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Why oh why do so many of those "mother of the bride" dresses come with the frumpy jacket??

:embarrassed: Hanging head in shame :embarrassed:

I went with the jacket for my daughter's recent wedding; although I tried desperately to avoid "the look." I was surprised at how many mother of the bride dresses were sleeveless and I just don't feel I have the arms to pull that off. My jacket did close with a nice blingy button and the whole outfit was extremely comfortable. Plus, it had a little sparkle and it did photograph beautifully, if I do say so myself. I actually had another dress chosen first but realized I would regret it later because it was a little form fitting. I was afraid I'd look at photos later and think "Oh dear...what did I do?" Turns out, I lost at least 15 pounds before the wedding and I probably could have pulled off the "Plan A" dress after all. Oh well, Plan B worked well and I found better shoes to match it anyway.

But I totally get what you're saying - it is the standard Mother-of-the-Bride "uniform" and can look a little trite.

Edited to add: I think Amy's mother looks lovely. I envy women who have great hair like that AND can pull off that color. I'll say it again; that color makes my skin look like boiled chicken breast and it's just not fair :cry: :cry:

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Was Deanna escorted down the aisle by one of the Duggar boys? Because...again, with the under dressed look on his part. I can't blame him. Most teenage boys are not going to take any pains with their outfits. He was probably told "put on some church clothes," and that's what he did. Still, WHAT is with the wrinkled, scruffy look these Duggars seems to love so much? Jill and Jessa both married wrinkled, scruffy men, IMO and I just don't get it.

I'm guessing the J'Slaves picked out the howlers' outfits. Michelle posted on FB that that's what they did for the Bates wedding, so it's probably what they always do. They need to reevaluate their pinterest boards, imo. https://www.facebook.com/duggarfamilyof ... =1&theater

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i'd meant to comment on this before now but got distracted...lol

on the subject on engagement rings, i'm very...non-traditional. hell, non-traditional describes me in most all situations lol. anyway, fiance told me to pick whatever ring i wanted and he would get it. i'm sure he was probably expecting a diamond or something like that. i did not choose a diamond lol. i

actually ended up going with this (see second picture since tapa does not want to upload these properly):

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and this is what i'll have for a wedding ring (no wearing them on the same finger for me lol) (see picture above):

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i think these fit "me" much better than a diamond. i think it's a bit silly that that's the standard. i mean, if a woman likes diamonds, that's one thing. but i don't think she should be pressured into accepting a standard that she may not want.

i was quite pleased when kate middleton used diana's sapphire ring as her engagement ring. i think especially then i've noticed a trend of non-traditional, non-diamond engagement rings (i'm sure de beers was none too happy about that lol).

i'm just all for what makes you happy. if it is a diamond, then awesome. if it's not, then rock whatever you want.

edit: stupid tapa is fucking with me with the pictures. they are uploading reversed, no matter what i do, so my engagement ring is under my wedding ring and vice versa. grrrrrr.

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I think Deanna looks very pretty and that dress suits her. That mother of the bride outfit would look much better on Michelle than the ones she chose to wear to her daughters' weddings.

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:embarrassed: Hanging head in shame :embarrassed:

I went with the jacket for my daughter's recent wedding; although I tried desperately to avoid "the look." I was surprised at how many mother of the bride dresses were sleeveless and I just don't feel I have the arms to pull that off. My jacket did close with a nice blingy button and the whole outfit was extremely comfortable. Plus, it had a little sparkle and it did photograph beautifully, if I do say so myself. I actually had another dress chosen first but realized I would regret it later because it was a little form fitting. I was afraid I'd look at photos later and think "Oh dear...what did I do?" Turns out, I lost at least 15 pounds before the wedding and I probably could have pulled off the "Plan A" dress after all. Oh well, Plan B worked well and I found better shoes to match it anyway.

But I totally get what you're saying - it is the standard Mother-of-the-Bride "uniform" and can look a little trite.

