Jinjer 36: Post-millennial Pregnancy

[allthegoodnamesrgone]

1 hour ago, unicorncastle said:

I have a lot of very lesbian, very not fundie friends that do it. I think it's cute and a fun way to try and visualize how big the baby is. 

I honestly wish I had some week by week bump comparisons of both my pregnancies. But since I was giving birth at the birth of the internet in the late 90's and early 00"s I don't.  I think the pics can be a cute fun way to document the pregnancy.  I know folks who have done it who aren't fundy, or fundy lite or lesbian, my cousin did it and she just your average run of the mill left leaning/independent millennial. 

 

[DillyDally]

Count me in for being surprised that she's doing the chalkboard thing. However, I do have a soft spot for her and I must say, she looks adorable  

Slightly weirded out by the babyvuolo.updates RP account, I wonder how JinJer feel about that.

[Shadoewolf]

I'm going to disagree that there's no back arching and pushing out in Jinger's chalkboard pic, she's definitely doing it. And this may not be popular opinion, but in her case, I'm less likely to snark on it than Jill or Joy. Jill and Joy were photographed carrying more significantly, like to me,  in their case it was obvious and pushing it out even further was just overstating the obvious. Jinger is very petite in general and considering the cult, I can't blame her as much for trying to accentuate the bump. I could very much see Jessa and Jill putting a hand on her belly and going "are you sure there's as baby in there??!" I'll be interested to see if she continues  and how her style evolves. 

[Scrabblemaster]

If I were pregnant I would love to compare the size of the baby with sweets. I saw soooo many "it has the size of an apple/orange/bean..." explanations and I think they are cute and a good way to visualize someone you can't see. But I would love to do it with chocolate. Like "the baby has now the size of a Marc de champagne truffle" Or "now it is as large as a chocolate marshmallow" or " it has now the size of five RitterSport chocolate bars on top of each other" Or " it has the size of a chocolate cake"... and so on.  

I must confess I had a chocolate marshmallow for breakfast, adult life is great sometimes! 

[SweetJuly]

I have to admit something quite embarrassing: As I have a soft spot for Jinger, I am secretly happy that she and I are both expecting our first child at almost the same time  I am not sure why exactly. Probably I got too invested in the Duggars since I started lurking here. But then I also got very excited about a friend and cousin of mine whose babies are also due in mid-/late-July, so maybe it's just a normal thing to find joy in knowing you are going through this journey at the same time as other people you like?

Have any of you had similar experiences?

The chalkboard updates or week-to-week bump pictures are something I keep thinking I should be doing. Not sure if I would share them with all the world, but it could be nice to document the pregnancy more, both for my husband and petit-nous (the baby). However, I don't like being photographed and haven't started yet, so it makes me feel like it would be too late now anyway

And to the person who asked: Indeed, if Jinger is 15 weeks along now, she is due around the 22nd of July. I imagine Joy is due in early February, so she might have counted all of February, March, April, May, June and all of July to get to the "Jinger is due 6 months after me"-statement.

[adidas]

Forget about fruit (but I do love the sweets idea) - when I first discovered I was pregnant (nearly 22 years ago) I told DH that the baby was 2cm long. He proceeded to tear his tally-ho packet along the 2cm line to keep in his wallet.

He still keeps it in there today, about 10 wallets later.

[Chewing Gum]

3 hours ago, SweetJuly said:

I have to admit something quite embarrassing: As I have a soft spot for Jinger, I am secretly happy that she and I are both expecting our first child at almost the same time  I am not sure why exactly. Probably I got too invested in the Duggars since I started lurking here. But then I also got very excited about a friend and cousin of mine whose babies are also due in mid-/late-July, so maybe it's just a normal thing to find joy in knowing you are going through this journey at the same time as other people you like?

Have any of you had similar experiences?

 

I have but with Catelynn from TeenMomOG, my pregancies were at the same time as hers aired in The Netherlands. So my girls are actually about 8 months younger than hers but otherwise exactly the same age(difference). I experience more emotions about her storyline than any of the others.

Which in psychology is normal: you are more likely to view people in your inner circle (or the same lifestyle/experience/ etc) in a positive way than outsiders. You are also more likely to blame problems on something outside of their reach for the inner circle of people while you would blame the person itself for it if he/she isn’t in your inner circle. Psychology rocks. 

[nst]

5 hours ago, DillyDally said:

Count me in for being surprised that she's doing the chalkboard thing. However, I do have a soft spot for her and I must say, she looks adorable  

Slightly weirded out by the babyvuolo.updates RP account, I wonder how JinJer feel about that.

this is  JInger she learned from the sheep.  I am so not surprised.  She who will not be named can't do it so she takes up the slack. 

#toosoon?

4 hours ago, Scrabblemaster said:

 

I must confess I had a chocolate marshmallow for breakfast, adult life is great sometimes! 

I am having eggs and bacon, painting a painting and getting a pedicure and massage....

