Anna Duggar and the M kids part 6

[ksgranola1]

It didn't look to me as if the car was actually moving.

[twinmama]

10 hours ago, Bad Wolf said:

Thirty years ago laws were different, and car seats have evolved since then. The Duggars have not bothered to adapt. Josie was probably the only kid actually fitted into the car seat correctly. I doubt that they would have let her leave the NICU without checking that she was in there safely. Now, whether the seat was installed correctly in the car is a different story. At least the M kid was in the back seat, other than that, there was nothing right about that picture.

Our NICU did check our kids in their car seats  before we were able to leave. The nurse showed us how tight it was supposed to be and everything (she wasn't allowed to buckle them in, but she stood over our shoulders). So if all NICUs do that, you are right about Josie. But that's sadly just the ride home. I bet the Duggars didn't really pay much attention after that.

[JMO]

I'm part way through the last episode of Counting on and noticed how thin Anna looks. Considering the shit she went through I'm not surprised she's thinner but she looks almost back to pre wedding weight. 

[Hera]

1 hour ago, JMO said:

I'm part way through the last episode of Counting on and noticed how thin Anna looks. Considering the shit she went through I'm not surprised she's thinner but she looks almost back to pre wedding weight. 

It's all part of her plan to be sexier for Josh so he won't cheat on her again.  I mean, good for her for losing weight if she wanted to, but the idea that Josh cheated on her because she's not attractive is just ridiculous.  Gorgeous women get cheated on all the time. But, of course, it's easier for the Duggars and their kind to blame Anna than to take a good look at what really is going on with Josh and acknowledge that maybe, just maybe, the way he was brought up has something to do with his current issues. 

[JDuggs]

57 minutes ago, Hera said:

It's all part of her plan to be sexier for Josh so he won't cheat on her again.  I mean, good for her for losing weight if she wanted to, but the idea that Josh cheated on her because she's not attractive is just ridiculous.  Gorgeous women get cheated on all the time. But, of course, it's easier for the Duggars and their kind to blame Anna than to take a good look at what really is going on with Josh and acknowledge that maybe, just maybe, the way he was brought up has something to do with his current issues. 

This must have been the most stressful year of Anna's life. There's a possibility that her weight loss is mostly due to stress. She might not be dieting purposely, but she might not have any appetite. The makeup might be her just trying to feel better about herself. I still don't believe that the Duggars are blaming Anna. But they aren't taking any responsibility either. It's all about the devil and the evil world.

[Eternalbluepearl]

6 minutes ago, JDuggs said:

 I still don't believe that the Duggars are blaming Anna. But they aren't taking any responsibility either. It's all about the devil and the evil world.

Exactly. I'm sure "the world" is to blame for everything. "The Enemy" tried to get a hold of Josh and ruin his family but Jim Bob won't allow that to happen. 

[Mothership]

I don't think we'll ever know what the Duggars really feel about Joshley and Anna.  We haver their disgusting dismissal of the molestations on Fox.  Then we have the multiple versions of Joshley's "Mea culpa" after the AM scandal.

Even the recent clips on TLC for the next episode, show the kidults with mixed reactions to Anna's announcement that Joshley is almost done with rehab.  But, as this is TLC, it's hard to know whether the edit is a reaction to what Anna said or someone just farted.

I agree that Anna's weight loss is likely from stress as anything.  She's also in a house of thin women who all seem to be fairly conscious of their weight/bodies for purporting to think their countenance is the only thing that matters.  Her make up tips seem to come from Jinger (eye liner and bronzer).

 

[AlysonRR]

In WA, where I live, it's the law that children have to be in boosters until they are either 4'9" or 8 years old. There's a $112 fine per instance for having children in the car who are not properly restrained. Children under 13 can't be in the front seat unless there are no other options.

My youngest was very annoyed with the law because he didn't hit 4'9" until he was 12. Unfortunately for him, we had bought the large Britax convertible seat, so no discreet booster! When he was 8 we were able to lower the shoulder strap just enough that he was safe in a seat-only booster, but we kept him in that until he was 10 (4'5") and could sit on the seat without the strap decapitating him. We wouldn't have been fined after he was 8, but he was still too short. He was embarrassed, but safe!

