Lori Alexander 50: Making an Idol of Herself

[polecat]

2 hours ago, ChickenettiLuvr said:

Unlimited travel budget? Well today ... 

A visiting pass to Heaven. My dad died last night. And although I moved heaven and earth to try to get there to say goodbye, I didn't make it.

My heart hurts. Badly. 

I'm so very sorry.

[pamplemousse]

@ChickenettiLuvr I'm so sorry about your dad.  Hugs and love.  And, yes, strangle away.

[Tim-Tom Biblethumper]

Hugs to you @ChickenettiLuvr  I am so sorry.  

[SilverBeach]

4 hours ago, delphinium65 said:

Doesn't Lori claim to be an older woman?  Maybe now she needs 15 minutes to get the job done, advancing age being what it is. 

Best sex of my life in my sixties. Me and Mr. SB get it on regularly, and it ain't no ten or fifteen minutes and lube. Age doesn't mean squat. Lori is cold and sexless now, and she always has been even when she was young.

1 minute ago, Tim-Tom Biblethumper said:

Hugs to you @ChickenettiLuvr  I am so sorry.  

Me too. My mom passed this past February, and my heart still hurts. Losing a parent is so hard. Sincere condolences to you. You tried your best to get there. Take good care.

[Loveday]

@ChickenettiLuvr, I'm so sorry. And yes to strangling, they deserve it! 

[AliceInFundyland]

@ChickenettiLuvr 

[feministxtian]

13 minutes ago, ChickenettiLuvr said:

Just wondering... is it okay to strangle certain jerky family members who've made hateful, selfish, or unsupportive comments today? Asking for a friend...

To quote one of my favorite movies "it's ok Rock, I'm temporarily insane". 

 

1 hour ago, louisa05 said:

But here's the thing...we can't make ends meet on one income with just the two of us and a rabbit. We literally cannot.

Neither can we. One income means shitty apartment, literal food insecurity, praying the cars don't break down, shitting bricks on the utility bills. I'm capable of making a WHOLE LOT more money than Mr. Xtian...so, because I'm tired of living in shitty apartments and shitting bricks about utility bills and enjoy a full pantry and fridge, I work. I also enjoy having medical insurance...which is the reason I took this job. Our rent right now is ridiculously cheap, but well...y'all have heard me bitch about the neighborhood. I don't like living like this. 

 

17 minutes ago, louisa05 said:

I will never for the life of me understand how Lori and that ilk can convince themselves that cooking is so time consuming that no one can work and cook dinner on the same day. 

Me neither. Most meals I can throw together in an hour (including unattended cooking time). Tonight is pizza again, I feel like unadulterated shit, overheated & migraine. I overheat to heat stroke quickly and easily because I do not sweat like most folks. I mean, where someone else might be covered in sweat from head to toe, I have a little sweat on my neck and under the boobage. That's it. My face is 100% dry. It SUCKS BALLS. Fortunately I know enough to take care of myself and avoid hospitalization most of the time. 

[louisa05]

6 minutes ago, feministxtian said:

To quote one of my favorite movies "it's ok Rock, I'm temporarily insane". 

 

Neither can we. One income means shitty apartment, literal food insecurity, praying the cars don't break down, shitting bricks on the utility bills. I'm capable of making a WHOLE LOT more money than Mr. Xtian...so, because I'm tired of living in shitty apartments and shitting bricks about utility bills and enjoy a full pantry and fridge, I work. I also enjoy having medical insurance...which is the reason I took this job. Our rent right now is ridiculously cheap, but well...y'all have heard me bitch about the neighborhood. I don't like living like this. 

 

Me neither. Most meals I can throw together in an hour (including unattended cooking time). Tonight is pizza again, I feel like unadulterated shit, overheated & migraine. I overheat to heat stroke quickly and easily because I do not sweat like most folks. I mean, where someone else might be covered in sweat from head to toe, I have a little sweat on my neck and under the boobage. That's it. My face is 100% dry. It SUCKS BALLS. Fortunately I know enough to take care of myself and avoid hospitalization most of the time. 

