Okay, this is pretty cute even though I can't stand Lyndsie.

[WonderingInWA]

The baby looks like he might have strabismus - hard to tell with just a couple pics though. My youngest has it; it's caused by weak muscles that hold the eyeball in position, causing it to drift or wander from the direction the person is looking in. My little guy will have to have surgery, and probably glasses and patch therapy. I hope they're not just dismissing it.

Strabismus is fairly common. If caught early and with proper intervention, surgery can be avoided. I was born in 1965 and had surgery at age 4 to correct and aside from a few years of eye exercises (my mom using a pencil forcing my muscles to follow), my vision was fine (well, until I was 13 and then it was just nearsightedness and nothing to do with the muscles of my eyes). What I remember the most was the traumatic experience of being in the hospital at age 4 and having my eyes taped shut when I woke up. Hopefully they do all that stuff with lasers now so less traumatic healing.

[MrsKay]

As far as I know, from my obsessive researching, it's still done with a scalpel. I know they don't cut the eyeball, just the area around it, but still. I'm a tad freaked out. Milder cases can sometimes be treated with patches and/or glasses, but BabyKay is looking at surgery - his was pretty severe once it started.

[bionicmlle]

OK is it just me or does Ethan look more like an Aubrey...? (Not that it's the child's issue. It seems that mama is constantly dressing him to look a little too unisex.)

[WonderingInWA]

As far as I know, from my obsessive researching, it's still done with a scalpel. I know they don't cut the eyeball, just the area around it, but still. I'm a tad freaked out. Milder cases can sometimes be treated with patches and/or glasses, but BabyKay is looking at surgery - his was pretty severe once it started.

Ohhhh, I'm sorry you are having to deal with it! Ugh! I do know some kids can correct with patches or glasses. And yes, they clip some muscles, but the surgery is successful if done before (I think) age 5. Again, the most traumatic for me was just the hospital experience and the tape over my eyes (oh, and I wet the bed, too!). Eyes heal fast. I do not remember any pain, but maybe there was some. The tape on my eyes was what freaked me out the most.

[tabbytiger]

As far as I know, from my obsessive researching, it's still done with a scalpel. I know they don't cut the eyeball, just the area around it, but still. I'm a tad freaked out. Milder cases can sometimes be treated with patches and/or glasses, but BabyKay is looking at surgery - his was pretty severe once it started.

You should read the book "Fixing My Gaze," by Susan Barry. Or just google it - there are a few good articles about her story on NPR and in Scientific American and the New Yorker.

I had two surgeries for pretty severe strabismus, but I wish my parents had known about vision therapy. Of course, it didn't really exist back then. Even now, most ophthalmologists don't recommend it and you have to seek out specialists who are fairly few and far between. It's a recent innovation that goes well beyond traditional patch therapies. Bottom line: surgery is merely cosmetic and will NOT give anyone stereoscopic (aka 3d) vision. Vision therapy can generate stereoscopic vision and help align the eyes.

Maybe you've already looked into this, but if not, please do! It can't hurt and it's worth a try before going the surgery route.

[Someonetocall]

Daniel's shirts don't fit. I've been trying to figure out what is going on with him and it struck me. His top button doesn't button and his sleeves aren't long enough. In the one picture where they are unrolled, they are pushed back a bit but they don't look like they would be long enough to reach his wrists properly. I have this problem with shirts for my husband, who is mostly limbs but mostly torso but mostly limbs (H/T Sideshow Bob).

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=268160739864847&set=a.157867107560878.41095.128207157193540&type=3&permPage=1

[snarkbillie]

OK is it just me or does Ethan look more like an Aubrey...? (Not that it's the child's issue. It seems that mama is constantly dressing him to look a little too unisex.)

Because boys have to dress like boys and girls have to dress like girls? Your main complaint is that she's not over masculinizing a baby?!

[emmiedahl]

My baby wore a lot of those rompers over the summer, they are cotton and light enough to be cooler than a onesie. I think they look like obviously male clothing, not that there is anything wrong with unisex outfits.

Like this? Mine were in a girlier print, even. I'm sorry my pic is huge, I don't know how to remedy it.

[Elle]

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid ... e=1&ref=nf

I missed that they adopted twice.

[lilwriter85]

My baby wore a lot of those rompers over the summer, they are cotton and light enough to be cooler than a onesie. I think they look like obviously male clothing, not that there is anything wrong with unisex outfits.

Like this? Mine were in a girlier print, even. I'm sorry my pic is huge, I don't know how to remedy it.

That outfit is really cute.

On the topic of Lindsay's son Ethan. I hate to sound mean but he will end up being a little metro thanks to Daniel.

[ladypuglover]

My baby wore a lot of those rompers over the summer, they are cotton and light enough to be cooler than a onesie. I think they look like obviously male clothing, not that there is anything wrong with unisex outfits.

Like this? Mine were in a girlier print, even. I'm sorry my pic is huge, I don't know how to remedy it.

That is one handsome baby boy. :D I dressed my baby boys like this and loved when I could find old fahioned sunsuits for them. Cotten and seersucker suits helped so much to keep them cool.

