Jinger and Jeremy: Life with the Soccer Preacher Man

[wikinggirl]

I love this thread drift! I have a couple of stories.

When I was in my early 20s I worked at something similar to Blockbusters in my hometown. One Friday, right after we opened at 10 AM I had a young woman coming in and buying porn. (yes, we sold porn. I also sold porn to my old handball teacher one Friday evening. Fun times!) I hope she had a fun day off! 

I was at the airport a couple of months ago, flying somewhere, and the guy in front of me bought overpriced condoms. It just got me thinking. Was he going to join the mile high club? Was he flying somewhere to meet someone where they did not have time to get condoms, or somewhere where they couldn't get them? Why didn't he get them before he left? 

[singsingsing]

Re: Menstrual cups. Tried it. Hated it! But I still recommend women look into them, because so many swear by them. And no, they don't 'make your vagina feel like it's open all day'. 

I have basically no sympathy for men who are weirded out by feminine products. I don't get embarrassed buying toilet paper, why get embarrassed buying pads? Yes, I'm a woman in my reproductive years. Once a month for about 5 days, blood comes out of my vagina. I also urinate, defecate, pass gas, and blow snot out of my nose on a pretty regular basis. Ew!

Same with buying condoms/lube/whatever. I was walking down that aisle in the grocery store, and this couple was looking at the condoms. They backed way up and looked awkwardly at the floor when I passed. It was simultaneously funny and kind of sad. I wanted to be like, "That's right - BUSTED! Now I know you two are HAVING SEX! And making responsible decisions about birth control!!!"

[KelseyAnn]

When I was in sixth grade I carried a little purse for my ladies things and I guess it annoyed a teacher because he made me bring it up to him at recess and open it up in front of him and a few playground aides. 

"Why do you need that thing, anyways." 

Well, needless to say when I opened it to reveal a purse full of pads he turned red and told me to go back to the swings. 

[Gillyweed]

When I was in 10th grade I had a math teacher who got annoyed that *so many people* had to go to the bathroom (as though we did it as a prank, and not like we all had our own separate bladders). She ended up forbidding us from going to the bathroom at all. So, whenever I had to go or I just wanted to get out of class, I told her I had my period so she'd be forced to send me to the bathroom.  She never did seem to realize I "had my period" for 20 days at a time...

[HarleyQuinn]

On the opposite end of the "check out people shouldn't comment" spectrum, I have to continuously tell my kid to stop trying to make small talk with everyone that makes eye contact with him. Neither myself or my husband are big talkers and we have kids that are chatty cathys. He'll ask "Hi, what's your name? How are you? Where do you live?" I'm and I'm just like "stahhhhp"

[church_of_dog]

13 hours ago, PumaLover said:

She also didn't make a comment on the giant jug of vodka I was buying, which is what I would have expected more.

I live in a small community where many people know each other, and even people who don't know each other often recognize each other by sight as familiar faces.  Of course there are some folks who are just hermits or homebodies who don't get out much, who aren't well known.

I have some friends who run an herbal tincture business, and they also live off-grid up in the forest, so they're pretty hermit-y other than their business.  The herbal tinctures are mostly made using organic grain alcohol which they special order and UPS delivers it to them.  But there are a few herbs that are commonly tinctured in brandy instead.

So once a year, probably around the holidays, our local Rite-Aid drugstore has a big sale on alcohol, and my friends go in and load up their cart with a dozen of the gallon jugs of brandy.  These folks do not normally go into the Rite-Aid, so they are not known there.  And a dozen jugs of brandy keeps them tincturing for 5 years or so, so they don't do this often.  And each time they do, they get all sorts of looks, like "who are these strangers buying shopping carts full of brandy?"  

[nastyhobbitses]

On 3/3/2017 at 7:19 AM, KnittingOwl said:

I don't get it either. Buying pregnancy tests is the worst. Seriously, teenaged cashier? None of your damn business. 

If I were buying a pregnancy test and the cashier commented, I'd say "whoops, forgot something" and come back with a pack of coat hangers.

[mizandry]

32 minutes ago, nastyhobbitses said:

If I were buying a pregnancy test and the cashier commented, I'd say "whoops, forgot something" and come back with a pack of coat hangers.

... that took me a minute. Omg 
 

[GoatZombie]

5 hours ago, nastyhobbitses said:

If I were buying a pregnancy test and the cashier commented, I'd say "whoops, forgot something" and come back with a pack of coat hangers.

hahaha!!!! Thats hilarious!!! 