We are very lucky that we had help with a down payment for the house. And my mom pays me for the stuff I do for her. She is financially able to and I don't feel guilty about it. As a sub, every day I am there to help her doing the school year is a day that I don't work. That cash basically buys our food. If I didn't work at all, we could not pay the utilities or the unexpected expenses. We had to put in a new furnace last December. I paid that off out of my income. I pay most of the vehicle repairs that Mr. 05 cannot do himself. I pay most of the extra medical bills and buy all the OTC meds, personal hygiene stuff and such for both of us. My income pays for all of my personal needs as well and most extras like the occasional concert, play or movie (Usually once a year or less events for us. I used to be a drama teacher, though, and like to catch shows especially, but a lot of those are community theatre or even the local high school which are cheaper than professional touring productions, and we take advantage of the local free Shakespeare festival every summer). Without me working, the electricity would be off just for starters and at the beginning of each summer, I put enough in savings to pay those bills until the fall (I add to that during the school year when possible, too, this year the furnace made that a bit harder, but a seven week job to end the school year covered us). 

And, yeah, dinner is typically less than an hour's work even when I am home all day. Tonight was still less than an hour even with going out and picking the lettuce, onions and cucumber when I got home and having to clean them a bit more than store bought produce. 

[desertvixen]

@ChickenettiLuvr (((( )))).

On the making ends meet topic, I'm convinced a lot of them are not counting either government assistance or God providing through generous friends.

[louisa05]

12 minutes ago, desertvixen said:

@ChickenettiLuvr (((( )))).

On the making ends meet topic, I'm convinced a lot of them are not counting either government assistance or God providing through generous friends.

Or family help monetary or otherwise (we bought a car from my mom  under market value a couple of years ago, for example). Or inheritances (like my friend's free housing). 

[Koala]

That's the crazy thing- All of this hand wringing over what other women are doing, is exactly what the Bible warns about.  They are so idle, that they resort to policing other women.  They are busybodies.

Lori's always prattling on about the hours the Proverbs wife worked (like she knows).  She's also fond of saying, "You won't find one example in the Bible of a woman who...."

Well Lori, I'll tell you what else you won't find in the Bible- a woman who spends "hours a day" on the internet.  Where in the Bible does it say that you should monitor other adults for "the majority of the day"?  It's funny how that never comes up.  

I'll take it a step further- if anyone bothered to point that out in one of your "free for all" posts, it'd be deleted lightening fast!

But back to busybodies.  Lindy has chimed in, to set one of Lori's new readers straight:

Now- Lindy has been very upfront with her opinion that the husband should be running the home.  The wife is simply there to carry out whatever menial tasks he feels she is capable of.  Which begs the question- Why is Lindy trying to run another person's home?  She doesn't even believe she should have input on how HER home is run.

She instructs Bailey to do various things for her children, but Bailey made no mention of kids.  Who says she has any?  

She instructs her to work hard "doing what her husband needs".  Well, her husband may need her to work.

Finally she closes with the insinuation that Bailey is somehow selfish.  Where did that come from?  It sounds like she's trying to serve her family by bringing home a paycheck. 

I have an idea.  It's simple really, and it solves this whole problem.

Lindy?  You have NO time to waste on the internet.  I see you spend quite a bit of time correcting Lori's readers.  If you can decide that other readers have no time for a job, surely you're good with me saying you have no time for the internet, right?  Good.  

What you should do mind your own affairs.  Stop nosing in other people's business.  Stop trying to run the homes of other people.  Go do all of the things you feel this reader should be doing- If your husband approves, of course.

 

[wild little fox]

Well, in way Lori has gone viral. I saw this on someone I follow's Facebook page. And the people there are not going to be fan girls. 

[HoneyBunny]

3 hours ago, ChickenettiLuvr said:

Unlimited travel budget? Well today ... 

A visiting pass to Heaven. My dad died last night. And although I moved heaven and earth to try to get there to say goodbye, I didn't make it.

My heart hurts. Badly. 

And my heart hurts for you. I am very sorry for your loss.

[Lgirlrocks]

3 hours ago, louisa05 said:

So sorry for your loss, @ChickenettiLuvr

I just read that blog post. You know what? We do most of the things the people are suggesting. I cook from scratch. We eat dinner out once a week and breakfast after church maybe once a month--and the latter is usually cheap fast food. We have never had a vacation longer than five days including travel time and only three that long in nine years of marriage. I meal plan. I use the store's digital coupon site. Husband changes the oil and does a lot of the basic maintenance on our vehicles which were paid for with cash. Hell, our neighbor does both of our haircuts for free and colors mine for $40 (that I have to force her to take) and--bonus compared to fundie home haircuts!--she's a licensed professional stylist. We had salad from our garden for dinner tonight. And our house payment for a three bedroom ranch with two car garage and full basement is so low compared to most places in this country that a lot of you would die if I told you the amount. 

