AMY DUGGAR ENGAGED - scratch that - MARRIED

[ClaraOswin]

Has Amy had a tracheotomy or something before? I noticed a very round scar so I just wondered if anyone knew.

You can really see it well here - http://www.people.com/article/anna-dugg ... ng-scandal

[RosyDaisy]

I wear my wedding ring at the bottom of my ring finger with my engagement ring on top. My wedding ring is an emerald eternity band, and my engagement ring is a round modest emerald set in a gold band. I have nothing against diamonds. My husband just knew that my favorite color is green. So what better than an an emerald. I love it, and I love him.

[Maggie Mae]

Not related to your post but why do some people on FJ always have to hate on diamond rings? Yeah i wear a big diamond ring and have a eternity ring as my wedding ring. Yes it cost a lot of money. So what? My husband earns enough money that we didn't have to scrimp for it, it makes me very very happy and I don't wear any other jewellery (well a mummy teething necklace for my baby if that counts?!)

And people who say we should have donated the money to charity...yeah why don't we just live in a tiny apartment and wear hand me downs & donate all our money to charity? Because we are normal people and like nice things.

Nice humble brag there about your husband's money.

I don't think anyone has "hatred"on diamonds in this thread.

The marketing of the Diamond industry, plus the mark ups you paid is well known and thus not worth me repeating.

Beyond the blood diamond and marketing, I'm not a fan of getting the same stone in the same tiffany setting as thousands of others. I'd rather have a ring with some character. Or earrings or a necklace. Why are we, as Americans, so stuck on the engagement ring?

Although the practical aspects of diamonds are nice in regards to jewellery, I just think it's wasteful. I'd rather use the money to buy another house or a boat or take a vacation.

Also it's so patriarchal. Why only the woman? Why not exchange plain rings like the Swedish? Why is it expected that a man will put down a ton of money so his fiancee can wear a ring that signifies she's "taken"?

Weird, I never realized I had such string thoughts on diamond engagement rings.

[CyborgKin]

The Duggar girls I see in the pics (Jessa, Jana and Jill) look very much underdressed and, in general, "underdone" (is that a word in English?). Not only the dresses, but the hair and make up. This especially surprises me in Jana, who used to look so polished. It is as if they really did not want to go there, they had to be there but did not enjoy, have fun or share the happiness of the moment at all. Kind of a wedding strike.

Or maybe they were not at all in the mood, which would be understandable.

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Yes, "underdone" is a word in English, sometimes having a similar meaning to "undercooked". Or more colloquially to mean that preparation was not completed. So it's a perfectly appropriate word for what you're using it for :D

[singsingsing]

A couple of my friends just got engaged, and they did matching engagement rings, I believe bands with no stones. I thought it was a really cool idea and might do something similar if I ever get engaged.

[Shadoewolf]

Back when I was a kid I loved diamonds. But that was coming from a very poor child who could only dream. Now as an adult I see the whole tradition of 3 months salary as stupid and excessive. I don't need to be materialistic and tell the person I'm supposed to love most in the world and want to spend my life with that I better be worth that much money. I don't know about donate to charity, I think I'd rather use that money as a down payment on our first house together! My "engagement" ring is simple, a square lab created sapphire with two small diamonds on the side. My husband knows I absolutely love the color blue and instead of spending a fortune on my ring, he went with my personality (showing, I believe so much more that he loves and understands me). My husbands current ring is tungsten (hes a chef and has gone through countless gold and white gold rings due to dings and dents from encounters with knives and cast iron) with a dragon inlaid design. He's had it....2 years now. Not ONE scratch. Price? $18.99 on Ebay.

I honestly don't get celebs and materialistic people. I'm no pauper but I don't need to spend in excess when I find perfectly wonderful "nice things" on clearance, Ebay or at the thrift store. If you're willing to spend the time and effort you can get designer stuff. My kids wear Justice and Aeropostale and stuff.....picked up for $1.50 with the tags still on it, from the thrift store!!! Or gently used on Ebay. I hit Once Upon a Child for all my baby gear when my kids were small and I either donate their stuff or sell it back on consignment. I don't need to spend $1,000 on a purse just for a tiny little silver plaque that says "Coach". I'd rather sack that to the family vacation we want to take, or my teenage daughter's trip overseas next summer to work on an elephant conservation program. I was looking through Teen Vogue the other day and was DISGUSTED. $400 for a scarf?? $880 for a denim jacket??! Um NO. My daughters wanted to cheer me up so they bought me a new purse from WALMART, on CLEARANCE, for $2. I've had at least 6 people ask if its a Vera Bradley. I just smile. But hey, you want to waste your money just to keep up with the Kartrashians, more power to you I guess.

