Joy and Austin: The Wedding Is Over, On to the Honeymoon

[trustworthy]

On ‎5‎/‎30‎/‎2017 at 8:08 PM, candygirl200413 said:

I never understood why so many of them just don't get an already "modest" dress, like they exist!

The thing about it is, there are actually some gorgeous modest dresses out there.  Some Mormon women pull it off spectacularly.  Not all, but some who have a sense of style are able to push just to the edge of Temple guidelines and come out with something really stunning.  Then I think of Pippa Middleton's dress.  If you took away the keyhole in the back, it'd be more modest than any of the Duggar women's dresses, but far more gorgeous.  (Although I do have to say Jessa and Jinger did really, really well given how small their fashion world is).  It's the fact that they make those weird alterations to a regular dress ... that's clearly what happened to Joy's and Jill's.  It's almost as if they do it because it seems more pure or something, or because they feel they have to and no one could possibly make a dress already modest enough -- when the fact is there really are a lot of modest lines out there that have some nice styles.

[Rachel333]

Ugh, I hate couples' social media accounts.

[season of life]

Wow, that was fast. I also hate it when couples share their social media accounts, especially if only one of them is going to post most of the time. Doesn't Austin have his own private Instagram account under the name of Fly 4 Jesus? Can't Joy get her own as well? Obviously they'll need a public IG account to keep fans invested, but it's annoying that Joy doesn't have her own at 19 years old. Or perhaps she does. 

[Dutch_girl]

Maybe she does have a personal instagram account and they hope that using/announcing a couples-account, leghumpers stop looking for her personal account.

[wikinggirl]

4 hours ago, Rachel333 said:

Ugh, I hate couples' social media accounts.

I do to. Zach and Whitney Bates also shares one, but it's clearly only hers. 

[VelociRapture]

6 hours ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

Hey guys I lost my virginity at the same age as Joy! 

But I was unmarried and a sophomore in college....

Samesies! 

I wound up marrying the guy though. Took me eight years to marry the knucklehead. But still. I made an honest man out of him. 

14 minutes ago, wikinggirl said:

I do to. Zach and Whitney Bates also shares one, but it's clearly only hers. 

Same with Chad/Erin and Michael/Brandon. It's a much more popular move with the Bates family. John and Alyssa are the only married couple not to have a joint account (they also have private ones - Kelly does to.)

To all:

Ashley Salyer was at the wedding.

Spoiler

 

[HarleyQuinn]

I wonder if Austin will stop trying to hide his older "jimmy" instagram now?  Everyone knew that was him. 

[Kak]

On 31 May 2017 at 0:40 AM, Fullfrontalhugs said:

*Eats crackers and glares at Jill's smug face*

Funniest line I've read in forever.

[ScorpiousMalfoy]

I also join the "lost the v-card at 19" club. I had just started university at that point. My then boyfriend has been promoted to ex-boyfriend since. And thank God! Shame Joy/Austin won't have that option if it turns out they're not right for each other. Instead they'll just have multiple children by the time Joy's 25. Sigh.


 

[allthegoodnamesrgone]

8 hours ago, season of life said:

 Can't Joy get her own as well? 

Maybe she doesn't want one and is only doing it for the show?  Would you? Everything she posts people are going to snark on.  I see it all over Jessa and Jill's stuff "your brother molested you why are you blah blah blah..." I wouldn't want to be reminded of that every time I post a pic of my  happy family crap.  

Or Austin is as big of a jerk as her (and his) father and won't let her be on line without his supervision., so no she can't have one as well. 

[VineHeart137]

Man I feel extra sinful. I lost mine at 16. But we were together for 4 years. And like @ScorpiousMalfoy, I'm glad we had the option of breaking it off. We (or at least I) changed a lot in that 4 years. By the end it was clear that we weren't meant to "do life" together forever. The split was amicable and he was nice enough to give me my heart pieces back. All was well.

[JMO]

14 hours ago, SassyPants said:

I think there might be more than 1 mustard cardigan.

No there's not. It's the Sisterhood of the Traveling Cardigan.  It just gets passed around. 

[FlamingFundie]

Hopping in an RV and just taking to the road sounds awesome to me and totally like something Joy would love. When my first marriage was finishing up (it was a couple months before the divorce was final), I took a week off work, packed up my best dog friend and a duffle of clothing/nonperishable food, and just started driving west on I70 to see how far I could go. It was scary and nerve-wracking (I am very much a Type A, planner, creature of habit and routine) but I did it and needed to do it to rediscover myself. I survived an almost-direct hit tornado in a hotel lobby (they were booked on rooms and they let me and my dog sit in the lobby), I snuck my 100lb dog into two separate hotels, slept in a McDonalds parking lot once, and got a new tattoo. It was literally the most freeing time in my entire life. Current husband and I have a dream to travel the country on a multi-month road trip in the next few years once our daughter is a bit older and can appreciate the wonders, as well as to celebrate that we will be officially debt free.

