Lori Alexander Pt. 9: Writing The World's Worst Book

[EmiGirl]

All the things lori listed have nothing to do with being submissive and everything to do with being a good spouse and life partner  (not to mention a good human being in general). 

My husband and I want to make EACH OTHER happy. Neither of us wants to argue (though it happens because we're 2 different people with 2 different opinions ). Neither of insists on being right all the time. I fix his favorite foods because I want him to be happy and he takes me out to my favorite restaunts because he wants me to be happy. Neither of us want the other to have sex just because he or I want it. We want both of us to be in the mood. 

 

That being said, when I'm angry at him I do give him the cold shoulder because I tend to let my mouth fly off and end up saying something it regret. He pouts up more often than I do though.

 

We both do the things the other asks of us and when the other forgets (because we're both human) we get over it.

Neither of us talk bad about the other one and we both try to respect and appreciate one another.

None of those things have anything to do with being submissive. It's called being a decent spouse and thinkING of someone other than yourself which men and women are called to do to each other. 

[2xx1xy1JD]

Hubby and I are in the middle of a big financial decision.

He's asked me, repeatedly, for advice.  Some of what I told him was "I'm not sure", "what do the business lawyer and accountant say?", and "it's really up to you, I don't want to tell you what to do".

He was not pleased.  He doesn't want wishy-washy.  He wanted me to be fully engaged with this, make sure that he knew all the legal and financial pros and cons, help crunch numbers, and give a very clear answer on whether this was a good decision or not.  In short - he DID want me to tell him what to do.  He wants me to be a co-owner of the decision.

It works for us because we are fundamentally a partnership.  Neither of us want exclusive control, we respect the input of the other, and we have no desire to disrespect the other.  Therefore, when we make decisions, the only agenda is making a good decision based on input from both of us.  It's not about winning, losing or controlling.

Found it ironic that they said a reader wasn't doing submission right.  For years, Lori and Ken have criticized egalitarian marriage, which they were certainly not doing right and haven't come close to understanding despite our best efforts.

 

[Koala]

Ken:

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I know Lori and I come across at times as super experts

 Fear not, Ken.  Nothing could be further from the truth.

[Loveday]

They do, however, come across as thinking  they're super experts. They broadcast that  loud and clear.  

[Koala]

Ken:

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I was busy in my office reading your article and responding instead of doing my work

 That's what he said when he was here.  Seems that Kenny, provider for and protector of Lori, has trouble staying offline.  

Wonder if Ken misses the good ol' days when Courtney would comment on Lori's blog and he would tell her how pretty she was and ask her to meet them for dinner if she was ever in California....

[usmcmom]

11 hours ago, Koala said:

Ken:

 That's what he said when he was here.  Seems that Kenny, provider for and protector of Lori, has trouble staying offline.  

Wonder if Ken misses the good ol' days when Courtney would comment on Lori's blog and he would tell her how pretty she was and ask her to meet them for dinner if she was ever in California....

I'm quite sure Ken spends LOTS of time online; and I'm sure he's instructed Lori that she must always knock before entering his office. But to be fair, this probably happens only 1-3 times a month which is still far less than the average man's porn viewing. So, really Ken is not sinning. He's not. No, really HE'S NOT!!! 

'Cause ya know....87% of ALL MEN EVERYWHERE view porn on a daily business and 100% of their wives sin by reacting with anger.  Also, 92% percent of ALL CHURCHES AROUND THE WORLD will tell you that if a man views porn, it is his wife's fault while only 13% of ALL WOMEN EVERYWHERE will take responsibility. Also, according to Lori, 100% of ALL THE FEMINIST WOMEN IN THE WORLD never wear a dress or wash their hands. 

Gosh, the things I've learned from Lori and Ken.....

[jerkit]

13 hours ago, Koala said:

Ken:

 Fear not, Ken.  Nothing could be further from the truth.

He changed that phrase. When I read it earlier, he wrote "know it alls"

[molecule]

Today's post rests entirely on the fact that Ken told Lori that what men love about women is their softness. While that may well be true (my husband can wax almost poetically about the pillowy nature of my bosom), she uses this as yet another attack on feminism.

Apparently all feminists are hard and crunchy and not at all feminine. She has this to say:

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Being a feminist is the complete opposite of being feminine. Too many women today aren't soft in the way they act. They talk loudly, are bossy, and controlling. 

 

This means Lori's a feminist, right? I haven't listened to her speak before, but she has two out of hree.

And fear not! We get to see Lori refer to the God of the universe again. 

[jerkit]

Be soft! But not too soft! You don't want to be icky and fat. In fact, restrict your daughter's diet if she gains 5 lbs.

[SpoonfulOSugar]

 

[lilwriter85]

6 minutes ago, molecule said:

Today's post rests entirely on the fact that Ken told Lori that what men love about women is their softness. While that may well be true (my husband can wax almost poetically about the pillowy nature of my bosom), she uses this as yet another attack on feminism.

Apparently all feminists are hard and crunchy and not at all feminine. She has this to say:

This means Lori's a feminist, right? I haven't listened to her speak before, but she has two out of hree.

And fear not! We get to see Lori refer to the God of the universe again. 

When I read today's post I laughed because Lori has admitted to wanting to get her way and she has given many examples of how she is bossy and controlling on her blog.