Lori Alexander's Tips on Avoiding Child Molestation

[GeoBQn]

Lori Alexander teaches readers on how to protect their children against sexual abuse.

lorialexander.blogspot.com/2014/04/protecting-children-from-sexual-abuse.html

You must talk to your children at a very young age so they will be well educated in what is proper behavior. Get Debi Pearl's books Samuel Learns To Yell And Tell and Sara Sue Learns To Yell And Tell and read them to your child consistently even when they are very young. They need to be aware of the dangers around them so they can be prepared.

I'm assuming Debi Pearl's "yell and tell" method is not meant to be used by children whose own parents are hitting them.

The statistics of young children being abused is alarming. The safest place for children to be is in a home with a biological mother and father who faithfully attend church, read the bible as a family, and pray.

You heard that--no step-parents, no single parents, no adoption, and no non-Christian faiths or non-faiths. Because child abuse NEVER EVER HAPPENS in two-parent Christian households.

Also, teach your sons the dangers of pornography. Tell them if they ever see even an image of a naked lady to flee. Explain to them that looking at that garbage will have the potential to destroy any future sexual relationship they may one day have with their wife. I wrote a post Take Porn By The Horn awhile ago and if you have sons, I would encourage you to have them read it.

Well that is guaranteed to cause issues later in life. She's also basically saying that pornography or sexual images existing is the same as child molestation.

[jerkit]

The first comment will be deleted in a heartbeat.

The only thing I question is the idea that isolating children within the home keeps them safe. Someone very close to me was the long-await daughter after several sons, and the parents were very protective of her. No daycare or outside babysitter would be trusted with their precious little girl. Instead, the grandparents babysat when necessary. Well, when the little girl was only 8, she disclosed to a friend that the grandfather had been molesting her since she was 5. The irony is that she would have been safer in a licensed daycare, where there are background checks, constant eyes and supervision. The other irony is that while this little girl was very close to her family, she only felt comfortable disclosing the abuse to a friend who was not connected to the grandfather.

[jerkit]

Lori removed the word "biological" because she realized for once she's a total asshat for thinking adoptive parents don't count.

[thoughtful]

Lori removed the word "biological" because she realized for once she's a total asshat for thinking adoptive parents don't count.

Ladies and gentlemen, that proves it -- she is "always learning." :roll:

I have a little game I play with Lori threads -- if there's enough in the subject, as there is on this one, to know what her topic was, I guess what she said before opening the thread.

So far, no surprises -- I am usually correct, even down to details.

She is that predictable.

[Mama Mia]

"Take Porn by the Horn" ?!?!

:lol: :lol: :banana-explosion: :banana-dance: :banana-fingers: :banana-tux:

Maybe it's because I didn't get any sleep, but that phrase sounds like exactly what a teen boy intends to do with porn :lol:

[GeoBQn]

Ladies and gentlemen, that proves it -- she is "always learning." :roll:

I have a little game I play with Lori threads -- if there's enough in the subject, as there is on this one, to know what her topic was, I guess what she said before opening the thread.

So far, no surprises -- I am usually correct, even down to details.

She is that predictable.

Yeah, I'm at the point where I could probably ghostwrite for Lori.

"Lori on Puppies.

Puppies are bad because children might grow to love them more then Jesus . . ."

[Rescinded and Mended]

"Taking Porn by the Horn"

Can this please, PLEASE be a user post title? :lol:

[ViolaSebastian]

This bunch of bullshit makes me so unbelievably angry. For her to suggest that parents and family members are incapable of sexual abuse is just ludicrous. Indeed, in my personal experience, its much more likely for a child to be abused by a family member or close 'trusted' friend than some boogie man laying in wait outside a child's window. She also doesn't realize that her punitive and volatile method of discipline is putting her children at GREATER risk for child molestation.

http://academic.research.microsoft.com/ ... 92907.aspx (Link not broken for academic site)

[docmom]

Yeah, I'm at the point where I could probably ghostwrite for Lori.

"Lori on Puppies.

Puppies are bad because children might grow to love them more then Jesus . . ."

Don't forget to quote "studies"..."It has been shown that puppies are bad. In 82% of families, puppy love replaced love for Jesus." and the obligatory submission bible verse.

[formergothardite]

Ladies and gentlemen, that proves it -- she is "always learning." :roll:

I have a little game I play with Lori threads -- if there's enough in the subject, as there is on this one, to know what her topic was, I guess what she said before opening the thread.

So far, no surprises -- I am usually correct, even down to details.

She is that predictable.

I do the same thing. :lol: My guess with this post was that she would act like all child molesting happens outside the home by non-family members, she would imply that Christians can be trusted to not molest your kid and then she would ignore all comments where it is mentioned that family members can molest children. Ken might reply to those, but Lori won't. So far she has two comments about family members molesting children and Lori is not replying to them at all. These things do not fit into her reality so she will just ignore them like she always does.

[Earthshine]

"Take Porn by the Horn" ?!?!