Going back to reading the middle of the thread now!

[Milly-Molly-Mandy]

Sorry if I sounded defensive, I'd had a rough week with a sick baby & got a bit worked up at the thought of people judging me and my ring. Silly now I think of it :)

[YoshiCat]

I gave Anna a pass on the apparel critique, because God knows, that poor woman has enough to deal with, though she, too, was underdressed. Props to her for showing up! I guess since her daughter was one of the flower girls/bell ringers she felt compelled to be there, but you could tell by her face, she would have rather been anywhere else. I just wish Anna would break free, take her kids and get the hell away from Arkansas, the Duggars and the rest of the crazies. Run Anna, run! Your children's well-being depends on it!

I'm assuming she has fundie-approved cocktail attire since she used to go to parties in D.C. with Josh. But she just had a baby, she probably hasn't lost the baby weight yet and can't fit in any of her fancy dresses (not body snarking, just saying). I'm sure she didn't feel like shopping and buying something new for the wedding.

I think she was probably there because her daughter was in the wedding but just didn't care that much about what she was wearing.

[YoshiCat]

I was always told wedding band on first, closest to your heart, then engagement ring on top of it. lol Do people elsewhere have diamond engagement rings they don't wear!?

I love my rings, I would be sad if I couldn't wear my engagement ring. What's the point of a ring that you only wear for a few months? My engagement ring is a princess cut diamond with

baguettes, my wedding band has diamonds and sapphires. I wanted the sapphires because I got married on the beach and they remind me of the ocean. I truly have to idea how much they cost because they were a gift from my husband.

I don't wear them around the house but always put them on when I'm going out.

I put my engagement ring on my right hand for the wedding ceremony. After my wedding band was on, I switched my engagement ring to my left hand. I knew people would want to see the wedding band and I wanted the two rings together.

[YoshiCat]

The way I read it, the send off wasn't about the Duggars, it was more to say "It's party time now!" after all or most of the traditional wedding reception activities (first dances, toasts, etc) were done. Ive never experienced it so explicit, but whatever, it was their wedding!

This seems so sad, to leave a wedding just when the fun is starting. Are they afraid they might see that people can drink and/or dance without spontaneously ripping of their clothes and having sex right there?

I remember at one of the Duggar weddings, I think it was Josh and Anna, I remember Jim Bob talking about the reception and he said "no drinking, no dancing, just a real good time." He made it sound like drinking and dancing were these terrible things that no one enjoys. But none of that at a Duggar wedding, they're going to have a good time!!

I've been to two no drinking/no dancing weddings and they were killer boring---and I was a kid. At one of them, the father of the bride kept whipping out a flask and drinking from it. I went to a lot of weddings as a kid and except for those two, always had a great time.

[YoshiCat]

Here it is becoming out of fashion to get engaged, but normally when you do (i did it)

But in recent years jewellers try to make engagement rings with diamonds the new fashon. (Don't know how many they sell, as few people here get officially engaged before they marry.)

This is kind of a pet peeve, but how do you plan a wedding and get married if you're not engaged? Engaged means "agreed to be married" not "bought a certain piece of jewelry." There's no "official" or "unoffical" engaged. You're either agreed to be married or your not.

I don't mean to sound bitchy, but this is a sore spot with me. My engagement ring took quite a while to arrive. I designed it and it was being custom made and there were some issues along the way. I would use the word "fiancé" and I would see people glance at my left hand, then give me a sad/condescending look as if to say "oh, you poor dear, you think he's going to marry you but he's not." Meanwhile we were wedding planning, reception location booked, going to cake tastings, etc.

[Fundie Bunny]

This is kind of a pet peeve, but how do you plan a wedding and get married if you're not engaged? Engaged means "agreed to be married" not "bought a certain piece of jewelry." There's no "official" or "unoffical" engaged. You're either agreed to be married or your not.

I don't mean to sound bitchy, but this is a sore spot with me. My engagement ring took quite a while to arrive. I designed it and it was being custom made and there were some issues along the way. I would use the word "fiancé" and I would see people glance at my left hand, then give me a sad/condescending look as if to say "oh, you poor dear, you think he's going to marry you but he's not." Meanwhile we were wedding planning, reception location booked, going to cake tastings, etc.

