No Hustle Russell (formerly Sarah Jane)

[Zuzus Petals]

4 hours ago, Granwych said:

Any sensible "ex-cop" wouldn't stress the "I used to be a cop" thing when the reasons for being an "ex" aren't so wonderful.  (I really can't use the word "sensible" when describing Rusty, though.)

Why did he stop being a cop?  I don't think I've ever read here what happened to his career.  Very few police officers leave before getting their 20 in.  Was he asked to resign?

[OhTheDrama]

6 minutes ago, Zuzus Petals said:

Why did he stop being a cop?  I don't think I've ever read here what happened to his career.  Very few police officers leave before getting their 20 in.  Was he asked to resign?

Twice. Two different small towns. Asked to resign both times. I don't think he made it 18 months in either place.

[Zuzus Petals]

5 hours ago, OhTheDrama said:

Twice. Two different small towns. Asked to resign both times. I don't think he made it 18 months in either place.

He must've sucked pretty bad then.  I live in northern IL and the agency I work for spends about $25K to put an officer through U of I's PTI and outfit him.  Most agencies try very hard to keep someone on after they've hired them.  I find it shocking that he passed any agencies psych test.

[Mecca]

Russ is good at spewing "Deep Thoughts" all over his Facebook, but he never applies those thoughts to his own life. 

Hey Russell, I am glad you are out getting yourself some exercise, but how about you walk to a career center or pick youself up some job applications. 

[nausicaa]

16 minutes ago, Mecca said:

Russ is good at spewing "Deep Thoughts" all over his Facebook, but he never applies those thoughts to his own life. 

Hey Russell, I am glad you are out getting yourself some exercise, but how about you walk to a career center or pick youself up some job applications. 

Seriously, this man has no shame. 

[Quivering Uterus]

I had a neighbor land a police officer job after some schooling. He was later laid off because of him not being able to cuff someone quicky, smoothly, and most of all correctly. They even gave him some time to practice. There is so many reasons they don't work out. Maybe Russ is a Deputy Fife in full bloom.

[Mecca]

19 minutes ago, nausicaa said:

Seriously, this man has no shame. 

I know, right? This guy just lives in his own little world, walking around town unemployed, yammering on Facebook like East Peoria's Socrates while having two daughters that I am sure could use some support. As much as he claims to be learning on his walks, he is not. 

I have no use for parents like Russell. He talks a good game and only shows up for the easy parts of parenting. Hell, he has yet to show up for any parenting on the one child. Such a jerk. 

[bea]

I've been busy and not bothered to go look at Mr. Deep Thoughts In The Tent I Live In Because Reasons' FB.

Holy crow. He really is homeless. I don't think I actually realized it until now (I'm slow). I figured someone would take him in.

If Kindall is allowing her kid to have visitation with Russ at a campsite, she's a friggin' saint.

[yetanothermeg]

I actually feel bad for him. This is why he is roaming the streets all day. He truly has nowhere else to go.

[DaffyDill]

Compare him to his one-time partner Kindall, who was also down at one time in her life (ironically including the time she was with Russ), and whom he never loses a chance to criticise.

She's now running a successful business she started herself (and just been featured on Local TV according to her FB), she has loads of friends, is sober, focused and busy and has a tight knit community of church friends and family around her and supporting her. On top of all this, she is bringing up 4 children on her own, and although admittedly the father of her older kids is around and includes Lauren in outings etc which is wonderful, she still managed to take her 4 kids on a vacation to Disneyland and her eldest is going to college soon.

I admire her SO much - she should be tremendously proud of all she has achieved. 

And then there's Rusty. Critical of Kindall, but is living in a tent, jobless, virtually childless although he has made two that he doesn't support financially, drinks like a fish occasionally, eats junk food, regularly loses contact with friends and family due to his obnoxious behaviour, is self absorbed, achieving nothing, and still thinks he is a self styled "East Peoria's Socrates"*

Wake up Russ, for the sake of your daughter/s. Stop the navel gazing and pontificating, and get a job, get healthy, and be someone your girls can be proud of before it's too late. Lauren is a smart little girl, and sooner rather than later, she will grow up and start looking at you with a teenagers critical eye, and realise "used to be a cop" really isn't the wondrous thing you think it is. Not when she realises you couldn't even be assed helping her mother financially. She's going to understand exactly what you are, and aren't, and it may not be pleasant. Pick yourself up, while there's still time.

