Sierra Jo Dominguez (Jill and Jessa’s wedding planner)

[Karma]

There was a young mum with kids doing swimming lessons at the same time as my kids, maybe 10 years ago. Her kids were Savanna, Dakota, Billi-Jo and Diesel. Pretty out there at that time in my area, but I was surprised when I saw an editorial about weird names, citing this family.  I hope they didn't buy the same Sunday paper!  Naming trends have changed a lot, I reckon, since then, and these names don't seem so unusual now.

[JillyO]

There was a young mum with kids doing swimming lessons at the same time as my kids, maybe 10 years ago. Her kids were Savanna, Dakota, Billi-Jo and Diesel. Pretty out there at that time in my area, but I was surprised when I saw an editorial about weird names, citing this family.  I hope they didn't buy the same Sunday paper!  Naming trends have changed a lot, I reckon, since then, and these names don't seem so unusual now.

I'd say Diesel is still pretty out there. But yeah, it's interesting how these things change within a couple of years.

[EastCoastBaby]

I knew a girl who had started her family around the same time as I started mine. I was 22-23 and she was 16 and engaged to a 20 something. She recently added me on Facebook, she has basically had a baby every year since that one, Im on number 2 shes on number 6. Oh back to the point each kid has 3 middle names ..EEK!! I guess she was really indecsive.. 

[AngelGirl8811]

I knew a girl who had started her family around the same time as I started mine. I was 22-23 and she was 16 and engaged to a 20 something. She recently added me on Facebook, she has basically had a baby every year since that one, Im on number 2 shes on number 6. Oh back to the point each kid has 3 middle names ..EEK!! I guess she was really indecsive.. 

She's soon going to run out of names...  

[bayoublues]

My boys are almost exactly 18 months apart. They were supposed to be 20 months but preeclampsia changed that right up. I got a lot of comments from seasoned moms about having had twins the hard way. I thought that was funny but it did ring true... they were both completely dependent on me for everything and as soon as one got out of a tough stage, the other was on the way into it. Also, it was tough to use hand-me-downs since they were born in opposite seasons. 

My older son got two middle names because we were definitely not confident that we'd be able to have another child  as I had extremely complicated pregnancies. Three middle names for each is a bit extreme. We wanted to include all of our families in our kids names, so we got as many in as possible in with #1. 

[ClaraOswin]

My boys are almost exactly 18 months apart. They were supposed to be 20 months but preeclampsia changed that right up. I got a lot of comments from seasoned moms about having had twins the hard way. I thought that was funny but it did ring true... they were both completely dependent on me for everything and as soon as one got out of a tough stage, the other was on the way into it. Also, it was tough to use hand-me-downs since they were born in opposite seasons. 

My older son got two middle names because we were definitely not confident that we'd be able to have another child  as I had extremely complicated pregnancies. Three middle names for each is a bit extreme. We wanted to include all of our families in our kids names, so we got as many in as possible in with #1. 

When we had our son 2 years ago, we figured we'd have at least one more child. I'm a bit sad I'll never get to use any of the other names I had on my list.

And if one of my brothers-in-law have any kids and use our names...I may lose my shit. Actually, the most irresponsible one just knocked up his girlfriend/fiance. I will probably have a mental breakdown if that loser uses a name I like. Because that child would have my last name ask well. 

[bayoublues]

My boys are almost exactly 18 months apart. They were supposed to be 20 months but preeclampsia changed that right up. I got a lot of comments from seasoned moms about having had twins the hard way. I thought that was funny but it did ring true... they were both completely dependent on me for everything and as soon as one got out of a tough stage, the other was on the way into it. Also, it was tough to use hand-me-downs since they were born in opposite seasons. 

My older son got two middle names because we were definitely not confident that we'd be able to have another child  as I had extremely complicated pregnancies. Three middle names for each is a bit extreme. We wanted to include all of our families in our kids names, so we got as many in as possible in with #1. 

When we had our son 2 years ago, we figured we'd have at least one more child. I'm a bit sad I'll never get to use any of the other names I had on my list.

