EVERY decision a married woman makes MUST help her husband

[fakepigtails73]

Yup...According to Paige, the question all married women must ask themselves before making any decision is: "will this help my husband?".

Otherwise, you're not a godly helpmeet. :naughty:

http://titus2eight.blogspotDOTca/2012/0 ... elper.html

(broken link)

A Canadian mega-fundie with a blog, one doesn't find that every day!

[GenerationCedarchip]

I'm going to get a grapefruit soda out of the fridge, prop up my feet and try to forget that it's 100 degrees outside. Probably not advancing the headship's agenda here, so Paige probably won't approve. :o

The sad part? I've heard that viewpoint even outside of fundie-dom.

[Little_Eyes]

The real question here is: does every decision relate to him? Does HE have to consider HER in every decision HE makes? Oh, wait, I forgot, it's the patriarchy. It's all about the MENZ.

[Terrie]

So, I asked my headship which pair of socks would assist him better if I wore them. Only, my headship is a cat, so you can imagine the look he gave me.

[Maggie Mae]

I'm sure my headship would like to be involved in decisions such as:

should I fill my car up now or wait until after work?

Which brand of tampons should I buy?

Do I eat this food that was given to me at my lunch meeting or just pick at it because it's gross.

Should I get up to pee now or wait until after the movie?

Which pair of socks do I want to put on?

Toilet paper over or under?

Should I wash the towels now or wait until more are dirty?

Where is the best spot to plant the tomatoes?

Plus, some (most) men LIKE to have their women make decisions. There have been times in my relationship where I'm unsure what I want to drink or eat and I just get whatever he gets, and he has been very unhappy with my supposed inability to make a decision. 90% of the time in those situations, I just don't care. I just don't want to make my own drink/fix my own food so I'm like "whatever you are having."

Why do they think their way is the only way?

[emmyfair]

How do these women even get to a place in their heads where thinking this crap seems totally normal to them?! My husband would be totally put off if I told him I was going to do everything with that mindset. I'd end up divorced. I take care of myself so I can take care of my family without burning out and turning into a stepford drone.

[gingernut]

So, I asked my headship which pair of socks would assist him better if I wore them. Only, my headship is a cat, so you can imagine the look he gave me.

:lol: In our house, our headship is definitely the cat!

[icecreamycakeycake]

I'm sure my headship would like to be involved in decisions such as:

should I fill my car up now or wait until after work?

Which brand of tampons should I buy?

Do I eat this food that was given to me at my lunch meeting or just pick at it because it's gross.

Should I get up to pee now or wait until after the movie?

Which pair of socks do I want to put on?

Toilet paper over or under?

Should I wash the towels now or wait until more are dirty?

Where is the best spot to plant the tomatoes?

Plus, some (most) men LIKE to have their women make decisions. There have been times in my relationship where I'm unsure what I want to drink or eat and I just get whatever he gets, and he has been very unhappy with my supposed inability to make a decision. 90% of the time in those situations, I just don't care. I just don't want to make my own drink/fix my own food so I'm like "whatever you are having."

Why do they think their way is the only way?

Well.....

should I fill my car up now or wait until after work?

Not applicable, wimmenz don't pump gas (defrauding).

Which brand of tampons should I buy?

Your headship might want to entoumb the angelbaybees, tampon size could be a factor.

Do I eat this food that was given to me at my lunch meeting or just pick at it because it's gross.

He expects you to keep a sweet countenance.

Should I get up to pee now or wait until after the movie?

Why would you have to pee, pepsi is an idol and forbidden.

Which pair of socks do I want to put on?

Not applicable, You don't wear socks, you wear tights with your frumper.

Toilet paper over or under?

The camper is his castle, this is not your decision to make.

Should I wash the towels now or wait until more are dirty?

Grandma does the laundry

Where is the best spot to plant the tomatoes?

On the shelf next to the canned corn.

[icecreamycakeycake]

I'm sure my headship would like to be involved in decisions such as:

should I fill my car up now or wait until after work?

Which brand of tampons should I buy?

