Joyful Christian Homemaking- All things Candy

[Mac1138]

Candy is sharing her story, looks like it will be in parts. It's definitely harder for me to snark on her when she shares her personal story of growing up. I think we all definitely know what it feels like to not fit in... the only thing I would say about Candy's story is that it is SO sad and a little unbelievable that every. single. person. was just so darn mean to her. If she was mentally incapable of sorting out social cues, surely SOMEONE would have identified her as special needs at some point. Of course I know that kids slip through the cracks all the time, but her story has a bit of an unrealistic tone. The part about the home invasion is really scary and if it is true, surely traumatized her as well as her mother. She writes about it in a really detached way. I am really interested in the rest of her story! :popcorn2:

[Cran]

I'll be interested to see if she will change her story about her life as young adult around when she continues posting her life story, as she has written about the self-homeschooling, meeting Eric and jobs she supposedly held in the past.

While I do not doubt she was an outsider and being picked on, fairly common occurrences, I can't make myself believe everything she writes happened, the blog "Candy is a Liar" didn't exist for nothing.

[prairiemuffin]

I absolutely believe that she had a rough go in school and other social situations, but I also believe that this is quite exaggerated. To me it read like a big set up to prove how right she is in all of her life choices.

[browngrl]

Just read Candy's post. Oh my. :?

[fundiefan]

That was very painful to read. Not because her story is any more traumatic than any other childhood but because it's written by her. She has no skill in story telling and you can tell how hard she is trying to garner sympathy. The fact that that jumps out is evidence of the poor writing and logic skills.

Most people have bully problems growing up; one day, they're your friends, the next they're not. One day Bobby loves you and the next day he is pulling up your dress and teasing you. Not that it's right, but kids do that. It's part of them learning who they are and figuring out how to deal with the real world. If Candy spent her whole life being tormented and bullied to such a degree that she is deserving of special sympathy, maybe she should look at her own part in it. All those people in all those areas of life weren't just possessed by the devil and decided to hate her on the spot.

As is usual with her, she's a victim and everyone else has a problem. I don't doubt she had problems growing up but I don't for a second believe her version of things. She's trying to make a point and in the end all things will point to her having known from birth that she is super special and hand chosen by her god to be the best Christian ever. God made her special so she could do what she could grow up and speak for him. She says at one point in her story she appeared physcially different when not at school. Sounds to me like the physical and appearance changes that happened over night, literally, when she got saved.

She can't spin a story but she can spin a web.

[Cran]

I certainly think she's socially awkward, possibly this is the reason why she has diagnosed herself with Asperger's Syndrom, and in my opinion, much of her awkwardness stems from opting out of contact with other people as a teen by homeschooling.

[fundiefan]

I certainly think she's socially awkward, possibly this is the reason why she has diagnosed herself with Asperger's Syndrom, and in my opinion, much of her awkwardness stems from opting out of contact with other people as a teen by homeschooling.

I certainly think she's socially awkward, possibly this is the reason why she has diagnosed herself with Asperger's Syndrom, and in my opinion, much of her awkwardness stems from opting out of contact with other people as a teen by homeschooling.

She has chosen to run from difficult social interaction rather than fix it. I agree she was probably socially awkward and it just got worse most likely as time passed. But, that's because it was not dealt with and allowed to take over her social being. So, she ran away from it and has been running ever since. Fine, if she can't cope, but she is keeping her kids shut off from the world as well. She is making them suffer for her inability and unwillingness to interact with people.

Plus, she places 'blame' on everyone while refusing to look at herself. She has never done anythign wrong and the world is just full of unsaved poopie pants meanies.

[nelliebelle1197]

She thinks a sasquatch threw rocks at her. I got nothing.

[anniebgood]

She thinks a sasquatch threw rocks at her. I got nothing.

Well of course, she wasn't wearing her sooperspecial do rag at the time.

The shooting story has had several permutations. At this point I don't think she herself knows which one is true. IIRC she said her parents drank and fought a lot, and she used to hide under the bed to stay out of the way.

And then there's the Taco Bell inside the casino where she met Erik. As far as I know even in the non gaming parts of casinos you have to be over 21. Perhaps this was an Indian casino and the rules were different? She chased Erik and he let himself be caught.

If her kids don't turn out to be the perfect clones she wants, I feel so sorry for them.

