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            The Shupes (Large Families on Purpose)

            Blog: largefamiliesonpurpose.com/
            Parents: Erika, Bob
            Children: Karen, aged 17
            Melanie, aged 15 nearly 16
            Brandon, aged 12
            Anna-Marie, aged 9
            Riley, aged 8
            Tyler, aged 6
            Spencer, aged 5
            Lacey and Lilly, aged 4

            About Erika:
            Erika is the oldest of four siblings. Her younger brother, Leif, co-runs the family business Cleaner Guys (damage restoration) with Bob Shupe. She also has two much younger sisters, Heidi and Tina. Erika and Leif are quite a bit older than their sisters- when Erika was an 18-year-old college freshman, Leif was 15 ½, the sisters were 6 and 3. Heidi also has a blog, Team Schween, which Erika occasionally links to.

            Family History:

            Erika has two posts about their family story. I’ll summarise it here.

            http://www.largefamiliesonpurpose.com/2011/07/family-planning-surrendering-control-to_09.html (Part One)
            http://www.largefamiliesonpurpose.com/2011/07/family-planning-surrendering-control-to_12.html (Part Two)

            Bob and Erika met in the summer of 1996 where they were both working at a Christian camp. They courted and were married in May 1997. A year and three months later, they gave birth to first daughter Karen. Erika states in “Part One” that Karen’s birth was difficult and gave her nightmares for a year. Nonetheless, four months after Karen is born, she becomes pregnant with second daughter Melanie.

            Erika does admit that her faith in God was not that strong at this point, and subsequently she was on the pill for three years. This explains the for-a-fundie large gap between Melanie and Brandon. After Brandon’s birth, she went back on the pill (in her words, she “chickened out of the faith plan temporarily”; for the full reasoning you should check the blog post). Until now, the family had been living in a two-bedroom apartment. Eventually they were able to move to their current location in Mount Vernon, WA. They had fourth child, Anna Marie, three years after Brandon. They determined to stay off the pill, and so fifth child Riley was born exactly a year and a day after Anna Marie.

            By this time, Erika was tired from the back-to-back pregnancies and desired to lose a little baby weight. She actually went back on the pill for a while, and sixth child Tyler was born two years after Riley.

            It was at this point that Erika truly placed all faith in God… resulting in seventh child Spencer’s birth a mere ten-and-a-half months after Tyler. You read that right, I assure you. A quote from Erika: “I clearly remember praying one day, "Lord! I just want to be hormonally and physically normal for a while!" And He very quietly and lovingly said, "This is the new normal...so you need to adjust." I thought, "Oh. Okay - time for a new plan, then..." How to do life being pregnant, and do it well - on purpose.” Then, only eleven months after delivering Spencer, Erika gave birth to twin girls Lacey and Lilly.

            Since then, Erika has conceived three times, but miscarried at 4 weeks, 11 weeks and 9 weeks respectively. With the last two, she publicly posted on the blog, before having to add that the Lord had taken her foetuses to be with Him.

            THE BLOG/SHUPE BELIEFS

            Erika began the “Large Families on Purpose” blog back in January 2011, when twins Lacey and Lilly were two months old. Her primary areas include organisation (to a shockingly anal-retentive extent), homeschooling and parenting. She claims over and over again that their house is a mere 1100 sq ft, but numerous FJers have disputed this.

            Her organisational skills are on a par with Steve and Teri Maxwell. Indeed, she hawks Managers Of Their Homes, Managers Of Their Schools and Managers Of Their Chores. Erika has 47-plus posts on organisation. Highlights include squashing their five girls and four boys into tiny bedrooms, naturally gender-separated. Anna Marie sleeps on a trundle bed. Erika also uses a Maxwellian-inspired schedule, including one during summer. She gets up at 5am and reads the Bible for thirty minutes, before showering and preparing for her day. Here is her latest school schedule: largefamiliesonpurpose.com/2014/08/fall-schedule-2014-for-nine-children.html and latest summer schedule: largefamiliesonpurpose.com/2015/06/summer-schedule-2015-for-nine-children.html . Every child goes to bed at 9pm. She also mentions Maxwellian Green Smoothies on the blog.

            Like many fundie SAHMs, Erika homeschools. Unfortunately, as many FJers have noticed, her grammar and spelling skills are poor. Highlights include “Merry Jane”, “strait”, “rout” (meaning route) and others. She justifies this by claiming she has a BA in Early Childhood Education. She also states that she had to unlearn a lot of what she’d learnt in her degree in order to become a better homeschooler.

            Unlike the Maxwells and Duggars, the Shupes actually attend a physical church- Spring Creek Bible Church in Bellingham, WA. Family beliefs include below-knee skirts for girls. Contrary to many fundie moms, Erika has short hair, which she justifies in a blog post. Her girls have been photographed wearing tank tops several times, despite Erika’s claims that (the older girls at least) would not be allowed to wear them in public. Erika has a whole series on modesty, the main point of which is that wearing pants draws a man’s eyes to a woman’s crotch.