[Trynn]

See, I think they should just make seatbelts in the back that can be safe for children, but what do I know.

[Chelio93]

11 hours ago, JMO said:

I'm part way through the last episode of Counting on and noticed how thin Anna looks. Considering the shit she went through I'm not surprised she's thinner but she looks almost back to pre wedding weight. 

It makes me wonder, if she feels that her appearance is the only thing she has any control over?  I'm hoping she just doesn't want to eat Tator Tots in 582 different ways each day and is not being abused or neglected.  She just said, "No", to crap soup recipes and the weight came off because she eats better and the cause of her stress can't be located by the press, passerby's or even Famy

[EmCatlyn]

10 minutes ago, Trynn said:

See, I think they should just make seatbelts in the back that can be safe for children, but what do I know.

I used to have a special harness thing that was considered safe as a car and airplane restraint for kids 1-8 (there was a height/weight range but I forget it).  It was like a reinforced vest with straps between the legs so the kid wouldn't slide out.  The car or plane seatbelt was threaded through the back of the reinforced vest.  It could be used in a car with a booster seat (so kid could see out the window) or without.

We didn't use it in our own car,  but it was lightweight enough to carry easily onto a plane, much better for a kid than a plane seatbelt and you could use it in taxis. 

It was crash tested and approved for regular cars around 1990, but I guess the design didn't catch on.

[Shadoewolf]

Some cars and minivans also have the feature of a built in car seat, where the middle cushion folds down and acts as a booster. Some have 5 point harnesses, others don't. 

I think too that if I was Anna, I would be furious that such a picture was posted.  Its one thing for them to endanger their own kids, (Izzy's many bad shots, Spud on the couch) but now the M's are in the line of fire, and that's another stress Anna just doesn't need.

[ClaraOswin]

They do make a harness for airplane seats. http://kidsflysafe.com/ I haven't seen the one that used to exist for cars though. Sounds interesting.

[MakeItSo]

3 hours ago, Trynn said:

See, I think they should just make seatbelts in the back that can be safe for children, but what do I know.

I, too, was thinking of just some kind of sliding mechanism (where the seatbelt comes out of the cushion, so you can adjust it vertically depending on the height of the kid. I'm talking kids old/big enough for boosters, of course. But I think most kids want to see what's happening outside the window (I know, I always did) and without boosters most would just stare at the window crank...or button. 

[EmCatlyn]

1 hour ago, ClaraOswin said:

They do make a harness for airplane seats. http://kidsflysafe.com/ I haven't seen the one that used to exist for cars though. Sounds interesting.

This is a very different design.  The one we had was a padded vest with a solid back and it didn't attach to the back of the plane seat.  But this is more lightweight.

I liked the car feature because it meant the kid was safer in taxis and other vehicles when there was no way to tote a full-size car seat.

It's really fascinating how safety devices evolve.

[devoe364]

22 hours ago, JMO said:

I'm part way through the last episode of Counting on and noticed how thin Anna looks. Considering the shit she went through I'm not surprised she's thinner but she looks almost back to pre wedding weight. 

I really feel for Anna, because my ex and I were in a toxic relationship (we love each other as friends, but that's about it) much like Anna and Josh. Like Anna, I cared far more about my ex then he cared about me. He also caused me a lot of streess and anxiety.

In the year that he and I dated, I went from a size 14 and a 32 inch waist, to a size 4 and a 26 inch waist. 

Stress will do that to you. 

[ksgranola1]

The promo for next week showed Anna saying she was preparing for Josh's program to end. She said something else after that but I had taken my hearing aid out & didn't catch it. She looked pretty tense about it, too. At any rate, looks like they are going to address Josh's "predicament," no matter how minimally.

[Mothership]

1 hour ago, ksgranola1 said:

The promo for next week showed Anna saying she was preparing for Josh's program to end. She said something else after that but I had taken my hearing aid out & didn't catch it. She looked pretty tense about it, too. At any rate, looks like they are going to address Josh's "predicament," no matter how minimally.

