Lori Alexander - Still Not Learning A Thing, Part 3

[Koala]

Lori just posted in the super sekrit chatroom. She is in the hospital but well enough to post on fb i suppose. Similar to what ken said, her sodium levels were up to 110 "which is death level".

Thanks for the update. I am glad she is getting the care she needs.

[church_of_dog]

Lori just posted in the super sekrit chatroom. She is in the hospital but well enough to post on fb i suppose. Similar to what ken said, her sodium levels were up to 110 "which is death level".

Just so no one gets the wrong idea, Lori's sodium levels are too LOW, not too high.

Healthy sodium levels are in the 135-145 range (milliequivalents per liter) and hers were apparently at or below 110.

Just didn't want anyone to misunderstand.

[Florita]

I wonder how Lori is coping with hospital food? Do they have a no gluten, no dairy, no sugar, no fructose, only organic selection? Eating disorders can trigger low sodium levels, too. Just sayin'.

My dh's grandmother had low sodium trouble, but she was in her 90s and had heart failure.

I am sure Ken and the family are giving her all the attention she desires while in the hospital - because they'd never hear the end of it if they didn't.

I do hope the medical staff can find what is causing her problem and make the necessary repairs. She may be annoying, but I do hope she gets better soon.

[Stynjen]

From today's post about asking for things in a "feminine way", a commenter wrote:

Nada · 2 hours ago

The other thing that we must do as wives is be honest and upfront without overdoing it. Unfortunately I am a woman of extremes -- I would either be over the top ("Honey, can you turn that down please? I'm expecting a call and the baby might wake and the neighbor's might complain, blah blah blah...") or far too vague ("Do you find that a little our honey?" or "Gosh that television is loud."). I've gotten into trouble for both. I have had to train myself to just be upfront and ask for what I want or need and trust my dear husband to fulfill them.

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Deb · 1 hour ago

Nada,

You are so right. I, too, am a woman of extremes. When I ask my husband to something, I feel I need to explain myself in detail. All it does is get him irritated. I need to remember, short and sweet.

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Not only does it make me sad that so many of Lor's fangirls are married to such complete asshats, but that these are the types of commenters she will praise for being such godly doormats. :pull-hair:

[FundieFarmer]

Gosh, if all things are the way Nada said, then it's a wonder Mr. FF is with me at all. When he is loud, I remind him the neighbors have complained before (the walls are very thin here) and could he please be just a bit quieter? Sometimes I say as much as I do just to impart that it isn't actually me but instead someone else's concern...like a, "I don't really care but this person will and do we reaaaaally want to deal with that bucket of crazy?"

[zebra #13]

I met a dentist once. He'd just spent a year living on Crete. He was getting ready to go back to his dental practice. Thing was, he *hated* dentistry, and hated that 19 year old boy who had decided that HE, a thirty-five year old man would be a dentist. He was looking for a way to change that.

Everywhere in the world, we make errors, choose badly, or are just surprised at the consequences of our choices. And then we change something: we buy a car, it's a lemon, we dump it; we buy pork chops, they're bad, we put them in the garbage disposal; we take a swig of milk from the carton in the fridge, it's rancid, we spit it out. Only in fundieland does a randy 20 year old marry a girl who hates sex, and just carries on. Only in fundieland does a girl who does not respect one single thing her new hubby does hang in for thirty miserable life numbing years, and add an additional layer of Godde to justify the fear of leaving, and making something of her own life.

Cripes.

[polecat]

From today's post about asking for things in a "feminine way", a commenter wrote:

Nada · 2 hours ago

The other thing that we must do as wives is be honest and upfront without overdoing it. Unfortunately I am a woman of extremes -- I would either be over the top ("Honey, can you turn that down please? I'm expecting a call and the baby might wake and the neighbor's might complain, blah blah blah...") or far too vague ("Do you find that a little our honey?" or "Gosh that television is loud."). I've gotten into trouble for both. I have had to train myself to just be upfront and ask for what I want or need and trust my dear husband to fulfill them.