There is a big difference betweena ''Look we are engaged and will get married sometime in the future!!!!!'' that can last for years (or at least the american people i know that say it isn't out of the norm) and the ''hey, we are getting married this day at this time'' wich more common here

I think i have explained it like shit. :doh:

[MakeItSo]

Has Amy had a tracheotomy or something before? I noticed a very round scar so I just wondered if anyone knew.

You can really see it well here - http://www.people.com/article/anna-dugg ... ng-scandal

interesting. I had assumed it was a birth mark. :think:

[Mothership]

Wow, you go away on vacation and FJ explodes with new threads and posts!

Adding my two cents: I liked Amy's dress--simple works for her.

None of the J'girls looked like they wanted to be there. Of course, it wasn't about them, so that could explain Jessa's pout and Jill was probably just looking for an excuse to fly back to Arkansas.

Poor Anna -- I kept looking for signs of leg irons in the pics. She certainly looks like she's been held captive. THe family would have done her a favor to take Mack to the wedding, take lots of pics and let her stay in seclusion. BUt, they were probably afraid she'd talk to her brother if she wasn't being watched.

Couldn't ever get a good head count in the pics, but it doesn't look like the whole gang was there. I didn't see either Joy or Jinger. I doubt they were bridesmaids (I think it would have said in the write up) and the dresses weren't modest enough (NIKE!) for them.

Thanks FJ for making it easy to catch up!

[CorruptionInc.]

Clearly Jill Dickhead hard at work in the mission field... another trip home!

So how many days has she actually done mission work for? 2?

The Duggar clan were so underdressed as usual...

Amy - not the nicest dresses but if she's happy then that is all that matters.

[Smchugh1304]

Mother of the Bride

No sign of pregnancy in this one. Boobs look more controlled too :lol:

[Rescinded and Mended]

Why'd she put the reception dress on backwards? :evil-eye: That thing seriously looks like a deranged seamstress got ahold of it and stitched the pattern backwards.

[MatthewDuggar]

Why oh why do so many of those "mother of the bride" dresses come with the frumpy jacket??

[tcach]

To contain the batwings. (I know you were kidding but my niece who selected a strapless wedding gown that was far, far, far too tight for her added a bolero jacket for her church ceremony. At the reception full back boobage was on display.) I felt really sorry for her since she looked so uncomfortable. I can only imagine that when she selected the dress she planned to drop 40 to 50 lb.)

[Bunnybutts]

I actually think Deanna looks beautiful in her dress! I'm more interested in what the girl in the pic with Amy is wearing. [emoji52]

[nastyhobbitses]

Why oh why do so many of those "mother of the bride" dresses come with the frumpy jacket??

Because God forbid a woman over 45 show her arms?

[HarleyQuinn]

OMG Jessa's modesty slip. That looks terrible, why not just buy a proper maternity dress? It's not like she isn't going to have 10 more chances to wear it. She can't actually think that looks good?

Amy really went to down on the boob tape, didn't she? The poor Duggar boys probably didn't get to see any of the wedding because they were staring at their shoes the whole time. :lol:

[Rescinded and Mended]

Deanna's really beautiful. This is the first time I've gotten a good look at her. I usually see pics of Amy, but always managed to miss the ones of her parents until now.

[usmcmom]

Was Deanna escorted down the aisle by one of the Duggar boys? Because...again, with the under dressed look on his part. I can't blame him. Most teenage boys are not going to take any pains with their outfits. He was probably told "put on some church clothes," and that's what he did. Still, WHAT is with the wrinkled, scruffy look these Duggars seems to love so much? Jill and Jessa both married wrinkled, scruffy men, IMO and I just don't get it.

[Meme Duggar]

I'm always wondering where all the FJ fashionistas live. Maybe it's a smaller town Midwest thing, or maybe it's a casual type of people thing, but honestly the Duggars don't look too underdressed to me. The fact that the men are wearing ties is actually more "dressy" than many men get in the weddings I've been to. Many wear button downs without ties or polo shirts. The dress of women vary greatly but I suppose most would fit under the label of easy to wear dresses, similar to Jessa's, maybe or slacks with a blouse. I also think Amy's dresses are pretty and the fit isn't perfect, but I think she looks very nice in them, and I would never say she looks like shit, just not perfect with 6 different fittings like I guess is the norm for weddings? I bought my dress off a rack at a fundraiser where all proceeds went to pay for family trips for breast cancer patients. My grandma died of breast cancer so I guess it was my way of honoring her. I would have been snarked right off the board, bc Amy looks 100 times better in her dress than I did.