Mills Family 7: Oh, Look, Another Reason to Detest Tom

[can'tstopwatching]

I did a little bit of Facebook digging on this lazy Sunday (lol) and it appears that this new lady has recently moved from CA in the past couple weeks, to I assume Idaho as Tom said she lives in Idaho. They already mentioned in this live video the possibility of her moving to Wyoming. That seems quite tumultuous for her kids to do all that moving, although I suppose maybe it would at least be better to move again soon before they get settled into life in Idaho. My guess is if the families end up moving in together, they'll have to get a bigger house but they'll keep the current house for one of the kids. I think the kids would absolutely hate moving but Tom will ignore that. I'm very excited to watch all this play out ?

Edit: she has a (public) facebook page with a link to a website where she is a 'consultant' for sex and 'romance' products including toys, etc. She shared Tom's live there so it's definitely her. Things about to get spicy on the purple playground!!!

Edited June 21, 2020 by can'tstopwatching

[Mom2Bubby]

Wow. I don’t even know what to say. LOL. I saw the post he made on his Facebook showing the car dealership and I thought so that’s the big announcement. Then I started reading comments and saw someone named April being mentioned. I can’t actually believe he found a woman. I haven’t watched the video yet. 

My opinion only (as I have never walked in anyone else’s shoes that has gone through losing a spouse) but I think he’s disgusting for bringing a new woman into his kids lives not even a year after his wife’s death. Yes, he needs help with the kids, and hopefully someone to knock him off his high horse, but I feel terrible for those kids. They are still grieving their mother. What if the littles become attached to this woman and it doesn't work out? And any woman that would be interested in Tom has to be off her rocker. He’s a narcissistic piece of crap. She might seem pleasant and all right now, but if she’s interested in Tom there must be something major wrong with her. 

He angered me from the beginning of this whole shit show when Andrea passed. She was not a nice person either, but from day one it seems all he cares about is having someone to take her place so he can continue to be the man child he wants to be. Even when Andrea was alive, other than having a steady job, it seemed he did whatever he wanted with no responsibility to those children. It was all about Tom all the time. 

I hope for the children’s sake this woman works out, and that she’s not the “evil stepmother” to them. I’m sure Tom and her are on their best behavior at this point. If she’s a gamer and between them they have that many children, I bet her and Tom pass responsibility to the older kids and just go off and do their own thing. God forbid Tom give up his Magic nights. I wonder what her children think of this relationship. 
 

I would love to think positive about this relationship and hope it will be the best thing to happen to the Mills kids, but it’s Tom we’re talking about. I don’t put a lot of faith in the idea that this will work out for anyone other then Tom. He’s shown us what he is really like in the last 10 months and anyone who gets to know him would run the other way unless they are just like him. They say there’s a lid for every pot though.  I just hope this woman treats the kids the way they deserve to be treated and not the way Tom has treated them. He’s a terrible father. Just terrible. 
 

I think Rachel has been head over heals for Tom from the beginning and when Andrea passed she was even worse about the stalking. I truly think she thought she had a chance with Tom. And although I don’t really think Tom likes her too much, I could see him ending up with her if nothing better came along. I also think there are going to be a few bent noses from his minions. So many of those crazy commenters seem like they have the hots for Tom. It’s disgusting. Yes, some are probably just older women who feel like they are looking out for the family, but there are certainly some crazies too-Rachel isn’t the only one. She’s just the one that stands out the most. LOL. 
 

As I said, I hope this works out the best for the kids. I hope this woman is the one who finally puts Tom in his place and that he grows up and acts like the man and father he should have been all along. But I’m a cynical person so I doubt it will happen. I fear for those kids that they are the ones going to be hurt by this relationship. As we’ve seen in all the years andrea and Tom were married, those kids were never his priority. And they still aren’t or he wouldn’t be out trolling for another woman already. He probably said the L word because he thinks he’s found someone to take over the day to day care of the kids and someone to grease his pole for him. I’d love to be proven wrong, but it’s Tom Mills, asshat father of the year were talking about. The only thing I see changing if this works out, is that Tommy gets what he wants and the kids lives are made worse than they already are. I hope The older ones move out as soon as they can. SMH. 

[Ekaterina]

17 minutes ago, can'tstopwatching said:

Edit: she has a (public) facebook page with a link to a website where she is a 'consultant' for sex and 'romance' products including toys, etc. She shared Tom's live there so it's definitely her. Things about to get spicy on the purple playground!!!

Do you have a link to her FB page?  Or maybe her surname so that we can locate her.

What a gross POS he is.  Acting like a school kid on heat! 

[Itsjustme]

3 hours ago, can'tstopwatching said:

She has step children so either she’s twice widowed or she’s been divorced before and if that’s the case then Tom is a total hypocrite saying before that he wouldn’t want to be with a divorced women, but who knows. 