Edited to add: I think Amy's mother looks lovely. I envy women who have great hair like that AND can pull off that color. I'll say it again; that color makes my skin look like boiled chicken breast and it's just not fair :cry: :cry:

I'm sure you looked beautiful! I'm not saying Deanna looks bad it's just that those jackets are such a uniform as you put it. I can understand the self-consciousness about arms, but usually they look just fine. As long as one feels good in what they wear, that's the important thing.

But yeah the young lady in black hot pants under the I dream of Jeanie skirt - I wonder what JB thought about that! I actually kinda like it.

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Few more thoughts:

- Dear Michelle. Please look at what Deanna wore to her daughter's wedding; THAT is an appropriate, flattering, and beautiful Mother of the Bride dress!

(Side note: Jacket or no jacket, Deanna would have looked beautiful either way.)

- Anna, Jessa, Jill, Jana, and the rest of the Duggar girls look beautiful. I agree with posters stating that they don't really look under dressed to me. If they were members of the Wedding Party then maybe, but just as guests? I think they look fine.

- Love both of Amy's dresses and I'm glad she made choices that she liked.

- Also, anyone who puts Pixie Sticks on the menu at their wedding knowing there will be a ton of kids there is my new favorite person! I keep giggling as I picture the little Duggars running like crazy all over the place because they had so much sugar. :lol:

Aw, I like the yellow cardigan. It's sunny and happy. :lol: But yeah, Jill LOVES the yellow cardigan! Hey, I'm all about cardigans myself...

I'm so glad to see someone else on here who doesn't want to burn that cardigan! I have one similar to it and I love it! :lol:

I'm always wondering where all the FJ fashionistas live. Maybe it's a smaller town Midwest thing, or maybe it's a casual type of people thing, but honestly the Duggars don't look too underdressed to me. The fact that the men are wearing ties is actually more "dressy" than many men get in the weddings I've been to. Many wear button downs without ties or polo shirts. The dress of women very greatly but I suppose most would fit under the label of easy to wear dresses, similar to Jessa's, maybe or slacks with a blouse. I also think Amy's dresses are pretty and the fit isn't perfect, but I think she looks very nice in them, and I would never say she looks like shit, just not perfect with 6 different fittings like I guess is the norm for weddings? I bought my dress off a rack at a fundraiser where all proceeds went to pay for family trips for breast cancer patients. My grandma died of breast cancer so I guess it was my way of honoring her. I would have been snarled right off the board, bc Amy looks 100 times better in her dress than I did.

I think a lot of people base their opinions off what they know. For instance, I live on the East coast and around here we tend to throw fancier weddings then what you see in Fundiedom - that means, nighttime receptions, semi-formal to formal attire, drinking, dancing, etc. There are times that it's tough for me to keep in mind that there are different standards of acceptable wedding attire across the country.

If the Duggars showed up to a wedding here wearing their usual wedding attire they would look kind of out of place. At the weddings they usually attend though they look fine to me - except Michelle. She almost always manages to find a way to ruin a perfectly good outfit. Her dress for Amy's wedding was actually relatively nice - the color was a bit of an odd choice, but it's totally possible that Amy gave the dress the ok ahead of time.

And fittings are now the absolute bane of my existence. I had my first fitting the other weekend (for the hem and bustle) and now all I can think about is being worried it won't fit right on the actual wedding day. :lol:

And I think you made a really lovely choice in getting your wedding dress the way you did. All that really matters is you bought something that was special to you for some reason - and I'm sure you looked beautiful too! :)

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i'd meant to comment on this before now but got distracted...lol

on the subject on engagement rings, i'm very...non-traditional. hell, non-traditional describes me in most all situations lol. anyway, fiance told me to pick whatever ring i wanted and he would get it. i'm sure he was probably expecting a diamond or something like that. i did not choose a diamond lol. i

actually ended up going with this (see second picture since tapa does not want to upload these properly):

