Oh Lauren (wearinghispurity)...You are so SMRT.

[fundiefan]

I've been in a few relationships and I've never thought of myself as 'shopping around.' I dunno, the one truly serious relationship I've been in before my current one didn't end because either of us felt the need to see what else is out there, it ended because our lives were going in different directions. Other than that, yeah, I've had a few casual sex-based relationships and that was just... what I wanted to be doing at the time, nothing more. I would never suggest someone do that if they didn't want to, it is absolutely not necessary for some people. But I'm perfectly happy to just be in a relationship and chill when the dude is the right dude, you know?

It would kinda be nice if relationships came with receipts though. I'd love to have been able to just return my ex husband for a refund that could be used for the next man, if and when there ever is a next man. Only, I'd make sure the next one not only came with a receipt, but a warranty as well.

[pixydust]

Ridethekick, you said that you began dating your hubby when you were 17. Lauren got married at 15, she had to have known the guy at 14. If my daughter (when she is older, she is 6) comes to me at 17 and says that she wants to date a man in his 20's and they have lots in common (like you and your hubby), I won't love it, but I'll be ok. If my daughter comes to me at 15 and wants to date an 18 year old, I will tell her hell no and to find a boy her own age. There is a huge differance between 15 and 17. At 15 I still had Barbies in my closet (I didn't play with them, but they were there) and a teddy bear on my bed. I was also listening to Nirvana, Belly, and Simon and Garfunkel and reading Dylan Thomas' poetry.....15 is when you begin to grow up, and no 15 year old is ready to get married, esp to someone who is already an adult.

[clibbyjo]

Ridethekick, you said that you began dating your hubby when you were 17. Lauren got married at 15, she had to have known the guy at 14. If my daughter (when she is older, she is 6) comes to me at 17 and says that she wants to date a man in his 20's and they have lots in common (like you and your hubby), I won't love it, but I'll be ok. If my daughter comes to me at 15 and wants to date an 18 year old, I will tell her hell no and to find a boy her own age. There is a huge differance between 15 and 17. At 15 I still had Barbies in my closet (I didn't play with them, but they were there) and a teddy bear on my bed. I was also listening to Nirvana, Belly, and Simon and Garfunkel and reading Dylan Thomas' poetry.....15 is when you begin to grow up, and no 15 year old is ready to get married, esp to someone who is already an adult.

My son is 15 and I had to help him get his ponytail holder out today after this fencing competition because he couldn't even do that alone. Yeah, he is ready for marriage. :snooty:

My mom met my dad at 17 and married at 18 had my sister 9 months later. They have been married 51 years. She has said looking back she wishes she had more in between than just going from her fathers home to her husband's home. I met my husband at 18 and married at 22 so its not like I dated much other than highschool and the very beginning of college before I met him. I found my first boyfriend on FB and am SOOOO glad I never married him. He is the complete opposite of me! What happens to Lauren when she grows up and changes? I really hope Hope isn't married off at 15...

[Renting with Raggles]

Just wanted to applaud those who are saying that the creep factor here is not the age difference or choice of career, but the fact that the arranged intended (now owner) couldn't wait until she was of a more appropriate age.

I fear that Lauren's hard times are going to come when she no longer looks like a teenager. I'm relieved that apparently her husband isn't the sort of ephebophile who loses interest in his teenage wife as soon as she acquires a mother's breasts and belly. When she begins to show laugh lines--that will be the next test of her husband's character. Maybe he did genuinely fall in love with her. Maybe he wanted to get her away from her creepy family as a child and realized that he loved her when she was (admittedly barely) marriageable age. Or maybe he has a couple of suggestible young girls on the side, or will have when Lauren is too old for his tastes. For her sake I hope not.

As a high school teacher, I do see a fair few ephebophiles in their late 20s and early 30s (my age), even into their 40s who love to hang about the school gate waiting for the girls to come out. They chat them up, date them for a while, then drop them. The girls always expect that love lasts forever with an older man and of course are heartbroken when it doesn't. With someone their own age, they approach a relationship with a better understanding and more reasonable expectations. I'm not saying it couldn't work out with a particularly mature girl - just that this would be pretty rare. This doesn't seem to be the case for relationships with an age disparity once both partners are in adulthood.