Her husband could have been divorced and she had children with him OR he was widowed as well, which would be creep factor.

3 hours ago, can'tstopwatching said:

But so far I think she seems very nice.

I think anyone would seem nice after only one time of seeing them. I'd be curious to see how she is two years from now.

 

8 hours ago, Olivia Marie said:

So, a dating website??   His own personal YT dating site, or another site?   Either way, he’s been on the prowl for 10 months.

Yes, someone asked him which dating site he was on and he said that was one of the questions he decided he would not answer. 

 

40 minutes ago, mollysmom said:

I cringed when she said she has 6 kids. So 15 between the 2 of them.

That's why he bought the 15 seater van. It was for his own selfish reasons or he would have bought the van earlier just for his own kids. He did it for her. 

 

8 hours ago, louannems said:

Tom said she is a godly woman who homeschools.  Her favorite verse is Joshua something. 

She is from Idaho and they have the second highest population of Mormons after Utah. I'm wondering if she is from the LDS church? 

[can'tstopwatching]

12 minutes ago, Ekaterina said:

Do you have a link to her FB page?  Or maybe her surname so that we can locate her.

What a gross POS he is.  Acting like a school kid on heat! 

I don't know what information I'm allowed to give such as her last name, but her public facebook page is called "Healthy Options with April" and there's a link to the sex product website Pure Romance in the about section. I found her personal account just by looking for an April through the likes on one of Tom's recent posts so she's not hard to find, if someone says it's ok to give her last name then I will but it is easy to find otherwise.

[Mom2Bubby]

I just found her Facebook. She’s posted many posts mentioning religion, but also quite a few where she uses the f-bomb. She definitely has the ‘crazy eyes’ in some of her photos. Sounds like a real winner to me folks. (Sarcasm in case you didn’t pick up on it-lol). 

[formergothardite]

Well she looks like she is into MLMs which is always a bad sign. The fact that she is into Tom is also a bad sign. Maybe she will be at least not as awful a parent as Andrea and Tom? Maybe? At this point slightly less shitty of a parent is about the best I hope for. If she encourages them to do things like join the military that would be a huge step up from Andrea and Tom. 

These poor children. 

[Queen Of Hearts]

7 minutes ago, formergothardite said:

Well she looks like she is into MLMs which is always a bad sign. The fact that she is into Tom is also a bad sign. Maybe she will be at least not as awful a parent as Andrea and Tom? Maybe? At this point slightly less shitty of a parent is about the best I hope for. If she encourages them to do things like join the military that would be a huge step up from Andrea and Tom. 

These poor children. 

Her kids were also apparently in 4-H. If Tom doesn't scare her away, I think she would be an improvement for the kids in that she might get them to experience life outside of the family bubble.

Edited June 21, 2020 by Queen Of Hearts

[LilMissMetaphor]

1 hour ago, Mom2Bubby said:

My opinion only (as I have never walked in anyone else’s shoes that has gone through losing a spouse) but I think he’s disgusting for bringing a new woman into his kids lives not even a year after his wife’s death. Yes, he needs help with the kids, and hopefully someone to knock him off his high horse, but I feel terrible for those kids.

 

I had the same opinion when Daniel Brooker married Brittany five months after meeting her and less than two years after both their spouses passed away.  If they had both been childless, I feel it would have been less of an issue.  Brittany often alludes to their struggles with the kids although at least she is respectful about not naming names.  I can't help thinking that maybe if they'd waited a few more hot seconds the kids would have adjusted better.

[formergothardite]

7 minutes ago, Queen Of Hearts said:

Her kids were also apparently in 4-H. If Tom doesn't scare her away, I think she would be an improvement for the kids in that she might get them to experience life outside of the family bubble.

And maybe she actually knows how to homeschool since once child is in college and one child is in the military. With the way Andrea and Tom "educated" I don't think military and college were even presented at options. 

This isn't a great situation, but it could be a step up for the children. 

[Itsjustme]

1 hour ago, can'tstopwatching said:

Edit: she has a (public) facebook page with a link to a website where she is a 'consultant' for sex and 'romance' products including toys, etc. She shared Tom's live there so it's definitely her. Things about to get spicy on the purple playground!!!

Wow! You are good! So much for the wholesome, religious, image. Is this the kind of influence he wants around his girls? He talks about modesty for them and then he dates someone who is totally not modest. I wouldn't be surprised if she figures being with Tom will boost her business by having access to so many women. He said she wasn't aware he had a You Tube channel but come on? She knows how to use social media, she KNEW he had a channel. 

He hasn't thought one bit what is best for his kids. He has only thought what is best for him. I predict they will marry in two to three months. How awful for these children that would be. He wouldn't just be blending two families, a marriage with her would be blending children from three families! Hers, her deceased husband's, and Tom's.  Heading down the path to total dysfunction! Guess seeing that therapist did absolutely nothing for Tom. 

