WTF is lori Alexander talking about?

[DefraudedByPlaid]

Really. The fact that I read the thread title and thought "well, that's generic" says a lot about Lori.

Oh, and Glory Box? No offense to NZers, but my mind went here:

[bBvideo 560,340:6d0c58za]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABrSYqiqvzc&feature=kp[/bBvideo]

Okay, thank you for sending me down an SNL rabbit hole for the past hour :-)

[GeoBQn]

Remind me to NOT go to her church if I am ever in Southern California.

According to Lori's post today, Tennessee and Arkansas are in the Midwest.

[ILoveJellybeans]

Remind me to NOT go to her church if I am ever in Southern California.

What kind of church does she go to??????? :shock:

Whichever it is, someone please send the Maxwells there to do a conference, just for the looks on their faces when they meet the pantsless preacher.

Lori, if you don't want people to think that the pastor is preaching in a tshirt and underpants, or with his dick swinging in the breeze, write things a little better.

[Koala]

She never misses a chance to throw old Kenny under the bus:

Ken was wrong about something the other day, I stated what I believed was the truth, and then let him have the last word and be right even though I knew he was wrong. No bit deal. It has led to much calm and peace in our home.

He was right, except he was really wrong and she was right. And she let him have the last word...by telling all of fb the she let him be right/wrong :cray-cray:

[FJismyheadship]

What kind of church does she go to??????? :shock:

Whichever it is, someone please send the Maxwells there to do a conference, just for the looks on their faces when they meet the pantsless preacher.

Lori, if you don't want people to think that the pastor is preaching in a tshirt and underpants, or with his dick swinging in the breeze, write things a little better.

She changed it

Our pastors wear jeans and t-shirts when they preach!

Hi Ken! Hi Lori!

[salex]

Remind me to NOT go to her church if I am ever in Southern California.

I don't, know, do her pastors look like this?

[GeoBQn]

From today's post:

Marriage was designed by God and He blesses marriages and having babies. He was the One who came up with the idea in the first place. My parents got married before my dad was in medical school. They lived in a condemned building for awhile and my dad sold Bible story books. God provided for them. They never went hungry, without clothes, or without shelter.

So marriage didn't exist before Christianity?

[OkToBeTakei]

Most couples will tell you their favorite memories were of the times when they were poor and had very little. Ken and I lived in a tiny single wide trailer when we were first married. Our double bed barely fit into our bedroom but we were fine there. We didn't expect much, so we were content.

I actually agree with the bolded.

Except her adjectives are..

FINE

CONTENT.

Mr OK and I bought a wee one bedroom flat (apartment.)

We were excited.

We were in love.

We thought it was our LURVE palace (DO NOT LAUGH..we were young.)

We still talk about it as some of our favourite times.

But hey what do I know. I'm just some harpie on an internet site hell bent on debunking the world according to Ken and Lori. I'm female.

(according to Ken) I'm just WRONG.

[Rebelwife]

I actually agree with the bolded.

Except her adjectives are..

FINE

CONTENT.

Mr OK and I bought a wee one bedroom flat (apartment.)

We were excited.

We were in love.

We thought it was our LURVE palace (DO NOT LAUGH..we were young.)

We still talk about it as some of our favourite times.

But hey what do I know. I'm just some harpie on an internet site hell bent on debunking the world according to Ken and Lori. I'm female.

(according to Ken) I'm just WRONG.

Except now isn't she directly contradicting her headship, who has assured us numerous times that they were miserable for the first 23 years, until Lori learned her place? Fine and content? :whistle:

[Curious]

She never misses a chance to throw old Kenny under the bus:

He was right, except he was really wrong and she was right. And she let him have the last word...by telling all of fb the she let him be right/wrong :cray-cray:

Well it's pretty clear why Ken didn't fare very well here now, isn't it ;)

[lilwriter85]

Remind me to NOT go to her church if I am ever in Southern California.

This is Lori's church. She has never said the name of the church, but in one blog entry she gave away a couple of details that made it easy to find out the name.

http://www.northcoastcalvary.org/ (not breaking the link, since I don't think the church would track or anything)

The church seems to be an ok megachurch, but they promote Mark Driscoll/Mars Hill crap.

[fiery redhead]

I have been asked many times how in the world I was capable of saying "yes" to my husband sexually, even amidst severe morning sickness that lasted all nine months for both of my pregnancies. Or how I was willing to smile and express delight for my husband during intimacy, even when, inwardly, I was beyond exhaustion.

[polecat]

I have been asked many times how in the world I was capable of saying "yes" to my husband sexually, even amidst severe morning sickness that lasted all nine months for both of my pregnancies. Or how I was willing to smile and express delight for my husband during intimacy, even when, inwardly, I was beyond exhaustion.

Do they not realize how horrible they make their husbands sound?

They're making their husbands sound like sex-obsessed animals who merely want a flesh-and-blood blow-up doll that they can penetrate, thrust twice in, and roll off. For all these women crow about how marriage is a picture of Christ's love for us, they really miss the boat here because there's nothing loving about demanding sex from your wife when she's glassy-eyed with exhaustion or retching with morning sickness.

And this is coming from a woman who really DOES make an effort to have sex with her husband whenever he's in the mood. The difference is that my husband doesn't expect it, demand it or otherwise act like a complete dick dribble if I'm simply not able to comply. Heck, he wouldn't even ask for it if I were that obviously not in the mood.

[fiery redhead]

Do they not realize how horrible they make their husbands sound?

They're making their husbands sound like sex-obsessed animals who merely want a flesh-and-blood blow-up doll that they can penetrate, thrust twice in, and roll off. For all these women crow about how marriage is a picture of Christ's love for us, they really miss the boat here because there's nothing loving about demanding sex from your wife when she's glassy-eyed with exhaustion or retching with morning sickness.