And if one of my brothers-in-law have any kids and use our names...I may lose my shit. Actually, the most irresponsible one just knocked up his girlfriend/fiance. I will probably have a mental breakdown if that loser uses a name I like. Because that child would have my last name ask well. 

I am so sorry, ClaraOswin... I defintely empathize with your pain in having the choice taken from you, it was the same for me/us. I had four miscarriages in a row, all after seeing the heartbeat and being reassured that very few miscarriages occur after the heart beat is seen, two live births and then another miscarriage. I had the wonderful luck of having two of the miscarriages on my birthday. 

I had to have part of my cervix removed because of cancerous cells when I was in my early 20s and it turns out I have a heart shaped uterus --- it's called a bicornuate uterus. In my type of uterus there is often a septum where there is poor blood flow. My doctor kept reassuring me that it was unlikely that the septum was bad, however after losing 4 babies in a row, she determined that and an incompetent cervix were the problem. When I had my cerclage placed with my 5th pregnancy, I was lucky and my first miracle implanted in an area of good blood flow. I still struggled with other major complications but managed to deliver him at 35 weeks after a month of bed rest at home, a month of bed rest in the hospital and a 34 hour labor [with a failed epidural to boot]. Because of the preeclampsia, I had to be on Magnesium Sulfate throughout to prevent seizures/stroke. However, it caused my much-anticipated precious little guy to come out blue, limp and unresponsive. Both of his Apgar scores were 0. I had been waiting to hear a cry from that little guy for so long andnone came. The nurse pushed a button on the wall indicating a Code Blue and like 15 nurses/doctors came in. Thankfully, he was resuccitated and after a couple of weeks in the hospital he was just fine but those minutes of utter silence as everyone waited to hear that cry, coupled with the frenzy of the NICU staff arriving ended up causing PTSD. I had a co-sleeper next to my side of the bed and I slept with my hand on his chest the whole time he slept there because I needed to know he was breathing. I'd still wake up in terror, though, after nightmares of his birth. He also BF on demand on an hourly basis [he wanted to be on that growth chart, I guess! LOL] for the first 8 months. Then it slowed to every 4 hours thankfully. 

My second son [pregnancy #6] was only an 11 hour labor and that was mainly because he was occiput posterior [sunny-side up] and his nose was stuck on my vajayjay! My epidural worked that time and I was grateful because this time I was induced because my BP was skyrocketing and I had a headache that even morphine didn't quell. I have had chronic migraines since age 9 and not even my worst compared to that headache. Amazingly, my epidural knocked the headache out and my labor was pleasant in spite of the BP rising. They were pushing every BP med they could into my IV and it still wouldn't come under control. I delivered him with a BP of 220/180 and was whisked off to a CT to check for stroke/hemorrhaging, etc.

We were both pretty certain that the risk outweighed the benefits of continuing to reproduce so I had the Mirena placed at my 6 week appt after baby #2 arrived. Of course, I managed to be the unlucky ones that the Mirena shifted and I ended up pregnant again. I was not very hopeful because I knew getting pregnant with that in could cause problems. However, the little one was thriving-- great heartbeats at 6, 8, 10 and 12 weeks on u/s. At 13 weeks as I was being prepped for another cerclage placement, they did an u/s because they couldn't do the nuchal fold test due to the baby's position at 12 weeks.

Sadly, within about 15-20 seconds, I knew that the baby had passed. I had become a pro at Ultrasounds and I could easily see there was no heartbeat. I knew the tech felt awful, she kept trying to maneuver, hoping it was just a malfunction or something. I told her not to be afraid, I already knew what the problem was. I said the baby has no heartbeat. Normally, the tech won't say anything but she could tell I'd been through this before and she told me that was the case. The MFM specialist came in to verify and that was that. Ended up havning a D&C instead of my cerclage-- lost 1.5 litres of blood so I had to have a transfusion. My husband had never seen that last baby's heartbeat or an ultrasound because of his work schedule so I went through it alone.  

I've suffered from depression and anxiety since about age 16 and then the trauma of my reproductive situation gave me pretty intense PTSD. So we decided to go ahead with a tubal ligation on me. I was devastated but I knew I couldn't continue to put myself through that kind of anguish and torture anymore. [Plus, I couldn't risk my sons losing their mommy]. So, technically, I chose to become sterilized but in reality I had to make the "smart" decision and ignore my heart. Slowly, I'm becoming more used to the idea that there will be no more kiddos for me but it's been a distressing couple of years. I am so sorry that you and others of us have had this taken from us.