 

[justlooking]

If they get married will she move in her 11 and 13 year old to THAT HOUSE??????????????  There's no room!  I bet you they will begin the search for another house???????  

[Mom2Bubby]

Maybe by being in this relationship Tom will have a change of heart about some of his crazy ideas/ideals. If it’s lasts and they end up together-

She can cook-let’s hope the kids will eat what she cooks. They might actually get that all inclusive diet Tom says they already have after all. 
 

Let’s hope she is cleaner than Tom.  I can’t imagine wanting to be intimate with smelly foot fungus guy. If my man showered once a week he’d be sleeping in his own room-at the very least. 
 

If they moved into a bigger house at least maybe that one would be cleaner and kept up better.  I just wish he had thought enough of his own kids to buy the van before now. It was much needed-but not that long ago Tom was saying how there was no need for another van. Now he has a gf with 6 kid-a new van is a priority. He did it for her, not his kids. As usual his kids come second to a woman. 
 

The little kids seemed to get along with her so far. I would hope she would treat them decently. Asher looked over it already. 
 

Regarding Her children being in the service. Very commendable. Let’s hope it wasn’t to escape a bad home atmosphere.
 

Homeschooling if done right can be good I suppose. Let’s hope she’s smarter than Tom and Andrea are/were. 
 

From checking out her Facebook page she seems to have some ideas that are quite a ways from what Tom thinks. If he wants to keep her I think he’s going to have to give up some of his crazier ones. Which I’m the long run might be good for his kids. 
 

In the video they said she has two kids Justus and Edens age. That might be good for them to have someone their own age to talk with that has lost a parent. 
 

I think it’s funny she’s a godly woman’ according to Tom, yet she sells sex toys. LOL. Sorry-pure romance. Must make Tom happy. (Knowing he had an issue in the past with porn). 
 

I just hope if this relationship lasts, his kids come out better for it in the end. Tom I could care less about, but those kids deserve all the happiness in the world. For what they have had to put up with from both Andrea and Tom  from the beginning of their lives till now, they deserve to have a chance at normalcy. A life outside those four stinky walls of isolation. 

[justlooking]

She just posted all her pictures with them to his facebook page.  She's not scared at all.   What do you bet that so many people are going to warn her about Rachael Day!  Please God, let April put Rachael Day in her place!!!!!!!!!!  RD is now trying to get all the scoop on April so she can answer all her questions too!  I really think I may do it! ha!

 

 

[Mom2Bubby]

22 minutes ago, justlooking said:

She just posted all her pictures with them to his facebook page.  She's not scared at all.   What do you bet that so many people are going to warn her about Rachael Day!  Please God, let April put Rachael Day in her place!!!!!!!!!!  RD is now trying to get all the scoop on April so she can answer all her questions too!  I really think I may do it! ha!

 

 

I don’t see the photos.?  The last photo I see is of the car dealership. I noticed too that Rachel is already answering questions about April. Best thing for Rachel’s kids is for her to be blocked from anything to do with the Mills family. She need to spend time and money on her own kids for a change. 
 

I see on the introduction video that it has 100 dislikes already. I think that’s the most I've ever seen on one of his videos before. LOL

Edited June 21, 2020 by Mom2Bubby
Added a thought

[Itsjustme]

So is he going to finally change the wording to his Go Fund Me page? Saying things like he has no income while he stays with her at the hospital, that they have 9 children and one on the way.  Nowhere does it ever say she passed on. Nowhere does it say that he is working and has extra income from You Tube. 

"We make nothing from our YouTube channel, and our only goal is to help other people by sharing the experiences from our own  lives"

Mr. Godly Man has no problem deceiving people. How does anyone think it's ok and continue to sing his praises?

 

 

[Queen Of Hearts]

In fairness about the Pure Romance stuff, all I can see is she shared one of their memes. I am not sure sure she is a consultant.

[can'tstopwatching]

2 hours ago, Itsjustme said:

Her husband could have been divorced and she had children with him OR he was widowed as well, which would be creep factor.

That's true I didn't think of that. However they did say she has a 25 and 22 year old, then the step kids are 21 and 19, and then two more of her own are 13 and 11. So maybe there are other possibilities that my brain isn't quite working out but that makes it seem like there are a few spouses involved haha. My point by bringing this up isn't at all to judge her by the way, I don't want it to come across as that, just pointing out Tom's hypocrisy when he has been sooo judgmental in the past about people (especially women) who have been divorced (as even he has been!).

4 minutes ago, Queen Of Hearts said:

In fairness about the Pure Romance stuff, all I can see is she shared one of their memes. I am not sure sure she is a consultant.

Her name and photo are listed as 'consultant' if you follow the link on the "Healthy options with April" facebook page. It also seems to be called "Pure Romance by April"? I don't know if this is some business she owns, or why that 'by April' would be coming up?

