Lori Alexander never learning since 2011 - part 6

[refugee]

On 3/31/2016 at 7:43 AM, lilwriter85 said:

The comment from the Facebook follower reminds me of my cousin. My cousin was a SAHM off and on during her husband's Air Force career. In the last few years of his Air Force career, both my cousin and her husband started running their mouths about how he was going to get a high paying aviation consulting job after he retired from the military. It didn't happen and he has some kind of job at VA hospital.

Lori's FB follower is pretty grounded and realistic and isn't banking too much like how my cousin and her husband were. She is dead on about mentioning how it can be hard to land jobs for anyone. I'll admit that i thought it was dumb for the follower to think that Lori was making money off the blog. I don't think Lori ever had her blog monetized.  Other than that the FB follower and many people have pointed out that SAHMs can be a luxury.

I've seen a several situations, in which being in households with SAHMs had tons of financial problems, due to husbands not having very high paying jobs, ongoing debts, mortgages, and in a couple of cases having too many kids. SAHM situations are different and of course, Lori never acknowledges that. For being a SAHM, Lori has had access to resources that some two income families don't have. Her family has at least one vacation a year, usually to Hawaii. The kids attended a private Christian high school. Now, it could be possible that the kids were on scholarship, but a part me doesn't think that was the case. Let's not forget that they had a paid nanny/housekeeper.

There are some SAHMs out there that are quite wealthy and more so than Lori. I would just love for Lori to spend time with SAHMs whose husband can't afford to buy organic food, pay a nanny, pay private school tuition for multiple kids, and having yearly vacations. She should see the cases of SAHMs and their husbands struggling to figure out how to pay the bills and groceries.

Someone so desperately self-righteous as she seems to be would just say it was a sign they were not in god's will in some area. Not, of course, that they were outside god's will by being a single-income family with a sahm mom. Some other area. Maybe using birth control. Or maybe not having family devotions. Or maybe the mom or dad or both doesn't have a daily quiet time. You know that if they just worked hard to check off all the boxes on the Biblical Checklist (TM) that everything would be fine and dandy.

[refugee]

21 hours ago, Ofglen said:

Our cats behavioral specialist (works at the vets office) told us that cats don't just pee on the floor- there's always a reason- environmental, medical, or something. Cats are clean animals and something is throwing them off if they are peeing outside the litter box and a professional should be seen about the issue if it's not an obvious fix. 

I have a friend whose cat suddenly started peeing anywhere, just not the litterbox. They tried all kinds of things, even a vet visit -- the answer turned out to be that they'd bought a different kitty litter on sale. The cat couldn't deal with the change in litter. When they went back to the old brand, he went back to using the litter box.

[EmiGirl]

13 hours ago, Grimalkin said:

      Looks like I'm wrong then. 

I use one cloth for the bathroom and another for the kitchen. Not one for both rooms. Mostly though I use the bathroom scrub for the bathroom now that I have that. 

[Maggie Mae]

Comments from the post about women leaders or whatever. I sort of glazed over Lori's rambling but this comment had me seething. 

[smittykins]

Until just recently, my church(ebil-lite Episcopal)had female priests--two in succession---and they were both TEH AWESOME.

[polecat]

If the tiny delicate lady has learned how to use pressure points, then she can take down men who are much, much bigger than her with a simple press of the thumb. Even those lardos who regularly wrassle bulls. 

 

Although the female officer probably has a gun, too, which these guys worship anyway, and aren't guns the great equalizers?

[desertvixen]

@polecat yes on pressure points and guns.

She'll probably also have this thing called a partner, since most agencies like to send more than one person to a situation.

[luv2laugh]

Her chart went viral and was shared over 600 times on the Sanctimommy Facebook page.

[molecule]

5 minutes ago, luv2laugh said:

Her chart went viral and was shared over 600 times on the Sanctimommy Facebook page.

Yikes. I wish I hadn't seen the intro from Sanctimommy:

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When in doubt, mamas, just remember that life is all very black and white. All life choices have very linear, predictable consequences that apply to everyone and there is no room for gray areas. 

Life is, to me, quite gray. Life choices do have consequences, but mine have rarely been linear and only somewhat predictable.

This kind of thing just encourages Lori.

[bean]

38 minutes ago, molecule said:

Yikes. I wish I hadn't seen the intro from Sanctimommy:

Life is, to me, quite gray. Life choices do have consequences, but mine have rarely been linear and only somewhat predictable.

This kind of thing just encourages Lori.

Based on other stuff that is on the Sanctimommy page, I think that comment is dripping with sarcasm.

[molecule]

14 minutes ago, bean said:

Based on other stuff that is on the Sanctimommy page, I think that comment is dripping with sarcasm.

I'm not familiar with Sanctimommy, so I'm very glad to know that! (I was going to look at some of the other stuff but then the phone rang and I forgot.)

[Hera]

Some of the comments on that sanctimommy thing are hilarious.  I don't think going "viral" is doing much for spreading Lori's message.  

