Lori Alexander 50: Making an Idol of Herself

[Koala]

I can't even read the story about the dog...what I've already seen broke my heart.

We just went out to lunch.  I won't lie- I ate half my burger, got full, and then asked for a doggy bag.  Then when I got home, I gave the rest to Koala-puppy.  He was so excited!  

I always wanted him to sleep in my bed, but her prefers a Coolaroo dog bed (he's long coat, and seems to get hot easily).  I have one in my room, and one in the living room.  I always want to make sure he's comfortable.

If someone ever raised a hand to him, they'd have to learn to live without it.  The man who beat his poor dog for wanting a warm place to sleep is without excuse.  If there's a hell, I hope he gets his own corner in it. 

[Loveday]

1 hour ago, klein_roeschen said:

I hate wasting food. It's wasting money I can use better and wasting resources. And I hate people who are throwing their wealth in other peoples faces that way. Oh, and by the way, a back pain is most likely a pulled muscle or a pinched nerve and putting an ice pack there is going to make it worse. In that case you should put a heating pad there. And how did she got it? Was her last sourdough einkorn bread to heavy and she got a lumbago?

My husband is here in the living room with me, and I'm trying really hard not to laugh out loud at the bolded. It would be way too hard to explain Lori Alexander to him. 

[Lgirlrocks]

How can Lori try and teach anyone about things that she herself doesn’t do? She doesn’t live frugally. She worked outside of the home per kens request. She doesn’t take care of her house. She doesn’t spend much time with her grandkids. She doesn’t teach younger women anything. 

“The Transformed Wife: Deborah lived during Old Testament times. She was not part of the Church age and New Covenant as we are now, plus there are never any children mentioned so she most likely didn’t have any.” Most of the times after the new covenant were people writing letters to churches, the end of times, or what happened to the apostles. There weren’t a lot of stories like the Old Testament or Jesus's time on earth. There were more important things to talk about other that women working or not working. Nowhere did it say “women be keepers of the home and never leave it. Never work outside of the home to provide for your family.” It also never said. “Women can’t do more than one thing with their lives so they must either be a keeper of the home and raise a family or go out and work while neglecting their family.” The Bible isn’t a science. It doesn’t have every single answer in their for every situation in life because it’s not supposed to. The Bible is a way for us to see god heart and to get to know him. Yes there is a lot of useful information in it. We were given brains for a reason. 

[refugee]

4 hours ago, Lgirlrocks said:

He beat his dog with a belt? Wtf? Does he not understand that dogs don’t understand on the same level as humans? A full grown dog had the mentality of a toddler. They don’t understand why not. 

Well, Dobson had no problem with beating a toddler, fwiw.

[AuntKrazy]

Lori is recycling the "be a keeper at home" garbage today, along with her favorite argument from silence "there were no women in the Bible who sent their children to school and worked in corporate America-type jobs" (never mind that 1st century and earlier culture and commerce were different than today's market place).

Apparently we can throw out Deborah as an example because Old Testament times were different from new, but can't follow that logically through to the fact that work and education are conducted differently today than in 1st century Jerusalem.  

[louisa05]

1 hour ago, AuntKrazy said:

Lori is recycling the "be a keeper at home" garbage today, along with her favorite argument from silence "there were no women in the Bible who sent their children to school and worked in corporate

There were no older women in the Bible who pontificated on Facebook or had blogs or moderated chat rooms, either. 

Just saying. 

 

[Koala]

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Frozen corn - a life saver! A few days ago, my back went out on me. The kind where you have to try and roll off of the toilet and slowly climb up the back of it to get into a semi-standing position. It’s the same with getting out of bed or a chair. So painful! 

Her back went out- right as a new grandbaby was getting all of the attention.  What are the odds?  And how discreet of Lori to tell her readers that she has to roll "of" the toilet. 

As for the pain-  remember, Lori, pain is associated with sin!  At least that's what you claimed when you were looking for an excuse to hit kids.  Maybe this is God's way of pointing out YOUR sin!  Like you say when you're talking about hitting your kids with a leather strap, "pain is a great teacher"!  

Side note, a "wise" mentor once advised that it was best to suffer in silence.  She even taught her kids to do it.  Perhaps taking to Instagram to complain isn't the best idea after all.  Besides, self pity is satanic! 

Seriously though, I can't even with this woman.  

 

[Briefly]

4 hours ago, Koala said:

I can't even read the story about the dog...what I've already seen broke my heart.

We just went out to lunch.  I won't lie- I ate half my burger, got full, and then asked for a doggy bag.  Then when I got home, I gave the rest to Koala-puppy.  He was so excited!  

I always wanted him to sleep in my bed, but her prefers a Coolaroo dog bed (he's long coat, and seems to get hot easily).  I have one in my room, and one in the living room.  I always want to make sure he's comfortable.