[feministxtian]

Ok....to those of you clutching your pearls that Tom has a girlfriend "so soon" after Andrea's death...you have no right to make that judgment. NONE!!! I'm not defending Tom here, but until and unless you've walked a mile or two in a widow's shoes, keep it to yourself. Some folks remarry quickly after losing a spouse and some never remarry. However, nobody on the outside, looking in (like we are here) has any right to say a single word about it. 

 

:::::stepping off my soapbox now:::::::::

[Queen Of Hearts]

3 minutes ago, feministxtian said:

Ok....to those of you clutching your pearls that Tom has a girlfriend "so soon" after Andrea's death...you have no right to make that judgment. NONE!!! I'm not defending Tom here, but until and unless you've walked a mile or two in a widow's shoes, keep it to yourself. Some folks remarry quickly after losing a spouse and some never remarry. However, nobody on the outside, looking in (like we are here) has any right to say a single word about it. 

 

:::::stepping off my soapbox now:::::::::

I have to agree with you on this point.  Many people enter relationships soon after a spouses passing. Tom isn't unique in this regard.

Also, perplexed at the side eye being given about her having kids when previously there was so much talk here about how unprepared someone with no kids would be to join that clan. The fact that she has a large family herself should be a plus here.

As far as potential matches go, this one seems halfway decent and not what I was expecting for Tom at all. April is age appropriate, seems to share Tom's interests, seems to have well adjusted kids. It is hard for me to snark on either of them finding happiness with each other. Yet.

 

[moreorlessnu]

11 hours ago, Maggie Mae said:

Whatever ghoul she married is probably the best she could do. 

Thank you. You made me snort with laughter.

[Mom2Bubby]

26 minutes ago, feministxtian said:

Ok....to those of you clutching your pearls that Tom has a girlfriend "so soon" after Andrea's death...you have no right to make that judgment. NONE!!! I'm not defending Tom here, but until and unless you've walked a mile or two in a widow's shoes, keep it to yourself. Some folks remarry quickly after losing a spouse and some never remarry. However, nobody on the outside, looking in (like we are here) has any right to say a single word about it. 

 

:::::stepping off my soapbox now:::::::::

As I said in a previous post-I haven't walked in anyone’s shoes that has lost a spouse, so these are my opinions only. This is a gossip site after all. Not clutching my pearls-just hoping Toms kids make out better if this relationship goes anywhere than they have in the last 10 months with having Tom be the sole parent. Guess I think he deserves whatever he gets but those kids deserve better. JMO 

[Grandma D]

25 minutes ago, feministxtian said:

Ok....to those of you clutching your pearls that Tom has a girlfriend "so soon" after Andrea's death...you have no right to make that judgment. NONE!!! I'm not defending Tom here, but until and unless you've walked a mile or two in a widow's shoes, keep it to yourself. Some folks remarry quickly after losing a spouse and some never remarry. However, nobody on the outside, looking in (like we are here) has any right to say a single word about it. 

 

:::::stepping off my soapbox now:::::::::

Sounds like this has hit home for you and I'm sorry for that. I don't think those of us who have commented are judging how quickly he has found a girlfriend/wife, and if it turns out she is a good match I will be very happy for him and the kids, especially the little ones, but discussion and concerns are because Tom has put his life on the stage for all to see and I have an issue with his reasons for finding a girlfriend/wife so quickly.  And that he started looking right after Andrea passed away. He bought the new van for her and her kids, not for his kids or it would have been bought long ago. He also might finish that bathroom now quickly because of her, not because his kids have needed one for years now. It is his motivation that we question and discuss, I think.  And I watch too many ID shows where awful things happen in situations like this to trust someone and introduce them to your kids after only one month??

[Sloth]

Lots of judgement already, which isn't fair on her quite so soon, I don't think.

It is fast but I also think those little kids need someone in their lives who is going to create more structure and normality, FAST.

She seems nice to me, her older kids are in good careers and college, she's met the kids and been to the house and hasn't run yet so is probably made of strong stuff. She seemed to be giving the littles lots of attention. I think if they work out she could be a massively good thing for those kids, even the older ones, for Asher it would mean he wouldn't have to play mum any longer. They may even start getting a decent diet.

I do hope his YT minions don't keep comparing her to Andrea as that won't be nice for her at all, yes she looks a little similar but they shouldn't keep bringing attention to that. (I wonder if he's taken down the creepy rope of hair yet!)

I do hope that if she moves, they get a new, bigger house, it would not be fair to cram more kids into that tiny house!

I notice Rachel Day was very quiet ??

[SIngingforsupper]

I am hoping for the kids  that if Tom is happy the household will be happier. He did seem giddy like a teen and called April hot in front of the kids, EWWWW.  As far as the van is concerned its about time.