Lori Alexander 59: The Oracle of California

[Krissy]

1 hour ago, Loveday said:

Seems a few of her readers are starting to wise up to her contradictory ways:

 

If women are doing all the cooking anyways it shouldn’t be hard to introduce healthy food? Have these people watched my 600lb life? There’s always an enabler. 

I’m hoping these husbands who have stay at home wives have life insurance or survivor benefits? Most of them follow Dave Ramsey too so they have no debt, hopefully. 

[ladyicantxplain]

Regarding Lori's "let your man freely eat himself into the grave" post:

Here is what the Word she claims to believe says:

With long life I will satisfy him and show him my saving health. - Psalm 91:16

According to the Bible, it is not ever God's will that someone die prematurely.  There are other scriptures, but this one is the most well-known. Of course we know it HAPPENS, but that doesn't mean it is God's will. Lori has advised women that the will of God is the opposite of what is written in the Word.  Since she has "been transformed by the renewing of her mind to the Word", she should know this already.

Dear friend, I pray that you are prospering in every way and are in good health, just as your whole life is going well. - 3 John 1:2

Again, according to the Bible, it is not ever God's will that someone be in poor health, or have parts of their whole life going poorly. Yes, we know it does happen, but it is not God's will according to the Word.  This scripture was written under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, and Christians take this verse just as literally as 1 Peter 3:1.  The difference is that Christians who are led of the Spirit of God seek UNDERSTANDING so that they can reconcile 3 John 1:2 with 1 Peter 3:1, and the rest of the Word.  Again, Lori is advising women that the will of God is the opposite of what is written in the Word. 

An obese husband with a nasty chain-smoking habit and hypertension is not being loved by his Christian wife if she fails to understand that 1 Peter 3:1 does NOT mean literally "shut up and put up with anything and everything from your man, because you are a woman."  A woman with a husband whose health is in crisis needs to do something.  Many times, that something is to do everything within her own power to help him by confronting him in love, cooking different meals, refusing to buy things that will harm him or tempt him into gluttonous eating and helping him overcome addiction (smoking or dipping or  such; I am not talking about alcoholism or porn or more serious addictions).  Other times, all a believing wife can do is pray.  This is powerful, as wives who believe in the Bible can see deliverance for their husbands from all manner of sins and demonic influences.  The bible does tell believers that they will lay hands on the sick and they shall recover. The bible does tell believers to cast out devils.  

But Lori isn't pointing women to the Word here. She is telling them the very opposite of the will of God, without even mentioning the Word of God!  

Her ignorance of both the will and the Word are obvious.  There are countless more scriptures pertaining to the sin of gluttony, but even those who don't believe the bible know that gluttony isn't good!

Where has she encouraged wives with morbidly obese husbands in this writing? This is a HUGE problem in the world and the Church!  To Love Honor and Vacuum has an entire writing on women whose husbands are so obese that they don't know how to make love to their own man!  Lori has an opportunity here to really HELP women and wives and give HOPE to the hopeless. Instead, she tells them to shut up and be happy that it's "better" if he dies an early death in the false peace of the wife's silence.

I could write more, as the wife of a man who almost died from poor choices that I did NOTHING about, but I'm not going to go there now.  I will say that it is pure stupidity to tell a wife of a man like this to shut up. The worry, fear, anxiety and hopelessness that comes with watching someone you love destroy themselves is gut-wrenching.  It is NOT "better" that a man die early and leave his small children and wife alone because of false peace.  That is advice straight from the pit of hell.

 

 

[Hisey]

I did know a man who was morbidly obese, and who ultimately died from complications surrounding the health problems caused by the obesity.

His wife, and his family, did try to help him. For years. I spent a lot of time with this family, and I saw the healthy meals, the gentle encouragement, etc. I also saw the frustration and anger, when these things did no good.

LadyICan'tExplain, it sounds like you have some very personal experience in this area, and I would never presume to say what is right or wrong here, because I don't really know.

But I do wonder, if a husband is eating to numb some internal pain, can a wife really stop this? I just don't know if wives. . . even sahm wives. . . have that power. They can cook all the meals they want, but McDs is still just around the corner. From what I've seen, in my own experience, talking/coaxing/nagging/cooking healthily just doesn't fix the problem.

It's better to do something than do nothing, of course. But is the reverse true? Can a husband stop a wife from being obese? Would his encouragement/support/cooking help a person who doesn't want to be helped? (If a person wants help, then forget all of the above. In that case, of course support and help is good)

[Mar]

On 12/16/2018 at 6:33 PM, Frog99 said:

I think she’s referring to her sister Alisa here. 

