Lori Alexander 44: Ken Galloping Off on the Horse of Truth The Feminists Are Coming!

[Sarah92]

All those things to! I personally love her style and just wish I could pull some of it off. I'll pretty much follow anyone with a dog, it's a serious addiction dogs are. 

[jerkit]

7 minutes ago, Sarah92 said:

All those things to! I personally love her style and just wish I could pull some of it off. I'll pretty much follow anyone with a dog, it's a serious addiction dogs are. 

I hear @kappythehavanese is a good follow! Not perfectly coiffed like other instagram dogs - but a very cute goofball!

[Sarah92]

24 minutes ago, jerkit said:

I hear @kappythehavanese is a good follow! Not perfectly coiffed like other instagram dogs - but a very cute goofball!

Followed! 

[EowynW]

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When you marry a godly, hard-working man, you won’t need a degree and a salary. He will be the one out in the world working hard to provide for you...

You will most likely live in a home, have a car or two, a retirement plan, and health insurance because of your husband’s hard work for you and your family. 

Lori, your fucking privilege is showing.  

[Loveday]

1 minute ago, EowynW said:

Lori, your fucking privilege is showing.  

With flashing neon lights. This has got to be one of the most telling posts she's ever written. As if we didn't already know why she married Ken, she's spelled it out for us in excruciating detail. I wonder how Ken feels knowing how much he's been used over the years, and how proud of that fact Lori seems to be.  

[EowynW]

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You’ll have a man around to help you with things that you are unable to do. He can carry and move things that are too heavy for you. He can fix things that you are simply unable to fix. He will protect you since he is much stronger than you. If an intruder were to come into your home, he would be the one to go after him. He will help you to see when you are being deceived by someone since men are usually not as easily deceived as women. There’s no way you would ever want to divorce this man even though he won’t be perfect because neither are you!

Oh lord. 

[usmcmom]

Wow! In today's post, Lori doesn't say a word about spending your life with the person you love and enjoy - no words about any emotional connection at all. 

She can't even fake it for a blog post. 

[Coconut Flan]

Not only that, but her whole system goes down the tubes if he dies at 45. 

[Sarah92]

My mom didn't start working again until I was in my mid-teens and my sister was eh about 12? And we never had any of this with just my dad working, even with my mom working as well we didn't have this. We always struggled. My dad worked his ass off but it wasn't enough. And then stuff happened and now he can't work. My mom's income is what helps pay the bills. Soooo hop off Lori.

[Alisamer]

Lori does really seem to appreciate her husband sugar daddy. Well... his money, at least. I don't know that she cares much about him as a person, but as long as his paycheck keeps coming in she's good.

I get the impression if something had happened to Ken and he'd been unable to keep her in the lifestyle she's accustomed to, she'd have divorced him post-haste, tried to find some other john to keep her, and started posting about how ungodly Ken was to have been afflicted with the inability to earn tons of cash to hand over to her lazy ass.

I can't believe ANYONE falls for her crap and follows her. She's almost as much of a liar and revisionist as Comrade Cheeto yet just like him there are people who believe whatever they say no matter how blatantly false it is.

Lori Alexander is an awful person, and one of the least Christian people I have ever seen. She promotes a tiny handful of verses from the Bible that she twists around to allow her to sit at home  all day and never work, and worse, promotes it as the only way to heaven to women who don't have nearly the privilege she has. She posts more about sex than love, legalism than compassion, works than faith. She seems to think being Christian is like completing a quest in a video game... complete this lists of tasks correctly and God will let you into heaven. 

I doubt she has ever, ever brought anyone to Christ. She's probably pushed quite a few people away, however.

[onemama]

Ok... this is a comment on the sex post:

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Look Pretty.

Everday. Always have your hair done, always have makeup on, hit the gym, hit up a dance class/pilates reformer for posture.

Most important thing about a female is her looks. (heartbreaking to write that but true)

 

The author has a woman's name.  This is her response to a man who says he isn't getting any sex:
 

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Ignore your wife and focus solely upon improving yourself.

Don’t even waste time trying to please her. Be nice and kind, but don’t go out of your way to be nice and kind.

Say to yourself, ‘From Today on It’s all About Me’…and hit up crossfit, work on your health and diet, and join a sport or activity that you’ve always wanted to do. Join a men’s club of some sort.

Do not cheat, do not divorce her. Just consider this your time to become Awesome.

Forget sex, you have to worry about your health and hopefully you’ll be too sore from crossfit to be interested in it. Don’t even pester her for it. You have better things to do with your time.