I suspect they will do the usual talking head of Anna taking it 5 minutes at a time and the J'slaves congratulating her for her faith and strength.  

DRIVES ME CRAZY--the Duggar's compliments of Anna--how she's prayed her way through this and how strong she is--is really just another way to remind her that if she leaves, it's ALL HER FAULT--she wasn't strong enough or didn't pray hard enough.    I just wish one of them would acknowledge that Anna has a choice and is choosing to stay and try to work things out.   And maybe, allow that she can still decide to leave down the road--that as much as she might want her marriage to work out, it can't happen.  I know, I know--in my dreams!

[dawbs]

14 hours ago, EmCatlyn said:

I used to have a special harness thing that was considered safe as a car and airplane restraint for kids 1-8 (there was a height/weight range but I forget it).  It was like a reinforced vest with straps between the legs so the kid wouldn't slide out.  The car or plane seatbelt was threaded through the back of the reinforced vest.  It could be used in a car with a booster seat (so kid could see out the window) or without.

We didn't use it in our own car,  but it was lightweight enough to carry easily onto a plane, much better for a kid than a plane seatbelt and you could use it in taxis. 

It was crash tested and approved for regular cars around 1990, but I guess the design didn't catch on.

I am waiting impatiently for THIS to exist:

http://www.mifold.com/
 

The kickstarter now is there though...

[ClaraOswin]

13 hours ago, EmCatlyn said:

This is a very different design.  The one we had was a padded vest with a solid back and it didn't attach to the back of the plane seat.  But this is more lightweight.

I liked the car feature because it meant the kid was safer in taxis and other vehicles when there was no way to tote a full-size car seat.

It's really fascinating how safety devices evolve.

Hmm...I wish I knew what it was called so I could see it.

We never take taxis. But we do bring a car seat onto the plane with us.

[EmCatlyn]

4 hours ago, ClaraOswin said:

Hmm...I wish I knew what it was called so I could see it.

We never take taxis. But we do bring a car seat onto the plane with us.

I don't think it had a name.  We bought it from the Perfectly Safe catalog, I think, but I couldn't find anything like it on a quick search.  The "next generation" seems to be this: Ridersafer vest but it is a different design (no belt between the legs and the regular seatbelt goes over the car seat instead of behind.)

I think the seat that @dawbs linked to looks great.  It is a different idea from what I had but much lighter and more convenient.  

Traveling alone with a kid and a regular car seat for the plane can be a hassle.  After one particularly miserable trip, I was happy to find this alternative.  We took taxis in New York and in a couple of Caribbean countries where we weren't brave enough to drive with the locals.  

[Jigsaw3]

The Cares harness, for the plane?

[ClaraOswin]

I would use the Cares harness if I didn't need the car seat at my destination.

[nastyhobbitses]

On 4/10/2016 at 2:20 AM, twinmama said:

Our NICU did check our kids in their car seats  before we were able to leave. The nurse showed us how tight it was supposed to be and everything (she wasn't allowed to buckle them in, but she stood over our shoulders). So if all NICUs do that, you are right about Josie. But that's sadly just the ride home. I bet the Duggars didn't really pay much attention after that.

All the way back in 1991, my parents weren't allowed to leave the hospital without proving that the carseat was properly installed and I was properly installed in it. Of course, that turned into my mom sitting on a bench in Central Park with Newborn Me in her arms for close to an hour while my dad, uncle, and grandpa turned the installation process into a Three Stooges routine. Apparently they were close to saying "screw it" and just taking me home on the subway.

[CoveredInBees]

35 minutes ago, nastyhobbitses said:

All the way back in 1991, my parents weren't allowed to leave the hospital without proving that the carseat was properly installed and I was properly installed in it. Of course, that turned into my mom sitting on a bench in Central Park with Newborn Me in her arms for close to an hour while my dad, uncle, and grandpa turned the installation process into a Three Stooges routine. Apparently they were close to saying "screw it" and just taking me home on the subway.

Back in 2001, we had to be escorted out to the car by the midwife (we had to take the car seat in and strap baby in properly on the ward) so she could check the car seat. I don't know if they do it now but it was standard NHS guidelines back then.