Amy Jordan Duggar Jordan Duggar King Duggar Wedding Part 2

[PrairieGirl]

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But YOU weren't the ones asking people to bring the food. I think it was really nice of the ladies of the church to volunteer. Totally different than sending out an invite and telling people that when they RSVP they will be given a food assignment toward the meal.

Next we'll have brown bag receptions!

I'll jump into the thread derailment. :lol: Years ago when my cousin was getting married, the Midwest was hit with literally one of the hugest snowstorms of the decade. As in, people were trapped in their homes and cars were buried. But most of us (the wedding party) made it to the church safely, as did the minister so the wedding could take place. Even the flowers and the photographer made it. However, the caterers cancelled that morning for safety reasons. Cousin was very upset about the food, but the wedding had to go on. So we bridesmaids scrambled and called as many people as we could who were attempting to get to the church, and asked them to bring anything edible.

It turned out beautifully. My cousin was very touched by all the food that was provided by the guests that braved the storm and made it to the wedding. We had a variety of foods from lasagna to beef stew to small sandwiches. In the end, she saved about $2,000 from the catering refund and has some funny memories of their special day.

[JessaJessa]

I've been invited to two weddings where we (and a bunch of others) were just invited to the ceremony. Both were large church ceremonies. It didn't bother me a ton but it was a little weird. The really just invited the whole church congregation to the ceremony only and then had about a 100 or so at the reception. Gift grab or just trying to share the ceremony with everyone without having to buy them dinner, I'm not sure.

[socalrules]

My coworker had a potluck reception for his wedding. It was potluck gone wrong. Another coworker and I pooled out money and bought a huge platter of prepared sandwiches. Turns out, we only ate what we bought because the rest was a nightmare. People came early to set up and the food sat out for hours before the nearly two hour ceremony began, including platters of sushi, potato salad, etc. It never occurred to anyone that some things need to be refrigerated. Let's not even take into account it was summer. Many people just brought random packages of cookies. I was embarrassed for the couple. It was the one time I could see it having been better to just have cake and punch.

[Rescinded and Mended]

And Joe's the one off at Crown College right now, so maybe he's working harder toward mastery of the books in hopes of getting the money. My vote is that even if Joseph does memorize everything, Jim Bob will find a way to get out of paying him the $1,000, gravy train money or not at this point. It'll be something stupid like, oh you missed a paragraph in chapter 6, or you didn't recite quickly enough. I wouldn't ever trust JB to pay up.

[Arete]

Wait! Are we talking about being able to recite the text in the Bible, the entire a Bible, without having those text in front of you? There are monks and nuns who have been living in seclusion for decades who would not try something like that. Jim Bob Duggar is a fucking asshole. He reduces the faith and the text that are supposedly guiding his life to a cheap parlor trick with a random price tag.

[Rescinded and Mended]

Wait! Are we talking about being able to recite the text in the Bible, the entire a Bible, without having those text in front of you? There are monks and nuns who have been living in seclusion for decades who would not try something like that. Jim Bob Duggar is a fucking asshole. He reduces the faith and the text that are supposedly guiding his life to a cheap parlor trick with a random price tag.

Yep, that's the gist of it. JB said he had several of the kids try, but they gave up after two or three sections. He claimed Joe was the front runner and was determined to get the money, so he's been working the hardest for it. I'm thinking Joe will get reinforcement due to his Bible studies at college, but still, memorizing every part of the KJV seems like a tall order to fill.

[Jessa's Feet]

*edited for an error of the spelling kind. damn touch screen keyboard.

After reading all of the wedding posts, small arguments about how things should be done, and stories about weddings people have either done or been to, it makes me appreciate my wedding so much. I know so many people that also say "I wish I could have done my wedding differently" and again, I'm glad 7 years later I'd do mine identical down to every detail.

We rented a historical Victorian house, limited the guest list to how many could fit in the parlor of the historical house (friends & family), had the property for a certain amount of time that included time for pictures on the property afterwards (amazing for pictures, seriously), and then we went to a restaurant that I had booked/worked with a month in advance that had experience in doing these sort of things. That restaurant was Buca di Beppo. Works really well if it's a place that already serves family style. I even made my own wedding cake because I'm a badass baker. (Oh and I had them serve their chocolate cake that swims in a moat of chocolate sauce!) Had a family member drop it off at the restaurant the morning of the wedding. They had it ready on a side table in one of their private rooms. I highly recommend them as a venue by the way. Also, it's an open bar but VERY easy to set up the option to have it on your tab or everyone runs their own tab when they go up to the bar themselves.

