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    • meep
      Thank you all so much for your well-thought out advice! I cannot accurately convey how much I appreciate this! I've talked to my fiancé about it and he's 100% supportive, even in the case that we don't move. I'm going to call my target university this week and see how to proceed forward.  You guys are right...I have this one life and if I'm going to spend so much time/effort/money getting a degree, it should be exactly what I want. Everything that comes after is too far into the future to w
    • K'Z'K
      Move. Transfer to another school once you get settled in your new place. And if you don't move, transfer (or quit) anyway. Your school sucks and is not going to get better. No comment on the marriage part of all this since I am a spinster. Don't worry so much about what your major is called as long as you can take the classes you want. Especially if what you want is a really small niche, which it clearly is. Officially, my degrees are in biology (undergrad) and biological sciences (gra
    • Sarcastically spinster
      IMO, from what you've said, it sounds like literally the only reason for you to stay at the current school is because you've always dreamed of being educated, and you want to have the degree.   It's not worth it.   A degree is an accomplishment and something to be proud of, sure.  But spending a lot of money and investing a lot of effort into a degree just for the sake of having a degree, when it's got as many cons as you've listed off (bullying professor, not getting to take classes y
    • Jigsaw3
      Ok, so I gave you advice before and you've ended up here, so I'm not sure this will be helpful! But I'll try: First off, you DO have a degree. You have an AA. I know it's not a BA/Hons BA/BSc, but it's just as much an accomplishment. Be proud of what you have achieved, especially given your initial disadvantages.  You have worked far harder to get here than any run-of-the-mill student from a decent public school with family support has to complete BA. Second, the courses you have taken
    • Smash!
      @meep I‘m in my mid thirties and had to drop out of one degree in my thirties (right before the pandemic struck). I understand your concerns. Still, especially at this age it‘s important to choose something you really like when going back to school IMHO. Studying is harder at this age with adult responsibilities than when you go to college/university right after high school. Because of this I think the university you attend shouldn‘t provide you with additional hassles that makes it even harder.
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    • HerNameIsBuffy

      HerNameIsBuffy

      Advice needed from anyone with experience planning a Catholic wedding
      She's been engaged less than a week and I've got questions.
      Booking a church or venue is done way in advance so we're on that now.   
      Why do churches ask what the date is when they say specifically on the website that you can't set a date until discussing it with the coordinator?  Why can't they ask for a range? Since when have Catholic churches been such pains in the ass about being a member of that parish to get married there?  She's coming in from out of state for the wedding, she doesn't have a parish here.  I'm not religious and my local parish church is ugly.  My childhood parish waived this and said they could marry there, but it's not an ideal location and aesthetically it's fine but she'd prefer older and more cathedralesque if they do the church wedding.   My grandpa's old church is beautiful and she's in love with it....but they're the only one who hasn't gotten back to us.  (St. Hedwig's for anyone familiar with Chicago's Bucktown) Bribes still work, right?  In the old days you could slip the church a "donation" and they'd be a lot more lenient about weddings, annulments, and funerals for non-practicing Catholics.  How are we supposed to figure out the going rate for graft 2021?   I have no problem lying to the administrative staff and claiming to be a practicing Catholic if it helps, does that make me a sociopath?  Although I don't want to lie to a priest directly.  Can you be a sociopath with religious guilt? I've been married twice, both times to Catholics.  First wedding in a Baptist church and second in congregational or community something.  I did that because I suck at planning this kind of thing and fundy-lites will marry anyone with a 20 minute meet and greet, apparently.  I wanted to elope both times and was over ruled both times so I resentfully half-assed it so this is the first time I'm trying to help plan a wedding properly.  
      The church she wants will waive the bride and groom being members if one of their parents are.  I love my daughter so much, but if I have to start actually attending church to make this work I will expect her to pay for the increase in my wine and edible budget.  Member for at least four months.  Driving from the burbs into the city once a week timing it so I get there just in time to toss them an envelope with money I'd rather keep and skedaddle is something I'd rather avoid.
      I know lots of people think what I'm trying to do is awful.  That non-practicing Catholics shouldn't get married in the church, that it's a sin to try and game the system, etc.  That church shopping for the aesthetic is  a sacrilege or such.  I understand how people can feel that way, it's valid.  But people like that would disapprove of me for a million other reasons anyway, so I'm okay with that.
      This is how I'm rationalizing it. 
      I raised her Catholic and while not practicing as an adult she does believe in God, Jesus, giving a shout out to Mary and all that.  They are going to raise their kids Catholic in the sense of sending them to CCD so they have the religious ed and then they can make their own choices as adults.   I spent thousands of dollars on CCD over the years and two out of three of my kids don't know what an apostle is.  They owe me.   Being Catholic is as much a cultural thing as a religious choice and that's the only one we have.   You can't opt out of being Catholic, as my sister once learned when she went fundy-lite, due to the indelible mark of baptism so they keep you on the roster.  If you can't leave the church without a formal declaration then I there should be something in it for us.  One wedding and burial per Catholic no matter how lapsed seems fair to me. When my uncle died in the late 1950s the church wouldn't allow him to be buried in a Catholic cemetery so they put him in a secular one.  Several years later my dad made a sizable "donation" and voila, look who got exhumed and is now buried next to Grandma and Grandpa.  Wish he was here now to handle this.  
       
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