If someone ever raised a hand to him, they'd have to learn to live without it.  The man who beat his poor dog for wanting a warm place to sleep is without excuse.  If there's a hell, I hope he gets his own corner in it. 

It makes me so mad when people mistreat their animals.  I'll bet Koala puppy was overjoyed to get that burger.  All dog owners should be like you are.

Our beagle probably has the beginning stages of dementia. We are spoiling her a little more, which is hard because she's pretty spoiled.  She went to our daughter's for a sleepover a couple of weeks ago, and they took her to Whataburger so she could have her very own hamburger.

[feministxtian]

The HARDEST fucking day was the day we had to rehome our boys because we were about to be homeless. They went with a friend of a friend here. We had no idea if/when we'd have a stable home for them and as it turned out we've ended up in apartments and it would not have been fair for the boys who were used to a house and a yard. I would trip over them and apologize to them for it. Anakin was our destructo-dog, so he had a crate. He didn't like a blanket in it though, he'd drag a blanket out and that was that. He's the one who would sleep with my grandson in the crate all the time. Yoda, our "old man", was the sweetest, gentlest pup on earth. Now, he was a little odd...he liked you to smack his butt...I mean smack his butt...he'd get all happy and wiggle and wag his tail and push his butt back under your hand for more. NOTHING was ever done in anger though...they both responded to a "what did you do" said in a "parent" voice. They both understood "go night night". Yoda would find his selected corner for the evening and find HIS blanket and Anakin would go in his crate. No problems whatsoever. I slept on the floor with my hand in Ani's crate when he was a tiny puppy. He slept beside our bed in his crate with mommy's hand on his paw. Sleeping on that wood floor was seriously uncomfortable, but it made my 4 legged baby happy and that's all that mattered. 

Now, the dynamic feline duo, well...they do understand "get down" and mostly come when called. I accidently stepped on Leia's tail and damn near cried apologizing to her! 

I could not imagine hitting my 4 legged babies...EVER (well, except for Yoda's butt smacks that he LOVED). We trained them completely with voice. Well, Yoda house broke Anakin. Ani'd go to the door and instead of asking to go out, he'd piddle or poop. Yoda got pissed, grabbed Ani by the scruff, gave him a little shake and a growl and that was that! 100% housebroken pup!!! It was so funny. 

[Sarah92]

Lori... Titus 2:5 is not talking about women being blasphemous it's talking about unbelievers blaspheming God because of how Christians act. That's the entire passage. It was essentially saying be wise in actions so no one can say bad things about you. If a women in those times was seen as neglecting her home and being disrespectful according to social customs and claimed to be a Christians, people would think poorly of Christians. 

Verses in context are so so important. 

Also all those people adding on to the story of Debra need to stop. Judges were leaders, biblical dictionaries say so and Debra was no exception. There is nothing to note her age or if she had children. It directly says she was not leading from her home. 

[Koala]

Are we the only people who have gel ice-packs on hands for small injuries or the like?  It would never occur to me to use food as an ice-pack.  I just keep a couple of the gel packs, so that when one thaws, I can switch out with the other if need be.  

Lori is always talking about using corn or peas, which seems super weird to me.

[Loveday]

1 minute ago, Koala said:

Are we the only people who have gel ice-packs on hands for small injuries or the like?  It would never occur to me to use food as an ice-pack.  I just keep a couple of the gel packs, so that when one thaws, I can switch out with the other if need be.  

Lori is always talking about using corn or peas, which seems super weird to me.

I would use corn or peas if I happened not to have a gel ice pack on hand. Which would only happen if I'd loaned mine out to someone else. And then I'd be buying a couple of new ones as soon as possible, because I HATE wasting food. Unlike Lori, the $14 butter queen.

[EowynW]

2 minutes ago, Koala said:

Are we the only people who have gel ice-packs on hands for small injuries or the like?  It would never occur to me to use food as an ice-pack.  I just keep a couple of the gel packs, so that when one thaws, I can switch out with the other if need be.  

Lori is always talking about using corn or peas, which seems super weird to me.

Mr. EW is a ten year Firefighter vet and said the frozen corn, peas etc is very common for minor injuries as a temporary patch up. 

[feministxtian]

I have a couple of gel packs. They're GREAT when I get overheated. I put one on the top of my head and one on the back of my neck...instant cool.

[PennySycamore]

Lactation consultants often recommend bags of frozen peas for plugged ducts and mastitis, etc  where you want to apply cold, since they're cheap and a mom might have them on hand.  They also conform nicely to the shape of the human breast.  Of course, a gel pack would also work.  Or even a bag of ice.

[TheLambBeforeTime]

I'm usually just a lurker, but I swear that it's almost always freaking Aunt Lori who draws me out from behind my binoculars to rant. 