[SuhrEnity]

16 hours ago, Jug Band Baby said:

  I think they are a good example of why the fundy model of courtship that prevents people from getting to know much more about each other than how often they pray is so bad. 

Exactly and they would never leave each other because that would essentially be 2 failed marriages out of their courtship model (I say 2 because I will always consider Josh a failure in the marriage aspect. Yes Anna kept him but we all know that was for show). So basically that is 2 severely unhappy couples in the lot.

[itqitc]

I was 18 when I lost the big V freshman year of college.  He and I are still friends 20 years later but I could never be married to him, out life goals are just so different.  

When I was 15 my mom told me to test it out before I marry it, best advice I have ever received! 

[SuhrEnity]

Does Ashley think she said God and Christ enough in that post??????? Holy Rufus!

[catlady]

1 hour ago, VineHeart137 said:

 he was nice enough to give me my heart pieces back. All was well.

nicely put!  apparently most of us managed to get ours back.  i guess it never occurred to the Duggars and their ilk to ask that they be returned.  you've proven that it can happen!

[LawsonBatesEgo]

20 hours ago, Letizia said:

I think Derrick simply doesn't like Jill and Jill doesn't comprehend how she is unlikable. I bet she has never once noticed how often her own sisters look like they could throttle her. Unfortunately Derrick is an immature ass so this results in a pattern where he hurts her feelings and the she ups her Jillness in an attempt to please him but it further annoys him and that cycle just repeats and repeats. I don't think those two even have lust holding them together at this point. 

And this is where Jill's upbringing has done her a disservice. Plently of people are annoying tattletales/brownnosers/naggers/etc as children/teenagers, but when they get negative feedback from their peers, or realise that their classmates/work colleagues/teammates/friends/siblings etc find them annoying when they do X or Y or Z or even just plain dislikable, they learn to adapt their behaviour and change certain things. Jill never got the opportunity to get that feedback from people because of the 'keep sweet' crap, and her very limited opportunities to socialise with non family. Her marriage is the first time she's really been allowed to interact with a person alone (!!) and Dewreck seems to find her annoying, and it's probably the first time Jilly Muffin has had to deal with someone openly finding her/things she does annoying. She has never been forced to learn how to deal with that and how to adjst her behaviour. Once again, this cult has completely stunted someone's emotional development. 

Jill is someone I'd detest if i had to deal with her IRL, but I do feel a little sorry for her. Her upbringing has landed her in what I suspect is a miserable marriage, and I think her 'coping mechanism' for being raised in the cult was being 'the best damn fundie princess I can be' and 'Daddy's favourite', which must make it even harder. She did everything 'right', and it still didn't work out....

[LawsonBatesEgo]

I hope the reason a lot of these couples have 'joint' accounts is because they use a joint account publicly to 'fulfil their obligations' to promise the show or whatever and have their own private accounts behind the scenes. 

[Pasta]

I don't get the feeling that dilldick doesn't like his wife. I think he's getting everything he wants. He married fundie royalty and is on tv.  He doesn't work and can do whatever he pleases.  Plus,  he gets pleased whenever he wants because his wife was brought up to keep her husband happy. We don't like him.  We don't support anything he believes in but his wife does. She believes him and in him. 

[eleanora3]

2 minutes ago, Pasta said:

I don't get the feeling that dilldick doesn't like his wife. I think he's getting everything he wants. He married fundie royalty and is on tv.  He doesn't work and can do whatever he pleases.  Plus,  he gets pleased whenever he wants because his wife was brought up to keep her husband happy. We don't like him.  We don't support anything he believes in but his wife does. She believes him and in him. 

Ugh this is so sad to me because...I really did like him in the beginning

[HereticHick]

16 hours ago, Audrey2 said:

I wonder who will get to keep the mustard sweater, either after moving out or being the last one left.

I'd like to see the mustard cardigan casually draped over the shoulders of our Lord and Savior, Rufus

[Bethella]

1 minute ago, HereticHick said:

I'd like to see the mustard cardigan casually draped over the shoulders of our Lord and Savior, Rufus

I might pay money to see that

[RosyDaisy]

Ashley looks gorgeous in those pics. Is that Josiah between Ashley and Anastasia?

[VelociRapture]

24 minutes ago, eleanora3 said:

Ugh this is so sad to me because...I really did like him in the beginning

Don't feel bad. A lot of us did. We had high hopes because he presented himself as a halfway decent guy.

Thats why I'm being so cautious about these new husbands (and Kendra.) You just can't tell what's in someone's heart until they show it to you.

8 minutes ago, RosyDaisy said:

Ashley looks gorgeous in those pics. Is that Josiah between Ashley and Anastasia?

I believe so, but I had trouble trying to tell.