But here's the thing...we can't make ends meet on one income with just the two of us and a rabbit. We literally cannot. We have to have my income to make it. There is no way that we could make it with even one kid and me not working. We couldn't make it with one kid and me working--particularly with the cost of child care. And I don't buy it when these people claim they are. There is extra coming from somewhere in some roundabout way if they really are living on what they say. Example: A friend of mine has seven children. She is a SAHM and homeschools. Her husband is a public school teacher. He supports nine people on one income of probably around $50,000 a year supplemented slightly by her giving piano lessons to a few kids one night a week. Sounds like a great story for Lori to jump on--See!! It can be done!! No excuses for the rest of you!! But here's the catch in their story: he inherited their home from his parents and already lived there when they got married. They have never had to pay rent or a mortgage payment. It is also on a farm which his brother still farms which means lower property taxes here. They only pay low property taxes and insurance for their housing.

I would bet money that something like that is going on with a lot of these people telling their "we live on $45,000 a year because we meal plan" stories. At least my friend admits that no mortgage is a huge factor in making it possible for them. 

 

One of my best friends growing up was home schooled by her mom. She was one of what became nine kids. Their dad was a high school shop teacher. Idk how they made it. As far as I know mom didn’t work and and dad didn’t work more than one job. House wasn’t huge and they were short supply on certain foods. They always ate a ton of food when they came to our house. 

[HoneyBunny]

I have been out of pocket a couple of days, busy with the build up to send a friend’s daughter off to the US Air Force Academy tomorrow. I’ve known her since she was born, and am just a little proud of her. She was recruited as a student athlete and today she and her parents drove down (we live less than an hour north) to meet her teammates. And her mom texted me these photos of these beautiful, talented smart girls excitedly and nervously facing Induction Day tomorrow and the six hardest weeks of their lives doing Basic Cadet training (and marching marching marching with tomorrow forecasted to be 101 degrees).  Their futures are limitless.

And then I think of Lazy Lori’s admonition to discourage daughters from having hopes and dreams and I just want to throw up. By all means, have lots of daughters ‘cause it’s Biblical but keep them home until they are handed off to a husband and a life of popping out babies and ensuring each generation is less educated than the one before. 

And Jesus wept. 

[older than allosaurs]

3 hours ago, Tim-Tom Biblethumper said:

Hugs to you @ChickenettiLuvr  I am so sorry.  

I know how this feels, ChickenettiLuvr, and I agree your dad knows you love him still and you tried your best.

Wishing you hugs and strength to strangle as needed.

[IntrinsicallyDisordered]

@ChickenettiLuvr I am so sorry for your loss.  I am certain your dad knew you were there in spirit and in each other's hearts.

We make it on one salary but we live in an ebil socialist country where we don't have to worry about health care costs. We are lucky to live in an area where we don't need a car and use public transportation.  We can't have children so there is a lot of money saved We're not rich but we live in a nice home we were able to buy because my mother-in-law gave us 25,000€ towards the down payment and my grandfather-in-law gave us 5,000€ towards renovating and furnishing it.  We can buy pretty much anything we want at the grocery store but never go out to eat and get takeout only occasionally.  We go the movies only when there's a big superhero thing.  We haven't travelled since we bought the house because we can afford a mortgage or a vacation but not both.  We do thoroughly spoil our cat. We buy books and toys and clothes and things for the house but would rather have a child and should probably save more than we do.  I very much want to work for myself and to take some pressure off my husband but haven't found anything yet that works with my fluctuating energy levels.

My mother often said we were making it on one salary but she was lying.  It was a constant struggle to keep our heads above water, constant fear and deprivation, constant begging and scrounging, not enough food or heat, never a trip or a lesson or class or sport though my dad had credit cards he rang up for his expensive hobbies, always fighting, always verbal and physical abuse aimed at the kids because of all the stress.  But to the outside world they "made it".  As an adult I am beyond resentful.