Having grown up with a strong, leadership centered personality in a Southern Conservative Christian background, I cannot tell you how many times I heard the same message that Lori spews on a daily basis. I can't name the number of times I heard that I needed to be gentler, less bossy, more submissive, quieter, meeker, more feminine, etc. I distinctly remember middle school me intensely arguing with my parents that if God was going to make me marry some guy who was going to be a jerk and who I didn't want to follow, I was never going to get married. 

Spoiler alert: I did get married. I got married to a hippie liberal Jesus lover, who sees me as his partner in crime rather than his helpmeet and his feet. We met at work, and eventually became the workplace married couple.  Because of our relationship and the fact that we're both management level, we've always been asked to work in separate locations, which we've never had a problem doing. A couple months ago, I was offered a huge promotion, a level of promotion that neither of us had been offered before. Twice what I was getting paid, better benefits, new responsibilities, etc. The catch being that the powers that be had decided that I had exactly what it took to take over and problem solve for the location my husband was working at. They would transfer him to a different location so that I could take over as upper management in his current location, and that way we would avoid the potentially awkward situation of me being his boss.

If my husband lived in Lori's tiny little stereotypical box of what a man's man should be, he would have lost his mind at this news. His masculinity would have been shattered, his ego fractured; me becoming the primary breadwinner would have been devastating. But because my husband is so much more than a manchild craving my subjugation, he accepted the transfer without hesitation. He has been my biggest cheerleader through the transition of me taking over his location. He has embraced my now excessive workweek with a response of trying to be more supportive at home. The best part is that my new job means that he can actually go back to school to pursue what he is good at and passionate about, something he would never have been able to do if we had chosen to be anything less than partners. 

What women like Lori don't understand about marriage, relationships, and partnering is that you are only as good as the box you put yourself in. When you put people in a narrow, shallow, stereotypical tiny little box with no stairs and no doors and no room for improvement, you've pointed at them and said "this is all you are capable of". When you put your spouse in that little box, you fail to grow together, you fail to get better, and you doom yourself to repeat the same patterns over and over again because "its just the way things are". 

I think Lori willingly put herself into a box a long time ago, and is absolutely miserable inside of it. Her only response (because pride or laziness or selfishness or who the heck knows what) is to try to make everyone stay in her box with her stay just as miserable as she is, because if she can't be happy then the rest of the world has no right to be. It's why she attack and complain about and criticize anyone who is happier than her, because rather than put the work in to be happy and fulfilled herself; she'd rather drag everyone down onto her level and revel in their universal misery.

 

[feministxtian]

@TheLambBeforeTime did we have the same mother? My mother was the uptight Cuban Catholic version of that. I'm a lot of things but submissive and meek are NOT on that list whatsoever. I'm married to my best friend and biggest cheerleader. I just started a new job where I make twice what he does (and then some b/c he works part-time, it's a long story), with fantastic benefits and all that stuff. Mr. Xtian is not the least upset about it, he brags to anyone and everyone who'll listen about how wonderful, smart, ambitious, and yes, sexy, his wife is. I'll admit to being a spoiled brat now too...since my accident, he does pretty much ALL the housework, laundry and cat litter. 

I've talked to Mr. Xtian regarding Lori and her ideas of a "proper" marriage and he just shakes his head and has a few choice words for the "idiots" who think living that way is "godly"...I have a rough life...but I think I can suck it up and deal with being a spoiled brat...it's lovely when the spouse thinks you pretty much worships the ground you walk on. 

[Liza]

OMG!   She has got to be kidding.!  No words ... just no words.  Left click inside video, then unmute, for sound, 4 mins.

[SweetLaurel]

Soooooooooooooooooo Ken has no life insurance?  That's a what if....as sick as she has always been, he could outlive her.  I hope he's not preparing for the 'what if' he dies first.    That would just be Wrong per Lori.  Hey  @Ken save yourself some bucks and stop paying those premiums! 

OMG - she wanted me, as a young widow, to go out and troll for a man??  Start flirting and dating as soon as he died?  Is she freaking kidding?   Instead of taking care of my kids who just lost their dad?   WTactualF??   And my church does not provide for families - they do emergency care a few times, and sends them to food banks.  The end.   No church will support multiple families for years!  She has no clue about real life and makes me insane that she is allowed to spout this bs all over.   Where is her headship and why isn't he telling her she's an idiot?  

[SongRed7]

11 hours ago, Koala said:

Are we the only people who have gel ice-packs on hands for small injuries or the like?  It would never occur to me to use food as an ice-pack.  I just keep a couple of the gel packs, so that when one thaws, I can switch out with the other if need be. 