– Crossfit
– Men’s Club
– Acting Classes
– Stand-up Comedy Classes
– Sports
– Intellectual Clubs–history, books, screenwriting

You have been giving a great gift by your wife…The Excuse to Be Selfish.

Take it.

(But don’t cheat..either emotionally or physically…activities should not involve talking to other women..,ignore any women who happen to be there)

And as a result, she will come back to you because she’ll sense that you no longer need her.

 

The next time Lori or Ken say that her blog is a ministry, refer them to that comment.  

[quiversR4hunting]

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He can carry and move things that are too heavy for you. He can fix things that you are simply unable to fix. He will protect you since he is much stronger than you. If an intruder were to come into your home, he would be the one to go after him

Wow. Example 1: of where this doesn't work: http://people.com/bodies/laura-browning-grant-using-pilates-navy-seal-husband-paralyzed/

Example 2: Many men have come back from war (Vietnam to more recent) missing limbs. They can't move things too heavy to move because they don't have legs or maybe an arm or they have shrapnel in the muscle making it impossible to lift heavy things.

There are many other men that have other health issues that also prevent all these things. There are also men that cannot fix a damn thing because that is not how their brain works.

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When you marry a godly, hard-working man, you won’t need a degree and a salary. He will be the one out in the world working hard to provide for you while you get to be in your own home and hopefully with your precious children. Instead of working for a boss every day and submitting to his will, you will have the privilege of making your husband’s life better and submitting to him; you know, the one you chose to love until death do you part.

You will most likely live in a home, have a car or two, a retirement plan, and health insurance because of your husband’s hard work for you and your family. You may have some children by your husband, if the Lord blesses you with them,

And what if the groom is hard working and godly before marriage but then slacks off after he has caught his prize and starts job hopping or drinking or doing drugs or just plain lazy? Then what? What if the godly man is horrible with money and spends everything and doesn't want to save anything? (go see 100s of stories on Dave Ramsey or Suze Orman or.....) Or what if he works for a Christian organization and they only give health insurance to the employee, not the family? And forget about retirement, they don't provide that either?

Lori is an elitist with no concept of what the middle class goes through let alone what the work poor have to deal with to keep the family fed, housed and clothed.  

[Koala]

If anyone needs a translation for today's post, it goes something like this:

*simpering voice*

"But think of the money!  Think of all of the things he can do for you.  Sure, you could just as easily do them yourself, but it's so much easier to have someone else do it!"

*empty headed laugh*

[polecat]

17 minutes ago, onemama said:

Ok... this is a comment on the sex post:

The author has a woman's name.  This is her response to a man who says he isn't getting any sex:
 

The next time Lori or Ken say that her blog is a ministry, refer them to that comment.  

That's really straIght-up red pill nonsense. As a lurker on that BS since way back in my SSM hate-reading days, I have seen that sentiment too many times to count. Women only need to look good to attract a man. Men need to ignore or even be emotionally abusive ("trauma bonding") to attract women. It's a vile mindset. 

And I'm so effing sick of these people going on and on about women's looks. Even for women who were pretty in their youth -- looks fade. Skin becomes wrinkled and spotted; bodies sag and soften. Then what? If your partner doesn't love you for you, then they're going to be sadly surprised some day. As for those of us who were never pretty, I guess we're just destined to be #foreveralone, in Lori's world. (Someone better tell my husband.)

[AlwaysDiscerning]

My rant on today's post. 

https://thingsgodlywomensay.wordpress.com/2018/04/30/lori-alexanders-answer-to-why-women-should-marry/

[Hisey]

I notice there's no mention of a husband's friendship and companionship. No mention of the joy of doing things together with a partner--like gardening, watching TV, cooking. No mention of sharing a life with someone and growing and changing with them. (And also no mention of sex!)

[AlwaysDiscerning]

23 minutes ago, polecat said:

That's really straIght-up red pill nonsense. As a lurker on that BS since way back in my SSM hate-reading days, I have seen that sentiment too many times to count. Women only need to look good to attract a man. Men need to ignore or even be emotionally abusive ("trauma bonding") to attract women. It's a vile mindset. 

And I'm so effing sick of these people going on and on about women's looks. Even for women who were pretty in their youth -- looks fade. Skin becomes wrinkled and spotted; bodies sag and soften. Then what? If your partner doesn't love you for you, then they're going to be sadly surprised some day. As for those of us who were never pretty, I guess we're just destined to be #foreveralone, in Lori's world. (Someone better tell my husband.)

