What to expect when you're married to an asshole....

[Koala]

Christ, it's the Duggars again.... :roll: Does she never get bored? She is absolutely fixated on them.

[Coco]

Christ, it's the Duggars again.... :roll: Does she never get bored? She is absolutely fixated on them.

Because that's how we keep sweet, ya know... immersive alternate reality. :lol:

But seriously, it's true. The only way that women who buy the Debi Pearl/Duggar etc. kool-aid can stay joyful is to constantly focus on the unattainable goal, and seeing an edited hour of perfection helps them with that.

[usmcmom]

Christ, it's the Duggars again.... :roll: Does she never get bored? She is absolutely fixated on them.

Thank goodness I read that post, though. Otherwise, I'd never know that I could frame family photos for my walls. :?

In all seriousness, Lori is really making an idol of the Duggars. Her infatuation with them is just so bizarre. Looking for blog hits or not, how can she not see how ridiculous this looks. It's just so...seventh grade.

[Koala]

Thank goodness I read that post, though. Otherwise, I'd never know that I could frame family photos for my walls. :?

In all seriousness, Lori is really making an idol of the Duggars. Her infatuation with them is just so bizarre. Looking for blog hits or not, how can she not see how ridiculous this looks. It's just so...seventh grade.

The ironic thing is that the Duggars would probably totally reject Ken and Lori with their taste for wine, "immodest" dress", and constant talk of sex.

[MrsFoxx]

The ironic thing is that the Duggars would probably totally reject Ken and Lori with their taste for wine, "immodest" dress", and constant talk of sex.

I don't know about the sex part. JB and Mullet talk about sex all the time these days. Mostly about how their grown children aren't allowed to get some.

[Koala]

I don't know about the sex part. JB and Mullet talk about sex all the time these days. Mostly about how their grown children aren't allowed to get some.

Can you tell I haven't watched their show since the early days? :lol:

[JaChelle Sugar]

From the comments:

Yes, Lori et al., introverts are just totally, over-the-moon in love with themselves and that's why they're introverted.

These people are so unimaginably stupid that I don't even know how they manage to even navigate to Lori's blog.

They probably mean shy, not that that makes a difference in how wrong they're opinions are. Introvert yat means recharging alone, not with others. I've known a number of outgoing, social introverts.

[Rebelwife]

They probably mean shy, not that that makes a difference in how wrong they're opinions are. Introvert yat means recharging alone, not with others. I've known a number of outgoing, social introverts.

Exactly. I'm comfortable introducing myself to anyone and will step up and give an impromptu speech to 500 people happily if it's something I know even a little bit about. However, if I don't get copious amounts of alone time, I am a wreck.

I would have to probably be committed if I was born into one of these fundie families with their family togetherness, tiny houses and eleventy billion children.

[2xx1xy1JD]

True leaders - especially religious leaders - don't need to bully others to show their authority. Their naturally earn the respect of others.

How would Lori describe Jesus? Would she claim that he wasn't a leader? Would she claim that he wasn't known for being gentle, esp. with women and children?

[polecat]

They probably mean shy, not that that makes a difference in how wrong they're opinions are. Introvert yat means recharging alone, not with others. I've known a number of outgoing, social introverts.

I'm not sure what they meant. I'm an introvert, and I need my alone time. I have two social butterfly children who are always bringing random OTHER kids home. I want to encourage the socializing (and not just because they're home schooled but because they really enjoy it and it's a part of who they are), but it does stress my introvert son and myself out, so occasionally we have to encourage all the noisy kids to go outside and play or to find a quiet activity inside. I feel like an ogre. :|

[Rebelwife]

I'm not sure what they meant. I'm an introvert, and I need my alone time. I have two social butterfly children who are always bringing random OTHER kids home. I want to encourage the socializing (and not just because they're home schooled but because they really enjoy it and it's a part of who they are), but it does stress my introvert son and myself out, so occasionally we have to encourage all the noisy kids to go outside and play or to find a quiet activity inside. I feel like an ogre. :|

I often feel very sorry for my younger child, who is an extremely extroverted night owl born into a family of extremely introverted morning people. I often wish she had been born a twin - she is one of those people who just NEEDS the stimulation of others around her. Thank goodness her best friend lives just a few houses away, so that helps some.

[GiGi_41]

I have had this argument over and over with people...yes I am an outgoing teacher, I can be loud and over the top. I too could throw a presentation together at the drop of a hat for large groups of people, but as soon or shortly after it's done, I need alone time.

At night after a day of teaching I just want to sit and read, or work quietly in my garden. I am an introvert!

[usmcmom]

I'm also an introvert and I'm always frustrated at the negative implications of that term. I find that I often dread social activities, but when the socializing begins I love it. Afterward, though, I usually need to unwind with alone time.

My daughter is definitely an extrovert. She thrives on the company of others. I used to see her mood really sink on snow days and I knew it was because she was not with her school friends. There were many times I'd call another mom and offer to pick their child up in the ice and snow so the kids could play. Thankfully, here in the Midwest most people aren't intimidated by bad weather so it was fairly easy to get the kids together.

I bet if Lori did some research, she'd find that she's an introvert. I just wish she'd realize that's not a bad thing. People need to understand the terminology they toss around on their little hobby blogs.

[2xx1xy1JD]

Some of you will like this, about the power of introverts:

http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/

As an introvert, I read the book and found it refreshing.

[moodygirl86]

Eeeewww <--- sorry that's all I've got.

