Brandy starts over, all over again.

[Anise]

I do wish she'd get over herself, and everyone else, and just find a way to live her life in peace and contentment. Some professional help and human interaction would go a long way in accomplishing that, but the most important thing is she has to stop using the Internet for self validation and choosing a way of life.

This.

My impression is that she has very low self-esteem and seeks the approval of others, hence both reaching out to the FJ crowd and trying to be like the fundie crowd. I think a professional counselor could help her no end.

[Witsec7]

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My impression is that she has very low self-esteem and seeks the approval of others, hence both reaching out to the FJ crowd and trying to be like the fundie crowd. I think a professional counselor could help her no end.

She has no friends in the RW. Its unfortunate she flushed those comments where she admitted that they have no socialization at all. So all she has for approval are the 9 followers she has online. (I don't count her husband.)

If she gave up the crazy religious BS bought a school bus and moved to Boregonia she might have a change to fit in. But living tribally, regardless of how remote you are takes social skills, skills she is lacking. I feel so sorry for those kids, no friends, no chocolate easter bunnies. Just mom and dads weirdness that changes in the blink of an eye. On the bright side, she's not pregnant.

[mockingbird]

This is the first time I've seen her blog...

She reminds me of a girl I was friends with in high school. Her parents had some major issues going on. They were very manipulative - one week they took back their promise to pay for her AP tests and refused to let her have access to her own bank account, yet when I got to school on Monday she had new diamond earrings to "make up" for it. This was fairly typical. They seemed to have no money-management skills (always making huge impulse purchases like Brandy, especially expensive vacations) and always seemed to be buying the girl's love. Her mom was also a bit crazy and maybe even emotionally relying on this girl and her sister to be her (mental/emotional) support system and seemed jealous whenever they were with other people. She told my friend that I was not a good friend because I wasn't popular and didn't have a boyfriend and apparently made fun of me because I was short (NICE). She was also overprotective/controlling and seemed to change her mind every day about what my friend was allowed to do. Her dad didn't seem to be very involved in daily things like that.

So anyway, my friend was EXACTLY like Brandy. She had a new interest every few months and would be very enthusiastic about it and totally overdo it. Once she got into sewing and borrowed my sewing machine to make an accurate Civil War-era dress. The first thing she made was a corset with boning. My grandmother, who is an excellent seamstress, thought she was crazy when she heard about this. I still follow her online and about a year ago she was into juggling. Now it's fanfiction and Glee. I mean, she was really fun to be around because she got SO into things but it was a little weird. She was very enthusiastic around new people but had trouble keeping friends... I think part of this was her mom being so restrictive and flip-floppy about what she was allowed to do so she had to cancel a lot. And she had trouble committing to anything, and she definitely internalized her mom's messages (after her mom told her I was a bad friend she stopped hanging around me and got a boyfriend).

I always thought there was something wrong with her and the family in general. Whenever she was over my house she seemed to talk to my mom a lot more than me, which I was okay with because I knew her mom was a bit nuts so I thought maybe she really needed an adult to talk to. Her sister seemed much more normal but at the same time a little burnt out and resigned to things staying this way. I wonder if she (and/or mom) is bipolar - her behavior does seem to fit the descriptions someone had of what it's like to have a manic episode. I don't know if she'll ever get help... although she seems to have broken away from her parents a bit since apparently she's moving in with her boyfriend next year. Which I think is a good thing. Her mom was a little scary. I didn't really feel safe going over her house from what I'd heard about her mom and what her mom said about me. (Who openly insults your kid's friends in front of your kid? I mean, if you think the friend is a bad influence, there are much better ways to go about handling that than insulting them.)

[fluttershies]

Wow. She thinks we're bullying her??

Brandy, honey, we at Free Jinger are giving you good advice. Make some friends outside of the internet, let their kids play with your kids, find a church you fit in with, socialize. Maybe get some counselling, even church counselling. Blogging is not socialising, but you're treating it as if it can replace friendship - it can't. That is why we're affecting you so much, because whilst as others have said, we don't pay much attention to you, because the internet is how you make friends it's like we're your enemies. Just because we wouldn't necessarily be friends with you in real life does not mean we're your enemies. Please get help, for the sake of yourself and your family.

[Anise]

^ As someone who struggles with low self-esteem, the lack of constant affirmation does seem negative. Because she's looking to the internet for affirmation, she's not getting constant affirmation, so she tries harder, and the cycle continues.

[Witsec7]

Yeah, our house isn't all fancy schmancy. I wouldn't want a house like that. It's not us. We're not city-folk ... we're country folk. We keep our home tidy, but lived in. Comfortable. All are warmly welcomed.

Brandy your pinterrest tells a completely different story, it shows us the material things you covet and want. I've got news for you about 'country folk'. I've been 'country folk' hell there are posters on FJ that are 'country folk'. Heck when I was 'country folk' my kid had a room and a bed. Time was spent planning play dates and socialization activities.

And no Brandy all are not warmly welcomed. You said as much in some comments you've already scrubbed.

[fluttershies]

Brandy your pinterrest tells a completely different story, it shows us the material things you covet and want. I've got news for you about 'country folk'. I've been 'country folk' hell there are posters on FJ that are 'country folk'. Heck when I was 'country folk' my kid had a room and a bed. Time was spent planning play dates and socialization activities.

And no Brandy all are not warmly welcomed. You said as much in some comments you've already scrubbed.

QFT

And Brandy, your home isn't tidy. And I know what untidiness looks like.