Do I eat this food that was given to me at my lunch meeting or just pick at it because it's gross.

Should I get up to pee now or wait until after the movie?

Which pair of socks do I want to put on?

Toilet paper over or under?

Should I wash the towels now or wait until more are dirty?

Where is the best spot to plant the tomatoes?

Plus, some (most) men LIKE to have their women make decisions. There have been times in my relationship where I'm unsure what I want to drink or eat and I just get whatever he gets, and he has been very unhappy with my supposed inability to make a decision. 90% of the time in those situations, I just don't care. I just don't want to make my own drink/fix my own food so I'm like "whatever you are having."

Why do they think their way is the only way?

Well.....

should I fill my car up now or wait until after work?

Not applicable, wimmenz don't pump gas (defrauding).

Which brand of tampons should I buy?

Your headship might want to entoumb the angelbaybees, tampon size could be a factor.

Do I eat this food that was given to me at my lunch meeting or just pick at it because it's gross.

He expects you to keep a sweet countenance.

Should I get up to pee now or wait until after the movie?

Why would you have to pee, pepsi is an idol and forbidden.

Which pair of socks do I want to put on?

Not applicable, You don't wear socks, you wear tights with your frumper.

Toilet paper over or under?

The camper is his castle, this is not your decision to make.

Should I wash the towels now or wait until more are dirty?

Grandma does the laundry

Where is the best spot to plant the tomatoes?

On the shelf next to the canned corn.

[impqueen]

I called my headship and asked what kind of porn he wants for later. And then he's all "I dunno, watch 'em all and see what looks good." Is this abdication of his leadership? This is important, you guys. I can't spend all afternoon coming under his authority. I won't get anything else done.

[deelaem]

My headship is out of town. Which is too bad, because I have to pee. But I don't know if I will pee in a way that is helpful to him, so I don't know what to do. Maybe if I pray, Jebus will lay it on my heart what would be the most husband-helpful way of urinating.

I wish Jebus would hurry up. I had a big ol' glass of IFB-approved grape juice.

[deelaem]

I called my headship and asked what kind of porn he wants for later. And then he's all "I dunno, watch 'em all and see what looks good." Is this abdication of his leadership? This is important, you guys. I can't spend all afternoon coming under his authority. I won't get anything else done.

Charming. :roll:

[Terrie]

I imagine that most of the guys I know would respond to this mentality with "Geez, you're a grown woman. Act like it." But most of the guys I know are heathens and atheists.

[Minerva]

Do I eat this food that was given to me at my lunch meeting or just pick at it because it's gross.

What are you doing at work??? Get home and start praying that those defrauding people in suits didn't thin your uterine lining this month!

Which pair of socks do I want to put on?

None. You are to be barefoot and pregnant, remember?

Aww, fakepigtails you've provided me with hours of entertainment! I love finding Canadian fundies (not that their existence makes me happy, just the fact that I can now fundiewatch them and not feel left out).

ETA, actually, she says she lives in Georgia. I'm confused.

[OkToBeTakei]

I was totally scared to tell my 'headship' that I was working extra shifts next week..I thought OH DEAR LORD he will not feel ALL POWERFUL I may be scarring him, emasculating him :(

I braced myself. He said ...better not be Tuesday I'm playing golf. I said FU.

18 yrs and counting...NOT married :)

[impqueen]

Charming. :roll:

I apologize. I will attempt to be aware that the line between snarky and "charming" is between pee and porn in the FJ dictionary from now on. :) Newb mistake, carry on.

[StarrieEyedKat]

How do these women even get to a place in their heads where thinking this crap seems totally normal to them?! My husband would be totally put off if I told him I was going to do everything with that mindset. I'd end up divorced. I take care of myself so I can take care of my family without burning out and turning into a stepford drone.

Yeah, this is what I don't get as well. I know some people are born into this, but how do seemingly regular girls/women buy into this shit? And seriously, my husband would want to kill me if I "worshipped" him this much. Hell, he wishes I had more of my own little life as it is, I can't imagine how he'd react if my every thought revolved solely around him.