And this is coming from a woman who really DOES make an effort to have sex with her husband whenever he's in the mood. The difference is that my husband doesn't expect it, demand it or otherwise act like a complete dick dribble if I'm simply not able to comply. Heck, he wouldn't even ask for it if I were that obviously not in the mood.

I know, and what's worse is the title of the post is "Never Defrauding Him Sexually". Isn't it defrauding to someone to have sex with them when you do not want to?

[polecat]

I read this entry to my husband and his reply was that he wouldn't want sex if he knew I wasn't feeling well or was completely exhausted. I've known ladies who were sick throughout their entire pregnancies (one vomited for nine months including labor!). I can't honestly understand a man who would insist on (or even accept) his conjugal rights knowing his wife felt ill. I just don't get it. Maybe I'm just being selfish because when my husband and I make love, I want to enjoy it and I'm afraid I can't do that when I'm ill or ready to drop from exhaustion. Being mildly exhausted is a different story.

Please understand, I do feel that a man and wife shouldn't withhold themselves from each other. I just believe this verse implies mutuality, compromise and lots of communication. Yes, our bodies belong to each other, but when one must perform due to obligation, that sort of reduces a beautiful act that God created to bond a man and wife to a mere duty, imo. OTOH, denying one's spouse out of spite, laziness, etc., is sin. Of course, this applies to men as well yet I don't read about this on marriage blogs as often. I've encountered ladies online whose husbands have porn addictions and they're literally starved for affection because their husbands' needs are met elsewhere.

Wonder how long this comment will be allowed to remain?

[polecat]

I know, and what's worse is the title of the post is "Never Defrauding Him Sexually". Isn't it defrauding to someone to have sex with them when you do not want to?

imo, a husband who would demand sex while knowing full well that his wife is exhausted or ill is defrauding her of what should be a mutually enjoyable expression of love and intimacy. He's using her to get off. Nothing more, nothing less.

[SquirrelySquirrel]

I had about 8.5 months of morning sickness so there wasn't a lot of action happening. My godless husband wouldn't even let me do anything for just him because he doesn't enjoy it when I don't. And somehow, he lived through it just fine. We still have a perfectly happy, healthy relationship 9 years later. Someone please tell me how this is a bad thing. Oh wait, it isn't. Lori and her ilk are just envious of those who aren't married to selfish pricks and Ken and his ilk can't face the fact that they are selfish pricks.

[fiery redhead]

imo, a husband who would demand sex while knowing full well that his wife is exhausted or ill is defrauding her of what should be a mutually enjoyable expression of love and intimacy. He's using her to get off. Nothing more, nothing less.

I totally agree, it's totally setting up the woman for abuse. I had just brought up the pretending to not be tired thing to show Lori's stupid hypocrisy and self contradiction that she always seems to have in her writings, because in her opinion women are being defrauding if they do not pretend to not be tired, which is obviously stupid.

[Jesse911]

My ex wife was fundie, not a very good one but fundie, and for the life of her could not understand why I had zero interest in having sex with her when she wasn't in the mood. She told me numerous times it was it was her place to submit and give it to me no matter what and she just couldn't understand why that wasn't just an instant boner for me. One time she tried to get me to have sex with her while she was burning up with a fever and cried because I told her I wasn't going to do that when she was so sick and obviously felt like hell.

[polecat]

These people are the very definition of monstrous.

Yesterday, a woman shared that she'd been raped/sexually abused, and it was interfering with her ability/desire to have sex with her husband. Instead of encouraging individual/joint counseling or something, Ken pipes up with, "It is hard to have to run down rabbit trails all the time when teaching God's truths when for the vast majority of couples the solution to God's command is obvious: 'Stop depriving one another.' It is God's command and He tells us his commands are not burdensome." Another poster tells her that she just needs to forgive the rapist/abuser and her sex life will be fine.

And then to put the final schmear of icing on this shit cake, Lori makes a whole post today ranting about the commenter's "red herrings."

I used to think these two were just whackadoos, but they're downright malevolent. They're evil.

[jerkit]

I left a comment today and it was deleted in 12 minutes.

[Coco]

They're so concerned about trolls that their blog has ceased to help people who may need it. :lol:

[Curious]

They're so concerned about trolls that their blog has ceased to help people who may need it. :lol:

I have some doubts about Lori's blog ever helping anyone despite their claims to the contrary. However, if a person is going to have a blog, I think letting it devolve to the point they are not even staying true to their supposed mission anymore because they are so worried about what other people are saying, then it's time to close up shop. (Or be an adult and grow a little thicker skin and realize that when you post something in public on the WORLD WIDE WEB that 100% of the people reading it aren't going to agree with you.)

[Coco]

I have some doubts about Lori's blog ever helping anyone despite their claims to the contrary. However, if a person is going to have a blog, I think letting it devolve to the point they are not even staying true to their supposed mission anymore because they are so worried about what other people are saying, then it's time to close up shop. (Or be an adult and grow a little thicker skin and realize that when you post something in public on the WORLD WIDE WEB that 100% of the people reading it aren't going to agree with you.)

Like SSB and other bloggers who hash things out in the comment section - it only adds to the traffic. Lori's just afraid that their beliefs will fall apart under inspection, i guess. :twisted:

[Coconut Flan]

They're so concerned about trolls that their blog has ceased to help people who may need it. :lol:

Are there people who are helped by Lori and Ken? They may say so, but I don't believe there are many if any at all. I say good going for the trolls.

I believe that Lori has issues from her medical condition and perhaps medications and it would be a kindness to her not to have it displayed to the world. Ken needs to look at this from some distance, but he's too wrapped up in his version of patriarchy to have a clue.