Mills Family 7: Oh, Look, Another Reason to Detest Tom

[Olivia Marie]

I wonder if the other 3-4 “ girlfriends” Tom has had, met the children.  Those are the 3-4 that he talked about, who knows if there were more.  Each time he stated that the kids knew about them.  Did he put the kids through meeting those women waiting in line?   All of those women did dump him.  That tells me that they must have at least been a little bit normal.

[zeebaneighba]

11 hours ago, can'tstopwatching said:

 

April seems lovely from the small glance we get of her, of course anyone who likes Tom has got to be a little off or just doesn’t know the full package that is Tom Mills yet and I hope he doesn’t scare her away through his true colors. But so far I think she seems very nice. She has step children so either she’s twice widowed or she’s been divorced before and if that’s the case then Tom is a total hypocrite saying before that he wouldn’t want to be with a divorced women, but who knows. 

 

No, I would assume her late husband had kids from a previous relationship (divorced or widowed). She would not have had to have had any previous relationships before marrying him to have step kids.  

[can'tstopwatching]

5 minutes ago, zeebaneighba said:

No, I would assume her late husband had kids from a previous relationship (divorced or widowed). She would not have had to have had any previous relationships before marrying him to have step kids.  

True, but it's the middle 2 kids of the 6 that are her stepkids, so I can't figure out another scenario other than she's had the first two kids with one man and the last two with another, and this second man brought the middle two into the family. It's possible she's also been twice widowed, which would sure suck. Again I don't judge her at all for this, divorces and stepkids are totally normal family dynamics, I'm just noting Tom's hypocrisy when he has been openly and unfairly judgmental toward divorced women. I also don't feel the need to be given the truth, I'm just speculating, I hope she doesn't feel pressured to share her entire life story on youtube just because hundreds of nosy minions will feel entitled to know it!

[Olivia Marie]

I don’t give a flying F about Tom’s happiness, or anything else to do with him.    I do, however, care about the children.   They haven’t had a chance in life, not one single normal thing in their young lives.  All thanks to the two people who should love them most.  The two people who should have protected, encouraged, guided, directed, nourished both physically and mentally.   The children are castaways.    
 

Tom only cares about himself.  He always has, he always will.  Delusions of grandeur.   Self-serving narcissist.    He wants, and gets, what he wants, when he wants.  His desires are first and foremost.  The children are not even an afterthought to him.   It’s so sad, shameful, sinful.  

I read somewhere, don’t know if it was here - that Tom said this woman had been wanting to buy a van as well??   Interesting.    

[Itsjustme]

19 minutes ago, can'tstopwatching said:

True, but it's the middle 2 kids of the 6 that are her stepkids, so I can't figure out another scenario other than she's had the first two kids with one man and the last two with another, and this second man brought the middle two into the family. It's possible she's also been twice widowed,

That's what I thought. The oldest are hers from a previous relationship, either he died or they divorced. The middle two are her second husbands children from a previous marriage, then she had the two youngest with hubby #2. So she's moving on to Tom being hubby #3 and moving very quickly, she said 14 months ago her hubby died. Something is weird, you'd think at 45 years old after two marriages you wouldn't be in a rush to marry. Seems like her and Tom do have a lot in common.  Like I said earlier I hope she isn't using him to gain interest in her business. She only just made the facebook page this past April 13 and only had like 7 people liking the page, that has already gone up to 9. 

[louannems]

3 hours ago, WhatAlife said:

Oops looks like they forgot Hannah’s car seat in the old van, so she sat in Asher’s lap on a few mile drive to pick up pizza. 
He is so f- ing lucky that they didn’t get into an accident and Hannah didn’t fly through the windshield. What a moron. Omg 

Risking his own kid’s life because he is a negligent POS

 

It's only like three blocks to Moorcroft's "city center", but most definitely Hannah should be in her car seat. My kids are long grown but shouldn't Claudia still be in a booster seat?

[formergothardite]

How real was Tom's "porn addiction"?  I don't doubt both he and Andrea had addictive personalities, but the way fundies toss around the term "porn addiction" I can't help but wonder if he just happened to like porn and was shamed into thinking it was a grave sin. 

[MangoTango]

6 hours ago, feministxtian said:

Ok....to those of you clutching your pearls that Tom has a girlfriend "so soon" after Andrea's death...you have no right to make that judgment. NONE!!! I'm not defending Tom here, but until and unless you've walked a mile or two in a widow's shoes, keep it to yourself. Some folks remarry quickly after losing a spouse and some never remarry. However, nobody on the outside, looking in (like we are here) has any right to say a single word about it. 

 

:::::stepping off my soapbox now:::::::::

I do agree that unless we've been in that position, we really don't know what it's like. That being said, I think people take issue with the fact that it appears that Tom (from his past and current behavior) isn't getting married for the kids' welfare, but it's so he can do as little work as possible as was par for the course when Andrea was alive. If Tom had stepped up and taken care of the kids and not treated them badly (Claudia being example number one) people wouldn't be as salty about the situation.