*Credit to @Meccafor the brilliance of that comment.

[EweSheep]

On 5/5/2016 at 2:54 PM, MakeitSew said:

I don't know much about diagnosing autism or NPD (I have a child who is diagnosed mildly autistic, but am not sure of the all the markers they look for when making a diagnosis) but I think it can be easy for someone very familIar with a particular diagnosis and all the characteristics of that diagnosis to see similar characteristics in others and make connections and speculate. Of course, as far as I know, neither David nor Russell have been professionally diagnosed with any sort of behavior or personality disorder. (I do believe Russells father, though, was professionally diagnosed with schizophrenia and bi polar disorder). 

I can look at my child and see a definite lack of social awareness, as @chaotic lifewas mentioning. My kid does not think about the way his words and actions can affect others. He knows what he wants and if he doesn't get what he wants he finds creative ways to achieve his goal -usually negative ways but we are working on it! He needs constant guidance and reminders to be kind, be gentle, to apologize and compromise. It's hard for him and doesn't come very naturally but he is working on it. He can not really start a conversation on his own or engage with others in a meaningful conversation. He can get into heated arguments, though. He will try to turn a logical argument against his point away by throwing out insults, changing the subject, accusing the person who is against him of bizarre and random things to throw them off guard and turn their attention from what he perceives as "attacking" him to defending themselves, instead (thus putting himself in the position of powder in a conversation/argument). 

Some of these traits are extremely similar to what Russell has displayed and continues to display. The difference is, I think, that my kid doesn't really understand at first why he is making others feel the way they feel. He knows how HE feels but not how others feel. When he is shown how he is making others feel bad, then he feels bad and is quick to apologize. Russell, I think, is EXTREMELY aware of not only his own feelings but also the feelings of others. He uses that to his advantage by creating feelings in others that will serve his purpose - if he likes someone, he knows how to make them feel respected, admired, liked, etc. If he doesn't like someone, he knows how to make them feel inferior, timid, scared, angry, hurt, confused. I think he does know exactly what he is doing when he interacts with other people and if they respond to him in a negative way, he is all ready with some reason why they are the bad guy and he is a victim yet again of another narcissistic, toxic person. Sometimes I think he does treat people in ways that he knows they will respond badly to, just because he wants to feel victimized and have people feel sorry for him. He's a user. People are only useful to him so far as they are able to make him feel good about himself in some way. And he has shown himself to be an abuser. Perhaps not physically (although I recall with horror the blog post about him dragging Laurens mom by her hair) but certainly verbally and emotionally. 

His ridiculous rants and hundreds-comments-long facebook arguments in the past months show a person who can not tolerate a viewpoint other than his own. He ridicules people, insults people, and is hurtful to others in so many gross ways - especially the inexcusable sick meme he posted to hurt and attack a "friend" who had recently lost her husband, but who had the audacity to disagree politely with something he had said. 

He is also a hypocrite, not tolerating in others traits he routinely displays himself. He calls himself a Christian but has no problem sleeping with married women, fathering children he does not take care of or financially or personally support and showing a ghastly amount of intolerance for people of other sexual preferences, culture, faith and skin color. Claims he values hard work, then quits his job and is now wandering the streets of a city with no apparent goal in view other than to take pictures he can post on the facebook page he claimed he was quitting just a few short weeks ago.  

He is ridiculous, really. 

 

Amen! .For those people who call us "armchair specialists", sometimes we know a whole LOT more because we researched far much more than the specialists does when their education in ASD are somewhat limited due to the time and financial constraints of the classroom and clinical studies. We have support networks for ASD love ones, even the spouses that had to endure those type of quirky ways. We need MORE ASD specialists and be able to diagnose ASD and be able to differ and familiar with co morbidity with other dx on top of it.  It is okay if none of us agree on these issues...that is just part of being human and each one of us is different and our experience, knowledge varies. We know that Russell has mentioned that he does NOT have any mental issues..........

Okay back to the Russell, the mall cop........

 "East Peoria's Socrates" 

[SweetFellowshipper]

I personally am on the spectrum so I am very familiar with ASD. I can certainly understand thinking someone may exhibit similar traits to a particular diagnosis. 

