Lori Alexander 45: Sensoring and Sensibility

[EowynW]

3 hours ago, EowynW said:

Thise fundie attitudes about sexmake me so uncomfortable. TMI but my fundie sister and her husband have sex a lot. Up to 7 times a week. She gets UTIs often, and is currently down with a kidney infection that is threatening hospitalization. She says she enjoys sex, but has never had an orgasm in her nearly 2 years of marriage, and he's all over her and she never tells him no. Sometimes.... I wonder about them, about her, and how she's really doing. But it's hard to break through those teachings to get real honesty and authenticity, so... 

 

Update on this because I'm so angry and this is a good personal example of harmful fundie theology. Sister called my mom and forgot to "ask husbandly permission" first and asked her to come help her since she's so sick and my brother's wedding is next weekend. (She has 101 fever, nausea, backache, urgent care doc was very concerned and said if it isn't better by Friday she has to go to hospital, etc) Well her asshole fundie husband said no, he doesn't want our mom coming, that my sister is "getting better" and "he can take care of her himself." How the hell can he take care of her when he's at work all fucking day? What the hell is wrong with him?!  He's prideful because he hadn't mowed the lawn, and their AC is down and it's "too embarrassing." So now mom is telling my sister "it's okay just don't cause a problem with your husband over it" (basically roll over and submit) and my sister is repeatedly apologizing FOR HIM and trying to politely say her husband is being stupid (she's so sweet, lol.) Anyways, I'm the oldest in my family so I often get both sibling side and mother side of story) 

I think the whole thing is fucking crazy and he's an asshole. This is the exact sort of thing my fundie "command man" dad would've done when we were all young. (He's mellowed a lot now)

[Sarah92]

1 hour ago, EowynW said:

Update on this because I'm so angry and this is a good personal example of harmful fundie theology. Sister called my mom and forgot to "ask husbandly permission" first and asked her to come help her since she's so sick and my brother's wedding is next weekend. (She has 101 fever, nausea, backache, urgent care doc was very concerned and said if it isn't better by Friday she has to go to hospital, etc) Well her asshole fundie husband said no, he doesn't want our mom coming, that my sister is "getting better" and "he can take care of her himself." How the hell can he take care of her when he's at work all fucking day? What the hell is wrong with him?!  He's prideful because he hadn't mowed the lawn, and their AC is down and it's "too embarrassing." So now mom is telling my sister "it's okay just don't cause a problem with your husband over it" (basically roll over and submit) and my sister is repeatedly apologizing FOR HIM and trying to politely say her husband is being stupid (she's so sweet, lol.) Anyways, I'm the oldest in my family so I often get both sibling side and mother side of story) 

I think the whole thing is fucking crazy and he's an asshole. This is the exact sort of thing my fundie "command man" dad would've done when we were all young. (He's mellowed a lot now)

He's definitely not practicing the bit about loving your wife. After all, love isn't proud nor self-seeking. That's exactly what it sounds like he's being. 

[Red Hair, Black Dress]

So ... if your sis ends up needing hospitalization, do you think your BIL will actually let her. or will he be too proud to admit he was wrong, insist she's getting better and keep her home?   

A kidney infection is nothing to fool around with,

[EowynW]

27 minutes ago, Red Hair, Black Dress said:

So ... if your sis ends up needing hospitalization, do you think your BIL will actually let her. or will he be too proud to admit he was wrong, insist she's getting better and keep her home?   

A kidney infection is nothing to fool around with,

Oh I think he'll take her. He sent her to Urgent Care no problem. Will he admit he was wrong? Nope. 

[HoneyBunny]

Oh my. Lazy Lori just posted an essay by TJFW where she basically threw her mother and siblings under the bus. It reminds me a great deal of the times when I’ve watched the twin boys in my life (not grandchildren) when they were having a rough day, and I’d hear a litany of how mean their mommy was and how life was so unfair. Of course, they were 4 or 5 years old at the time. 

[Carol]

Lori,

I just read your re-post about growing up in a messy home.  I didn't think your posts could stoop any lower than the removal of the suicide hotline, but this is one that is equally as ugly and shows the bitch of a daughter/sister that you are.  