I do understand that depression and loss do have horrible long-lasting effects on a person's life and cause lax self-care and care for those around you, but he was the exact same when Andrea was alive in terms of caring for the kids. Like I and many others on this forum have said before, this is less about him finding a partner in life to be part of a team, and more of him finding someone to do all the work so he doesn't have to.

I think he will become more laid back in some respects in exchange for this new woman taking on every single chore in that household.Part of me suspects that he uses religion as more of a way to control people (as many people do) and would give up the religion aspect if he was able to keep the same kind of control he wields now.

 

Edited June 21, 2020 by MangoTango

[justlooking]

RACHAEL DAY IS ALREADY "LOVING" APRIL'S FACEBOOK POSTS!  OMG, it's already beginning!  She will become an EXPERT on April......April posted a pic of her making lasagna for Fathers Day for Goober Boy, and the 2 little ones are in the pic with her........AND THERE IS RACHAEL DAY - Loving the post!   So weird..........

[Queen Of Hearts]

2 hours ago, justlooking said:

RACHAEL DAY IS ALREADY "LOVING" APRIL'S FACEBOOK POSTS!  OMG, it's already beginning!  She will become an EXPERT on April......April posted a pic of her making lasagna for Fathers Day for Goober Boy, and the 2 little ones are in the pic with her........AND THERE IS RACHAEL DAY - Loving the post!   So weird..........

You must be FB friends with Tom because I can't see any of those pictures. It does sound like the kids will get some real meals while April is in town.  Rachel Day is a piece of work... she was probably up all night research everything she could about April so she would be the expert on that topic.

Edited June 22, 2020 by Queen Of Hearts

[justlooking]

Oh I’m sure she is!  She’s probably befriending her so she can answer all her questions too.  

[All About the Shekels]

If ol fungus foot announced their relationship on the 10mos anniversary, wedding day on the 1 yr anniv??

[Olivia Marie]

Healthy Options With April, on FB, posted this on June 17, only four days ago -  “With the move, I’ve been delayed getting things going here.   I promise to work on some posts soon.”    It sounds like she has already moved to Moorcroft.    Maybe not living with him yet, but it certainly sounds like she is there.   

Her next post was 14 hours ago -  “A surprise for my friends too.”  She has a picture of that same stupid brown box Tom used in his big announcement.   Yes, they are likeminded.   
 

On April 14th she asked if there were 5-10 women interested in discounts and products, to attend a mega on-line party.  They didn't have to buy or be on camera.   She had MEGA in all caps.  The company is Pure Romance, luxury sex toys.  In the same day she posted about how to become a Proverbs 31 woman.    

I read through several of the comments on Tom’s big reveal video.  One person asked,  “ When will you be getting Andrea a headstone?”   Surprisingly he left the comment.   Maybe so his supporters could attack.  

Not judging on the sex toys or website.  Just a drastic contradiction to Tom’s 24/7 Bible playing, his holier than thou attitude, and the pureness he preaches as he pounds his virtual pulpit.   
 

 

Edited June 22, 2020 by Olivia Marie

[Flossie]

15 hours ago, All About the Shekels said:

...why was a cardboard box the thumbnail for the announcement video?

Maybe in Toms mind he's doing another unboxing video.  Another show-off of the stuff he gets now that he's a youtube star?  Will he claim he donated Andrea 2.0 if/when this thing implodes?

[Smitty]

I could see them getting another place - real estate is probably relatively inexpensive in The Moorcroft area.  He would leave the current place to his older boys, and his office.  A start fresh with a bride and the younger ones.

The reality is that Andrea will be replaced in the hearts and minds of the three youngest by whomever #3 becomes.  Yes there will always be the videos, but memories fade, and there is still life to be lived in the loss of any parent.

A happy Tom is still a better father than a frustrated, worn out one on the prowl. A mate to his liking will never satisfy most, but I’d rather it be someone with a little spunk than a subservient one afraid to introduce change.

 

[fundiefollower]

In one of the posts of April's that I saw, she mentioned that her husband had been sick for 8 years and she was his caregiver.  Looks to be cancer from some of the other posts she had.  And they would have been married 13 years last July, if he hadn't passed away a couple of months prior.  So, he was sick most of their marriage, which is sad. I'm sure she is ready to move on, looking to be happy again.  Also, lends me to believe that she believes in medical care.

[Mom2Bubby]

10 hours ago, Olivia Marie said:

Healthy Options With April, on FB, posted this on June 17, only four days ago -  “With the move, I’ve been delayed getting things going here.   I promise to work on some posts soon.”    It sounds like she has already moved to Moorcroft.    Maybe not living with him yet, but it certainly sounds like she is there.   

