Lori Alexander 31: The Viral Godly Tudor

[Koala]

More  comments from The Zero Alcohol Mentor:

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One glass of wine still allows me to be pure, right, honorable, and righteous toward God

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 the Holy Spirit or Scripture has never convicted me about drinking wine!

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I believe Christians who say drinking is a sin are making up their own rules. 

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When we go out for dinner or have a nice dinner at home, we love to have a glass of wine. It makes the food taste so good and it is fun! 

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Paul does say to drink a little wine for your many ailments and I have had lots of ailments!

And lest anyone try to pry the bottle out of Lori's hand, Ken reminds them:

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 Paul fought long and hard against those who would boil the faith down to “do’s and don’ts” legalism

But here's to a zero alcohol world, right Lori??

[AuntKrazy]

I know some churches who operate daycare centers will do something like provide "scholarships" for widows/widowers with small children who are members of the congregation. I think it's more sustainable than expecting the congregation to pay an extra salary which could be as much as/more than they pay the pastor.

[Sarah92]

 

Also question, why is she now deleting good comments? I've seen several of the comment numbers on her posts decrease quite a bit and even the positive comments seem to be taking a hit. 

[SuperNova]

What Lori is talking about in today's post sounds suspiciously like the Amish version of social services. It didn't state the the help would go on indefinitely but just until her boys could run the farm which is probably easier to offer extended help in a smaller community. When your talking about the well being or welfare of the secular world's widows, hungry children, jobless millions, you would need a system in place where everyone could get some help. Maybe not for as long as the Amish help their own, but something to help you get on your feet. Most secular people don't live on farms with wood burning ovens or coal heating systems, we don't need help raising a barn. So what would be the best way to help?  Food stamps so the children can eat, help with daycare so moms and dads can work, some cash to help pay bills like utilities.

I'm glad to see that Lori supports social services

[Koala]

15 minutes ago, Sarah92 said:

Also question, why is she now deleting good comments? 

I have noticed that as well.  Ken said he thought the power to delete comments was going to Lori's head.  Maybe it is.

[WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?]

Aside from all the other things I found objectionable about Lori's 'you tube' regarding alcohol, I noticed that the only thing she finds sad about an alcoholic father/husband is when he can't support his family. Another example of men being no more thsn an organic ATM to Lori.  

My alcoholic grandfather never missed a day of work because of his drinking and supported his family his whole life. (Not single handedly. Grandma was a teacher, but a teacher's pay was even less in those days than it is now.) The effects of my grandfather's alcoholism can be felt even to my generation and maybe even my kids' generation. Neither of my grandfather's kids is an alcoholic and none of us grandkids are either, but we've all felt the effect of his abusive parenting.

My siblings, cousins, and I have done our best to overcome the effects, but my father (and to a lesser extent, his only sibling) never knew how to deal with the stress of being a parent. The only example he had of how to be a father was an abusive alcoholic. I think he was a better dad than his father was, and I try to be a better parent than my dad was, but when one of my examples is "scream a lot and maybe spank someone", it can be difficult when I'm stressed or angry. I wonder how much Lori's alcoholic grandfather has affected her family over his 4 generations of descendants?

[louisa05]

17 minutes ago, WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo? said:

 

My alcoholic grandfather never missed a day of work because of his drinking and supported his family his whole life...

My uncle is an alcoholic. He also worked his entire life and supported his family. He actually did quite well at that; he made really good money. They had a beautiful home on an acreage, nice cars, all the best stuff, 3-4 weeks of vacation a year which was spent in a lavish RV seeing most of the country. My two cousins had everything the rest of us wanted and didn't get--new bikes every year, all the latest technology, whatever the hot fad toy was (usually more than one), trendy clothes... We were jealous of it all as kids. As adults, we have figured out that we had stable functional parents and that more than makes up for riding the same bike for four summers in a row, but kids don't get that. 

And my cousins' lives are disaster areas and their kids' lives aren't going to be any better. One of the kids is in prison, in fact. 

So, yes, bringing home a paycheck is not the issue when it comes to an alcoholic parent. 

[Carol]

After reading some of her previous remarks about alcohol, I'm throwing this out because I think this is a distinct possibility.  

Ken has told Lori she drinks too much.  Her response is to immediately want to stop everyone else who drinks because she knows she should quit.  If she can't have it, no one else can, either.

 

[AlwaysDiscerning]

OMG! I can't believe she actually did it. I captured this a bit ago thinking this question is going to be to hard for Lori to answer, 40% chance of deletion. And sure enough its gone now!!! Doesn't that just say it all!!