I am horrified that you would post this while your mother is in hospice, dying from Cancer.  Did she tell you she didn't want another of your power salads?  Did she tell you to get the hell out of her life and let her die in peace?  I hope she did.

You are one incredibly fucked up cocksucker.  I hope your sisters and your father disown you.  I hope you aren't invited to her funeral(let's get real, you'd make sure to be in too much pain to go, anyway).  I hope your children read this post and see you for the vile human being you are.  I'd include your readers, too, but they are so fucking stupid they'll just nod and give you a thumbs up.

And as for missing dances and the prom to keep your home clean, 10-1 you were never invited.  You're a spiteful, lying cunt!

 

[feministxtian]

@Carol - I love your use of "colorful metaphors". You're a woman after my own heart! 

[Hisey]

1 hour ago, Carol said:

Lori,

I just read your re-post about growing up in a messy home.  I didn't think your posts could stoop any lower than the removal of the suicide hotline, but this is one that is equally as ugly and shows the bitch of a daughter/sister that you are.  

I am horrified that you would post this while your mother is in hospice, dying from Cancer.  Did she tell you she didn't want another of your power salads?  Did she tell you to get the hell out of her life and let her die in peace?  I hope she did.

You are one incredibly fucked up cocksucker.  I hope your sisters and your father disown you.  I hope you aren't invited to her funeral(let's get real, you'd make sure to be in too much pain to go, anyway).  I hope your children read this post and see you for the vile human being you are.  I'd include your readers, too, but they are so fucking stupid they'll just nod and give you a thumbs up.

And as for missing dances and the prom to keep your home clean, 10-1 you were never invited.  You're a spiteful, lying cunt!

 

Actually I don't think Lori wrote that post, it is her best bud, the "Joy Filled" Wife.

[Carol]

15 minutes ago, Hisey said:

Actually I don't think Lori wrote that post, it is her best bud, the "Joy Filled" Wife.

I thought the Joy Filled Wife was Lori writing under a pseudonym?  Lori made her up in her passive aggressive way to get back at people without naming names.  

 

[Koala]

Lori posted this to Instagram:

A reader simply replied:

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Sources?

Wise Lori, deleted her. 

DUH!  SayingsOfAndrea is her source!  It says so right there on the meme.  How much more proof could one possibly need?

Tell us more about how women are easily deceived, Lori.  I see now that you speak from experience.

[Sarah92]

28 minutes ago, Koala said:

Lori posted this to Instagram:

A reader simply replied:

Wise Lori, deleted her. 

DUH!  SayingsOfAndrea is her source!  It says so right there on the meme.  How much more proof could one possibly need?

Tell us more about how women are easily deceived, Lori.  I see now that you speak from experience.

 Idk maybe I forgot how to google but I couldn't find anything on Sayings of Andrea. I myself am curious about this Joy Filled Wife person. 

[Koala]

4 minutes ago, Sarah92 said:

 Idk maybe I forgot how to google but I couldn't find anything on Sayings of Andrea. 

Oh, you rest assure that it's top notch science.  It is on the internet, after all. 

The main thing is that we don't question Lori.  If she says that one coat of nail polish causes infertility, then we must accept it at face value.  To ask for sources is just rude.  Why, she studies for 7-8 hours a day!  She just couldn't be wrong!

 

 

[IntrinsicallyDisordered]

48 minutes ago, Koala said:

Oh, you rest assure that it's top notch science.  It is on the internet, after all. 

The main thing is that we don't question Lori.  If she says that one coat of nail polish causes infertility, then we must accept it at face value.  To ask for sources is just rude.  Why, she studies for 7-8 hours a day!  She just couldn't be wrong!

 

 

It's things like this that make me sometimes wonder if Lori is an extremely dedicated Poe.  I mean, I know she's not, but when she bangs on about how women are easily deceived and then shows herself to be the dumbest, most easily deceived person I have ever encountered, it makes me wonder for a second.  It's too perfect.