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i think these fit "me" much better than a diamond. i think it's a bit silly that that's the standard. i mean, if a woman likes diamonds, that's one thing. but i don't think she should be pressured into accepting a standard that she may not want.

i was quite pleased when kate middleton used diana's sapphire ring as her engagement ring. i think especially then i've noticed a trend of non-traditional, non-diamond engagement rings (i'm sure de beers was none too happy about that lol).

i'm just all for what makes you happy. if it is a diamond, then awesome. if it's not, then rock whatever you want.

edit: stupid tapa is fucking with me with the pictures. they are uploading reversed, no matter what i do, so my engagement ring is under my wedding ring and vice versa. grrrrrr.

I love your rings! I'm all for having a ring you hope to wear for the rest of your life be about *you*, your personality and taste rather than going with the conventional. My daughter's engagement ring is a lovely pearl. It suits her perfectly. Sadly, she gets a lot of comments on not having a 'nice diamond' like everyone else. She and my future SIL usually just reply there is nothing about Katie that is like 'everyone else.

Concerning frumpy MOB dresses: I've been searching high and low to find a dress that isn't worthy of a C list red carpet affair or a frumpy satin sheen form-fitting yuck inducer, with the aforementioned jacket. Not looking good so far. :pull-hair:

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I don't wear my rings all the time. I can't tell ya the last time I wore mine.

I'm in remission for a condition that causes unpredictable swelling of the joints, especially in those of the hands and feet.

After having to have both my engagement and wedding bands cut off in the ER (platinum, so pretty expensive to repair), I wear or don't on a daily basis. I always remove them at night, and only put them back on in the morning 'if' they slip on very easily; with 'slip' being the key word.

I never miss wearing them, but I am very aware when they're on. I don't like feeling extra stuff (I hate turtlenecks, elastic ANYwhere, etc.)

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Matthew Duggar wrote: I'm sure you looked beautiful! I'm not saying Deanna looks bad it's just that those jackets are such a uniform as you put it. I can understand the self-consciousness about arms, but usually they look just fine. As long as one feels good in what they wear, that's the important thing.

But yeah the young lady in black hot pants under the I dream of Jeanie skirt - I wonder what JB thought about that! I actually kinda like it.

I get it. I wasn't picking up any snark vibe toward Amy's mom from you. Just adding my opinion lest anybody think *I* was snarking on her outfit.

If only I was a seamstress....I had some really great ideas for mother-of-the-bride dresses. Sadly, none of them actually existed.

I think Amy's wedding was probably very nice but it looks like it was one big NIKE! moment for the Duggar clan, which makes it even nicer, in my opinion. Of course, maybe it taught them something. There were lots of legs and breasts showing and yet it appears not one man lost control of himself and mauled any of the ladies. See, Duggars? Men CAN control themselves around "normal" clothing.

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Saw the FB post about Jessa's wedding pictures and ALL the comments were negative. Along the lines of 'This is Amy's weekend and the attention should be on her'. I really think the Duggars are lost without the TLC PR team to guide them. They just seem to constantly misjudge the public reaction.

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My husband and I have matching steel rings. I rarely take mine off nor does he. They come off when we are giving each other massages, that's about the only time. I wash dishes, garden, paint, etc. and never worry about it. The funny thing is that he has such slendar fingers and I have such big hands we can swap rings (I think mine is half a size smaller.)

We were working on fixing up the house and pinching pennies so I did not want an engagement ring. I do think that couples who can't really afford bling for the woman often get pressured into buying a diamond as "proof" of engagement or true love. Meh. Another ugly side to our consumerist mentality. However I cannot possibly judge anyone wearing one because it is ubiquitous-- it is very, very rare to meet a married woman in the US who doesn't have a diamond engagement ring.

Re Anna: I wonder what sort of pressure she faced from the family to go to the wedding. It would have been kind of Michelle to offer to take Mackynzie along with them so that Anna did not have to have her haunted face splashed all over the web. Unfortunately I think it is much more likely that Michelle and JB gave her a pep talk all about how she needed to face the press and show she still stands united with the family.