I also have a sister who is 15 years my junior and she LOVES kids. She's my son's best aunt, Godmother to my first and has always wanted to be a mom. Well, when she was 8 she had to have a bone marrow transplant. Unfortunately, they use the most intense, harsh chemo available as they need to completely eliminate the recipient's own marrow so the new marrow will grow. Sadly, she is most likely sterile. One of her ovaries never developed properly and the other is in poor shape. She even had to take B/C to start having periods because of the damage from the chemo. I feel terrible for her because she's always the one of my sisters who has always wanted and loved children of her own. She's 20 nowand healthy but I know she is heartbroken she won't be able to have her own kids. Hopefully, one day she'll be able to adopt. My husband and I would love to adopt also but by the time we could afford to do so without entering massive debt, I think we will have left this phase of life behind.

Geesh, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to write my life story in novel form, I just thought sharing might be helpful in showing I understand the void left when that choice to reproduce is no longer yorus. 

And, one thing Duggar-related that is so hard for me to see was that episode when Michelle was having her u/s for Jubilee. It was flashback city, especially with my last pregnancy. I don't often feel badly for the Boob and JChelle but at that moment I had great sympathy for them. That silence from the tech and leaving the room whilst obviously no heartbeat is heard was crushing.

[JMO]

Theoretically she could have this baby before Jessa has her's.  I wonder if she even remembers what her body feels like not pregnant.  I'm thinking no.  It took me until my son was a year old before I felt fully back to normal.  I read somewhere that the average is 13 months before most women say they felt back to normal.  

[Karma]

Sierra has gone quiet on instagram.  I'm betting that no name Seewald's little playmate is on the way out.

[nst]

Sierra has gone quiet on instagram.  I'm betting that no name Seewald's little playmate is on the way out.

she probably knows the name - and she probably helped deliver  _____Seewald 

 

[Karma]

she probably knows the name - and she probably helped deliver  _____Seewald 

 

I don't think midwifery is one of her skills? Unless she was making cake pops and planning a birth party - there did seem to be a lot of people having photos with _____Seewald pretty soon after birth.

actually, scrap my theory. I cooked dinner, had a shower, and she posted three photos, including one of her baby shower. Seriously, do people have a baby shower for a fifth child? 

[JillyO]

Sierra has gone quiet on instagram.  I'm betting that no name Seewald's little playmate is on the way out.

... aaaaand she posted two pictures about 5 hours ago. I wouldn't be surprised if kid #5 makes an appearance sooner rather than later, though. She tends to have them about a week early if I'm not mistaken.

ETA: Sorry, I must have missed the last paragraph in the post above me. Carry on.

[ClaraOswin]

I was looking at the baby shower photo to see how many Duggars I could spot. I see Jinger, Joy, Josiah...maybe the twin boys towards the back. A howler in the front middle, maybe. I think Anna on the far right. And maybe Michelle's hair. Oh, and Josiah's ex is there too.

A baby shower for a 5th child....in my opinion...ridiculous. If it's just a party without 'required' gifts then okay. But if she asked for gifts....no.

[Bad Wolf]

I've lost interest in the Seewald spawn. Couldn't care less about Sierra Jo.

Let's get some real Duggar craziness.

[becky4201]

I'd say Diesel is still pretty out there. But yeah, it's interesting how these things change within a couple of years.

I know a 3 year old with the name Diezel. Poor creature.

[nst]

I don't think midwifery is one of her skills? Unless she was making cake pops and planning a birth party - there did seem to be a lot of people having photos with _____Seewald pretty soon after birth.

actually, scrap my theory. I cooked dinner, had a shower, and she posted three photos, including one of her baby shower. Seriously, do people have a baby shower for a fifth child? 

hey to be in the special and to be Jessa's "best friend" anything can and will happen

no matter how much I dislike her and that other chick from the wedding

[TeenWitch]

I was looking at the baby shower photo to see how many Duggars I could spot. I see Jinger, Joy, Josiah...maybe the twin boys towards the back. A howler in the front middle, maybe. I think Anna on the far right. And maybe Michelle's hair. Oh, and Josiah's ex is there too.