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Deb · 1 hour ago

Nada,

You are so right. I, too, am a woman of extremes. When I ask my husband to something, I feel I need to explain myself in detail. All it does is get him irritated. I need to remember, short and sweet.

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Not only does it make me sad that so many of Lor's fangirls are married to such complete asshats, but that these are the types of commenters she will praise for being such godly doormats. :pull-hair:

Today's whole post was irksome. It seems like they all either order around their partners (which, sorry, is obnoxious) or go into some long schpiel about why they're asking their lord and master to do anything.

My household:

"Hey, babe, would you turn down the TV? It's really loud!"

"Okay."

"Will you be able to get that patch sewn on any time soon?"

"Sure, I totally forgot about it! Thanks for the reminder."

"I can't find my keys! Can you help me look for them?"

"Yeah."

"Hey, wanna go with me to (wherever)?"

"Sure."

Notice I didn't specify who said what -- because I'm allowed to ask him stuff and he's allowed to ask me stuff. We don't order one another around, and we don't grovel (which would, quite frankly, annoy the living snot out of both of us, I think).

Before reading Lori's blog, I'd have said my husband and I had a pretty average marriage. We love each other oodles and like each other plenty, but we also annoy each other and argue periodically. But after reading Lori's blog ... whew boy, we're at least light years ahead of that mess. It's called respect. You don't even have to love one another to respect one another, but all the love in the world isn't going to fix a marriage in which there is no respect.

[2xx1xy1JD]

Asking someone nicely instead of rudely ordering them to do something would have been a fine message (if obvious) message for a blog post.

But it didn't take Jesus to "convict" me to ask nicely, and it has nothing to do with submission and authority. I ask my husband nicely. He asks me nicely. We ask the kids nicely. We expect them to ask us nicely. It's called mutual respect.

[Curious]

Their whole relationship is built on contention, it seems like. I admit to sometimes giving my husband more information than is necessary for even simple things (who could guess that? :wink-penguin: However, when I do that he doesn't get angry with me. He realizes that I am verbose and deals with it.

He sometimes gives me too little information, IMO, but if I want more info I just ask for it.

Most of the time our conversations go like polecat's examples because not EVERYTHING has to be a battle.

We each have our own strengths, weaknesses and quirks. None of that should be considered some kind of personal affront/attack between people who plan to spend their lives together (particularly when you believe divorce is never an option!).

[Curious]

So glad that has changed. It's been years since I've had a loved one in the ICU and we had a really, really bad experience. Unfortunately, by the time I had read everyone that would listen the riot act, my grandfather has passed away- alone. They called me several hours after he died to let me know we could stay with him as much as we'd like. I'd already gotten it approved twice, but some bitch (I will never forgive her as long as I live) said she didn't care what they said. Anyway, by the time she was put in her place by hospital administrators he was gone. He was in a totally private ICU room the whole time. I have never gotten over it. That he died alone because of her (he was conscious the whole time) has left me bitter to say the very least.

Back on topic- I hope someone is with Lori, and I hope they've gotten her pain under control. The lack of updates kind of worries me though...

That is AWFUL, Koala :( I'm so sorry that happened to you. I have noticed that things can vary wildly between hospitals, but I think the trend is toward more understanding that patients do better when loved ones can be around as much as possible.

[love2scrap]

Just so no one gets the wrong idea, Lori's sodium levels are too LOW, not too high.

Healthy sodium levels are in the 135-145 range (milliequivalents per liter) and hers were apparently at or below 110.

Just didn't want anyone to misunderstand.

It irked me too, but i dont know crap about sodium levels. Lori was the one who said it was way "up" lol

[Fascinated]

As I am Always Learning I am grateful to Ken for teaching me the following about myself in his awesomely long post today:

I do not hold (myself or my spouse) to as high a standard as he and Lori (and all Christians).

I will laugh and join in with my husband when he looks at porn (because, once again it seems ALL men are ALWAYS looking at porn).

I have much lower expectations for my spouse in marriage.

Other than that it turns out I do not suffer from Syndrome of an Inappropriate Critical Spirit (but I guess Lori does). So I'm happy about that.

I'm glad Lori is home and in less pain. That's a long ass post today. (May have glossed over some important stuff.)