[samurai_sarah]

Do I care for my home in a way that helps my husband?

Absolutely! He makes me breakfast, I cook supper. We have a cleaning rota, and go shopping together. It totally helps him. And me.

Do I manage my time in a way that helps my husband or serves my own agenda?

He's a morning person, I work best at night. It serves our agendas.

Does the way I serve others support my husband or my selfish ambition? ( this is a tough one)

It's not really a tough one. I'm guessing you mean friendships and family, right? Well, to give you an example, in two months' time, friends are going to get married. We wanted to attend both weddings, but that's not feasible. So, we're splitting up to attend a wedding each.

Do I ask for my husband's input before committing myself to a plan?

Seriously? Of course! If I know he and I have plans, I consult him. And he consults me.

Am I oriented to him and the work to which God has called him?

We're agnostics.

Do I listen to my husband?

It's called "communication". I listen to him, he listens to me.

Am I allowing my husband to lead or do I have a better plan? (Eve had a better plan)

We're a team, we talk about stuff. Sometimes his plans are better, sometimes mine are.

Do I have a quiet and gentle spirit or do I sound like a clanging symbol?

Define "quiet" and "gentle". What is a "clanging symbol"?

Do I respect my husband when he makes a decision I don't agree with, knowing that the decision is ultimately from God who put our husbands as leaders in our homes?

I respect his decisions. If they concern me too, I'll fight my corner when I disagree. Did I mention that we're agnostic, so your deity doesn't apply to us? We live in a democracy, or a debating society, and it's silly to assume that we're always going to agree. We don't. The one thing we agree on is that all humans are equal.

Do I submit to my husband as to the Lord?

Obviously not, because I'm an agonostic.

Do I respect my husband just because God tells me to, realizing that he doesn't have to earn my respect? I must respect him because God has commanded me to.

Even in your faith, the Lord gave us all free will. Your deity doesn't want us to blindly follow. Read your Kant and Descartes, and you may understand...oh, wait... I don't respect him, because your deity said so. I respect him as a fellow human being. In spite of different politics we have worked for the past eight or so years. What's your point?

[Minerva]

I apologize. I will attempt to be aware that the line between snarky and "charming" is between pee and porn in the FJ dictionary from now on. :) Newb mistake, carry on.

We've talked about watching porn with our headships on here before and people were cool with it. I think you're fine.

[fakepigtails73]

What are you doing at work??? Get home and start praying that those defrauding people in suits didn't thin your uterine lining this month!

None. You are to be barefoot and pregnant, remember?

Aww, fakepigtails you've provided me with hours of entertainment! I love finding Canadian fundies (not that their existence makes me happy, just the fact that I can now fundiewatch them and not feel left out).

ETA, actually, she says she lives in Georgia. I'm confused.

Yeah, I just read that she's in GA! I gathered that she was a Canuck by the .ca on her adress.

Oh well.

[deelaem]

I apologize. I will attempt to be aware that the line between snarky and "charming" is between pee and porn in the FJ dictionary from now on. :) Newb mistake, carry on.

Nice passive-aggression. Just be aware that there are several people on this forum - myself included - that find porn to be highly offensive because it degrades women. You know, just like patriarchal religion does.

[Talitha Cumi]

Nice passive-aggression. Just be aware that there are several people on this forum - myself included - that find porn to be highly offensive because it degrades women. You know, just like patriarchal religion does.

But gay male porn, that's totally cool, right? Cause my headship and I... :whistle:

[emmiedahl]

The funny thing to me is that she mentions Eve as an example of a wife who does not consult her husband. Eve *did* consult her husband, who decided he would join her in enjoying the tasty apple.

[Swamptribe]

The funny thing to me is that she mentions Eve as an example of a wife who does not consult her husband. Eve *did* consult her husband, who decided he would join her in enjoying the tasty apple.

Which makes me wonder, does she ask her husband for his approval before having an apple?

[fakepigtails73]

I know that if I had to ask my headship about each and every single decision I make he'd hit the door!

I'd hate the kind of man Paige thinks make the best kind of godly headship, btw...