She lied again yesterday- about something so small, it really supports the theory she is full of lies: 

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Per her IG, she has been on a long plane ride this weekend (I’m guessing headed to NY). Per Alyssa’s IG stories, Ryan and Erin’s 3 oldest kids were with her. Not Lori. 

She says she CAN cook meals for sick neighbors, care for her old mother and so on, but she doesn’t actually say that she ever DOES or DID all these things. Way to make herself look good without technically lying. ? (except the lie that you caught @Frog99)

[Sarah92]

3 hours ago, SilverBeach said:

Me, too,way past. I'm 63 and sex is so much fun without worrying about pregnancy. I've had no problems with vaginal dryness or diminished libido. I do hope the information I shared is useful to the younger women here.

Honestly as a young single woman, I've learned more about sex, marriage, and life from y'all then I ever did at a Christian college where marriage was worshipped or from Lori (this is a given of course). 

[Koala]

Why would you agree to an interview with a woman?  According to YOUR teaching, she is blaspheming the word of God by working.  And think of the poor man she "stole" that job from!  Why, she's taking the money right out of his pocket, every time she collects a paycheck.

So she agreed not to do too much digging or quote you directly, huh?

A more honest person might get her to promise to tell the truth, not close her eyes to all of the "negative" that is most certainly out there.

I also notice that you say "thankfully, there are some out there..." referring to the working woman who interviewed you.  So for clarity, you are thankful for working women when they suit your purpose.

A couple of of corrections:

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Lori cleans the house, cooks the meals, takes care of the chores

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Lori employs a maid, cooks her meals once a week, and monitors the internet for a majority of the day.

I also thought it was nice to see her taking yet another opportunity to publicly trash her father and late mother:

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She had a very traditional upbringing, but her parents fought “like cats and dogs,” something that was very difficult to endure.

Always nice to air the family's dirty laundry to the media.

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Lori’s father, after catching what she refers to as “the feminist bug,” insisted that his daughters attend college and get careers.

How awful.  He paid for you to go to college.  And of course you couldn't have refused.  Not like you were a grown ass adult or anything.

Side note, who paid for Cassi to go to college?  Ken, right?  

 

[ladyicantxplain]

I do not "like" or "follow" TTW on facebook.

The post about the media interview showed up in my feed.

Does this mean she "boosted" the post? (which she says she doesn't do...)

[delphinium65]

4 hours ago, Hisey said:

Fortunately, there is the ability to leave comments.

Has anyone commented with her quotes about modesty, and the pics that we've all seen of her wearing what she would call very immodest clothing?  Or screenshots of her agreeing with her Red Pill male fans?  I'm working for the next few hours, otherwise I'd jump in and try.  

[Pink Muffin]

On the TTW 2.0 they have discovered that it´s not the USA Today but a local paper called The Daily Adveriser in Lafayette LA where the article is. 

I can see the article here in Sweden but it´s something adapted to European Union so no option for leaving comments.

@ladyicantxplain I´m not sure but I think so because it would be like her to boost.

[SongRed7]

27 minutes ago, Pink Muffin said:

it´s not the USA Today but a local paper called The Daily Adveriser in Lafayette LA where the article is. 

I work in media relations (for a health system) so i know a little bit about the news industry....The Daily Advertiser is a local paper in Louisiana who's parent company is Gannett a nationwide chain that also owns USA Today. USA Today has their own cadre of national reporters, but sometimes they syndicate stories that run in local papers and it ends up in many of their papers.  The writer used to work at local daily paper here in NJ and now appears to live in Louisiana.  So the story may or may not get more widespread attention depending on how "slow" the news days are in the local markets.  

In the meantime, I found the writer's profile from her last job at the Asbury Park Press. Very interesting....everything Lori is against. https://www.app.com/staff/11697/shari-puterman/

 

 

 

[ladyicantxplain]

2 minutes ago, SongRed7 said:

In the meantime, I found the writer's profile from her last job at the Asbury Park Press. Very interesting....everything Lori is against. 

If you look at her public facebook page, you can also see publicly that she did not marry until 2018, so she was a single working mother for a good while, at least. (There is a photograph of her in a wedding dress posing with a young boy that could possibly be her son from other photos; I am not sure - you will have to check it out yourselves.)

Lori has obviously used this young woman.  Of course it is possible that the egg is on Lori's face here, since this woman probably doesn't believe a thing Lori has written in her little flow-chart or on her blog, but she's brown-nosed Lori in order to further her own writing career.

