J.Maxwell rents home to parents?

[FloraKitty35]

Spinsterhood might work out well for Sarah in the long run. I say that because if Stevehovah and Terrified meet their great reward when she's just through menopause. She could spit out the Kool Aid and bang every guy and sight and not worry about her quiver or figure. In the present tense, I wouldn't trade places with Sarah Maxwell for all of the tea (or Pepsi) in the world.

[DrPusey]

No one. That's why I just came out with it - marry the children to each other. No one else will ever bee godly/good enough. No one else will just drop from the sky into Stevie's lap. No one else will pass their absurd tests of worth.

Now I've got images from "Home," the old X-Files episode about um, extreme family togetherness and inbreeding running through my head. :shock: I'll never be able to look at pictures of the Maxwell boys with shovels the same way again.

[NotALoserLikeYou]

One of their comments sounded fishy to me, turns out its all about the tv show neighbours:

And good for you Joseph!!!! and I’m sure that when you are blessed with a wife she and her father will appreciate that you are accountable.

I too lived with my parents until I was married, which here in Australia is sadly all too uncommon. My family used to live in a lovely Neighbourhood, in a little cul-de-sac called Ramsey Street. We were blessed with such good Neighbours. I was blessed that my wonderful now husband Scott lived next door with his parents. Thus we felt our union was accountable. It’s a blessing when families and Neighbours become good friends.

I look forward to hearing about further house renovations. Thank-you for sharing your testament.

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it†Proverbs 22:6

love to you all

Kylie

Erinsborough

[bean]

The definition of integrity is doing the right thing, even when nobody is watching, right? So, a person of true integrity doesn't need "accountability partners." Clearly Steve doesn't trust that he's raised his children well enough to be by themselves.

And once he's married, I assume his wife would become his accountability partner. Does that mean she can never trust him alone? Did Nathan move back into the compound when Melanie was in the hospital?

This really isn't about accountability, it's about Steve keeping control as long as he can.

[WonderingInWA]

I wonder if they are required to punch in and out of the bathroom (you know, like hourly employees)? That would be the one time I would think each "child" is allowed to be alone and solely accountable for themselves. It really wouldn't surprise me if they have to micromanage their lives to that extent.

[Black Aliss]

When the Lord brings me to begin talking with a young lady’s father about courting his daughter, I will approach that father in total honesty. If I was living by myself, I would have no one to back up my word. In my opinion, if I was living alone and said, “You’ll just have to trust me,†that would lend less credibility than the accountability I have welcomed in our family. Living with my family, and having my parents as my accountability partners, I am very grateful for the ability that I have to provide references to my integrity throughout discussions with a father. I believe Jesus gave a precedent for this when He sent the disciples out two-by-two.

translation: If I lived in that house by myself I'd be masturbating to gay internet porn 24/7.

[Shoes Grace]

Terri has depression, a hereditary trait that some people can keep at bay by constant activity. I suspect with the extreme scheduling at Casa Maxwell, this may be how Terri copes. If Joseph also has depression, and it's untreated, it's likely he genuinely could not live on his own for very long. I don't mean, like, he's incapable of caring for himself, but in a depressive cycle, you just get to the point where doing things like basic human upkeep seem impossible, and since all he knows is the Maxwell standard, that could be enough to send him into a fail spiral- "I didn't wash the walls today, I'm a hopeless, terrible excuse for a human being and I'm going to go fall asleep in the pile of laundry I started to sort on my bed but forgot about when the microwave beeped to let me know my burrito was done." Maybe the accountability isn't to keep him from sleeping with women, it's to keep him from turning into a hopeless mess.

In which case, there are meds and therapy for that. Or Jesus and living at home, whatever, man.

The part that gets me, though, is the idea that when he gets married, his wife's his new best friend. So, you had room for the whole family, but once you get some girl you barely know to agree to put up with you for eternity, sorry guys, she gets new best friend status? That's some Mean Girls level shit there.

[darkplumaged]

You know, Joseph, if you were actually allowed to (or allowed yourself to) build a real relationship with a "young lady" before becoming engaged, over time you'd prove to her (and to her father :roll: ) through your actions that you were trustworthy and genuine, regardless of where you happened to be living.

[ksuheather]

It is a crying shame he doesn't rent it out. Ft. Leavenworth has a one year school and therefore a healthy rental market.

[theologygeek]

Pretty much everything the Maxwells do is confounding.

I think this is their way of heading off questions about why the house remains unoccupied. See? It's not going to waste! Mom and Dad use it for their office! While Joseph bunks in with his brothers at HQ. By choice, of course. :roll:

I was in my early twenties when I got married. We had bought a brand new condo just built and the closing was about three months before the wedding. My mother had a fit and said that I wasn't going to move in before I got married. It wasn't like she didn't know we were having sex. She was the one who took me to the doctor for the pill when I was 17. My mother was worried what everyone would think. Good girls didn't move out until they got married and she had to keep appearances. That's how it was in those days. I thought it was a waste of money to have the utilities, etc on and no one was living in it. So my then husband moved into it, but I stayed home to shut my mother up. When I read the Maxwell post, it reminded me of this story. I think they are trying to keep appearances, especially because they have a business attached to their name. They must think it wouldn't look right to have the family separated other than for marriage.

[terranova]

Which one of you meanie naysayers left this? :naughty:

Kylie on October 11, 2013 at 11:00 am said:

And good for you Joseph!!!! and I’m sure that when you are blessed with a wife she and her father will appreciate that you are accountable.