Re the menstrual cups: 
Probably tmi but, I tried them for the first time last month, I tried the softcup. I got my period the day before a cruise and I didn't want to deal with changing tampons all the time, and I liked the idea that you can have sex with the soft cup. I mostly liked it but it takes a bit if a learning curve I think. Can be messy to get out at first, and while its suppose to work for up to 12 hours, I had leakage after 5/6 hours and the cup didn't seem like it was full. The problem with cup leakage is that its sudden and a lot..so you need to get to a bathroom right away. My friend who swears by cups goes commando when wearing them so I guess eventually you get the hang of getting it to "seal". I just don't fully trust it yet. It does not make your vagina feel "open", in fact I felt it less than a tampon..which I can usually feel a bit of pressure from when it starts to get full. I also really liked that there is no odor with the cups! The odor comes from contact with oxygen..so the cup "blocking" the air means no nasty smells. I've still got a bunch of pads but I'm going to keep trying the cups. I may try a diva cup too. 

[actuallyjessica]

haven't seen the episode, but apparently jinger was already in pants as soon as they reached australia.

[kinphilly]

Regarding embarrassing or at least ridiculous situations at the drugstore:  imagine an 8 month pregnant lady in the condom aisle ... because of the Zika scare and her hubby's business travel.       And after 14 years of marriage, so a pretty unfamiliar section.     I could just see the people thinking "umm little late for that sweetie" as they walked by ...

[FleeJanaFree]

Cashiered for years. No one gives a shit what you buy, let's be real, we really just want to get through the transaction as quickly as possible. (Or at least I did, very anti social.) I actually was so quick, I a) got a complaint once for being too fast and b ) would end up having to do extra work compared to my coworkers as customers would switch to my line.

 

I'm an extremely self conscious person, but i refuse to be embarrassed for buying tampons. Yes, I'm a woman. I bleed for a week every month. And? Would you prefer I sit in a pool of blood? 

[colors_outside15]

I was buying condoms and champagne relatively recently, and it happened to be a male cashier. He stared at my products and then stared at me and murmured, "How is your day going so far?". I stared right back at him and said, "You see what I'm buying, clearly I'm about to have a great day!" We both started laughing hysterically, but I wouldn't have cared if he didn't.

[Carm_88]

My one story about possibly freaking out a cashier happened at the liquour store, of course it did. I walked in got a cart, picked up all the beer and booze that I needed. I was wearing a black dress and was fairly dressed up for being in a liquour store at 9am. Cashier smiles "Ah good morning. You look nice. Stocking up for a wedding? Or maybe the bachelorette party. I be you're going to have a lot of fun today." I looked at her and watched her smile fade as I replied "No, actually. I'm going to a funeral, we're burying my grandfather today." I Poor lady, I thought she was going to cry. (We were going to have a party after the funeral because Irish Heritage? I don't know we always do.)

[Chicken bones]

You know, the social media silence/or near enough from JinJer gave me some hope they might have a normal beginning to their life together. Then they whore themselves out for the honeymoon on TLC and I just get disgusted. What a way to cheapen what should be an intimate celebration of your first days together.

[Pasta]

I don't know. It didn't seem like they were whoring themselves out. It looked like it may have been a contractual thing? They were there several days but we only saw like 4 activities? 

[justmy2cents]

5 hours ago, actuallyjessica said:

haven't seen the episode, but apparently jinger was already in pants as soon as they reached australia.

Not in pants. She had on leggings underneath an above the knee dress.

[Palimpsest]

Re, the cashier thing.  The last person to comment on my purchases was a teenage boy who looked at the leeks I was buying and said, "What are those things and why do you buy them?"  I gave him a lecture on the virtues of leeks as a vegetable and threatened offered to come back with my recipe for Vichyssoise soup.  I think I may have cured him of commenting!

I live in a small town and comments by cashiers aren't unusual or objectionable most of the time. Cashiers get bored too and like to chat occasionally.

However, I want to get back to a really good post made a few pages back.

On 3/2/2017 at 10:31 PM, calimojo said:

But I also have always hoped that if one of the oppressed fundie kids found their way to this place that underneath the snark,  they would see the genuine concern for their well being and they would know that if possible we would help them. 

I snipped for space only, the whole post was good.  