[polecat]

I'm not sure who to blame on that Sanctimommy page, but now I have "I smell sex and quinoa" set to Marcy Playground's "Sex and Candy" running through my head on an endless, annoying loop.

 

Thank you, Sanctimommy and Lori Alexander.

[Koala]

Link please! 

[Florita]

14 minutes ago, Koala said:

Link please! 

https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=sanctimommy

Over 600 shares so far. Thousands of comments. The downside: no link to Lori. No one knows who wrote this little gem.

[Curious]

On 3/31/2016 at 4:32 PM, feministxtian said:

They also have an endearing habit of using the litter box right after its been cleaned.

This reminded of me my "heart cat", Otter.  She would lay down in a clean litter box so the other cat could not use it before she used the fresh litter box first.  So if she didn't have to go right when a box was changed, she'd just happily nap in the clean box until she did

[iweartanktops]

2 hours ago, Florita said:

https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=sanctimommy

Over 600 shares so far. Thousands of comments. The downside: no link to Lori. No one knows who wrote this little gem.

THANK YOU! This is gold! Someone called, ahem... The writer, a snatch basket! 

[Koala]

  I can't quit the comments.  Absolutely priceless

[lilwriter85]

3 hours ago, Florita said:

https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=sanctimommy

Over 600 shares so far. Thousands of comments. The downside: no link to Lori. No one knows who wrote this little gem.

Yeah, I was said about that. But, when someone linked the chart on The Marriage Club FB page several days ago, Lori's name and site were listed. She got blasted by most people on that page. Right now I'm reading the comments on Sanctimommy and it's good to see a lot of people disagreeing with her or slamming her.

 

My favorite Sanctimommy comments so far

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I stay home. With children all day. I don't know how to talk to adults any more. I never sleep or rest. I cook occasionally. We eat a lot of peanut butter sandwhiches. I really don't read near as much as I should. I clean all day but my house stays looking the same. I'm exhausted every night and my husband gets to wait.

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I want whatever this writer is on. Then I can pretend to have it all together too. Maybe it's all the naps?

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This explains why my life is falling apart! By working and helping to provide for my family, I am destroying our lives! House with utilities be damned; our family will be better off, even in a cardboard box, if I just simply stayed home!

 

 

 

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I lost it at "rests while her children nap " yet somehow the house is clean, meals are from scratch and she plays with the kids all day.... No way. I don't believe it for a second. I'm a SAHM, too and don't remember last time I took a nap.

 

 

 

 

ETA Just saw the below comment and I feel bad for this woman because she is hoping that it's joke. .  I agree, with the below commenter, it's a shaming on Lori's part. Maybe if people commenting on FB page do a google image search of the chart, they will find Lori's site. I hope the chart that has the blog address goes viral again on another site. I really hope Lori finds the FB pages or site that her charts are being posted on.

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What a load of garbage! I was a working mother, my children had the advantages of growing up playing with other children. They had zero trouble adapting to school,had and still do have excellent social skills. They learn far more mixing early with other young children than at home with me who was not the most maternal mother for the 0-2 set. I consider myself fulfilled as I could not stay at home all day, it drove me crazy. Working was a win win for me and the girls. This is NOT a black and white issue, and this is a form of bullying and shaming. I am hoping it is a joke.

 

 

 

 

[Hane]

On 3/29/2016 at 4:36 PM, IrishCarrie said:

My eight year old nephew is a voracious reader and loves anything connected to history, geography or science. He has absolutely no interest in fiction but devours anything factual. He gets a lot of enjoyment from reading but I have to say, it's not even a tiny fraction of the joy I get from the crazy chats we end up having as a result!! He ponders on the stuff he reads and likes to talk it all out and in his childish innocence is absolutely HILARIOUS!

Which is a very long winded way of saying that the thought of him not being able to read makes me very sad. Disproportionately sad. I understand that other countries and cultures leave reading till a little later, but can I just say that one particular eight year old who can read is the delight of my heart!

Sounds just like my 8-year-old grandson! I've learned that many little boys prefer non-fiction to fiction. Like you, I love the chats that result: "Were there taxes in B.C.?" was his latest question.

[Hane]

On 4/1/2016 at 1:49 PM, polecat said:

If the tiny delicate lady has learned how to use pressure points, then she can take down men who are much, much bigger than her with a simple press of the thumb. Even those lardos who regularly wrassle bulls. 

 

Although the female officer probably has a gun, too, which these guys worship anyway, and aren't guns the great equalizers?

My average-sized 8-year-old grandson has been taking karate for a year and has no trouble breaking a wrist hold. I'm sure a grown woman who's gone through police training could do at least as much.

[feministxtian]

I have a good friend who is a retired police officer....she's 5'2" tall and maybe 130 lbs WITH vest, belt and boots. She had NO problem taking down guys much bigger than her. Legend has it (I heard from other cops) that she took down a 6'3" 2XXlb drug dealer...yelling at him the whole time that he'd better just lay there or she was going to get REALLY pissed. He mouthed off again and she took care of the problem. She had a reputation as a total no BS officer. Other cops said they'd rather be taken down by ANYBODY but her. 

