List of Unmarried Fundies

[teachergirl]

Bria Crawford is courting......this is according to Kelly's webpage. Bria is all of 20 I think so we should expect a marriage and baby by the time she is 21. ugh.

[JemimaPuddle-Duck]

Jasmine Baucham is engaged.....announced today on Voddie's Facebook fan page

[Geechee Girl]

Jasmine Baucham is engaged.....announced today on Voddie's Facebook fan page

Wow! I was worried she'd get Sarah'd. Good for her! Y'all know anything about the fella?

[Kira]

Wow! I was worried she'd get Sarah'd. Good for her! Y'all know anything about the fella?

Agree! I also thought Bria Crawford would get Sarah'd. I've been suprised by a few courtships this year.

[JemimaPuddle-Duck]

Wow! I was worried she'd get Sarah'd. Good for her! Y'all know anything about the fella?

Not a thing. Voddie was here in late fall of 2012 and said that she was in a courtship and if things went the way he thought they would, he expected her to be engaged by the following spring. Since then she has written some stuff about heartbreak, etc., so I guess that didn't work out. I'm so glad to see this news! Don't know a thing about the guy, but he's very cute.

[DomWackTroll]

He looks like a real catch, but let's remember that he had to pass Voddie's grueling religious/political examination. Well, at least he's kind of hot (in a nerdy way).

[Marian the Librarian]

I am stunned that Voddie is letting Jasmine go.

She's another Botkin-approved "Return of the Daughters" SAHD. Wonder if/when they'll break radio silence to kvell about this one??

[ILoveJellybeans]

I am stunned that Voddie is letting Jasmine go.

She's another Botkin-approved "Return of the Daughters" SAHD. Wonder if/when they'll break radio silence to kvell about this one??

And another one in a relationship. While the Botkins aren't.

[Talitha Cumi]

Not a thing. Voddie was here in late fall of 2012 and said that she was in a courtship and if things went the way he thought they would, he expected her to be engaged by the following spring. Since then she has written some stuff about heartbreak, etc., so I guess that didn't work out. I'm so glad to see this news! Don't know a thing about the guy, but he's very cute.

ARGH OKAY. This whole "courtship protects your heart" thing makes me crazy, because it doesn't. How many courtships have we seen fail? How many times is it described as heartbreaking? Courtship endangers your heart! I can tell you I was not heartbroken when I broke up with a couple of my boyfriends. (One, yes, but i got over it.) Not only do the courting couple have to go through the loss of their intended spouse, they have to go through the self-doubt that somehow they fucked up courtship; that if they'd trusted God or whatevs they would have been spared the pain.

I just hate it. I hate it a lot.

[ILoveJellybeans]

Also its better to break up with someone after a few months when you are dating, than when you are courting. Courting may slow down the physical kind of thing, by changing the order you hold hands, hug, kiss, have sex and get married, but it speeds up commitment and emotions far too fast. Breaking up with someone you have dated for 6 months is something that might make you sad, but you will get over it. Breaking up with someone you courted for 6 months is the equivalent of breaking up a five year relationship, you might even be engaged and planning your wedding, but even if you technically didn't give/get an engagement ring, you were still assuming you would be married in about a year.

Courting is like getting engaged on the first date, it just moves things too fast.

[JHeathen]

Having finally read this whole thread and followed a bunch of links, I have to say that I am just floored by the number of grammatical and spelling errors in the blogs of the fundies. :twisted:

That is all. :lol:

[Jana814]

Courting is like getting engaged on the first date, it just moves things too fast.

Agree!! Also soo many of these Fundie girls don't realize that they have a choice, they t told that courting is the only way.

[Kira]

When this list was started most Free Jingerites didn't expect there would be many courtship announcements. Surprisingly, there could be 15+ fundie weddings in 2014. This years "best and worst fundie weddings" thread will be good :| .

[nokidsmom]

ARGH OKAY. This whole "courtship protects your heart" thing makes me crazy, because it doesn't. How many courtships have we seen fail? How many times is it described as heartbreaking? Courtship endangers your heart! I can tell you I was not heartbroken when I broke up with a couple of my boyfriends. (One, yes, but i got over it.) Not only do the courting couple have to go through the loss of their intended spouse, they have to go through the self-doubt that somehow they fucked up courtship; that if they'd trusted God or whatevs they would have been spared the pain.

I just hate it. I hate it a lot.

Yeah, I never thought it made any sense. The end of a courtship affects not just the couple but their families and even church community whose expectations have been upped about the courtship as well. In dating, a breakup doesn't send that kind of reverberations.

There's that whole "accountability" thing which puts the courtship under a microscope and everybody knows everything unlike dating which actually makes for more privacy.

[JHeathen]

Please go ahead and delete if irrelevant...

I know they are not a "prominent" fundie family, but it just occurred to me that, sadly, one of my local farm families' daughters has got to be at least 24 years old, this year. And she still lives at home. :(

Sweet Morgan takes care of a lot of the ordering organization & emails for the family business.

fullquiverfarm.com

click "Newsletter" for their 2006 newsletter, in which oldest child Morgan was 16.