[Mac1138]

Part two is up.... and I am almost speechless. It seems she really believes she was surrounded by horrible people who were all literally out to get her. And all the time, she was completely innocent and ignorant of WHY they might be focused on her. :? I think fundiefan has it right, she is spinning a web all to point at how special she is and why she is 'right'. However exaggerated her story is, however, I think there are most likely some truths in it. It all seems like the way over exaggerated perspective of a 5 year old. I've definitely heard her story about 'flunking' the ink blot test and the horrible counselor that twisted her stories into perverted ones.

[User123456]

As much as I believe armchair internet diagnosis can be terribly wrong, I can't help but note that as Candy presents herself, she appears to be a childhood victim of several horrific events which set off PTSD. She then continues to suffer continued trauma because she has no other way of reacting to other sad events, even small ones. It sounds like her parents checked out on her due to their own problems long ago and failed to help her with even the small normal events of childhood.

Internet flounces, constant moving, home births, social isolation....all real world reactions going back to "hiding under the bed when bad things happen". In the words of fundy Christianity, she needs an older woman for a mentor, not a homemaking diva, not a homeschooling mama, but a wise woman elder where there is complete trust and safety. I don't make wishes often for others, but I hope someone like this walks into Candy's life and I hope she has the courage to trust enough to receive the gift offered.

Finally, as much as I enjoy reading snark and more snark her on FJ, Candy's story is just sad, on so many levels, it's just sad. I have no business asking for moderation on this board, but perhaps in this case.... On one level, the story Candy presents may be exactly what she believes the world to be. On the exact opposite level, she may be spinning the story she wants the world to believe. On either side, it sits with me as being unsnark worthy. I cannot... one further add to trauma or two feed the internet pity persona.

[Cran]

You can refrain from snarking on Candy, I certainly won't exercise any moderation in it.

She might have some psychological difficulties and traumas, but to me, she is in the first place a liar. She knowingly makes things up to glorify herself and vilify others.

Everytime she writes about her childhood, her interest in Christianity seems to turn up earlier in life. Now she was asking about going to church when she was a kid and her grandfather was an alcoholic pastor who believed a cleft palate was a sign of being possessed by the devil who later had to have his nose surgically reconstructed because it got eaten away by flesh eating bacteria. Sure, sure. Well, the part about the cleft palate might be true. But I can't figure out why she put

Gee, never mind the Epilepsy medication his mom was on when pregnant with him. Hmmm.

after the sentence about the cleft palate. Does she believe her father was hurt in utero by the medication his mother was taking, or that it led to possession by the devil or some other Candy-esque reason?

Again, I think she blended truth and lies. She could have had difficulties in school. Her father might be from a neglectful family who wanted no further contact with him or later his child. She might have been molested by a family member.

But everything else she writes to make herself look good and everyone else look bad, I call bullshit on that: The psychological tests at school she "failed" (this story doesn't ring true at all, the procedure how she was put into special ED is just not right, imho, and you can't fall so far back because of a few hours of psychological tests), all the mean teachers, her father's family the most neglectful ever, her saint-like forgiveness towards her molester and how he was saved through it. This is such a typically made-up Christian salvation story to be read in sunday school, it makes me barf.

I am not scarred or at all ruined from that happening to me.

Candy, I bet my monthly income you are reading here: You might believe that, but your life is a living testimony to the contrary.

[User123456]

Dear Cran,

I don't believe we are sitting on opposing sides. I believe there are two possibilities one of which is that this is her made up internet pity persona. If indeed this is the case, as you believe, I just think it's so sad, so bad and so twisted that I can't really give her the internet jollies she wants by making that crap up. Simply ignoring her would be the best thing I could do.

Now baiting Westface, westfall...westfarce in the Dougie thread is entertaining. He's giving y'all a good show. Candy, for me, is so poor at it .... it's just not entertaining or even interesting.

I will also give Candy the benefit of the doubt, that this is truly how she believes the world works. If that is the case, I'm sorry for her experience... but Candy..."Honey, get help from a professional and not the internet or the KJV."

[fundiefan]

I personally don't belive Candy deserves the benefit if the doubt. She's intentionally hurt people for years and shows no remorse. She victim blames every chance she gets and does her best to rub salt and vinegar into the wounds.

Of course it's clear she is living a delusional life. But, she's damaging others in the process and that is not worthy or benefit or anything else.

[Georgiana]

If this were the first Candy life story I'd read, I'd be very sympathetic.

Maybe even if this was my second.

But it isn't. I think we're somewhere in the 3-5 range, but I could be wrong. There have been enough that I've lost count.

I said it in the other thread, but I'll say it here too.