[usmcmom]

As I am Always Learning I am grateful to Ken for teaching me the following about myself in his awesomely long post today:

I do not hold (myself or my spouse) to as high a standard as he and Lori (and all Christians).

I will laugh and join in with my husband when he looks at porn (because, once again it seems ALL men are ALWAYS looking at porn).

I have much lower expectations for my spouse in marriage.

Other than that it turns out I do not suffer from Syndrome of an Inappropriate Critical Spirit (but I guess Lori does). So I'm happy about that.

I'm glad Lori is home and in less pain. That's a long ass post today. (May have glossed over some important stuff.)

It was even longer than most as he tried to work in the disease analogy just one more time (about six times). I thought I was going to make it to the end when I heard a dull sounding THWUMP as my sleepy head hit the keyboard. Woke up to the cat licking my hair.....

^^^Oh, I kid!! I kid!! I made it to the end but have no idea what he said. But I THINK he was saying that he married a woman with a very critical spirit and it has yet to be cured.

[Fascinated]

I think that is what he is saying too.

Remarkably, this exchange just took place in our house!

Me: 'Hey, Mr. F. Whatcha doing?'

Mr. F: 'Umm...shit..um.."

Me: 'Hahaha. Are you viewing porn?' :lol:

Mr. F: 'Wait. Aren't you going to be CRITICAL, like most wives?' 'I mean, it's 11:30 on a Wednesday morning.'

Me: 'Lololol! No, silly. Those are CHRISTIAN wives! :D As an unbeliever I don't hold you to such a high standard. Hahaha. Now shove over and let me view the porn with you. Lol :lol:

[salex]

I tried to read it as well..... and was able to skim through the bit about her real medical condition..... and I"m glad she had a competent Radiologist who helped salvage her pituitary gland. But once he got to his extended metaphor, despite my attempts, it basically became his standard drill. Lori and I Christians are really hypercritical, especially of their spouses.Lori Christian wives can be real bitches. Lori Christian wives still often get irritable whenI good christian husbands gently correct them.

Blah blah blah. Has no bearing on my life because I don't recognize his scenarios in my life, or frankly, in the lives of people I know.

Glad Lori is recovering.

Sorry Kens' a blowhard.

[Jessa's Feet]

I think that is what he is saying too.

Remarkably, this exchange just took place in our house!

Me: 'Hey, Mr. F. Whatcha doing?'

Mr. F: 'Umm...shit..um.."

Me: 'Hahaha. Are you viewing porn?' :lol:

Mr. F: 'Wait. Aren't you going to be CRITICAL, like most wives?' 'I mean, it's 11:30 on a Wednesday morning.'

Me: 'Lololol! No, silly. Those are CHRISTIAN wives! :D As an unbeliever I don't hold you to such a high standard. Hahaha. Now shove over and let me view the porn with you. Lol :lol:

Same here! I'm completely chill about porn. Except for sometimes, included me in the watching of said porn. Hahahaha.

[2xx1xy1JD]

So, as an "unbeliever" in Jesus, we have a peaceful marriage because we are totally ok with all porn, all the time, and I have no expectations of my husband? Um, no. There are things that I wasn't ok with - but my husband thought that my few objections were totally reasonable. Beyond that, though, my expectations for a good husband go somewhat beyond "doesn't look at porn". Personally, my list would include:

- makes it clear that he loves me

- totally devoted to the children from day 1 (not just when they become "interesting")

- thinks that the point of sex is mutual enjoyment and intimacy, not using me to "get his needs met" because he purchased me

- works hard

- good and decent human being, loved by almost everyone he meets

[FundieFarmer]

Y'all, Lori has 95 boards on her Pinterest.

What in the world, I've never seen so many boards for one account.

[Koala]

The TV Psalm

The TV is my Shepherd, I shall turn it on.

It makes me lie down on the sofa. It leads me away from the Scriptures. It ravishes my soul.

It leads me in the paths of ignorance and violence, for the sponsor's sake.

Yea, though I walk in the shadow of my responsibilities to my family and my Creator, there will be no interruptions, for the TV is with me. Its cable and its remote control, they comfort me.