 

[Koala]

50 minutes ago, Carol said:

After reading some of her previous remarks about alcohol, I'm throwing this out because I think this is a distinct possibility.  

Ken has told Lori she drinks too much.  Her response is to immediately want to stop everyone else who drinks because she knows she should quit.  If she can't have it, no one else can, either.

 

I hadn't thought about that, but it makes a lot of sense.  She didn't give a tinker's damn about submission, until she had to use it to keep her hu$band.  Then she became absolutely obsessed with it. 

On the old blog, she posted about drinking quite a bit (and how much she enjoys it), and they go to Happy Hour at least once a week.  Kind of hard to do when you're living in a "zero alcohol" world.  

I could also see Ken being a drinker, and several FJ members speculated that he was drunk a lot of the time he was posting here.  Hell, in that family, you'd just about have to be knee walking drunk to get through the day.  I seriously can't imagine what it must be like at their place.  Absolute hell, would be my guess.

In other news, Lori continues to be a complete snot to her readers.

Reader:

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What is family cloth and mama cloth?

Lori:

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Look it up!

How hard would it have been to say, "It's a replacement for disposable sanitary napkins"??

[Curious]

18 minutes ago, Koala said:

I hadn't thought about that, but it makes a lot of sense.  She didn't give a tinker's damn about submission, until she had to use it to keep her hu$band.  Then she became absolutely obsessed with it. 

On the old blog, she posted about drinking quite a bit (and how much she enjoys it), and they go to Happy Hour at least once a week.  Kind of hard to do when you're living in a "zero alcohol" world.  

I could also see Ken being a drinker, and several FJ members speculated that he was drunk a lot of the time he was posting here.  Hell, in that family, you'd just about have to be knee walking drunk to get through the day.  I seriously can't imagine what it must be like at their place.  Absolute hell, would be my guess.

In other news, Lori continues to be a complete snot to her readers.

Reader:

Lori:

How hard would it have been to say, "It's a replacement for disposable sanitary napkins"??

I know I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed, but when I go to a blog or other venue that professes to TEACH and MENTOR, I expect to be able to ask a question and receive an actual answer.  If I wanted to "look it up" I wouldn't be on a venue that professes to TEACH.

I don't think Ken shows any of the outward signs of being an alcoholic.  His pictures look roughly the same over the years she had posted them.  No bloodshot eyes, broken blood vessels in the face, big red nose, etc.   How he has managed to survive living with Lori for so long without having some type of serious vice escapes me.

It's hard to tell with Lori since she always looks "rode hard and put away wet " in horse country.  She just does not look healthy in her "youtubes."  Her pictures always look better which makes me wonder how much photoshop is involved. (yeah that was BEC, I'll own it)

[Evangeline]

I suspect Ken's vice is porn... and possibly young, attractive dental hygienists. In fact, I'd put money on it. 

[Sarah92]

So I'm wondering if she told her to look it up because she's uncomfortable talking about periods? I know she's been comfortable talking about other body functions in the past. Idk. Why call them mama cloth? Why not cloth pads? Could be reaching with this one. 

And haha when questioned about her savings the comment gets deleted. Why delete it Lori? The comment came across very polite to me. I'd love to share if I was in her position. I find it odd that she promotes but doesn't follow all of this advice. 

So since I can't share there, I'll share here. I just started using coconut oil as makeup remover. I was in the store looking for a more natural one and remembered that I already had coconut oil. I could have kicked myself for almost shelling out like five bucks for nothing. Why spend on some fancy stuff when this does just as well? I measured some out into one of the glass jars I saved and stuck it in my bathroom. It's really helped my dry skin and hasn't broken me out. 

[Carol]

I was a Chemical Dependency counselor and worked for many years with addicts and their families.  If Ken is a drinker he may not drink as much as Lori or he may be better controlled.  This reads to me like someone has told Lori she drinks too much and, possibly, bottomed lined her.  It's obvious she doesn't change her behavior unless she's scared shitless and this appears to be an abrupt turn around for her given her previous statements about how much she enjoys alcohol.

One of the signs to look for is a behavior change in the late afternoon or evenings.  Does she delete more at night?  Is she more rude?  Might be kind of hard to tell because she's a generally nasty person who knows everything.

One of the things that seems to be a general consensus is that she has become more judgmental and ugly in her responses on her new blog.  This can be another sign that all is not well at the Alexander home.  And, given the feedback on Amazon to her book(which I'm sure she thought would be a major bestseller), why not have a bottle of wine to relieve her stress/rage/frustration?  