@EowynW, your sister's situation is breaking my heart 

My Catholic mom had priests telling her that she could leave my abusive dad, and should, but she wouldn't because "marriage is for life" and "he won't get out of it that easy". She was afraid the priests were wrong and too modern.  She kept praying and praying he'd suddenly become a different person because "with God all things are possible". He eventually was the one to leave, and I kept telling her to file for divorce to protect herself.  Nope.  She said she might, if she found out he had outright sexually abused us instead of just being inappropriate and physically and mentally abusive.  I'm still trying to sort my feelings and thoughts on that one.  But he wound up filing first and she's going along with it.  She doesn't have any love for him and hasn't for a very long time, but she was so thoroughly brainwashed by her church and community in her youth that she couldn't do what I feel (hope?) a part of her knew was right.

 

[Liza]

5 hours ago, Carol said:

Lori,

I just read your re-post about growing up in a messy home.  I didn't think your posts could stoop any lower than the removal of the suicide hotline, but this is one that is equally as ugly and shows the bitch of a daughter/sister that you are.  

@Carol   I, too, have made the mistake of thinking Lori wrote something when, in fact, it was someone else.  Easy to do this because Lori does not source things properly.   What is interesting in this post that the Joy Filled Wife wrote is that there were tons of replies and some congratulated Lori, yet Lori never responded to say "no, I did not write that".   

[Curious]

I didn't learn this until I was a teenager, but when I was a kid my favorite aunt was being abused by my uncle.  It had been going on for some years when he came home drunk one night and pulled a gun on her.   He didn't hurt her, he was just waving it around being a big manly man.  The next time he went to hit her they were in the kitchen.  As he raised his hand to her, she grabbed a cast iron skillet off the stove and smashed him in the head.  When he woke up, she told him next time he wouldn't wake up at all.   He filed for divorce not too long after that.

[delphinium65]

5 hours ago, Koala said:

Lori posted this to Instagram:

 

Damn. I could have saved a lot of money and hassle over birth control. All I had to do was pop the IUD out/throw away pills/get rid of diaphragm, and slather on some nail polish. Where has this 'advice' been all these years? 

[SongRed7]

8 hours ago, Carol said:

I thought the Joy Filled Wife was Lori writing under a pseudonym?  Lori made her up in her passive aggressive way to get back at people without naming names.  

I can see how its easy to think that because they are both warped....But Joy Filled Wife is another nut. I believe she's also the one who's husband had the porn addiction which Lori posted about a few days ago. https://www.myjoyfilledlife.com/about/

[jerkit]

My sterilization surgery cost me $3200. Nail polish costs $5. Oh Lori, I wish you had posted this meme two weeks ago! I would've saved $3195!

[polecat]

13 hours ago, HoneyBunny said:

Oh my. Lazy Lori just posted an essay by TJFW where she basically threw her mother and siblings under the bus. It reminds me a great deal of the times when I’ve watched the twin boys in my life (not grandchildren) when they were having a rough day, and I’d hear a litany of how mean their mommy was and how life was so unfair. Of course, they were 4 or 5 years old at the time. 

I really wish I hadn't read that. It's easy to be judgy about people who are poor housekeepers or slobs or messy if you're a natural neatnik (although seriously, who cares how other people keep their homes?) ... but it sounds like TJFW's mom may have struggled with legitimate mental health issues. No one actively chooses to live in a home with snot smeared everywhere and molded food left out. That's not laziness. That's a serious health hazard. I grew up with a hoarder, and it was bad. We didn't have food problems or bodily fluids, no, but my mom's mental issues led to huge collections of things being piled here, there and everywhere. It was not pleasant. And I have to say TJFW's father is kind of an asshole for judging her mom for "not submitting" instead of just picking up a GD'd broom and mop and getting to work. Having a penis in no way precludes one from cleaning. Or better yet, helping her get the help she needed.

But why would it surprise me that Lori and her no. 1 fan are ignorant ableist dickweeds? Because of course, they are.

[Hisey]

The thing about TJFW is that she always ends up being the hero in whatever she writes. SHE is always the one who does things right. Often she is congratulated and admired by everyone around her!