I think this is always something to keep in mind.  And look, they do know about us and some of them do make their way here.  They do not all participate here but we have had visitors, and both Faith Pennington and Cynthia Jeub have thanked us for the supportive comments made here.  We have also had massive confrontations with Fundies who come to yell at us.  We are proud to say that one came back a year or two later to thank us because he had changed his mind on several things thanks to the debate.  Including his former belief that all gays were going to hell because he had just come out himself.

We have had other visitors too and we have quite a few members who can be described as quite recent (and verified) Fundies in Recovery.  The ones I know about don't often wander over to the Duggar side but they are here.  Sometimes it hurts them when we snark on their friends, but they also give us valuable insight and set us right when we go overboard on speculation and snark.

Check out the Boyer Sisters thread for an example of a recent Fundie visitor.  Brigid Boyer's new husband Gabe doesn't appreciate our comments at all.  He also wants to educate us on true religion but when he failed at that dismally he went back to lurking.  

We had confirmation from a verified insider a while back that Jinger Duggar knows that there is a site named in her honor.  The insider claimed that she found it funny that we thought she needed freeing.

I don't think it needs to stifle snark or stop us from criticizing the cult thinking.  It is why some of us have been known to discourage (in my case sometimes loudly) the BEC comments and many of us prefer to focus on their sick belief systems.

So the bottom line is - perhaps think about the snark and how the Fundies we snark on will experience it.  I can be vicious about John Shrader (who we suspect reads here) but still try to focus more on his religious clap trap, stupid and arrogant decisions, and fake missionarying.  

 I'll go back to my hole now.

 

[FleeJanaFree]

Forgive me if Im blind, but I went to the forum list to find the Fundies in Recovery forum you mentioned, but I do not see it. Do you have a link? Sounds fascinating!

[choralcrusader8613]

4 minutes ago, FleeJanaFree said:

Forgive me if Im blind, but I went to the forum list to find the Fundies in Recovery forum you mentioned, but I do not see it. Do you have a link? Sounds fascinating!

There's not a forum for that on here. There are members who are fundie/ex-fundie, though, as @Palimpsest mentioned.

[Palimpsest]

9 minutes ago, FleeJanaFree said:

Forgive me if Im blind, but I went to the forum list to find the Fundies in Recovery forum you mentioned, but I do not see it. Do you have a link? Sounds fascinating!

@choralcrusader8613 already clarified (thanks) - there is no forum here.

I'd also rather let our members who are former Fundies identify themselves.  

[allthegoodnamesrgone]

18 hours ago, Carm_88 said:

My one story about possibly freaking out a cashier happened at the liquour store, of course it did. I walked in got a cart, picked up all the beer and booze that I needed. I was wearing a black dress and was fairly dressed up for being in a liquour store at 9am. Cashier smiles "Ah good morning. You look nice. Stocking up for a wedding? Or maybe the bachelorette party. I be you're going to have a lot of fun today." I looked at her and watched her smile fade as I replied "No, actually. I'm going to a funeral, we're burying my grandfather today." I Poor lady, I thought she was going to cry. (We were going to have a party after the funeral because Irish Heritage? I don't know we always do.)

The only people who drink more than the Irish are the German's, my moms family drinks to celebrate everything, births, deaths, weddings, Tuesdays, anything really.  Funerals are huge drinking events in our family.  

[karen77]

3 hours ago, allthegoodnamesrgone said:

The only people who drink more than the Irish are the German's, my moms family drinks to celebrate everything, births, deaths, weddings, Tuesdays, anything really.  Funerals are huge drinking events in our family.  

Then they'd really enjoy these!!

http://www.nbcnews.com/business/consumer/now-s-celebration-life-funeral-homes-bars-n729081

 

(randomly came up on the front page recently)

[PennySycamore]

I went to a liquor store in Athens, Georgia dressed up like Shirley Temple once.  I'd been at the Fantasy Party where you had to come dressed as your fantasy and we'd run a bit short on booze.  Or maybe we hadn't and just decided to make a liquor store run.

[feministxtian]

4 hours ago, allthegoodnamesrgone said:

The only people who drink more than the Irish are the German's, my moms family drinks to celebrate everything, births, deaths, weddings, Tuesdays, anything really.  Funerals are huge drinking events in our family.  

Oh yeah! My German grandmother...she had her scotch and ice in the living room, another one in the kitchen and take a few swigs from the bottle between the living room and the kitchen! It's Monday? Drink! It's Saturday night? Drink! The sun's out? It's cloudy? Yeah...It's 5 o'clock somewhere!