or the same as Joy losing Annabell, then she needs help, either getting perspective or with her depression.
  22. catlady

    Maxwell 33: Managers of Their Vests

    Here’s a very unMaxwellian post for you: Use Your Pizza Cutter To Make Bacon Bits! Yesterday, the Lord placed it on my heart to make beef vegetable soup. While the soup simmered, Jesus bade me to make a Godly Topping of bacon and cheese. When the bacon was cooked and cooled, I laid it out on a cutting board. Then the Hand Of God have me the Holy Pizza Cutter and I rolled it over the bacon several times. At the end of my Blessed Endeavor, I had bacon bits. Psalm 34:8 Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good! Blessed is the man who takes refuge in him.
  23. VBOY9977

    Dillards 80: Everybody Take a Shot!

    Derick has been responding to tweets about his possible falling out with JB and the whole controversy surrounding Sam’s birth


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