We even had a silly first dance, lol.

My aunt did our photography. She's a professional....in the porn industry but, hey, she's good (and free!). Think Playboy. Which she has worked for at times over her career. She owns multiple porn sites. However, I always hear that she's trying to move away from the industry. I suspect it's because it's not a money maker anymore. Just like with the majority of things you used to have to pay for but now you can find free all over the internet. High quality to boot.

And that went from my wedding to porn quickly.

[Fundie Bunny]

My aunt did our photography. She's a professional....in the porn industry but

And that went from my wedding to porn quickly.

Now everyone knows i am not studying because i laughed out loud. :lol:

A professional photografer is still a professional, no matter the field :wink-penguin:

[candygirl200413]

Yep, that's the gist of it. JB said he had several of the kids try, but they gave up after two or three sections. He claimed Joe was the front runner and was determined to get the money, so he's been working the hardest for it. I'm thinking Joe will get reinforcement due to his Bible studies at college, but still, memorizing every part of the KJV seems like a tall order to fill.

So I went to this page last and then went backwards to see the context, and all I can say is wow, what kind of asshole would do this, and for only $1000!? especially when the bible is on average almost 2000 words?!

I remember back in sunday school (like 3rd or 4th grade?) we'd get a gift card for just knowing the books of the bible in order!

[Fundie Bunny]

So I went to this page last and then went backwards to see the context, and all I can say is wow, what kind of asshole would do this, and for only $1000!? especially when the bible is on average almost 2000 words?!

I remember back in sunday school (like 3rd or 4th grade?) we'd get a gift card for just knowing the books of the bible in order!

We would get a little perfume bottle just for knowing the names of the apostoles. Ebil catholicism you know

riffles

[Season of life...]

This is why I am having a destination wedding. Kona (or Kauai). No one is invited. No one is going to make fun of my dress our complain about the food or being allergic to the flowers or make me wear shoes. I can eat food I like (sorry, but there is almost never anything at a Midwest (Midwest is where our spice challenged extended family all live) potluck that is at all appetizing). No "friends" to critique my fashion choices and tell me that the dress I hate looks better. No one to complain about the registry choices our lack there of.

Choosing a destination wedding was one of the best decisions my husband and I have made together. We stayed at and got married on a flower farm on Kauai, and then had a catered dinner on the beach, just the two of us. It was beautiful. We will be celebrating our 13th anniversary in October, and I can honestly say we have had no regrets. I was so relaxed I didn't even check my dress for wrinkles until the night before. It was simply a special time together with no drama, and I wish you an experience just as wonderful. All the best to you!

[nastyhobbitses]

Yep, that's the gist of it. JB said he had several of the kids try, but they gave up after two or three sections. He claimed Joe was the front runner and was determined to get the money, so he's been working the hardest for it. I'm thinking Joe will get reinforcement due to his Bible studies at college, but still, memorizing every part of the KJV seems like a tall order to fill.

There are many Muslims who have memorized the Quran, but I'm under the impression that it's shorter than the Bible and since it can be chanted/sung, it's easier to keep in your head. I had to memorize a single passage of the Torah in Hebrew and recite it at my Bat Mitzvah, and since it was chanted, it was pretty easy to keep in my head after I got through listening to it over and over and over. It was sort of like memorizing a prog rock song (really long, not a lot of repetition), actually. With the KJV Bible, while it can be very poetic at times, I don't know if you could chant or sing it like the Torah or the Quran.

[nausicaa]

There are many Muslims who have memorized the Quran, but I'm under the impression that it's shorter than the Bible and since it can be chanted/sung, it's easier to keep in your head. I had to memorize a single passage of the Torah in Hebrew and recite it at my Bat Mitzvah, and since it was chanted, it was pretty easy to keep in my head after I got through listening to it over and over and over. It was sort of like memorizing a prog rock song (really long, not a lot of repetition), actually. With the KJV Bible, while it can be very poetic at times, I don't know if you could chant or sing it like the Torah or the Quran.

The Qu'ran is significantly shorter than the Bible. Maybe 1/10th or 1/15th its length (totally random estimation here) and my understanding is that in Arabic it has a poetic rhythm/meter, so that probably helps with memorization. I also believe Arabic has not changed as much as English has since the KJV, so the language is probably more natural and familiar.