[ViolaSebastian]

Okay, possibly unpopular opinion time, but here goes: That Joy Filled Wife post also threw her father under the bus, possibly unintentionally. 

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I heard my father communicate his displeasure to my mom several times over the years regarding the condition of the home when he came home from work, but nothing ever changed. One day, when I was about 13, I overheard my dad talking to my mom privately about the issue one last time and something inside of me snapped. 

Okay, this is opportunity one for father to step the hell up to his daughter and say "this is not your problem. We were discussing it privately because we don't want this to feel like a problem you need to fix. This is the adults in this family's responsibility to fix." (And before anyone jumps on me about this, yes, I think children have the responsibility to clean up after themselves--and making sure they follow through on this should fall to the parents, not the sibling.)

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From the time I was 13 until the time I moved out as an adult, I single-handedly cleaned and maintained our home each and every day. My siblings were not required to follow-through on any of their assigned chores, so I did every household chore myself so that my father would have a smile on his face and feel relaxed when he came home from working his 6am-7pm job, 7 days a week, so my mom could stay home with us.

If mom and siblings were the selfish jerks she portrays them to be, wouldn't dad realize that Joy Filled here was putting hours into housecleaning that didn't go to her schoolwork? No one ever mentioned she gave up activities to do this to Dad? Didn't Dad ever see her cleaning after he got home at seven? How out of touch was Dad?!

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I skipped many events over the years, including birthday parties and my prom, because my siblings had left the home a complete disaster before they left the house.

Dad asks, "How was Suzie's birthday party?" "Oh, I didn't go, because I had to clean up after Jerk 1 and Jerk 2." RED FLAG, DAD.

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If I let the house remain as-is and went off to the event with them, my father would come home to a house in complete disarray and felt disrespected and unappreciated. I couldn’t bear the thought of that, so I did what I believed was the right thing to do. 

How parentified was Joy Filled as a child? This is sick behavior, not to mention co-dependent. Dad is responsible for his feelings, not whether or not Joy Filled did the dishes. 

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From the day my father found out that all the hard work around the house was done by me alone, I don’t think a single day went by without my father thanking me, telling me what a blessing I was, how proud I made him, and what a good wife he thought I would make one day.

So fucked up that Dad encouraged his daughter to give up on activities and once-in-a-lifetime childhood milestones to vacuum the carpet so that he wouldn't feel disrespectd. That's abusive, IMHO.

[Carol]

2 hours ago, SongRed7 said:

I can see how its easy to think that because they are both warped....But Joy Filled Wife is another nut. I believe she's also the one who's husband had the porn addiction which Lori posted about a few days ago. hLori.ttps://www.myjoyfilledlife.com/about/

Thanks for telling me that, I thought they were the same person.  Apologies to the readers and Lori.  I retract everything but the spiteful lying cunt.

[Emilycharlotte]

I know I've seen photos of Lori's sweet, lovely, child-free older daughter wearing polish. I wonder if Lori was aiming that "helpful" meme in her direction. 

[lilwriter85]

3 hours ago, Emilycharlotte said:

I know I've seen photos of Lori's sweet, lovely, child-free older daughter wearing polish. I wonder if Lori was aiming that "helpful" meme in her direction. 

Sadly, I'm thinking that's the case. Lori is definitely the type to find anything to blame Alyssa for having fertility issues. Didn't Lori or Ken say that Alyssa and her husband were looking into adoption?

But, I think Alyssa and Jon may have just decided not to pursue any methods of having children such IVF, surrogacy, or adoption. They may be content with their child-free lifestyle. That kind of decision won't fly with Lori. Or, let's say Jon and Alyssa adopt, I could see Lori being awful to the child and she would also make awful comments about the child's birth parents.

[molecule]

In her post today . . . 

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They will use this one verse to wipe out all of the verses directed to women: “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:28). No, this verse doesn’t negate all of the verses for women. It gives the Good News that we can all have eternal life if we believe in Jesus Christ as our Savior.

Did y'all catch that? She is telling us how wrong it is to use one verse to wipe out all others. *cough* Titus 2:3-5 *cough*