Poor Lori, no one is listening to her anymore.  JMOOC.

 

 

[lilwriter85]

9 hours ago, Sarah92 said:

Heck some churches I've heard of actually require that they see people progressing in their job search or working on their finances before they give more money. They don't want people to just be taking from the funds if they're capable of working. That money could go elsewhere. 

I have heard about that too. A friend of mine attended a church in Indiana where you had to read Dave Ramsey materials on saving money if you were getting financial assistance from the church. The church had limits to assistance.

I'm betting that Lori and Ken have no idea about what kinds of policies are in place at their church for getting assistance. Some churches will also refer people to public agencies or private charities to get additional assistance.

[fundamentallyfearless]

I think Lori has some twisted 8 Ball that she shakes every day when she's deciding what to blog about... It is so random but still so repetitive that I can't begin to imagine her train of thought (or lack thereof)

[Imrlgoddess]

(Disclaimer: I'm totally on board with Lori potentially getting called out for drinking too much theory)

That said, I don't know that I'd say Lori is an alcoholic exactly... I think she has several addictions. So this week she gets tipsy on family margaritas, next week she's high on fermented pizza & carefully counted chips. The next it's putting selfish wives in their pleces. Basically, I think she gets high on whatever makes her feel good and/or superior.

I think Ken's fairly moderate in whatever he does simply because he's secure enough in himself. The whole porn thing? I'm willing to bet he's not looked at anything more outrageous than any other red-blooded male might look up. To them "porn" is an R rated movie, or a random scantily clad woman in an ad. I find Lori takes what is typically average & blows it way out of proportion. Not saying Ken isn't or can't be piggish just that she strikes me as the kind of woman who would get pissy & ugly if he caught a pleasant glimpse at side boob. I'm sure she's hella jealous of the young, intelligent female dentists & assistants he interacts with. He can talk to them about more than food or mean Internet people... those women have depth *and* a skin regime. Heaven forbid intelligence & beauty.

WRT the church & money, the one time I went to my local church for rent help years ago, the priest told me the Catholic church isn't in the habit of paying people's bills. He gave me $100 & made it clear I wasn't welcome to ever ask again.

[AlwaysDiscerning]

12 hours ago, Koala said:

 

How hard would it have been to say, "It's a replacement for disposable sanitary napkins"??

Yeah what you all of a sudden all modest and discreet now, Lori. You don't mind talking about 2 lbs poops and your diarrhea, but you can't say menstrual pad!

[smittykins]

Isn’t “family cloth” also a replacement for disposable TP?

Which, if that floats your boat, knock yourself out, but...

[fundamentallyfearless]

Money saving tip: Period underwear. I own them and use them. Not sure about mama cloth but sounds uncomfortable. The period underwear, however, really are great! As for reusable toilet paper.... yeah no 

[AlwaysDiscerning]

Is she really staying here that if you are a real mom that stays at home you will be willing to give up toilet paper and clean bathwater? 

 

[EowynW]

1 hour ago, fundamentallyfearless said:

Money saving tip: Period underwear. I own them and use them. Not sure about mama cloth but sounds uncomfortable. The period underwear, however, really are great! As for reusable toilet paper.... yeah no 

I just use a diva cup. I do have a pack of quality reusable pads I bought before I got married but, I just can't quite bring myself to use them yet. 

[Sarah92]

2 hours ago, AlwaysDiscerning said:

Is she really staying here that if you are a real mom that stays at home you will be willing to give up toilet paper and clean bathwater? 

 

I enjoy that she mentions the millions of people who don't have enough to eat and yet what does she do about that?  I mean I know I don't do nearly enough but I hope to get better at it. And again a jab at modern conveniences and how that's the only reason mothers work. No, how about they don't want their kids to starve? And not all parents have access to washers and driers to clean those cloth products. I doubt the laundry mat would appreciate them washing those type of soiled clothes. 

[lilwriter85]

2 hours ago, AlwaysDiscerning said:

Is she really staying here that if you are a real mom that stays at home you will be willing to give up toilet paper and clean bathwater? 

 

I laugh at Lori saying she admires that woman's sacrifice to live solely on the husband's income. We all know Lori wouldn't be able to go without clean bath water or toilet paper.

[lilwriter85]

The talk about family cloths and reusuable TP reminds me of some episodes of Extreme Cheapskates. I wouldn't be surprised if one of Lori's fangirls ends up talking about peeing in bottles and them emptying them out in the yard in order to keep the water bills down.