Who can know?

The whole thing is a comedy.

 

[cindyluvs24]

So, we have an educated and employed mother.  Plus, I think she's Jewish.    Lori will eventually have a cow.

[Imrlgoddess]

Man. Why she gotta get all up in our paper?? Ugh.  

Thankfully  no one pays a lot of attention to the online version, the actual article link on Facebook has one dinky comment from a guy who just randomly comments on their links.  

[AlwaysDiscerning]

My response to the USA Today article. 

https://thingsgodlywomensay.wordpress.com/2018/12/17/the-other-side-of-lori-alexander-a-response-to-the-usa-today-article/

The author is associated with USA Today but yeah this isn't published on the main USA site. She seems to claim its still going to come out in the main newspaper, but I dunno. I thinks he just got confused. 

[Gemini]

Today Lori came to the attention of FaceBook God.

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Although I hate the fact that Lori will love having another viral post, it’s almost worth it for some of the comments. 

Spoiler

 

[FullOfGravy]

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I typically say "no"

Does Lori really get enough media requests to have a "typical" response?  I know she's had a couple of viral posts, but I can't imagine journalists are queuing up to interview her.  Or does Lori just want her fans to think that this isn't her first and only request; she's totally in demand, but they haven't seen her interviewed before because she's so terribly selective?

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She promised me that she wouldn't write anything negative about me

That - that's not how journalism is meant to work, and it's certainly not how one goes after truth.

[Katzchen24]

I actually read this as a metaphor for a husband having extra-marital sex/an affair.

I'd be interested to know what Lori's attitude towards extra-marital relations were if I didn't think it would make me want to break something. Also what sage advice she'd give to couples where one has been unfaithful (although I can have a pretty good guess at it, and am betting it's gender specific).

To be honest, I didn't understand the context of this particular tract of hers. She's been whining about working mothers and leggings for a while now, and all of a sudden she's going off about food??

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It really did make me feel like she was talking about something other than where Ken was getting his muffins from. Alternatively, she's discovered an exciting new way of passive-aggressively letting Ken know his diet sucks.

[usmcmom]

Yes, ladies, you must refrain from commenting on your husbands' eating habits; however your daughters are fair game. When they are teenagers (or earlier, if you want to be extra godly) be sure to team up with your husband and shame your daughters for gaining five pounds. This will be easy for you if you were successful in working as a team while beating your toddler over raisins (sorry...RAISANS) some years prior.  See, if you work with your husbands as PARTNERS IN ABUSE, then any kind of abuse will come easily, no matter your children's ages.  But don't, under any circumstances, think that you are equal partners with your husband in any area other than mistreating your children.

^^^So sayeth Lori the idiot.^^^

[SongRed7]

1 hour ago, FullOfGravy said:

That - that's not how journalism is meant to work, and it's certainly not how one goes after truth.

My degree is in journalism. You are correct that is not how it works.  It’s more of a column/commentary opinion piece.  “News” stories require more than one “voice” and varying opinions.   And journalist never promise “not to be negative “

[Beermeet]

6 hours ago, ladyicantxplain said:

I do not "like" or "follow" TTW on facebook.

The post about the media interview showed up in my feed.

Does this mean she "boosted" the post? (which she says she doesn't do...)

Guys!  God picked up on her chart!  He doesn't seem impressed.  

https://www.facebook.com/157750900979288/posts/2803934849694200/

[PinkPrincess0213]

Nope, no modern conveniences for you. Unless you're Lori of course.

Blech. Been busy at work for a few weeks and missed all Lori's viral fun. Nice to see that it's made her more compassionate and kind towards her readers who struggle. /sarcasm/

[Beermeet]

11 hours ago, ladyicantxplain said:

Regarding Lori's "let your man freely eat himself into the grave" post:

Here is what the Word she claims to believe says:

With long life I will satisfy him and show him my saving health. - Psalm 91:16

According to the Bible, it is not ever God's will that someone die prematurely.  There are other scriptures, but this one is the most well-known. Of course we know it HAPPENS, but that doesn't mean it is God's will. Lori has advised women that the will of God is the opposite of what is written in the Word.  Since she has "been transformed by the renewing of her mind to the Word", she should know this already.

Dear friend, I pray that you are prospering in every way and are in good health, just as your whole life is going well. - 3 John 1:2

Again, according to the Bible, it is not ever God's will that someone be in poor health, or have parts of their whole life going poorly. Yes, we know it does happen, but it is not God's will according to the Word.  This scripture was written under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, and Christians take this verse just as literally as 1 Peter 3:1.  The difference is that Christians who are led of the Spirit of God seek UNDERSTANDING so that they can reconcile 3 John 1:2 with 1 Peter 3:1, and the rest of the Word.  Again, Lori is advising women that the will of God is the opposite of what is written in the Word. 