I too lived with my parents until I was married, which here in Australia is sadly all too uncommon. My family used to live in a lovely Neighbourhood, in a little cul-de-sac called Ramsey Street. We were blessed with such good Neighbours. I was blessed that my wonderful now husband Scott lived next door with his parents. Thus we felt our union was accountable. It’s a blessing when families and Neighbours become good friends.

I look forward to hearing about further house renovations. Thank-you for sharing your testament.

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it†Proverbs 22:6

love to you all

Kylie

Erinsborough

[uber frau]

^^^bwah ha

[darkplumaged]

:lol: It took me a minute to get that, since I've never seen Neighbours. "Kylie," you are one of the Maxwells' most consistently clever naysayers!

[johnhugh]

Which one of you meanie naysayers left this? :naughty:

>>>> It was laid onto my heart to be a naysayerâ„¢ whilst watching Neighbours (a guilty pleasure) on the BEAST. With that blog entry, it had to be done.

[nelliebelle1197]

If Joseph had just left it at "the house is not finished and I feel it is more economically rational for me to live at home" then good. But nooooo, he has to make sure everyone knows Dad has kept his heart. His tiny, constricted sad heart....

[LucySnowe]

Is a fundie dad really going to be pleased that this guy is kept accountable only because he has seven other adults monitoring him 24/7? Would you really want to hand over your sheltered little maiden to this guy, given that she is going to have to take the place of all those accountability partners?

[Hane]

I was in my early twenties when I got married. We had bought a brand new condo just built and the closing was about three months before the wedding. My mother had a fit and said that I wasn't going to move in before I got married. It wasn't like she didn't know we were having sex. She was the one who took me to the doctor for the pill when I was 17. My mother was worried what everyone would think. Good girls didn't move out until they got married and she had to keep appearances. That's how it was in those days. I thought it was a waste of money to have the utilities, etc on and no one was living in it. So my then husband moved into it, but I stayed home to shut my mother up. When I read the Maxwell post, it reminded me of this story. I think they are trying to keep appearances, especially because they have a business attached to their name. They must think it wouldn't look right to have the family separated other than for marriage.

Holy crap. This is what happened to my middle sister, except for the sex and pill part. Our mother fully believed that Sis approached the hymeneal couch virgo intacta.

[singsingsing]

It's funny how different perspectives can be. When my mother got engaged at 19 in the early 80s my grandfather thought it was a horrible idea for her to get married so young and told her that she and my dad should just live together for a while.

[Haligh the Liar]

I posted this in the other thread, but I have put it here, too, especially Kylie's neighborly message was yanked.

Haley on October 11, 2013 at 7:29 pm said:

Thank you so much for your biblical and well reasoned response! So many people don’t understand why I live at home even though I am in my 30s and have my own house.

Joseph, have you considered renting out your house to a Godly family? The income would be helpful when Jesus brings the right young lady to you.

>>>>>>>>

He’s still working on it and so it isn’t rentable.

Godly Christian Haley (ahem) is so pleased that Steve deigned to respond.

[WonderingInWA]

I posted this in the other thread, but I have put it here, too, especially Kylie's neighborly message was yanked.

Godly Christian Haley (ahem) is so pleased that Steve deigned to respond.

And what a warm, fuzzy response it is, too!

[Myfanwy]

And what a warm, fuzzy response it is, too!

At every turn he shows us his superior conversation skills! I can't imagine why we all aren't flocking to his feet for more enlightenment!!

[Eater of Worlds]

Every time I read an update about the Maxwells and see Mary, I think of when Mary was 10 or 11, and someone suggested that she pluck her unibrow. I want to say that this happened when she was getting a haircut and the stylist said, hey, I'll pluck your unibrow while you're here, and her mom was horrified at the idea of a 10 year old plucking her unibrow. Kind of like when she went to the orthodontist, and the ortho asked for her opinion on what treatment to get and her parents freaked out at the kid actually being asked and allowed to have an opinion of medical treatment done to her (instead of her parents being asked) so they pulled her out of the office and wouldn't allow her to get braces for a while, although they eventually did.

So now I always wonder when I see her, does she pluck? Did she grow up and her face bones grew enough so that her eyebrows magically separated while the fuzz between her brows disappeared and no longer gave her a unibrow?

[Patsy]

Every time I read an update about the Maxwells and see Mary, I think of when Mary was 10 or 11, and someone suggested that she pluck her unibrow. I want to say that this happened when she was getting a haircut and the stylist said, hey, I'll pluck your unibrow while you're here, and her mom was horrified at the idea of a 10 year old plucking her unibrow. Kind of like when she went to the orthodontist, and the ortho asked for her opinion on what treatment to get and her parents freaked out at the kid actually being asked and allowed to have an opinion of medical treatment done to her (instead of her parents being asked) so they pulled her out of the office and wouldn't allow her to get braces for a while, although they eventually did.

So now I always wonder when I see her, does she pluck? Did she grow up and her face bones grew enough so that her eyebrows magically separated while the fuzz between her brows disappeared and no longer gave her a unibrow?

I don't recall an eyebrow plucking story, but the ortho one didn't happen as you remember. She was in about the braces she already had and they did what Teri said, just asked May her treatment preference first.

[Eater of Worlds]

I don't recall an eyebrow plucking story, but the ortho one didn't happen as you remember. She was in about t myhe braces she already had and they did what Teri said, just asked May her treatment preference first.

[WonderingInWA]

Personally, I think it's high time Joseph considers the Maxwell wannabe, Rebecca Eleventy!!!!11!!. Even though it appears she celebrates birthdays and other festive occasions, she'd be subservient as every Maxwell woman should be. And she's far less worldly than Elizabeth M. was so is less likely to call off the wedding a week beforehand. Most importantly, there is no Rebecca in the family so no need to rename her.