We have gel ice packs on hand as my kids all play/played sports and lot of sports injuries.  We've used frozen veggies in a pinch (which some doctors will recommend) but it's just a stop-gap measure. For a family like Lori's where it seems there is ALWAYS some kind of medical issue with her, you would think she'd have a whole supply of real ice packs.    Using a bag of peas or corn on occasion is fine in my book, but they way she talks about, it is such a waste of food.   So NOT frugal. 

[Meeka]

One thing that I don't understand with the whole "Churches will take care of the the widows" is that in many areas in the country and the world, the areas with a greatest needs are often the areas that are the poorest. In areas that are wealthy, the churches may be able to bring in considerable money, but these are also the areas where people have the money to buy life insurance, the wife have an education and can bring in a good income, have the social network to get jobs as well as have all the socioeconomic advantages of being able to move to get work. These wealthy churches have less of a need to financially support there members. 

In poor areas, church members do not have these advantages and most people are living hand to mouth. The income that the church can bring in to help there members is very much reduced.  These are the areas where there is more need and yet there is less money to help.

The only way that this could even remotely work is if there is redistribution from the wealthy churches to the poorer churches. WHAT!!! COMMUNISM!!! SOCIALISM!!!! WELFARE QUEEN!!!

It is such a naive and mean spirited idea that the churches can and will help others when only the wealthy areas are the model. 

[delphinium65]

I rewrote Titus 2:3-5 with Lori's additions, since she's bitching about feminists adding to it. 

“The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness (if by 'becometh' she means harsh, cruel, and driving people away from her god), not false accusers (accusing anyone who disagrees of hating God and his 'perfect ways), not given to much wine (but bragging about how much she likes wine), teachers of good things (teachers of crap); That they may teach the young women to be sober (not drinking like she does), to love their husbands (by marrying them just for their paychecks), to love their children (which includes beating the crap out of them just to make them pick up spilled 'raisans'), to be discreet (by telling everyone that her idea of married sex is 10 minutes and lube), chaste (but to get all turned on the minute they marry), keepers at home (while being an online busybody, how does she have time to take care of her own home?), obedient to their own husbands (we already know that's not always happening), that the word of God be not blasphemed (which it is, every time she opens her mouth/puts hands on keyboard).” (Titus 2:3-5)

[AlwaysDiscerning]

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I had previously thought that parents were not allowed to use anything but a hand to spank their children if they live in California but I was wrong. “Spanking your child with an object other than your hand is also legal, but it must not be excessive in relation to the circumstances which led to the punishment.” We are still allowed to use a “rod” on children anywhere in America as long as it does not physically injure the child. I pray this never changes since this is biblical! Spanking must bring short-term pain to a child in order to accomplish long-term gain.

 

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Yes, it’s usually the mother who doesn’t want to “harm” the child because women are more sensitive and emotional. I have also seen women interfere with their husbands’ discipline of the children and this is devastating for the children’s future. We must never be led by our feelings or emotions but live by the truth of God’s Word. The Lord knows that children need a rod when they misbehave because He knows the seriousness and the destructiveness of sin. The sooner parents nip this in the bud, the better for all.

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“Correct they son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul” (Proverbs 29:17). We are commanded to chasten our children as God chastens us. Chasten means to inflict pain for the purpose of reclaiming an offender. We chastened our children with a rod (a 12-inch long and ¼ inch wide leather strap) when they were young and disobedient. It hurt and it worked! None of them would say they were physically abused and none of them are abusive as many proclaim of those who were spanked. Child raising was a pleasure for us since our children obeyed us and were pleasant to be around. They definitely brought delight to our soul!

The verse she quoted says "correct", but then she all of sudden brings in chasten when chasten isn't there. I looked up the biblical meaning and its not exactly what she says.  

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These two words corresponding to Hebrew mucar, and Greek paideia, are distinguished in English use, in that "chastisement" is applied to the infliction of pain, either as a punishment or for recalling to duty, while "chastening," is a wider term, indicating the discipline or training to which one is subjected, without, as in the other term, referring to the means employed to this end. The narrower term occurs in the Revised Version (British and American) but once in the New Testament and then in its verbal form, Luke 23:16: "I will therefore chastise him." the King James Version uses it also in Hebrews 12:8.

 

[AlwaysDiscerning]

And the title of her post today is disgusting in relation to the topic --"Making Child Raising Delightful". How do you make it delightful? By inflicting pain with a 12 inch strap. 

[feministxtian]

35 minutes ago, AlwaysDiscerning said:

"Making Child Raising Delightful".

Banishing homework, a self-cleaning house, a self-refilling fridge and copious quantities of wine would have made child rearing delightful. My kids were hard-headed for physical punishment and it took more energy than I ever planned to expend. I preferred being inventive and keeping them a bit off kilter. They knew mama was a bit nuts and imaginative. Never made it to "3", and the occasional flying chancla was enough to get their attention.