As for the creepsters themselves...well, they're not really any great prize to people their own age. Sometimes on gate duty I've had to bar them from coming into the school buildings - and boy , do they become belligerent and abusive in a hurry! Nothing I can't handle, since they're my own age, but I imagine their tone would have much more authority with the students, who are used to obeying adults without question. The men demand to know why they can't waltz into a school in the middle of the day to see their girlfriend so I'm guessing they aren't regularly employed.

The man in question here is a fundie, he probably has no idea that his tastes are abnormal (need for such an uneven power dynamic) and has been told that anything that he feels is wrong in a relationship is the female's fault. So I don't doubt that if he suddenly feels that Lauren has become unattractive, she'll be out on her ear with no training and possibly with several children to raise on her own.

I've never read Ms Magazine either, BTW.

[Caxpax]

Don't blame feminism if you feel bad about yourself or feel pressure to be something you are not. Get thicker skin and works towards making a world where you can make your decisions and others can make theirs.

This x10,000

[formergothardite]

I'm still floored that Maranatha's father literally gave her away as a Christmas present. The whole family is wacked.

[Effie]

Isn't this the bride whose husband thanked her dad publically for getting most of the spankings out of the way before marriage?

Oh... let's hope not. :shock: That's way too fucked up.

[fundiefan]

Oh... let's hope not. :shock: That's way too fucked up.

I thought that was Dan Beasly who was grateful for Bethany's dad taking care of it.

Because a disciplined, obedient wife is what every real man wants and needs and of course if his father in law took care of it he won't have to exert himself.

[violeta]

What does "wearing his purity" even mean? And isn't it really arrogant to assume you are so pure?

In her health post she mentioned grinding her own wheat to make bread. A lot of fundies are into doing that. Why??? (She mentions nutrients but I have a lot of health freak friends and none of them grind their own wheat to make bread.)

And the name Living Hope??? Gahhhhh! That's the name of a church, not a child! Couldn't they just name her Hope???

Edit: And I love how all these young girls think they are experts at marriage...gimme a break.

[LilMissMetaphor]

They do seem to call her Livi. Which, good. Can you imagine? "Living Hope is in the bathroom."

[Nomorearrows]

Can you imagine? "Living Hope is in the bathroom."

:lol:

Maybe she can change her name when she turns 18 (like Miley Cyrus. She was named Destiny Hope by her parents but then changed it).

But she'd probably be married by then if she follows her mother's footsteps.

[LilMissMetaphor]

Anyone wanna snark on Lauren's decorating choices as detailed in this week's guest bedroom pics? It's always amusing what a teenager who's never been out of Buttfart, Iowa, thinks to be "global" or "ethnic". Bought at Ikea.

[NurseNell]

Anyone wanna snark on Lauren's decorating choices as detailed in this week's guest bedroom pics? It's always amusing what a teenager who's never been out of Buttfart, Iowa, thinks to be "global" or "ethnic". Bought at Ikea.

I haven't seen it but what's wrong with Ikea?

[NurseNell]

Anyone wanna snark on Lauren's decorating choices as detailed in this week's guest bedroom pics? It's always amusing what a teenager who's never been out of Buttfart, Iowa, thinks to be "global" or "ethnic". Bought at Ikea.

OK, looked at it. I don't like the turquoise canopy like thing over the head of the bed but otherwise I see nothing wrong with the room. It looks very nice, and beats some of the guest rooms I've stayed in.

[BoomerLynn]

Is anyone else a little squicked by the fact that not only did she marry a guy a decade older than her when she was only 15, but then titles her blog about said marriage "Wearing his Purity? To me it just seems to add to the creep factor, especially when you throw in the whole obedient and submissive spiel.

[Witsec7]

Anyone wanna snark on Lauren's decorating choices as detailed in this week's guest bedroom pics? It's always amusing what a teenager who's never been out of Buttfart, Iowa, thinks to be "global" or "ethnic". Bought at Ikea.

I'm a textile junkie, my house is awash with Ikat from Indonesia,Guatemala, Uzbekistan, embroideries from China, India and Afghanistan, pillows covered with Kinte and old Egyptian rugs. This girl doesn't know squat about global.

[LilMissMetaphor]

I haven't seen it but what's wrong with Ikea?

I'm saying if you bought it, mass-produced, at Ikea it more than likely lacks the authentic ethnic aesthetic. Try saying that five times fast.