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Saw the FB post about Jessa's wedding pictures and ALL the comments were negative. Along the lines of 'This is Amy's weekend and the attention should be on her'. I really think the Duggars are lost without the TLC PR team to guide them. They just seem to constantly misjudge the public reaction.

Maybe Amy's wedding just made her think about hers, so she was letting it out because she thought about it.

OR>...she wanted to show how much better she thinks she looked, who knows.

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I'm always wondering where all the FJ fashionistas live. Maybe it's a smaller town Midwest thing, or maybe it's a casual type of people thing, but honestly the Duggars don't look too underdressed to me. The fact that the men are wearing ties is actually more "dressy" than many men get in the weddings I've been to. Many wear button downs without ties or polo shirts. The dress of women vary greatly but I suppose most would fit under the label of easy to wear dresses, similar to Jessa's, maybe or slacks with a blouse. I also think Amy's dresses are pretty and the fit isn't perfect, but I think she looks very nice in them, and I would never say she looks like shit, just not perfect with 6 different fittings like I guess is the norm for weddings? I bought my dress off a rack at a fundraiser where all proceeds went to pay for family trips for breast cancer patients. My grandma died of breast cancer so I guess it was my way of honoring her. I would have been snarked right off the board, bc Amy looks 100 times better in her dress than I did.

I've been wondering the same thing. I've been to lots of weddings (from super casual with less than 20 guests to formal church wedding) and no one really dresses up that much around here. The last wedding I attended had folks in jeans with "nice" shirts. I've even been to one where people were wearing jeans and camo t-shirts, haha.

I think the Duggars could be a little more dressed up (most of Amy's other wedding guests seemed like they were much more dressed up) but they don't look horribly out of place to me.

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Jessa decided to release 100 wedding pictures today, guess she couldn't handle Amy being the centre of attention.

Maybe we'll get a battle of the fame whores with Amy releasing wedding pictures on Jessa's anniversary?

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Maybe Amy's wedding just made her think about hers, so she was letting it out because she thought about it.

OR>...she wanted to show how much better she thinks she looked, who knows.

I can see Amy's wedding making her remember her own, but she could have gone and looked through her pictures, she didn't need to post them. This family has no class.

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Maybe we'll get a battle of the fame whores with Amy releasing wedding pictures on Jessa's anniversary?

Wow. What a dick move. As if Grandkid #6 in a couple months isn't enough for Jessa. She has to steal Amy's (very faint) thunder? And talk about all her adoptions that are not happening? And give interviews on her spinoff no one cares about? Somebody learned from their daddy.

Sorry Jessa, no one cares. I guess we know who wanted a few more very special episodes. Poor Jessa. No attention, and somebody might have to get a real job.

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Nice humble brag there about your husband's money.

I don't think anyone has "hatred"on diamonds in this thread.

The marketing of the Diamond industry, plus the mark ups you paid is well known and thus not worth me repeating.

Beyond the blood diamond and marketing, I'm not a fan of getting the same stone in the same tiffany setting as thousands of others. I'd rather have a ring with some character. Or earrings or a necklace. Why are we, as Americans, so stuck on the engagement ring?

Although the practical aspects of diamonds are nice in regards to jewellery, I just think it's wasteful. I'd rather use the money to buy another house or a boat or take a vacation.

Also it's so patriarchal. Why only the woman? Why not exchange plain rings like the Swedish? Why is it expected that a man will put down a ton of money so his fiancee can wear a ring that signifies she's "taken"?

Weird, I never realized I had such string thoughts on diamond engagement rings.

Dang...I wish my ring value were the equivalent of buying a house or boat! Haha!

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However I cannot possibly judge anyone wearing one because it is ubiquitous-- it is very, very rare to meet a married woman in the US who doesn't have a diamond engagement ring.