[prairiemuffin]

Brandy has been doing some deleting! Gone are the posts about why she is dresses only, as well as the big ol' apology post and a couple others.

FLIP.FLOP.

[Koala]

So all she has for approval are the 9 followers she has online. (I don't count her husband.)

Am I the only one that finds it REALLY creepy how they talk to each other in her blog comments? I mean hell, he's probably sitting on the other end of the...well floor. (I think she said they don't have a sofa). :?

[Sola]

Brandy has been doing some deleting! Gone are the posts about why she is dresses only, as well as the big ol' apology post and a couple others.

FLIP.FLOP.

I called it yesterday :lol:

[Anise]

She removed all the particularly fundie posts. Hmmm...

[Koala]

She removed all the particularly fundie posts. Hmmm...

Being fundie is so yesterday :P

[Witsec7]

Bwahahahaha

Good morning Brandy

[fluttershies]

:lol:

Should we feel honoured? Come on Brandy, do a Lina and make an account. You know you want to ;)

[Witsec7]

:lol:

Should we feel honoured? Come on Brandy, do a Lina and make an account. You know you want to ;)

But make it snappy Brandy, I've finished my coffee and the lawn guys will be here in twenty minutes. :lol:

BTW did I mention I was unschooling my cat? I'm an eclectic cat unschooler who wears a bacon bra online. I'm working on dreds too, well since last night anyway.

[Koala]

BTW did I mention I was unschooling my cat? I'm an eclectic cat unschooler who wears a bacon bra online. I'm working on dreds too, well since last night anyway.

:D But what will you be tomorrow?

[Witsec7]

:D But what will you be tomorrow?

It was just revealed to me that my 12 hour old dreds may frighten the gardener, so I'm eclecticly undreding. The cat is unschooling on the carpet. Tomorrow I'll be a famous fashion model.

[nomi]

I am totally unschooling myself and my kids this week (spring break). They're currently having a water fight with the neighbors and I'm trying to figure out what kind of lessons they can pull out of this. I guess we could discuss current events and the plight of our water supply and how to conserve water. Then since they're playing with H2O we can discuss the molecular breakdown of water, so that's chemistry. Hmmm, maybe the impact of water on the biological life cycle...that's biology. Then we'll have to do laundry afterward so there's home ec.

Hmm, I'm sure I can come up with more...oh math! How many times did you fill up your super soaker and how long did it last you?

[Sola]

It was just revealed to me that my 12 hour old dreds may frighten the gardener, so I'm eclecticly undreding. The cat is unschooling on the carpet. Tomorrow I'll be a famous fashion model.

No, no no! Tomorrow you must start sewing your own knickers made out of fabric you have spun and woven yourself from dog hair and crocheting your own muesli sandals. You can spend ridiculous amounts of money on food storage and supplies too. Then and only then can you flip flop again and become a bacon bra wearing super model.

[Witsec7]

Just WoW Ya'll. I was outside planting fresh navel lint after I checked under my bed and found I only had eleventy! gallons left, and I noticed a some pain in my scalp. So I took my eclectic sometimes skirt wearing self inside the house.

Well, what you need to know right now is I am going to headcover, apparently during my dreadlock phase of the past 24 hours, I got my scalp sunburned. I'll study further on the matter tonight, perhaps reading William Burroughs Word Virus, will give me the answers I need. Oh, Ya'll before I forget, I think I may just have a contest and let my readers decide how I cover my head. Y'all ... ... wow. Over and over each of you have said the same things. And I just don't know what to say. Except thank you.

Thank you for your encouragement. Thank you for your love.

Thank you for your support.

[starfish]

When is Jason going to comfort her in the comments section, even though he's literally in the same room with her?

She's claiming persecution! so now her followers are rallying around her. That Candy lady sure hates us. She called FJ the "den" of something or another. Perfidy maybe? Can't remember, can't be bothered. I'll take it as a badge of honor, coming from someone like her. I thought Brandy and Candy were feuding but I guess they made up with the grand apology post.

Brandy needs to listen to the commenter who urged her to join a church. Brandy needs some real-life friends and support, spot-on.

[fundiefan]

When is Jason going to comfort her in the comments section, even though he's literally in the same room with her?

She's claiming persecution! so now her followers are rallying around her. That Candy lady sure hates us. She called FJ the "den" of something or another. Perfidy maybe? Can't remember, can't be bothered. I'll take it as a badge of honor, coming from someone like her. I thought Brandy and Candy were feuding but I guess they made up with the grand apology post.

Brandy needs to listen to the commenter who urged her to join a church. Brandy needs some real-life friends and support, spot-on.

Candy is most likely talking about STC and its prior incarnations. She even tried to post there once to 'make nice' and failed, miserably. I don't think she's cared enough about here as she is rarely discussed. Brandy & Jason posted at STC a few times too, in one of their 'we hate Candy' phases.

But, back to Candy, I've never seen any thread about her really take off here. Now that I think of it, you may be exactly right and she really does hate FJ...no one thinks enough of her to even keep a thread going. Indifference is the opposite of love, not hate. Ignoring her probably makes her blood boil more than all the sites that once existed in opposition to her combined.

[starfish]

What is "STC" ?

It's morning, and I'm a little slow today...

[uber frau]

Sweeping the cobwebs(?)

[prairiemuffin]

If fj was what Candy was referring to (I hope), she called us a "den of putridity" :lol:

I'm so GLAD to see that Brandy's peeps are basically telling her "don't listen to ANY criticism-EVER!!"