[ChunkyBarbie]

Emmiedahl, never apologize for adorable baby pictures, I don't care how big they are. Your son is so cute! I love those type of rompers.

[Katiebug]

Didn't we figure that their little boy was probably under a year old when they adopted the baby girl? How the hell does she have time for perfect makeup and manicures? I have one child, a pretty easygoing 18 month old, and I haven't gotten in for a pedicure in around 9 months now!

Daniel pings my gaydar in a big way. In pictures he often looks like he's desperately trying to convince the world that he's happy, but maybe I'm projecting.

With such an unusual and aggressive cancer for a young woman, I don't know if I'd want to launch into motherhood so quickly. Personally I'd want to hit 5 years cancer-free before I'd breathe a little easier and feel OK about having little ones who shouldn't have to risk going through losing their mother young. I'm guessing that her "cancer cells in the abdomen" meant that she had lymph node involvement or metastasis, and even after treatment that probably carries a greater risk of recurrence. I hope like hell that her doctors follow her very closely. I think that once most cancer survivors hit the 5 year mark that's when doctors consider them cured. I wonder if the birth mothers of their kids are aware of her condition, or if they were just told that she was medically unable to conceive and carry babies of her own.

[lilwriter85]

Didn't we figure that their little boy was probably under a year old when they adopted the baby girl? How the hell does she have time for perfect makeup and manicures? I have one child, a pretty easygoing 18 month old, and I haven't gotten in for a pedicure in around 9 months now!

Daniel pings my gaydar in a big way. In pictures he often looks like he's desperately trying to convince the world that he's happy, but maybe I'm projecting.

With such an unusual and aggressive cancer for a young woman, I don't know if I'd want to launch into motherhood so quickly. Personally I'd want to hit 5 years cancer-free before I'd breathe a little easier and feel OK about having little ones who shouldn't have to risk going through losing their mother young. I'm guessing that her "cancer cells in the abdomen" meant that she had lymph node involvement or metastasis, and even after treatment that probably carries a greater risk of recurrence. I hope like hell that her doctors follow her very closely. I think that once most cancer survivors hit the 5 year mark that's when doctors consider them cured. I wonder if the birth mothers of their kids are aware of her condition, or if they were just told that she was medically unable to conceive and carry babies of her own.

I think the reason Lyndsie wanted to launch into motherhood quickly is simply to fit with her friends and relatives. Lyndsie and Daniel both come from fundie lite families and I think their friends are also fundie lite. A few of Daniel's older siblings have families of their own and most of their friends who are in their 20's also have started families. I don't think Lyndsie has any friends or connections outside of fundie circles. Lyndsie probably felt out of place at events. I do feel bad for her if she felt that way.

I wouldn't be surprised if Lyndsie lied to the birth mothers. On the old FJ, the birth mother of the disrupted adoption from 2010 posted about her experiences with Lydnsie. She said that L&D both said she was cured of cancer. But on Lyndsie's blog, she admitted once to still having cancer cells in abdomen. I hope Lyndsie's doesn't have any further health problems for the sake of Aubrey and Ethan.

[Clementine]

How often do they hire a professional photograper to document the family? (Who's paying...?)

[MrsKay]

Thanks so much for the advice on strabismus! We're waiting for the specialist to call with an appointment date, to book surgery, but we had a visiting health nurse come after he was born (almost every day for breastfeeding issues, once a week or so for weight etc.). She was able to convince DH that it was a problem (he didn't believe me when I pointed it out, he likes to live in his world of denial), and also gave the info for getting vision therapy etc. We live in a city that's mainly a college & university city, with teaching hospitals, state of the art NICU, etc., and have tons of clinics available for the health of children, so I'm happy about that! I'm really nervous about his eyes being covered. I have no idea how I'll keep a patch or bandages on (or glasses!), and the idea of him going through that and not understanding what's wrong makes me feel ill.

[Nothing2CHere]

My baby wore a lot of those rompers over the summer, they are cotton and light enough to be cooler than a onesie. I think they look like obviously male clothing, not that there is anything wrong with unisex outfits.

Like this? Mine were in a girlier print, even. I'm sorry my pic is huge, I don't know how to remedy it.

That outfit is so cute. Where can I find some for LittleBabyNothing? He's going to be a summer baby, I'd love to get some of these for him.

[clibbyjo]

That outfit is so cute. Where can I find some for LittleBabyNothing? He's going to be a summer baby, I'd love to get some of these for him.

Awwwww. :clap: My boys both wore these kind of suits as well, usually with matching hats . I also have an Eton suit both of my boys wore with knee socks and girlie buckle shoes like Prince William wore as a baby. My boys will love those pictures one day. :)

[lilwriter85]

I bet Lyndsie is having a special V-Day photoshoot today. Her, Daniel, and the kids will all be wearing matching sweaters.

[emmiedahl]

Nothing2CHere, they have them at my Costco for $6 each every spring and summer. I usually don't buy clothes for the baby because he gets a sufficient number of hand-me-downs, but I loved that outfit.