I don't know how we got sidetracked on this, but it's not true. Lots, and I mean LOTS, of women in their 20s and 30s have non-traditional rings, or even no engagement ring at all.

Maybe if you're tits deep in Pinterest, like Amy, or plan to sell a set of engagement photos to People. But I can't imagine anyone not thinking you are engaged because you don't have a diamond. That's insane.

Maybe I just live in a big city with a lot of diverse people, so I think it's not fair to act like all Americans are materialistic diamond wearers flaunting expensive rings on Instagram. The richest woman I know wears a tiny gold band.

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Back when I was a kid I loved diamonds. But that was coming from a very poor child who could only dream. Now as an adult I see the whole tradition of 3 months salary as stupid and excessive. I don't need to be materialistic and tell the person I'm supposed to love most in the world and want to spend my life with that I better be worth that much money. I don't know about donate to charity, I think I'd rather use that money as a down payment on our first house together! My "engagement" ring is simple, a square lab created sapphire with two small diamonds on the side. My husband knows I absolutely love the color blue and instead of spending a fortune on my ring, he went with my personality (showing, I believe so much more that he loves and understands me). My husbands current ring is tungsten (hes a chef and has gone through countless gold and white gold rings due to dings and dents from encounters with knives and cast iron) with a dragon inlaid design. He's had it....2 years now. Not ONE scratch. Price? $18.99 on Ebay.

I honestly don't get celebs and materialistic people. I'm no pauper but I don't need to spend in excess when I find perfectly wonderful "nice things" on clearance, Ebay or at the thrift store. If you're willing to spend the time and effort you can get designer stuff. My kids wear Justice and Aeropostale and stuff.....picked up for $1.50 with the tags still on it, from the thrift store!!! Or gently used on Ebay. I hit Once Upon a Child for all my baby gear when my kids were small and I either donate their stuff or sell it back on consignment. I don't need to spend $1,000 on a purse just for a tiny little silver plaque that says "Coach". I'd rather sack that to the family vacation we want to take, or my teenage daughter's trip overseas next summer to work on an elephant conservation program. I was looking through Teen Vogue the other day and was DISGUSTED. $400 for a scarf?? $880 for a denim jacket??! Um NO. My daughters wanted to cheer me up so they bought me a new purse from WALMART, on CLEARANCE, for $2. I've had at least 6 people ask if its a Vera Bradley. I just smile. But hey, you want to waste your money just to keep up with the Kartrashians, more power to you I guess.

Going back to reading the middle of the thread now!

It's all about priorities and preference. There are plenty of things I spend "a lot" of money on that others wouldn't. And vice versa. I would never spend hundreds on a purse or pants. But I would spent a decent amount on comfortable shoes. I also spend thousands on a vacation but wouldn't spend thousands on a piece of jewelry.

That said...I don't really care what others spend their money on unless it's MY money. But I do like to quietly judge them in my head anyway. :) Of course, they are welcome to do the same to me.

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The only one who I think looks kind of under dressed is Jill and I think it's just the large cardigan. Had it been a better fitting one, I think it would have been okay. I don't mind a larger cardigan for fall/winter and whatnot. But for a warm weather wedding it just seems odd.

I am in the Midwest and many people wear more "casual" outfits to weddings. Dresses like Jessa's. Skirts and tops like Anna's outfit. Men wear button down shirts without ties and khaki pants. Other people were nicer dresses and some men wear suits. It's fairly diverse. Though I don't really see many women in formal gowns or anything. That just isn't what people in my "circle" do, I guess.

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Dang...I wish my ring value were the equivalent of buying a house or boat! Haha!

What about one of those itty bitty 200 square feet houses? Does that count? I think my ring may have been more than one of those but I don't know because I don't know how much those tiny houses are.

I told my husband I wanted a ring from Tiffany's and he just rolled his eyes at me (once he figured out wtf Tiffany's is [emoji38] ).

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