 

[Fascinated]

3 hours ago, SweetJuly said:

Have any of you had similar experiences?

Well, yes. With Diana, Princess of Wales .  Our oldest sons are two weeks apart and our second are two months apart. Now, my daughter-in-law has been pregnant at the same time as Kate for all three of their children, although her third is already three months old, so not a huge overlap with that one.  Silly, I know. 

[VelociRapture]

15 hours ago, VelociRapture said:

I’m aware of that. The other poster mentioned it first and I was attempting to find a bit of humor in what was (and is) a scary and embarrassing situation for me. Sorry if that offended you.

Quoting myself because I Just noticed some people are confused (likely by the wording in that last sentence) - that wasn’t meant sarcastically. I am sorry if she was offended by the wording I chose as I in no way meant to be offensive. As I said, it was a scary and highly embarrassing situation and I’m trying to find humor in it any way I can.

[JesSky03]

Posting bump pictures is pretty common on social media. I chose not to do it because I know how painful those pictures can be to someone who has had a loss or is struggling to get pregnant, but some people enjoy them. I do take periodic pictures of my growing belly when I remember just for myself. I do have an app that tells me how big baby is and what type of fruit/animal/object/or dessert he compares to that week. 

Its even more common to see monthly pictures after baby is born. Often it seems like people go crazy with their first and then kind of forget about it with their second.

Idk I'm not going to judge Jinger for posting one and I don't find it surprising. It's a sign of the times and her age and her life experiences. Plus she's only posted one so far- we don't know that she will continue to post them every week or maybe just every few weeks. 

[nickelodeon]

Thank you for all the insights + stories about fetus/produce size comparisons! Not many of my friends have had kids yet so my frame of reference for pregnant-on-social-media stuff is small.

[Bethella]

My favorite size comparison app had a "geeky" theme. My friend announced her pregnancy by posting the picture when the baby was the same size as the Holy Hand Grenade of Antioch. 

[Screamapillar]

31 minutes ago, Bethella said:

My favorite size comparison app had a "geeky" theme. My friend announced her pregnancy by posting the picture when the baby was the same size as the Holy Hand Grenade of Antioch. 

Ha, I used that one. The only one I shared was when she was the same size as Mr. Burns' teddy bear Bobo.

I took pictures just for my own records and curiosity. I was very much like Jinger and had nothing really to show for it until about 20 weeks. Now I'm 8 weeks and, despite weighing the same as I did at this point last time, I'm about as big as I was at 16 weeks then. I dont know if I'll take pictures this time because I'm already annoyed my jeans won't button. RIP, my ab muscles.

[Bushes of Love]

15 hours ago, nickelodeon said:

Do non-fundie pregnant people do the "I AM GESTATING A RUTABAGA AND/OR 30 GRAPE TOMATOS" thing? Because I only see it on fundie ladies' instagrams.

Yes, they do. My friend did week by week updates and sometimes I had no idea what the fruit or vegetable was, but it put me off my salad for a while.

My most embarrassing story is a drunken one. It was my friend's 18th birthday party, which was only a week or so after mine. Being newly 18 the novelty of legal drinking was huge. I was also feeling really shy because I was the only non family member at this party. I spent the first few hours hiding in the corner drinking watermelon flavoured alcopops. However, by 11pm I had thrown up red alcopop all over my friend's house and passed out in the garden. Apparently, they had the party around my drunken form until 3am. This was in 2003 and my friend still thinks it was hilarious.

Also, I know this thread drift has kind of died down, but my memory of 9/11 is as vivid as it was 16 and a half years ago. I was 16 and started the day really excited because it was my first day of college, I felt so grown up because I wasn't at comprehensive school anymore. The day was uneventful and I headed home about 4pm. Now, 4pm in the UK is about 11am in New York, so the attacks had only happened a couple of hours before. I go on MSN messenger when I get in and my friends are all talking about planes and buildings, confused I turn to my dad and ask him to switch the news on. He grumbled that he was watching so  I said 'dad, put the bloody news on'. And that is how I found out.

I've always had a morbid fascination with disasters. My dad reckons it's got something to do with the fact that in the late 80s we lived near Lockerbie and even as a 3 year old I would point at planes and ask if that one would crash as well. 

[SassyPants]

15 hours ago, SapphireSlytherin said:

I got pregnant, gestated, and birthed a baby without an app. 

LOL

Or a chalk board!

[Nargus]

8 hours ago, SweetJuly said:

I have to admit something quite embarrassing: As I have a soft spot for Jinger, I am secretly happy that she and I are both expecting our first child at almost the same time  I am not sure why exactly. Probably I got too invested in the Duggars since I started lurking here. But then I also got very excited about a friend and cousin of mine whose babies are also due in mid-/late-July, so maybe it's just a normal thing to find joy in knowing you are going through this journey at the same time as other people you like?

Have any of you had similar experiences?