Candy spins a new backstory for herself every time she gets on a new kick. She re-writes her life to match her current beliefs and show how she was always super speshul. How God or sasquatches or angel demons or whatever were always leading her down this path. No matter WHAT she's subscribing to, she's always a special prophet. Always.

There are many fundies that deserve our sympathy. Candy does to, but not for this. Because none of this is true, and it will be re-written as soon as Candy needs it to be.

[Marianne]

What is a Sasquatch ?

[Jessica]

Sasquatch = Big Foot

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bigfoot

[Mac1138]

Parts 4 and 5, both sound very familiar. She doesn't mention Taco Bell, or IBM. She etched the picture of her and WunderHubby, but not the ones from when she was a sooper speshul model. ;)

The part about how she saw how the outside world was when she got a job.... I mean, really? She never interacted with anyone outside of her horrible school until she was 16 and working? No wonder she is socially awkward!! (if that's all true, anyway) Plus, 16 years old in 10th grade? My 16 year old is a junior and a young one at that. I wonder if she'll continue her story next week, to include all of her adult life woes. :think:

[yetanothermeg]

WTF????

"Ponder This: Reptilians....Insectoids.....Nordics..."

Ponder it I will Candy. Ponder it I will.

[salex]

WTF????

"Ponder This: Reptilians....Insectoids.....Nordics..."

Ponder it I will Candy. Ponder it I will.

So, she thinks the movie "Outlander" is a documentary, perhaps?

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0462465/

[prairiemuffin]

You guys, getting born again will make you extra pretty, and you'll never be depressed AGAIN:

At around 10pm, on November 18, 1995, the Gospel message was presented to me by my friends, using John chapter three, in my King James Bible. I realized Jesus is real, and I let Him into my heart and life, and got saved. At that moment, I died, and was born again a new creature in Christ. I have never been the same, since. Also from that time, with the help of the Holy Spirit, I've been able to read and understand the Bible. I've read it over and over ever since, and still do. Bible study is my passion.

Years later, my husband told me that when he saw me the next day, I not only acted different, but looked different. He said I had more color to my skin, and I looked happier. I was never depressed again, and I had JOY, real joy. Some people change slowly after conversion, and others, like myself, have an immediate, dramatic change, followed by smoother, slower changes over the years.

[Winter_berry]

Coming out of lurking mode to throw in my measly 2 cents. Candy is a notorious liar. She has told her backstory so many times I have lost count. I can bet money she WILL scrub this story from her blog and pretend she never wrote it in a matter of weeks. Eventually she will post another " THIS IS MY LIFE" biography and the details will have changed yet again. If you dare to question it you will hear her " You must have mistaken me for someone else" drivel. Someone needs to go ask where the IBM modeling, MENSA stuff is going to figure in all of this.

Basically: Candy is a liar and I won't waste any sympathy on her new spin of her life story. I just wonder what her angle is THIS time. :roll:

[anniebgood]

You guys, getting born again will make you extra pretty, and you'll never be depressed AGAIN:

At around 10pm, on November 18, 1995, the Gospel message was presented to me by my friends, using John chapter three, in my King James Bible. I realized Jesus is real, and I let Him into my heart and life, and got saved. At that moment, I died, and was born again a new creature in Christ. I have never been the same, since. Also from that time, with the help of the Holy Spirit, I've been able to read and understand the Bible. I've read it over and over ever since, and still do. Bible study is my passion.

Years later, my husband told me that when he saw me the next day, I not only acted different, but looked different. He said I had more color to my skin, and I looked happier. I was never depressed again, and I had JOY, real joy. Some people change slowly after conversion, and others, like myself, have an immediate, dramatic change, followed by smoother, slower changes over the years.

And let's not forget.... her poop never stinks. :cracking-up:

[dilannsmom]

Why no "Easter is evil" "Easter is pagan" "Do not celebrate Easter" posts?

I think the half demon giant aliens threw a flying roll/scroll at Candy while she wasn't covered (which she does full time, except for when she showers, sleeps and works out...) and finally knocked some sense into her!

[Mac1138]

Anyone having any lingering sympathetic feelings toward Candy? Part six tells us about how her friend was miraculously saved from being paralyzed after listening to a song called 'God is in Control'. Candy lost ALL of her non-christian friends when she got saved. ALL of them. Wild guess here, I'm thinking it had more to do with her delivery than her actual decision to become 'saved'. Also, she had to teach herself to read, and it was either reading the word "mushroom" or "marshmEllow". Something just clicked, you know, and then she could read... just not spell. :)