P.S.: I wanted to be a princess, until I figured out that I could be a queen in my own right. Like Queen Elizabeth I. of England. Or Empress Myeongseongo of Korea. Or Empress Catherine the Great of Russia. Sod being a princess in a patriarchal system. Ruling in my own right sounded so much cooler to child-me!

When me and my brother M were little kids playing together - kings and queens, mummies and daddies, whatever - it was usually me that played the man's part because I was older than him. I rebelled against gender roles from a very early age.

[thoughtful]

She devoted an entire post just to tell us her husband doesn't wear underpants? Geesh.

Oh, so this is all just a spelling issue -- he is a commando man, not a command man!

[Bugnyou]

I have had this argument over and over with people...yes I am an outgoing teacher, I can be loud and over the top. I too could throw a presentation together at the drop of a hat for large groups of people, but as soon or shortly after it's done, I need alone time.

At night after a day of teaching I just want to sit and read, or work quietly in my garden. I am an introvert!

Wow I thought I was the only one like this I am an introvert I get my energy from being alone, but because I happen to talk a lot sometimes loudly, often out of nervousness or being uncomfortable, people think I'm an extrovert. Not that you said this part but boy do I go over every word I've said afterwards and analyze it.

[moodygirl86]

Wow I thought I was the only one like this I am an introvert I get my energy from being alone, but because I happen to talk a lot sometimes loudly, often out of nervousness or being uncomfortable, people think I'm an extrovert. Not that you said this part but boy do I go over every word I've said afterwards and analyze it.

I reckon I'm a bit of both. I'm a confident speaker, and do enjoy socialising, but I like living on my own too! I can have the best of both worlds. I'll go to work or hang out with mates, but when I've had enough I can shut the door on the rest of the world.

[thoughtful]

I was so busy with work when these command men came to post here, that I stopped reading the threads at the beginning of March.

Now that things are so neatly archived (thanks, Helpmeets!), it was easy to find them, and I went through most of them. I have nothing to add, other than the fact that new nicknames for Cabinetman kept popping into my head, so I jotted them down as I read:

FurnitureFellow

BureauBoy

SideboardSwain

BreakfrontBloke

ChifferobeChap

HutchHombre

HoosierHubby

WardrobeWilly

ArmoireAss

StorageSchmuck

TansuTool

CredenzaCreep

The more of his posts I read, the more critical were the names that came up. Why my brain insisted they be alliterative, I have no idea, since the original isn't.

And it's official - I've spent too much time in antique stores!

(edited for riffles)

[itsnotmeitsu]

Why would anyone advocate a marriage plan that includes marital discord because the man won't sit back and let a woman make decisions?

I realize that their version of Christianity puts the man as the head of everything, but there are things my husband patently doesn't know crap about, and he shouldn't be in charge of. And he knows that, and steps aside and lets me make decisions. Usually, we work together, and, whodathunk, we're doing OK!

My dad was a command man, and was quite controlling and could be an a-hole. It is not a healthy world to have a family in if you're yelling all the time, or have to always be in control.

[Coco]

Why would anyone advocate a marriage plan that includes marital discord because the man won't sit back and let a woman make decisions?

I realize that their version of Christianity puts the man as the head of everything, but there are things my husband patently doesn't know crap about, and he shouldn't be in charge of. And he knows that, and steps aside and lets me make decisions. Usually, we work together, and, whodathunk, we're doing OK!

My dad was a command man, and was quite controlling and could be an a-hole. It is not a healthy world to have a family in if you're yelling all the time, or have to always be in control.

This is why i hated being a fundie. (well, one of many reasons lol) The idea that menz have to make the decisions even when a woman may have a better grasp of whatever the issue is, for us it was financial matters. What is so wrong with allowing the one with training to decide things?

My mom used to tell me, it's okay, he'll learn, let my hubby make mistakes! Yeah, that was fun until we were jobless with a baby on the way and no unemployment, huge bills from his pre-marriage debts... eating ramen while preggo is not a good idea, and it was a huge step for me to go get on assistance. i felt like a failure. :angry-banghead:

We finally finally got out from under that burden and our marriage survived but it was because i took the reins and made some decisions. NO way would we be in a better place now unless i had used my GOD GIVEN abilities. This is my main problem with quiet, meek submission. When a couple is suffering and the woman may know a way out, for gosh sakes they need to be telling women to use their smarts! It can be a helpmeet thing, if they still want to use labels.

[Hane]

Thoughtful, we must be related. I called this douchecanoe "Chiffarobe Young'un" on another thread not a minute ago!

[thoughtful]

Thoughtful, we must be related. I called this douchecanoe "Chiffarobe Young'un" on another thread not a minute ago!

Or we've both spent too much time in antique stores.

Or we've both read/seen To Kill a Mockingbird many times (that's where I first learned the word -- it wasn't used when and where I grew up).

[Hane]

Or we've both spent too much time in antique stores.

Or we've both read/seen To Kill a Mockingbird many times (that's where I first learned the word -- it wasn't used when and where I grew up).

When I first read "Mockingbird" back in high school, I had to look up the word "chiffarobe" because I'd never heard it before--I thought it was some kind of shrub.

I am reminded of the "Designing Women" episode in which an article of furniture was being given away as a prize. Someone on the show said, "When I saw 'Free Armoire,' I thought you were talking about a political prisoner."

[scc12]

I had to look up the word 'sinewy' when I first read a romance novel.LOL