            We know very little about the Shupe children aside from their names, genders and ages. Karen is apparently interested in gardening and cosmetology. (Erika states that Karen wishes to ‘pursue’ cosmetology, before shooting down this idea by saying that this will only be the case until marriage). Melanie is a good artist. Anna Marie likes baking. The twins have not yet understood the “separate identities” thing and do pretty much everything together and refer to themselves as “we/us” (info gleaned from the family Christmas letter, posted on Facebook.) The boys all like playing with typical boys’ toys e.g. Transformers, Lego etc.

            EXTRA INFO:

            Last fall, the Shupes acquired 7-year-old Shih Tzu Mocha. Owing to serious separation anxiety issues, Erika dumped him after a short period. They then acquired puppy Muffin a couple of days after Christmas 2014. He was also dumped, after Erika claimed that the breeder lied about him, saying that he was feisty and aggressive, and was projected to weigh 18 lbs, rather than the 8-9 lbs she’d originally thought. (Erika did not realise that Shih Tzus are typically between 4-16lbs). Finally, dog #3, Happy, arrived, who has outlasted both his predecessors combined. Happy appears to be the entire responsibility of Karen and Melanie, and is often pictured being held by one of them.

            Erika also famously broke contact with Bob’s parents (referenced in an old thread in the LFoP archives). viewtopic.php?f=207&t=16752

            FJers have speculated on oldest son Brandon. Anna Marie, three years his junior, is his height, as is Riley. Other FJers have also speculated that he looks skinny and ill.

            I know that I have only scratched the surface of Erika Shupe and her particular brand of crazy. To truly understand them (if indeed you can), check out the blog. Some highlights:

            http://www.largefamiliesonpurpose.com/2011/04/organizing-home-more-tips-for.html (Part Two of house organisation, includes the kids' cells (ahem, bedrooms))

            http://www.largefamiliesonpurpose.com/2012/09/happy-halloween.html (why Halloween is EBIL)

            http://www.largefamiliesonpurpose.com/2012/10/siblings-sharing-bedrooms-you-have-how.html (The reasoning behind the kids' cells, ahem bedrooms)

            http://www.largefamiliesonpurpose.com/2012/08/organized-sports-and-individual-hobbies.html (Why organised sports are EBIL)

            http://www.largefamiliesonpurpose.com/2011/02/large-family-organization-scheduling.html (Erika even schedules BABIES y'all)

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    • And then she gets mad when they message her! I’m not sure why that bugs me so much but MAN, you set yourself up as an aspirational Christian mega-mom with a perfect life and publish a book and then when people want to know why it’s not working for them….go away, peasant.
      Ugh.

    • Wifey4Lifey

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      16 hours ago, neuroticcat said:

      And whether that was a genuine question or a fake-influencer question, to basically be like: if you can afford my book, you should buy it rather than use the library is very cringe for an author. I'm sure it's happened, but I don't think I've ever seen an author publicly state that. Most are usually saying: thank you for reading.

      I have never in my life seen an author disparage library use before, so it's absolutely shocking to me that she would publicly say that. And makes it pretty clear to me that she's not a library user herself, which is a shame for all her homeschooled kids. Not very Christian of her to be so obviously money-hungry, while also ignoring the fact that libraries do in fact have to *purchase* the book, frequently multiple copies. I bet she feels the same way about used bookstores, despite claiming to be an avid clothing thrifter 🙄

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    • hoipolloi

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      3 hours ago, neuroticcat said:

      I think the whole key to the statement lies buried in the last paragraph. Alex has "embarrassed his church."

      In other words, "Alex got caught."

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    • AlmostSavedAtTacoBell

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      On 8/17/2022 at 12:21 PM, Dandruff said:

      If he had succeeded in US or world politics wouldn't there be at least a single, respected world leader or former US president willing to step up for him?

      Right here- this right here- is so accurate and such a great point.  Gerald Ford was known for being klutzy. George HW Bush puked at a very public state dinner.  George W Bush was seen as a bit of a doofus.  Bill Clinton was viewed as a cad.  But they were all respected and liked by other world leaders.  If Trump had just been just a bit of a buffoon and an oaf, the rest of the world leaders probably would have chuckled a bit but found it endearing- kind of like "yeah, he's not very well mannered, but that's just Trump."  But it was that his bad manners were rooted in rudeness, arrogance, and his "me-first, you-last" way of treating everyone else that made him both loathed and a laughingstock.  He was (and is) also so clearly stupid but tries to act smart instead of asking questions and learning which makes him look even more idiotic.  Nobody of any reputation or respect wants to be aligned with Trump.  Angela Merkel had his number right away and others quickly followed suit.  They tolerated him because, as allies, they had to keep good relationships with the US but their distaste for him was very clear.  Once he was gone they were all happy and as your comment points out, not one respected leader (or former POTUS) is going to say a thing in support of or in defense of him.  His dummy followers can't seem to figure out that the only one who has said anything at all "good" about Trump is Putin, and that was to have his state-controlled media tell his people that his puppeteering paid off.  

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