Her next post was 14 hours ago -  “A surprise for my friends too.”  She has a picture of that same stupid brown box Tom used in his big announcement.   Yes, they are likeminded.   
 

On April 14th she asked if there were 5-10 women interested in discounts and products, to attend a mega on-line party.  They didn't have to buy or be on camera.   She had MEGA in all caps.  The company is Pure Romance, luxury sex toys.  In the same day she posted about how to become a Proverbs 31 woman.    

I read through several of the comments on Tom’s big reveal video.  One person asked,  “ When will you be getting Andrea a headstone?”   Surprisingly he left the comment.   Maybe so his supporters could attack.  

Not judging on the sex toys or website.  Just a drastic contradiction to Tom’s 24/7 Bible playing, his holier than thou attitude, and the pureness he preaches as he pounds his virtual pulpit.   
 

 

I’m not positive but I believe she very recently moved from California to Idaho. That might be the move she was talking about. 
 

 

[All About the Shekels]

Now we know that “I won’t be working on the bathroom this weekend” is code for wife #3 is in town.?

[justlooking]

I think this whole thing will be hardest for Asher - hes taken on that roll of Mother/Father figure for the little one....I bet he won't like 2 new kids in the house either (he's such a homebody)....and April will need to be very respectful taking care of Hanna remembering Asher has done it all.  This whole thing will be so interesting.  She may blow everyone away and just fit right and it will all be good......I hope.....

[Maggie Mae]

5 hours ago, Smitty said:

I could see them getting another place - real estate is probably relatively inexpensive in The Moorcroft area.  He would leave the current place to his older boys, and his office.  A start fresh with a bride and the younger ones.

It's inexpensive, by my standards, but there's not a lot of it. There are only 11 homes for sale right now, and almost all are 3 bedrooms or apartments. 

However, there is a 6 bedroom up for sale (has been for about a year) that would work out well for them, if Tom kept his house as a shop and rented the living space out to Thomas. 

[Olivia Marie]

3 hours ago, Mom2Bubby said:

I’m not positive but I believe she very recently moved from California to Idaho. That might be the move she was talking about. 
 

 

Thank you.  I didn’t know about a move from California.   I didn’t watch the video, and I missed that if it was in the comments.   

[Itsjustme]

1 hour ago, justlooking said:

This whole thing will be so interesting. 

I'm concerned that anyone would insert themselves into a grieving family so quickly, not only for his kids but for hers as well. Don't either of them think about the emotional health of their children?  In psychology losing a parent is considered a traumatic event. We have two people who seem to only be concerned with their own emotional needs. It's rough to have emotionally immature parents.

Something I read on a site about this:

If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior.

That last line hits home for Asher..

 

[Olivia Marie]

6 hours ago, Smitty said:

I could see them getting another place - real estate is probably relatively inexpensive in The Moorcroft area.  He would leave the current place to his older boys, and his office.  A start fresh with a bride and the younger ones.

The reality is that Andrea will be replaced in the hearts and minds of the three youngest by whomever #3 becomes.  Yes there will always be the videos, but memories fade, and there is still life to be lived in the loss of any parent.

A happy Tom is still a better father than a frustrated, worn out one on the prowl. A mate to his liking will never satisfy most, but I’d rather it be someone with a little spunk than a subservient one afraid to introduce change.

 

Almost any prospective home would be a drastic improvement to the squalor the children live in now.  It’s so sad.  

[Itsjustme]

I had another thought about this visit Tom has had. We all know he does not take the virus seriously at all. I know every state has different rules about travel and things like that but the two things I was wondering about was: She traveled from Idaho into Wyoming. Then they went from Wyoming to Colorado and back. She wore no mask and was around the kids. Wouldn't you want to be more safe than sorry if you were coming from another state and visiting a family? They say airports are the worst places to be, you touch surfaces, you are in the plane with recycled air ventilation, etc..  You could be asymptomatic and not even know you have it. It's the people like this that continue to spread the virus becasue they have no thoughts about others. Truly like a teenage couple in love, they only see each other and no one else.

 

 

 

[zeebaneighba]

23 hours ago, can'tstopwatching said:

True, but it's the middle 2 kids of the 6 that are her stepkids, so I can't figure out another scenario other than she's had the first two kids with one man and the last two with another, and this second man brought the middle two into the family. It's possible she's also been twice widowed, which would sure suck. Again I don't judge her at all for this, divorces and stepkids are totally normal family dynamics, I'm just noting Tom's hypocrisy when he has been openly and unfairly judgmental toward divorced women. I also don't feel the need to be given the truth, I'm just speculating, I hope she doesn't feel pressured to share her entire life story on youtube just because hundreds of nosy minions will feel entitled to know it!

I was not aware of that.  Interesting!