I just have a problem when diagnoses/labels are thrown around, no matter the amount of research (especially when someone doesn't have the specific disorder themselves), especially when attached to a stigmatized disorder that often goes untreated, like NPD. For example, many people will use something like BPD or NPD essentially as a slur or to describe negative traits that they see in a certain person as evidence of a particular mental illness without knowing their full medical, treatment/medication, and personal history, and especially history of trauma. No matter how much research one has done, we cannot know that, nor how persistent/pervasive a certain behavior is, or how someone behaves off of social media. It particularly happens with mental illness, and the conflation of mental illness with cognitive disabilities undermines the understanding of both. Honestly, it gets dangerous. Associating negative behaviors with "proof" of a certain mental illness can be very hit or miss. For example, someone might display or mimic NPD-related traits because they are codependent or were traumatized by an NPD partner or spouse, not because they themselves have the disorder. And even people with family members with a certain disorder only know how traits manifest externally...just the tip of the iceberg. 

It's also no coincidence that this most often happens with people we don't like. In my opinion, it contributes to the stigma. If we try to label behaviors we don't like as potentially associated with something like NPD and that term gets thrown around enough, it seriously undermines public perception of what exactly a diagnosis like that means, as well as the necessary distinction between behaviors associated with trauma, attachment issues, or brain chemistry and just plain old bad behavior. This can also become very gendered, as it has with BPD (the "new hysteria"), so much so that medical professionals often refuse to treat them and a rehaul is happening for the diagnosis. The treatment and diagnosis of NPD is also often skewed. Many specialists believe that many men diagnosed with NPD actually have BPD, but because of men's reticence to talk about their trauma--well over 3/4 of BPD patients have a history of severe trauma--NPD is under diagnosed in women and overdiagnosed in men. 

So I guess what I'm saying is, of course it's natural to suggest a diagnosis, or to think someone might have something, and I do it too, but when I see comments about someone having a disorder about which even specialists can't agree and that is heavily stigmatized, misunderstood, and misdiagnosed, I get really nervous. *shrug*

Re: the police force, it says a lot about Russell that even cops don't want him. What on earth did he do?!

[EweSheep]

I can only assume what Russell did....unable to follow orders, crossed boundaries and not following protocol would be my guess but there was something of a reason he did that made them let him go. His reputation follows him everywhere like a bad fart.

Does anyone have information?

[MakeitSew]

I believe both instances had to do with domestic disputes and him assuming he had more authority than he really did.

[ellacinders]

I suppose that to people like Russell, who have zero self esteem (and believe me, the guy has ZERO), and want to elevate themselves (n their own mind) into someone important and authoritative - the career of a police officer is very attractive.  Which might be why we have a lot of abusive, jack-ass cops out there to deal with.  

[EweSheep]

Wondered how well Russell would do as a politician? Or a lawyer? 

He probably would be a better lawyer but it probably would make the judges cringe everytime he walks in LOL! I heard he got kicked out or sent out by courts a few times for running his mouth when he should not be talking over the judge or simply don't know how to be quiet.

[ellacinders]

Nice to see David proclaim Happy Mother's Day to the mother of his six children.  Rose is fortunate that David has made the effort to bond with her and claim her as his own.  A lot of guys would not even consider stepping up to the plate in a scenario such as this.

[EweSheep]

Yep I agree, Ellacinders, David is a better role model for Rose and he does not discriminate either, among his kids.

Russ had some interesting pictures of the town. Yes, they are thoughtful photographs but he can sell some on commission with a well marketed art seller. 

Pretty campground....it reminds me of Cooper Park.....nice for primitive camping! I know they have campsites nearby for trailers but it is limited.

[MakeitSew]

Is Cooper Park that one on the river near the casino? I don't think he's staying at the campground all the time since his posts are generally now from across the river in Peoria/North Peoria etc. If he is staying with Darrin, he sure wants to keep that information private, doesn't he?

[ellacinders]

I agree that he's staying with Darrin, and if so, I guarantee he doesn't want anyone to know, after all the venom he has spewed his brother's way.  And I guarantee he goes camping during his time with Lauren, because he doesn't want Lauren to know, and share this information.

I read his most recent posts this morning with my coffee.  Oh, Russell.  Russell, Russell, Russell....

Rusty, you publicly proclaimed that you were abandoning Free Jinger.  Walking away.  Cutting the cord.  Like you did with Rose.  Your child.  

But I see, unlike Rose, Free Jinger has quite the emotional hold on you.  Free Jinger should be the gal you have no trouble walking away from, as opposed to your own flesh and blood.  I see that little Rose is simply too much of a burden to bother with.  But Jinger...you can't possibly turn your back on.