A baby shower for a 5th child....in my opinion...ridiculous. If it's just a party without 'required' gifts then okay. But if she asked for gifts....no.

LMAO 

[nastyhobbitses]

I was looking at the baby shower photo to see how many Duggars I could spot. I see Jinger, Joy, Josiah...maybe the twin boys towards the back. A howler in the front middle, maybe. I think Anna on the far right. And maybe Michelle's hair. Oh, and Josiah's ex is there too.

A baby shower for a 5th child....in my opinion...ridiculous. If it's just a party without 'required' gifts then okay. But if she asked for gifts....no.

Exactly. Want to have a nice party before the baby comes? Fine, knock yourself out. But a full-on blow-out shower? That's just tacky. Especially if you ask for gifts when you pop out a kid seemingly every 9 months and 10 minutes, and thus have perfectly serviceable hand-me-downs.

[Rachel333]

I was always under the impression that the only time a baby shower is appropriate for a 2nd+ baby is when there's a big gap and the parents don't have baby stuff anymore. For example, my mom's friend had a surprise pregnancy in her late 40's and her friends threw a baby shower for her because it had been about a decade since her last baby. It seems really unnecessary though when someone has a baby every year.

[lilith]

I just had a baby after an 8 year gap and I declined offers of a baby shower. That's partly cause by child four I realise how little a newborn actually needs though, something Sierra should be well aware of. My mum bought me a baby Bjorn carrier, my dad a bouncer, Partner's work chipped in for a car seat, we bought a co-sleeper and I ended up with more newborn clothes and wraps/blankets than she needs as gifts after she was born (and also bought a fair few myself - first girl in nearly 12 years, I couldn't resist some cute outfits). Most of the crap I was given at the baby shower for my first was never used. Except the nappies, but I'm quite capable of buying all the nappies my baby needs.

[Rescinded and Mended]

I just had a baby after an 8 year gap and I declined offers of a baby shower. That's partly cause by child four I realise how little a newborn actually needs though, something Sierra should be well aware of. My mum bought me a baby Bjorn carrier, my dad a bouncer, Partner's work chipped in for a car seat, we bought a co-sleeper and I ended up with more newborn clothes and wraps/blankets than she needs as gifts after she was born (and also bought a fair few myself - first girl in nearly 12 years, I couldn't resist some cute outfits). Most of the crap I was given at the baby shower for my first was never used. Except the nappies, but I'm quite capable of buying all the nappies my baby needs.

I had a similar baby merchandise epiphany after my first (and only) child was born. My husband and I were clueless on what we needed, so we wound up consulting recommended item lists in baby magazines before Boy R&M was born. Money was tight, and I wasn't insured at the time so we wound up paying for everything up front, including all the tests and the birth itself. When we got the baby home and realized we still had a couple of large bills to pay, we scraped together the last of our money, which included returning about $150.00 worth of unopened baby stuff we realized we just didn't need, including a diaper genie. We just kept and used what we needed and got the other stuff as necessary. It seems like there are a lot of recommended baby items advertised out there that are both expensive and unnecessary.

[TXGirlInAMaterialWorld]

I agree that a baby shower for a 5th baby is a bit much.  At least wait until after the kid is born and have a sip and see.  

[karen77]

I know a 3 year old with the name Diezel. Poor creature.

I know a Remington and a Magnum....oi.

[bucket]

I agree that a baby shower for a 5th baby is a bit much.  At least wait until after the kid is born and have a sip and see.  

how would these people get stuff for all the babies without ridiculous showers? These are gift grabs by people that have more babies than they can financially support without grifts and grabs. 

[HarryPotterFan]

how would these people get stuff for all the babies without ridiculous showers? These are gift grabs by people that have more babies than they can financially support without grifts and grabs. 

I feel like instead of having a big group of people all having to constantly give each other baby gifts because no one can afford their bajillion children they should just buy stuff for their own kids instead...it's like a bunch of broke people all asking each other for money.