Rumor has it she became a cop to get out of speeding tickets  She spend a LOT of time in traffic court as a teenager. 

[lilwriter85]

A couple of weeks back, I did a binge watch of New Girl. Anyway, there was a storyline about one of the male characters becoming a cop and his training officer was a short thin woman. Anyway, two other male friends of the new cop are concerned about the female cop not being able to protect their friend and later she takes them down.

Lori's commenter Rob probably doesn't know jack shit about police training because there are also shorter and skinny men who are cops and they along with women learn to take down people. Another thing that pisses me off about Lori is that in the past, she does various posts about men are always strong and can do many things. She fails to see that men have different body types and women have different body types as well. If Lori is ever saved by a female cop's actions, I hope she actually learns and appreciates it. Then again, knowing her she would be e on tirade about how ungodly working women saved her ass.

[Koala]

Reader:

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I read your blog frequently and i appreciate what you have to say on this and other topics. I have a slightly different experience in this particular area. There are many older women in my church including myself who do indeed wish to teach the younger women the truth. Over the years I have discovered that we must enter into a relationship with each of these younger women before we can have an impact on them. If I see an immodestly dressed young woman in the congregation on a Sunday morning, yes, I can walk up to her and tell her so. Unfortunately, it rarely had the desired result. This is because rules without relationships create rebellion. I have learned that I must get to know her, ask her about herself, maybe invite her to my home and allow her to see how I live (and how my daughters are required to dress) and then the young woman will be open to a discussion about modesty. It's these relationships that Christians aren't willing to take the time for. They just want to talk because, well, it's easier. I think of what Jesus said to the woman at the well. He asked her about herself, he wanted to know about her. She was deeply effected by his humility. We are missing that humility and perhaps this is why we don't have the necessary impact. I think people can sense when we are truly and humbly pointing to God's truth and when we are pointing at ourselves and insisting that WE are right. Perhaps this is why we are directed to "...take the plank out of your own eye, then you will see clearly to remove the splinter from your brother's eye" Matthew 7: 5

Lori's response:

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Rules without relationship aren't what causes rebellion; a rebellious and hardened heart is what causes rebellion, Joy. I have never rebuked a women who I had no relationship with about immodesty, submission, being a keeper at home, etc. 

There are very few older women who teach younger women to love and obey their husbands, love their children, be chaste, discreet, good and keepers at home as God has commanded them to so I have used a platform that allows me to teach any young women who want to learn. They come to me; I have never forced anyone to learn from me. I have mentored women in groups, individually, on the phone, through texts, etc. and I love it! 

I point them to the Truth of God's Word, not my opinions, feelings, or thoughts since they are all worthless. God's Word will not come back void.

 That's a patent lie.  Lori goes from blog to blog giving women she doesn't know advice.

I remember when one of the Christian mommy bloggers wrote a post about going back to work.  Lori went over there to tell her how wrong she was.  Here's her comment:

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I hesitated commenting, Kelly, since I disagree with your decision. Older women, which I am, are commanded by God to teach younger women with children to be keepers at home. Something will suffer if you work out of the home and it is usually your marriage. Your children need to be nurtured and trained by you since you love them more than anyone else. Most women just don't have the energy to work and be a help meet to their husbands, train their children, and take care of their home. I hope you have prayed long and hard about this because it is usually not worth it in the end and the sacrifice your whole family will have to make. I only say this in sincere concern for your family, those who love and care for you most. Love, Lori

Here she is on yet another mom's blog giving her two cents:

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However, God clearly states in his Word for older women to teach younger women to be keepers at home. Paul tells young women in 1 Timothy 5:14, Paul could have easily told young widows to go out and get careers to support their families, but he didn't. He said churches and families should support them so they could be home. "I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully." No where in the Word does God tell women with children to leave their children for hours a day to work outside of their home. Their God-ordained work place is their home. He has commanded the men to be the providers. It is very clear in His Word. Please, don't fall for the feminist lie but go back home and be with your baby full-time. You will someday regret it if you don't.

1 ) As far as I can see, she had no relationship with either blogger

2 ) She went to the bloggers, they didn't come to her

Let's get real- Lori loves to rebuke people "for Jesus", but she can't take even the most kindly worded suggestions.

[refugee]

24 minutes ago, Koala said:

Reader:

Lori's response:

 That's a patent lie.  Lori goes from blog to blog giving women she doesn't know advice.

I remember when one of the Christian mommy bloggers wrote a post about going back to work.  Lori went over there to tell her how wrong she was.  Here's her comment:

Here she is on yet another mom's blog giving her two cents:

1 ) As far as I can see, she had no relationship with either blogger

2 ) She went to the bloggers, they didn't come to her

Let's get real- Lori loves to rebuke people "for Jesus", but she can't take even the most kindly worded suggestions.

Sucking in my breath at the hubris.

Can I claim a verse? Pride goeth before destruction.