We aren't haters, Russ.  You on the other hand, are a hater.  We are simply observers.  We observe, and we note what we see.  

Okay, so you took two walks last week.  That's good Russ.  You get a gold star.  You took some photos of your town.  Ain't gonna give you a gold star for that one though.  It's just not really much of any sort of effort to improve yourself.  Okay, you made what you thought to be profound philosophic declarations.  Ain't gonna give you a gold star for that either, because you ignore the beauty that should matter most in your life, and slam it with hate.  

You are the hater, Russ.  You are the person dragging around the dirty laundry.  A couple of walks 'round town while you're unemployed with nothing else to do, and taking a few photos while you're at it (albeit nice photos) prove nothing toward self improvement.  

[EweSheep]

Preach it, Ellencinders! 

I am guessing Cooper's Park, there is a north and south and one of them have camper set ups. If you google it, you can see it on the north part and a few areas for camp sites. He took some pictures of the trails and there are some familiarity to it. It's very nice! Its not far from the casino and other places.

I am not aware of camping sites for homeless folks. I have a LOT of friends living in Peoria and Tazewell Counties and there are some excellent camping sites near the river. Jubilee Park is another one that is wonderful for camping, and good for horse riders and walking paths. Its quite a ways from town of Kickapoo and near Brimfield, right off on I74. Been ages since I visited the park and seeing the medieval sports that used to be there every year.

[MakeitSew]

Well something must have struck a nerve. He's treated the world to a juicy I'm-a-victim rant. Was wondering when we would get another one of those.

Ok, a few observations after reading this lengthy diatribe: 

"The last times we spoke was in January 2015 when we had a doctors apointment."

Ok? I guess I imagined that post from last summer with a glut of ill-quality camera photos of you, SJ and Rose at a (presumably) local fast food place? Where you declared your love for both of them? 

"She was seeing two other men and bringing the cards from her suitors to our baby doctors appointments."

Ok, I have some personal knowledge of at least one of the alleged men. No idea if there were any others, but I doubt it.  A longtime friend was, for a brief time, coworker with SJ. According to him, he left a card in SJ's vehicle during her shift one day. A card with some bible verses since this was around the time she was getting a divorce or having some kind of trouble with Rusty. When he asked her if she got it, she told him our old pal Russ had ripped up this card in front of her face and thrown the pieces on the ground.

(Not related to Russells rant, but one of the reasons this douche bag really pisses me off is that this same friend suffers from ALD. Because he was SJ's coworker and happened to have a penis Russell hated him. This guy is disabled because of his disease and is making medical history. As a last ditch effort to stop the progression of the disease so he can be around for his 10 year old son, this guy went through a BMT last summer. It ended up failing. Russ apparently sent this guy a nasty message on FB saying that karma is a bitch, he was enjoying the show. Thankfully a second BMT was successful. Guess karma decided to come for Russ, instead.)

"Days later she asked me to come to baby appointment. My coworkers and counsolrs thought. It was a trap. So I didnt go. Sure enough hours later I was hit with an order of protection. Went to court. No one showed."

Russ, it's easy to search the online court records for where SJ lived during the time you are talking about. Zero records of any attempted OP's against you by SJ. 

"I begged her to stay...more mental abuse blaming me for the move. She said the it way she could stay is if I have her a house like the one In ohio."

So, she moves to Ohio to escape you and your abuse? But will stay with you if you get her a house? Looked at her blog. Looks like the house she left in Illinois was a place she really loved and had been in for quite a few years. I doubt she would have left it and undertaken the expense and work of moving, with five kids and pregnant, unless she had a good reason to get away. 

"And we choose a name and she quickly laughed it off and switched it to a new name".

According to your FB last winter you said the baby would be Vivian Rose. So SJ ended up naming her Rose. Not quite a totally new name.

"The Woodford country sherrifs department told me this was Sarah and David routine long before I was ever in the picture. Ops against each other and dropping them."

Again, zero record of this on the Woodford co court website. None at all, until well after you were in the picture. The most David had on him before that were some traffic tickets.

"Never paying child support since 2013 happily lives in illinois doing his booty call to Ohio."

No clue what David does or doesn't do at the moment but you shouldn't really talk about not paying child support. Last I knew, you have at least one child who has never seen a pennies worth of support from you and it's truly doubtful you are paying CS to Lauren's mom.