An obese husband with a nasty chain-smoking habit and hypertension is not being loved by his Christian wife if she fails to understand that 1 Peter 3:1 does NOT mean literally "shut up and put up with anything and everything from your man, because you are a woman."  A woman with a husband whose health is in crisis needs to do something.  Many times, that something is to do everything within her own power to help him by confronting him in love, cooking different meals, refusing to buy things that will harm him or tempt him into gluttonous eating and helping him overcome addiction (smoking or dipping or  such; I am not talking about alcoholism or porn or more serious addictions).  Other times, all a believing wife can do is pray.  This is powerful, as wives who believe in the Bible can see deliverance for their husbands from all manner of sins and demonic influences.  The bible does tell believers that they will lay hands on the sick and they shall recover. The bible does tell believers to cast out devils.  

But Lori isn't pointing women to the Word here. She is telling them the very opposite of the will of God, without even mentioning the Word of God!  

Her ignorance of both the will and the Word are obvious.  There are countless more scriptures pertaining to the sin of gluttony, but even those who don't believe the bible know that gluttony isn't good!

Where has she encouraged wives with morbidly obese husbands in this writing? This is a HUGE problem in the world and the Church!  To Love Honor and Vacuum has an entire writing on women whose husbands are so obese that they don't know how to make love to their own man!  Lori has an opportunity here to really HELP women and wives and give HOPE to the hopeless. Instead, she tells them to shut up and be happy that it's "better" if he dies an early death in the false peace of the wife's silence.

I could write more, as the wife of a man who almost died from poor choices that I did NOTHING about, but I'm not going to go there now.  I will say that it is pure stupidity to tell a wife of a man like this to shut up. The worry, fear, anxiety and hopelessness that comes with watching someone you love destroy themselves is gut-wrenching.  It is NOT "better" that a man die early and leave his small children and wife alone because of false peace.  That is advice straight from the pit of hell.

 

 

I love how you laid this out in Christian terms!  Well done!  What I would like to say is not directed at you. It's directed to bloviating Christians of Lori's ilk.

Keeping our loved ones in good health is a human thing. Christ and the bible are not needed. Whether starving or overeating or any sort of ill health, throughout the world, loved ones largely help each other. In general.  It bothers me that Lori and her kind act like this is not the norm, like they discovered how to make and use the wheel or fire. Do they really think without the bible or Christian guidance, us non-christians don't/ would not take care of our husbands?  That's how their musings seem to me. I find it intolerable. Obviously not just Christians but bloviating religious assholes across the board.  I find it dismissive and dehumanizing. A way to make oneself feel superior.  Wherever one finds strength, kindness and love for one another, spiritually based or not ( just inner strength and beauty works too!) is similar in nature.  It upsets me on a deep level that people like Lori refuse to see and honor our shared life experiences.  They just seek to divide. It is a firm belief of mine to honor others paths and to share similarities.  To learn from each other by just being. The definition of the word Namaste, a beautiful way of saying what I'm trying to. 

[livinglongerthanyou]

If my editor had ever even seen a comment that suggested I had promised an article I was writing wouldn't be negative, I would have been relegated to writing the ads for, and taking photos of, used cars for sale. His screaming would have made my ears bleed and he likely would have thrown shit at me. 

 

[Sarah92]

Lori talks a lot about rights and women not fighting for them. Well then I guess I'll just have to stop fighting for my "right" to have a husband and children. After all no man owes me a relationship and children so I'll just have to stop looking for one. In the mean time, I'll just keep working because I also am not entitled to free rent or food as a right. Whelp cheers! Yeah for giving up our "rights" of expecting others to take care of us when we're capable of working. Thanks Lori,  I feel relieved to not have fight for these rights anymore. 

[fluffy]

28 minutes ago, Sarah92 said:

Lori talks a lot about rights and women not fighting for them.

Not surprisingly, she is hypocritical about women's rights. They are right for her but not for other women. She often says women shouldn't have the right to vote but continues to vote and encourages women to vote. She'll say women get too emotional and irrational about politics and we don't even need to follow it. She holds up her sister as an example of a godly woman who doesn't watch the news, but when elections roll around she whips her followers into a voting frenzy. "Democrats represent evil," etc. Lori absolutely wants equal rights. She just doesn't want those who disagree with her to have those rights.