Likewise, you have to look like the duchess 7 hours after birth. Same type of thinking. 

[TeddyBonkers]

The tl:dr of today's post-

"You can do WHATEVER you want after you get married as long as it's within the confines of your home!"

[luv2laugh]

Lori is such a jerk wow.... she thrives on being a snob!

[Botkinetti]

Such a pretty fantasy to hold out to her followers. That if they just believe harder they too can live in a 1950’s advertisement of a perfect marriage. 

Meanwhile they live in too small homes with too many children and not enough money. They are aging with too many demands on them to be able to fulfill. Some of them must ache to have the life Lori describes instead of the ones they are living.

[EowynW]

14 minutes ago, TeddyBonkers said:

The tl:dr of today's post-

"You can do WHATEVER you want after you get married as long as it's within the confines of your home!"

This is kinda like my mother. You can do whatever you want as long as it's within the boundaries your husband sets for you. 

[Sarah92]

I remember my former pastor telling me about 7 years ago "Sarah you have a strong personality (wtf does that even mean?). When you get married you need to make sure that your husband feels needed. Let him get something off the top shelf for you even if you can do it yourself. Let him open up jars for you" I feel like if I have to do that to make my future husband feel needed then I'm doing it wrong. Also I worked at a restaurant, I know about 4 different ways to open jars....I don't think I'd feel comfortable lying about my abilities just to make a guy feel "needed".

While I liked my former pastor, Lori takes these things a whole other crazy step forward. Men are reduced to sex-fiends who are whiny and entitled but are also expected to work themselves to death while being surrounded by 8 children. 

Also she mentioned in a comment of the sex post (aka whiny men who can't romance their wives and talk about how they want to turn to porn) that feminism has taken away women's ability to be kind, gentle, and affection. Lori, some of the kindest, gentlest women I have ever met have been feminists. On the other hand, I have felt rejected by overly harsh complementarian women. 

[Koala]

Breakdown of today's post:

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You will most likely live in a home, have a car or two, a retirement plan, and health insurance because of your husband’s hard work for you and your family.

In other words: Money 

That's literally the first thing that came to Lori's mind.

The woman very clearly wrote:

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I have my own apartment, paid off car, retirement plan, health insurance

She has all of those things, because she worked for them.  Lori's main selling point for marriage is, "You can get everything you already have!"  

Translation: You can get everything you need without working!  And the MONEY!!!

She continues:

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 When you marry a godly, hard-working man, you won’t need a degree and a salary. He will be the one out in the world working hard to provide for you while you get to be in your own home

Translation:  Money 

She is simply reiterating that you can have someone provide everything for you, and you don't have to get an education or work to get it. 

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You’ll have a man around to help you with things that you are unable to do. He can carry and move things that are too heavy for you. He can fix things that you are simply unable to fix. He will protect you since he is much stronger than you. If an intruder were to come into your home, he would be the one to go after him. 

 Translation: Live in servant  

Because as Lori says, even if you can do it:

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it's so much easier to ask someone else

Lori's thought extensively about being served, once going so far as to declare that she "loves to be served". 

A recent confession revealed that when vacationing in Door County, she likes to kick up her heels and let her mom serve her/do everything.  Other posts revealed more of the same.  Referring to Ken, she said:

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I wanted him to be generous with me and serve me, then I might be happy

In another post she writes:

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 I would definitely describe myself as a taker.

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He will help you to see when you are being deceived by someone since men are usually not as easily deceived as women

In other words, if you're stupid, maybe he won't be stupid.

In conclusion:

Money, money, live in servant, and someone to help you if you're stupid.  

Wow.  What a ringing endorsement for marriage.

[Koala]

As a funny side note, The Godly Gossip made this bold proclamation in 2012:

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 I will not ever use this blog, however, to speak negatively about anyone unless they are anonymous. 

 My, how far she's come.

[AlwaysDiscerning]

Commenter:

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Also, I always mention the physical aspect of it. Just as in sickness, who wants to be out of the home on their “days of the month”? 

Yikes, I mean heaven forbid women leave their house on their periods.So what, does this woman like literally stay indoor for 5 days or so. How do you get groceries, take kids where they need to go, etc?

25 minutes ago, Koala said:

As a funny side note, The Godly Gossip made this bold proclamation in 2012:

 My, how far she's come.

LOL as if speaking negatively about them if Anon is sooooooooo much better. Does the bible say we can gossip as long as the person is anon?