They are not big on updating the website, but they are hard workers, devoted to natural farming, and they're super-nice people.

The dad, Scott, used to be a computer guy making plenty of money before they decided to take the family into farm life in 2003-4. We lived close by, but we moved about 3 yrs ago. The girls no longer really wear those flowered dresses and frumpers, but do usually wear long skirts. One of the daughters has started getting into photography in the past year or two...lots of her cow photos on their Facebook page. :D Morgan writes a Farmer's Daughter essay sometimes for the farm newsletter or Facebook, but it's mostly talk of what's going on around the farm.

Yeah, so 24 was probably the most fun year of my single life. Plenty of dating, plenty of drinking good beer after work with my friends, using my own money. And this girl is home with her parents and eight siblings. :(

[singsingsing]

Honestly, some people do not find the idea of dating a lot and drinking a lot of beer appealing. They would really truly rather be at home sewing dresses and helping out with their younger siblings. That's not a bad thing, if it's what they really want. People have different interests and personalities. It's like some people can't fathom that not every 20-something would enjoy partying and serial dating.

[JHeathen]

I didn't say anything about partying, (?) but yes, I cannot imagine that someone would NOT want their freedom and their own nice quiet apartment, sans siblings, at that age.

[uber frau]

I have a (Christian but not fundie) friend who bought her own apartment at that age. She had a really good job and it was just as the local property market really started to take off. I think she lived in it for a grand total of a month before she realised she was lonely as hell and moved right back home again (and leased her apartment through an agency that specialises in short term leases and made an absolute killing.)

The point is though, she got to choose. Her family is very close but, like most normal parents, her's set her up to be able to make her own choices. They didn't shackle her with a lousy education or a suffocating worldview to ensure that she had to conform to their ideal.

[fundiefan]

Please go ahead and delete if irrelevant...

I know they are not a "prominent" fundie family, but it just occurred to me that, sadly, one of my local farm families' daughters has got to be at least 24 years old, this year. And she still lives at home. :(

Sweet Morgan takes care of a lot of the ordering organization & emails for the family business.

fullquiverfarm.com

click "Newsletter" for their 2006 newsletter, in which oldest child Morgan was 16.

They are not big on updating the website, but they are hard workers, devoted to natural farming, and they're super-nice people.

The dad, Scott, used to be a computer guy making plenty of money before they decided to take the family into farm life in 2003-4. We lived close by, but we moved about 3 yrs ago. The girls no longer really wear those flowered dresses and frumpers, but do usually wear long skirts. One of the daughters has started getting into photography in the past year or two...lots of her cow photos on their Facebook page. :D Morgan writes a Farmer's Daughter essay sometimes for the farm newsletter or Facebook, but it's mostly talk of what's going on around the farm.

Yeah, so 24 was probably the most fun year of my single life. Plenty of dating, plenty of drinking good beer after work with my friends, using my own money. And this girl is home with her parents and eight siblings. :(

I'm almost positive that Morgan was once courting one of the Alexander boys...a brother of the infamous Meredith. Elliott, maybe? The courtship was announced, both blogs shared pictures and 'the courtship story' then within a few weeks, it all disappeared.

[Guest]

Phew, updated!!! Still, I probably made at least a dozen mistakes.

If anyone wants to take over this job now that I've updated it, I wouldn't mind ;)

[youthfulclearly]

I'd be willing to take over editing it. I spend most of my free time keeping track of various fundies, so it'd be pretty easy for me. :lol:

[naatashamaru]

where is the updated list for unmarried fundies?

[JHeathen]

where is the updated list for unmarried fundies?

It's Post #1 of this thread. It gets updated.

[djibouti]

I apologize if this is a well known blog but I stumbled across virtuousdaughters.com/ the other day and wow.... it's a blog by a 30 year old stay at home daughter... with no prospects so far. She dresses very frumpy and reminds me somewhat of the seven sisters, but less cheery. We're about the same age and I can't imagine still living at home, twiddling my thumbs and spending my days praying for a husband.

[Letgo]

I apologize if this is a well known blog but I stumbled across virtuousdaughters.com/ the other day and wow.... it's a blog by a 30 year old stay at home daughter... with no prospects so far. She dresses very frumpy and reminds me somewhat of the seven sisters, but less cheery. We're about the same age and I can't imagine still living at home, twiddling my thumbs and spending my days praying for a husband.

I checked out her blog. I wanted to cry. She sure looks older than 30, at least to me. Another Torah observant Christian. I read some of her posts-just mind boggling. She had one on birth control and said that it generally takes five years for the chemicals to leave your body after you stop taking the pill. And if a pregnancy occurs during that time there is a "big chance that miscarriage or deformity will happen." :angry-banghead: WHERE do they get this stuff? Do they ever question things? Research any "fact" presented to them?

This woman could have an actual life and still remain Christian. Why sit at home for years? Waiting...waiting...