It prepares a commercial before me. It plants lies with my mind. It anoints my head with materialism. My coveting runs over.

Surely laziness and ignorance shall follow me all the days of my life, and I shall dwell in the house watching TV and its propaganda forever.

Anon

Good news Lori! Associated Press is saying that the TLC will be featuring Jill and Jessa on upcoming specials! Time to scrub the TV Psalm from your FB and run (not walk) to your tv to tune in! We'll be waiting for a detailed show update on your blog! :dance:

[Jessa's Feet]

Y'all, Lori has 95 boards on her Pinterest.

What in the world, I've never seen so many boards for one account.

Oh, god, I'm going to regret revealing this.

I have 126 boards.

For the record, I'm anal about having things organized. I don't throw everything of one type together. Like cookie recipes. I have two boards. One for bar cookies and one for all other cookies. Eventually, I'll break down the "all other cookies" down even further. But this is a multi year project and I'll do it when I'm bored/need something to do with my hands. This goes for everything. I don't group everything, say, under "home" if it's for our new house and things I want to do to it. It's broken down to every room. Even backyard and front yard. Do that enough times and you get 100+ boards.

And, yeah, now everyone on the board knows I'm one of *those* people.

[sparkles]

Oh, god, I'm going to regret revealing this.

I have 126 boards.

For the record, I'm anal about having things organized. I don't throw everything of one type together. Like cookie recipes. I have two boards. One for bar cookies and one for all other cookies. Eventually, I'll break down the "all other cookies" down even further. But this is a multi year project and I'll do it when I'm bored/need something to do with my hands. This goes for everything. I don't group everything, say, under "home" if it's for our new house and things I want to do to it. It's broken down to every room. Even backyard and front yard. Do that enough times and you get 100+ boards.

And, yeah, now everyone on the board knows I'm one of *those* people.

You're not the only one. I started out with very few boards but the more I pinned, the more disorganized it got so I started breaking things down. I've still got under 50 but for me that's nuts, especially considering how social-media phobic I am. I love Pinterest though. And one of the people in a group baking board I'm on has over 200.

[FundieFarmer]

You're not the only one. I started out with very few boards but the more I pinned, the more disorganized it got so I started breaking things down. I've still got under 50 but for me that's nuts, especially considering how social-media phobic I am. I love Pinterest though. And one of the people in a group baking board I'm on has over 200.

Now y'all are making me feel better...I thought I was on the brink with 20! I'm also a little bit reclusive though, so all 20 of mine are set to secret :lol:

Also, I'm surprised Lori shared that TV psalm thing. In my world, that would be considered heretical and I'm nowhere near as zealous as Lori.

[polecat]

I have six boards that I rarely mess with because I usually only go to Pinterest when I need ideas.

So that disclaimer out of the way ... I can't believe I'm going to defend her in any way, but I kind of get it. It's not her personal Pinterest but her blog Pinterest, so she probably pins stuff for her blog readers, too, or stuff that she writes about or uses for inspiration.

But dang, how much free time does she have anyway? I guess when she's not planted on the delete button, she's got her butt over on Pinterest frantically pinning everything.

[Jessa's Feet]

So yeah, went to go look at her Pinterest just now and take a stroll through it.

Holy shit.

That number at the top of her profile that tells you the number of pins they have has to be way way WAY off or I don't understand how they get that number.

Almost half her boards have over 3,000 pins with the majority of those having 6,000 pins in each board. Is there a way to mass pin shit that I don't know about?!! How do you pin that much shit if you're pinning one thing at a time. Unless that's all you do. Ever.

And the majority of her boards are everything that shows up on her blog, every post a Christian blogger on the Internet has made (from what it looks like on just one of the dang boards with 6,000 pins I clicked on that was just a mix of all sorts of posts from Christian blogs from everywhere), and lots of healthy eats/paleo.

Guys. I have a lot of boards. Yes. But I don't have boards with 6,000 pins let alone multiple. How do you do that and not lose your mind?? I have to take a break from pinning after 5 minutes because it's numbing.

[Koala]

Found it.