[Jessa's Feet]

Now everyone knows i am not studying because i laughed out loud. :lol:

A professional photografer is still a professional, no matter the field :wink-penguin:

Exactly!

My in laws have always known what she does. My family has always known. Hell, she gave me free passwords/usernames to several of her sites. I may have "allegedly" written a story or two for a couple of photo series.

However, none of the other people (including a few quite prude religious friends) knew. Which made it hilarious to me. She had just come off a huge shoot photographing girl on girl a couple days prior. So she had to do a quick fly in and fly out for my wedding. So she did dress in jeans and a t-shirt for my wedding and that didn't go over well. I heard about that for forever. (Trash talking that is)

Man, the weeks after a wedding are FILLED with trash talk. Or was that just mine? It can't be just mine.

[Fundie Bunny]

Exactly!

My in laws have always known what she does. My family has always known. Hell, she gave me free passwords/usernames to several of her sites. I may have "allegedly" written a story or two for a couple of photo series.

However, none of the other people (including a few quite prude religious friends) knew. Which made it hilarious to me. She had just come off a huge shoot photographing girl on girl a couple days prior. So she had to do a quick fly in and fly out for my wedding. So she did dress in jeans and a t-shirt for my wedding and that didn't go over well. I heard about that for forever. (Trash talking that is)

Man, the weeks after a wedding are FILLED with trash talk. Or was that just mine? It can't be just mine.

We are still trash talking about how wasted was my cousin at his wedding, and it has been almost two years. He loves it :lol:

[Exposedknees]

[quote="nastyhobbitses

There are many Muslims who have memorized the Quran, but I'm under the impression that it's shorter than the Bible and since it can be chanted/sung, it's easier to keep in your head. I had to memorize a single passage of the Torah in Hebrew and recite it at my Bat Mitzvah, and since it was chanted, it was pretty easy to keep in my head after I got through listening to it over and over and over. It was sort of like memorizing a prog rock song (really long, not a lot of repetition), actually. With the KJV Bible, while it can be very poetic at times, I don't know if you could chant or sing it like the Torah or the Quran.

[nastyhobbitses]

The Qu'ran is significantly shorter than the Bible. Maybe 1/10th or 1/15th its length (totally random estimation here) and my understanding is that in Arabic it has a poetic rhythm/meter, so that probably helps with memorization. I also believe Arabic has not changed as much as English has since the KJV, so the language is probably more natural and familiar.

Depends on what kind of Arabic you speak. Yemeni and Gulf Arabic can be pretty close to the Classical Arabic in the Quran, but the varieties of Arabic spoken in the Maghreb (North Africa) and the Levant are basically unintelligible to someone from, say, Saudi Arabia. My cousin did two years of Peace Corps in Morocco and became quite good at speaking Darija (Moroccan/Algerian Arabic), but when he tried to speak it to some Egyptian friends, they couldn't get a word he was saying.

[GodsKnickers]

Dear God. I'm pretty sure one does whatever one feels is right for one's own wedding, and that will vary widely based on culture, location, etc.

Holy shit, people. If we could all just relax about weddings and what goes on (or doesn't go on) at them, I feel like the world would be a much calmer place. In the grand scheme of things, it's a couple hours to a day of your life. Unless someone is doing something horribly rude and insulting (which for the record does not include putting the registry info on the invite, not putting the registry info on the invite, having a potluck reception, having a dollar dance, having a honeymoon fund, wearing something you think is tacky, specifying a dress code, not specifying a dress code, accidentally running out of food, etc.) - who honestly cares? There's so much in this world to actually be upset about, why make weddings one of those things?

And for everyone who takes such great offence at the slightest hint of a 'gift grab', guess what, I've got fantastic news for you - no one's forcing you to bring a gift! If you feel like it would be rude not to, fine, get something inexpensive. Some people are really selfish. Some people are just thoughtless. Sometimes you're the one who's misunderstood the situation. And often it's hard to tell the difference. So get a gift, don't get a gift, but stop making it into such a big deal. All you're doing is adding petty, pointless drama to your life.

Well put.