[Joyce]

@ChickenettiLuvr I'm sorry for your loss.

[Meeka]

When I was a young child, we were a one income family as my mother stayed home. She did go back teaching when we were all in school as she knew we would get more expensive as we got older. My father made a good income as he was well educated and we did not live in a high cost of living area. He was not working himself to death or working 2 or 3 jobs to make ends meet. They did have to be frugal and we didn't have a big or fancy house but we had everything we needed. There was no stress about paying the bills or buying food and there was money left over for extras. I don't know why these people insist on one income homes but yet often don't emphasize education and well paying jobs. I think that if I was raising a family and believed that women should stay at home, I would push education and try to get my sons to go into a field that pays well. My father would sometimes say "You will work just as hard for $5 per hour as $50 per hour,so earn $50/hr". Now I know that 50/hr is not possible for everyone but the idea is there. 

[SweetLaurel]

1 hour ago, Meeka said:

. My father would sometimes say "You will work just as hard for $5 per hour as $50 per hour,so earn $50/hr". Now I know that 50/hr is not possible for everyone but the idea is there. 

He is right - I often see people disparage work 'oh, it's just a minimum wage job', like it's an easy skate by lalalala job.   People who work min wage work hard hours,  often the nights and weekends and holidays no one else wants to.  They can get fired on a whim, because they can be replaced in a heartbeat.  They have to stay over when the next guy decides not to show,  and no one else will answer their phone.  People blame them for everything. "Why doesn't your store sell this!   I don't like this policy!   You didn't smile/smiled too much! Why are you out of sacks!  I'm calling corporate!"  Nothing a min wage cashier can do about any of it, yet they get 99% of the bitching and whining from both the customers and the management.   I respect everyone who works those kinds of jobs.  Often they are 'only' learning experiences while people are going to college or working their way up in life, but too often they are older women who didn't get left a fortune because they were SAHM's and their husbands died or left for a trophy wife.   Despite Lori's claims,  God doesn't write checks.  

I used to work a job where I traveled to small gas stations and convenience stores and saw weekly these women bawling behind the cash register because they hadn't worked in 30 some years and had no clue what they were doing and this was the only job they could get.  Their feet hurt, their brains were taxed and they were so stressed and unhappy.  I vowed never to be in that situation.  Most of them thought like Lori - they would never have to.   Then life smacks you in the face.   

[Loveday]

On yesterday's 'Families Can't Make It on One Income" post, Sarah comments:

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for all these people saying family of 4+ on one income- how much do you bring in a year and how many medical bills do you have? THAT is what is killing many families like mine- the inability to get medical care and the inability to afford it when we absolutely need it or we die.

She's been struggling mightily to get the leg-humpers to understand this, but to no avail, as evidenced by Lindy's reply to her:

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We trust God to keep His Word. We trust Him with His provision... And if in trusting Him we die, so be it.

 

There you have it. If you can't afford medical expenses on one income, just die already.

I'm surprised we haven't all drowned in Jesus's tears by now. 

[smittykins]

So if you die due to the lack of affordable insurance/medical care, potentially leaving a passel of kids motherless, that's *totes* okay, because you've become a martyr for Jaysus! 

[Alisamer]

46 minutes ago, Loveday said:

There you have it. If you can't afford medical expenses on one income, just die already.

I'm surprised we haven't all drowned in Jesus's tears by now. 

Wow. And exactly how are they supposed to afford the funeral expenses, in that case? Dying isn't free. The people left behind have to cover expenses, and I doubt the people barely scraping by on one income have much life insurance to speak of.

Everything costs money except maybe breathing. 

[Seahorse Wrangler]

51 minutes ago, Loveday said:

 

There you have it. If you can't afford medical expenses on one income, just die already.

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 "If they would rather die," said Scrooge, "they had better do it, and decrease the surplus population."

Holy Shades of Scrooge

[Loveday]

3 minutes ago, Alisamer said:

Wow. And exactly how are they supposed to afford the funeral expenses, in that case? Dying isn't free. The people left behind have to cover expenses, and I doubt the people barely scraping by on one income have much life insurance to speak of.

Everything costs money except maybe breathing. 

Well, I don't know. Deeply embedded in another reader's rambling comment in that same post was this gem: "Most healthy meals cost nothing." 

We are clearly living on different planets from these people.