"Sarah's friends house is in foreclosure. So as exspected She has told friends she's moving back to illinois.": 

Um, one of her last blog posts talks about the different things she has been doing in Ohio. No indication she is moving back at all, rather that she is enjoying life with her kids where she is at. Even if she had to move, why would she go back to Illinois? That's an expensive move, especially if she is, as you claim, "living off the state".

"She has become friends with my first daughters nartasicist mom with a shared hate and desire to hurt me."

Yeah, it wasn't nice when your daughters two mothers got together without you, was it? This definitely is proof they are both conspiring to hurt you by letting the two girls get to know each other. That is really an awful thing to do, isn't it?

"With counsolrs full support and knowledge and the judges I went full no contact in Dec. With both"

You were court ordered to have no contact with Kindall in December  because of your harassment. And from your past posts, SJ went no contact with YOU long before you decided that it you were having no contact with her. Remember that post last fall when you begged her to contact you? Yeah. . .not buying this story Russ, old boy.

"Sarah shows up unexpectedly spewing hate."

So you have seen her since that time last June? You've seen Rose? No pictures? No posts then? Yeah, again. . .not buying that story. Or do you mean she met with Lauren and her mom and they spewed hate about you? 

"I will go for my rights"

Yep, excellent work this past year in working towards that goal. Let's see. You see your daughter once when SJ brings her by. Then you (allegedly, by your own words) refuse to see her again when she has offered again. Then you quit your job. Then you get evicted. Now you are homeless. Jobless. How is this going to enable you to travel to Ohio, hire a lawyer, and file for paternity? Then file for visitation? Then pay SJ child support? 

". David has threaded that They have a gun and if I attempt I see daughter will shoot me"

David cannot legally own firearms in Illinois because he has a felony on his record. If he has threatened you, I would hope and assume you would go immediately to the proper authorities. Not only can he not legally own guns, he cannot contact you since you have an OP against him. Oh wait. . .you haven't told the authorities? Why? You used to be a cop! You should know its' your duty to inform the proper authorities if you have been threatened or contacted illegally.

Again, not buying it. 

"So there's the full truth."

The truth is, of course, that you want to point fingers at everyone else to justify your own actions (or inactions) and to get the negative attention away from you by trying to make yourself look better when compared to your descriptions of others. 

 

 

 

[fundiefan]

Oh. My. Brain. It. Hurts.

While I never have believed Sarah to be an innocent victim, I do at least see her seemingly moving on and keeping the drama off Facebook. Although, there is a whole lotta' weirdness with her David and each having two Facebook accounts, and their history, and blah, blah, blah.

None of that, however, has anything to do with how Russell portrays himself, shows himself to be, whines about, hangs onto FJ for dear life because he gets no other validation. None of that has anything to do with Russell quitting his job, being evicted, and living...who the hell knows where. None of that has anything to do with his failure to even try to claim his infant daughter or his drama surrounding Lauren's mom.

Self victimization is a trap he created for, and fell into, all on his own.

We knew that rant was coming eventually. It's been said before. Then deleted. Then said again. Then deleted again.

I feel nothing but disgust for Russell. No pity. No sympathy. Just pure disgust at such a pathetic excuse for an adult human being.

[nausicaa]

Holy hell, Russ. You don't think it's fishy that two separate women claim you abused them? There's that many heartless liars out there? So the mothers of both your children and your former employer were all abusive narcissists? Hmmm...

"I had and do love her."

You got a funny way of showing it Russ. If a guy dragging my name through the dirt and posting all my intimate details all over Facebook is love, I'd rather be unloved, thanks.

"I have never drank. Maybe once a year."

Well you contradicted yourself right there. In addition to posting the liquor you were drinking during the Superbowl. And considering the syntax-less ramblings in this post, I highly suspect (and almost hope) you were drunk while writing this.

"Her story sounds better and gets her money and attention the same as our daughters disease."

So...are you saying Lauren's disease is made up? And why on earth shouldn't she get disability benefits and Medicaid for Lauren? She's not cheating the system. That's what it's there for. 

"Today I say with a young encouranging him to stop nation and take time I heal him."

I have no idea what this means, but I'm sure if I had it translated, it would be something else illogical and snarkable. 

Sincerely, 

Fueled by the Devil

[MakeitSew]

Aaaaaannndd. . ..now he has deleted his page. Again.