We had a ton of fun at our wedding, and it was a typical fundie-lite, preacher's kid wedding. Which means no dancing and no drinking. :lol: My MIL was thrilled about no dance, as she hates dancing - not because she's against it from a religious viewpoint, she feels she is incredibly uncoordinated and looks like a drunk giraffe trying to do the jitterbug. :lol: She was also thrilled that I nixed the receiving line - I loathe receiving lines. If you weren't happy for me, you wouldn't be here. And if you're there and not happy for me, I DGAF. :lol: A lot of people that were at our wedding had never been to one without dancing/alcohol. We had a bunch of people that wanted to do various things and we let them. Fortunately, the singers could sing, the skits were funny and whatever else happened, went off without a hitch. Many many many MANY anniversaries later, we still get "happy anniversary" messages that end with "man, we had so much fun at your wedding - wasn't what we expected but it was still a blast."

I'd outline what my son did for his wedding, but it would likely get picked apart. Regardless, it was lovely and a great deal of fun. Very small, only 50 people and there was a dance and alcohol, :martini: and some speeches and shit. It was relaxed and intimate and we partied until about 2 am. It was a whole weekend affair, from Friday night until Sunday afternoon, though not everyone was there for the entire weekend. I dunno - we had a great deal of fun, and I think the kids did a wonderful job of the whole wedding weekend. I jokingly say it was almost exactly what I stood over their cribs and whispered to them while they were nodding off, about doing up a wedding. :lol4:

[iweartanktops]

Yep, that's the gist of it. JB said he had several of the kids try, but they gave up after two or three sections. He claimed Joe was the front runner and was determined to get the money, so he's been working the hardest for it. I'm thinking Joe will get reinforcement due to his Bible studies at college, but still, memorizing every part of the KJV seems like a tall order to fill.

JB is a fuck job! Obviously that's unrealistic not to mention a completely useless waste of time! Why would you encourage your child (or anyone) to spend time trying to memorize HALF OF THE BIBLE?! That's just insane!

Riffles

[Jessa's Feet]

My sisters baby daddy got extremely drunk and belligerent on Patron. He went and smuggly bought a whole bottle from the bar. To show my mom how baller he was. By the end of the night he was in the parking lot screaming at my mom and eventually started ripping his dress shirt off as buttons went flying everywhere.

I personally think those kind of stories are far better than nit picking or turning noses up at weddings. I want to hear personal oh shits, fails, crazy relative drama, and that one (or more) drunk person story. The things that happened that you laugh about now!

[Grimalkin]

How stupid. Anyone who could pull off that virtually unattainable feat should be paid FAR more than $1000. He should offer $1000 just for the book of Psalms, alone. Better yet, let HIM take on his own challenge. (Don't ask your children to do something you're not willing to do, yourself.)

I will give JB $1000. just for acting like a true Christian. I think Joe has a better chance.

[NoShoesSuze]

:wink-kitty:

We are still trash talking about how wasted was my cousin at his wedding, and it has been almost two years. He loves it :lol:

Semi-related, my grandfather would say every time he and my grandmother left after a visit: "well, we need to leave so y'all can talk about us." :lol: At first I thought he meant trash-talk, which we didn't do. People love to rehash.

No one trash-talked my wedding, but I'd tell them to fuck off if they did. :roll:

[Hera]

I'm from the South and have been to lots of weddings and there's definitely a divide. In the tiny town where I grew up, afternoon receptions in the church's "fellowship hall" where the couple got married were the norm, be it Baptist, Southern Baptist, Methodist, Pentacostal, etc.. No music. No dancing. Just punch and cake and maybe very light snacks - basically it's a receiving line where you get a plastic plate of cake and a cup of punch at the end, stay for less than an hour making small talk (like 30 minutes) and leave and the whole thing from beginning of the wedding ceremony to the end of the reception takes about 2 hours. Same if it was a night wedding, though the snacks would be more substantial and there would be soft drinks or tea with the punch and cake. However, outside that rural area, (and in non-church weddings like the heathens I knew) weddings are way more likely to be "traditional" affairs with music, dancing, a bar (usually open) and heavy hor d'vors or dinner. No punch in sight! My own wedding was definitely of the band, open bar and real food variety, as were those of all of the Southern folks I went to college with. Seems like the Duggars skew toward the rural, small town wedding style. Amy had a more traditional party.

[RosyDaisy]

I had a small wedding (35 people). I had a sandwich bar with different kinds of breads, meats, cheeses, and veggies. Along with that I had fresh fruits, sweet treats, finger foods, mints, cake, grandma's secret citrus punch, sodas, tea, coffee, and water. I even had food cartons so guests could take home a meal or two. There was plenty of food, music, and dancing. No alcohol because he paid for the reception and didn't want alcohol near minors.

[Jana814]

I've never been to a potluck wedding. Never even heard of them till reading here.