[wtylcf]

Is anyone else a little squicked by the fact that not only did she marry a guy a decade older than her when she was only 15, but then titles her blog about said marriage "Wearing his Purity? To me it just seems to add to the creep factor, especially when you throw in the whole obedient and submissive spiel.

I guess I have a dirty mind, but it seems like a great name for a porno film, if there was an evangelical christian porno genre. (yes, I know, if it exists, there's probably a porno of it, but I really don't want to google it and find out for sure). tagline: "Wearing his purity. On her face."

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[O Latin]

What does "wearing his purity" even mean? And isn't it really arrogant to assume you are so pure?

In her health post she mentioned grinding her own wheat to make bread. A lot of fundies are into doing that. Why??? (She mentions nutrients but I have a lot of health freak friends and none of them grind their own wheat to make bread.)

And the name Living Hope??? Gahhhhh! That's the name of a church, not a child! Couldn't they just name her Hope???

Edit: And I love how all these young girls think they are experts at marriage...gimme a break.

I would give it a try if I had the time/money/necessary supplies and equipment. No particular reason, it just sounds like it would be fun. Maybe it tastes...fresher? Kind of like how coffee does if you buy beans and then grind them each morning rather than buying already ground coffee.

[Witsec1]

Whole grain flour contains some oil from the wheat germ, so it can actually get a rancid smell/taste if you don't use it up fairly quickly. If you are buying in bulk, like 50 lb bags, the whole grain + grinder might make sense. I just put whole wheat flour in the freezer if I'm not going to use it all right away.

[LilMissMetaphor]

Lauren is still yacking on about how to build a great marriage. She is now 20.

Since she mentioned (in a poem) the five-year gap between herself and her sister Kindle, it must be past time for Daddy to start shopping around for Kindle's hubby... :roll:

[Freyacat]

I regularly read Lauren's blog and I have to say, much as her parents are creepy and her wedding made me cringe (she looked so small and scared!) and her daughter's name is just :roll: , in the end I really like her. She seems genuinely sweet and not hateful and judgey like so many other fundies (Kendal, Zsu, Lori, Whatshername from Generation Cedar, etc). I feel like she'd be a really kind and relaxing person to be with, even if kind of naive. Also, totally shallow here, but she's so pretty!

[lilith]

I would give it a try if I had the time/money/necessary supplies and equipment. No particular reason, it just sounds like it would be fun. Maybe it tastes...fresher? Kind of like how coffee does if you buy beans and then grind them each morning rather than buying already ground coffee.

My mum used to grind her own grain sometimes, and the bread she made with it was the yummiest thing in the world. I don't know why, if it was the freshness or the quality of the wheat or what, but the bread my mum made in her wood burning oven with her freshly ground flour, fresh out of the oven with butter and honey, was delicious, and just thinking about the taste and smell is taking me back to childhood.

[LilMissMetaphor]

She seems genuinely sweet and not hateful and judgey like so many other fundies (Kendal, Zsu, Lori, Whatshername from Generation Cedar, etc). I feel like she'd be a really kind and relaxing person to be with, even if kind of naive. Also, totally shallow here, but she's so pretty!

See, I wonder about that. I think she's probably just as judgmental as the rest of them, but she's going for a very sweet and innocent I'm just a little-mother-and-wife blog, without any drama. She never writes anything negative, and when she does she addresses it towards other people: "are YOU feeling tired and snappy with your kids? do YOU need to spend more time with God and/or your husband? oh yes, I am not saying I am perfect, of course I sometimes feel tired, but then I just pray and God swallows me in his love, why don't YOU try that?"

I very much doubt Lauren would be okay with Living Hope getting a decent education and refusing to get married until she's in her 20s (or refusing at all, heaven forbid) and seen a bit of the world (heaven forbid part two). And I KNOW Nathan wouldn't be okay with it.

[longskirtlotsakids]

I guess I have a dirty mind, but it seems like a great name for a porno film, if there was an evangelical christian porno genre. (yes, I know, if it exists, there's probably a porno of it, but I really don't want to google it and find out for sure). tagline: "Wearing his purity. On her face."

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No, that's what I got out of it too. Remember "How I learned to love the bomb" by Kubrick? And how the guy that destroyed the world was obsessed with his semen, which he called "Purity of Essence? No, you're spot on.