:lol: :lol: :banana-explosion: :banana-dance: :banana-fingers: :banana-tux:

Maybe it's because I didn't get any sleep, but that phrase sounds like exactly what a teen boy intends to do with porn :lol:

Take Porn by the Horn lest you get Poon too Soon.

[Earthshine]

Really though..who the fuck is Lori to be giving advice, period? Especially about this subject?

[formergothardite]

Really though..who the fuck is Lori to be giving advice, period? Especially about this subject?

Lori clearly sees herself as an expert on All The Subjects. :roll:

Her post reminded me of this article I read recently. This woman was molested by her step-dad and the purity culture that Lori praises is the reason she passively accepted what he was doing to her and why he thought he had the right to treat her like he did. Her mother and three pastors were of no support to her when she told them what was going on.

http://www.alternet.org/how-christian-p ... 1#bookmark

But Lori would never allow an article like this to be discussed on her blog. It disproves what she claims to be true so she will just ignore it.

[salex]

"Take Porn by the Horn" ?!?!

:lol: :lol: :banana-explosion: :banana-dance: :banana-fingers: :banana-tux:

Maybe it's because I didn't get any sleep, but that phrase sounds like exactly what a teen boy intends to do with porn :lol:

That was my first thought as well.

[polecat]

Lessee ...

Punitive parents who control every aspect of their children's lives and preach endlessly about purity ...

What exactly do we think is going to happen when someone hurts that child?

Do we think the child is going to go to his/her parents?

Parents who've told him/her that sexual "purity" is the be-all end all ... parents who've punished their child severely for minor infractions ... parents who've demanded behavior far beyond the child's developmental years ... parents who've proven that they themselves cannot be relied on or trusted from the child's POV?

It won't turn out well.

You protect your children by teaching them that their bodies are their own, that no one has a right to touch him/her without his/her express permission, that they do not have to obey all adults simply because they are adults, that they have the right to say no to kisses and hugs (even from the parents, if they so choose), that they can come to you with anything at all and you will do everything you can to help -- not hurt -- them.

[littlemommy]

Lori spanked a kid for not saying "Hello". I can imagine that her kids were terrified not to do anything an adult told them.

[Toothfairy]

Lori needs to stfu. Most cases of child molestation occurs between a person the child knows. This woman makes me puke. Has she ever heard of the cases of priest or rabbi or heck even the Christian man raping and abusing girls/boys. Christians are the baddest and most evil people ever.

[Toothfairy]

Lessee ...

Punitive parents who control every aspect of their children's lives and preach endlessly about purity ...

What exactly do we think is going to happen when someone hurts that child?

Do we think the child is going to go to his/her parents?

Parents who've told him/her that sexual "purity" is the be-all end all ... parents who've punished their child severely for minor infractions ... parents who've demanded behavior far beyond the child's developmental years ... parents who've proven that they themselves cannot be relied on or trusted from the child's POV?

It won't turn out well.

You protect your children by teaching them that their bodies are their own, that no one has a right to touch him/her without his/her express permission, that they do not have to obey all adults simply because they are adults, that they have the right to say no to kisses and hugs (even from the parents, if they so choose), that they can come to you with anything at all and you will do everything you can to help -- not hurt -- them.

I think I commented about this. But my classmate/roommate in college was sexually abused by her father for years and used the it's gods will against her. Her parents taught her that children should be seen and not heard and they should be obedient and respect adults. Since it was her father she was guilt and shamed into obeying and keeping her mouth shut.

I don't like parents who teach their kids this.

[GeoBQn]

She frequently writes on the theme of "protecting" kids by isolating them. She once wrote a post about how parents should not let their children attend sleepovers because of the chance that they could be molested.

[ViolaSebastian]

Interestingly, familial isolation is a big risk factor for child sex abuse as well.

Did Lori read ANY study regarding this topic before she wrote this piece??

[salex]

Another day, another chance for Lori to pimp the Pearls' books and suck up to these people she so admires.

She lives in a very small world, doesn't she?

[LadyPriss]

She frequently writes on the theme of "protecting" kids by isolating them. She once wrote a post about how parents should not let their children attend sleepovers because of the chance that they could be molested.

She sounds delightful.

[latraviata]

Interestingly, familial isolation is a big risk factor for child sex abuse as well.

Did Lori read ANY study regarding this topic before she wrote this piece??

No, she never does. This woman is a loose cannon, never thinks before she writes, at all. Never learning...anything.

[Toothfairy]

She frequently writes on the theme of "protecting" kids by isolating them. She once wrote a post about how parents should not let their children attend sleepovers because of the chance that they could be molested.

:angry-banghead: Does she have any common sense in her head? Any at all? She should be MORE worried about her kids being around her own family members/ friends than her kid attending a sleepover.

I'm not saying it can't happen but most child abusers prey on the innocent and parents who wouldn't think twice.

[changemanagement]

Lori Alexander has always been and will always be.....an idiot of the highest degree.