The chalkboard updates or week-to-week bump pictures are something I keep thinking I should be doing. Not sure if I would share them with all the world, but it could be nice to document the pregnancy more, both for my husband and petit-nous (the baby). However, I don't like being photographed and haven't started yet, so it makes me feel like it would be too late now anyway

And to the person who asked: Indeed, if Jinger is 15 weeks along now, she is due around the 22nd of July. I imagine Joy is due in early February, so she might have counted all of February, March, April, May, June and all of July to get to the "Jinger is due 6 months after me"-statement.

I'm due early July, and I feel the same.  I think you're right about the 6 months thing.  Joy was probably counting calendar months, not actual time between due dates.

[feministxtian]

9/11, for me, was terrifying. I was working for a defense contractor at the time, in an area that is heavily military. I remember getting an email from my husband (who worked in a different building) telling me what he had heard. One of the guys in my group had a small b/w TV he kept stashed under his desk...he brought it out...about 12 people were crammed into a 4 man pod, shocked, stunned and scared. There were Marines downstairs at the front desk and nobody was allowed to leave the building. The state police shut down all the tunnels and bridges in the area from just about the VA/NC state line all the way up the east coast. The Navy and Air Force had planes running BARCAP around the bases and where I worked. Supposedly we were a target. Finally, about 1pm the powers that be decided that we should all go home. Groups of us were escorted by the Marines from our floor to the parking garage. There were 2 Marines at the elevators on every floor of the building and the garage. It was insanely odd to say the least. I remember seeing planes lined up at the "little" airport near my house and armed guards with K9s patrolling the perimeter. 

[CreationMuseumSeasonPass]

You want to talk about embarrassing? I have a story that can take the cake. I was 13 at a Taekwondo competition wearing an all-white uniform. Little did I know that my period came early. My mom had to pull me aside after my sparring competition in front of the entire crowd so I could go change clothes...

Anyways, even then at such a young age, I decided it had happened, and I wasn't going to let it bother me. But still...

[JemimaPuddle-Duck]

13 hours ago, SweetJuly said:

 

The chalkboard updates or week-to-week bump pictures are something I keep thinking I should be doing. Not sure if I would share them with all the world, but it could be nice to document the pregnancy more, both for my husband and petit-nous (the baby). However, I don't like being photographed and haven't started yet, so it makes me feel like it would be too late now anyway

 

It’s not too late! You should absolutely do it IF you want to! You don’t have to share them with anyone, but you’ll probably live having them to look back on one day and I don’t think you’d ever regret having them. 

I have hardly any pregnancy pics of my first two children and I badly wish I did. It’s so much easier to take pictures and selfies and videos now that we have smart phones. Mom tip: take selfies with the baby in the middle of the night and whenever! It doesn’t matter if you look terrible. I have so many more photos of myself with my youngest bc I could just snap them whenever. I treasure every single one. 

[Bugaboo]

Jinger looks radiant! Hope she is having an easy pregnancy. I am always rooting for her because I know there's still some sort of spark in her deep down that she won't be like the rest of her family.  

[VelociRapture]

56 minutes ago, JemimaPuddle-Duck said:

It’s not too late! You should absolutely do it IF you want to! You don’t have to share them with anyone, but you’ll probably live having them to look back on one day and I don’t think you’d ever regret having them. 

I have hardly any pregnancy pics of my first two children and I badly wish I did. It’s so much easier to take pictures and selfies and videos now that we have smart phones. Mom tip: take selfies with the baby in the middle of the night and whenever! It doesn’t matter if you look terrible. I have so many more photos of myself with my youngest bc I could just snap them whenever. I treasure every single one. 

I don’t have many bump photos from my pregnancy either. That was on purpose though because I had suffered a prior loss and didn’t want to deal with seeing a ton of photos of me pregnant if something went wrong. I do have a few though and those are cool to look at now that Velocibaby is 13 months. 

We do have a ton of selfies of ourselves with her though. My favorites are the ones we took during late night feedings from when she was a newborn. My husband has a hysterical one where he’s making the same goofy face she was and it’s one of my favorite photos of them.

And another pro tip - find a sturdy surface to put your phone onto and use the self timer to take photos when you’re playing or reading or doing other activities together. I took a bunch of photos for her albums the first year doing that and it’s really nice being able to look at those.

[MadeItOut]

Agreeing totally with using the timer and being in shots - esp if you don't usually (I get it. I hate having photos taken too).  One of my second jobs is in family history. You wouldn't believe how many adults miss having photos with the parent who typically took most of them. 

[nst]

23 hours ago, Fascinated said:

Well, yes. With Diana, Princess of Wales .  Our oldest sons are two weeks apart and our second are two months apart. Now, my daughter-in-law has been pregnant at the same time as Kate for all three of their children, although her third is already three months old, so not a huge overlap with that one.  Silly, I know. 

I love it . 

my friend when she was pregnant with all three of her kids (19-15) just told me how they were conceived. Meaning who was chasing whom type of thing.  

no chalkboard. 

[melon]

I think Jinger looks great! My most embarassing moment??There are many.