EVERY decision a married woman makes MUST help her husband

[alysee]

If I had to go to my headship for every decision I would be hungry. Very hungry. He can't even tell me what he wants for dinner so I make that decision.

[Guest Anonymous]

We've talked about watching porn with our headships on here before and people were cool with it. I think you're fine.

FJ is not a hive vagina. Some people here are okay with porn and some are not. There's no consensus.

[Terrie]

For our newer types: Most everyone here is a feminist, but exact stripe varies greatly. We do have some very solidly radical feminists. As with most Hive members, they have no problem speaking their mind. You are free to agree or disagree with them as you see fit, but as with most topics, we grade for spelling, grammar and sound logic. :)

Personally, I think most porn is crap, but that's because most EVERYTHING is crap (cf. Sturgeon's Law).

[ElphabaGalinda]

FJ is not a hive vagina. Some people here are okay with porn and some are not. There's no consensus.

Yup, I don't mind porn and some other people don't mind either. But then there's some people who find it offensive. It's not against the rules to talk about it, would be the only consensus.

[Guest Anonymous]

Yup, I don't mind porn and some other people don't mind either. But then there's some people who find it offensive. It's not against the rules to talk about it, would be the only consensus.

The idea/concept of it isn't offensive to me, but I personally choose not to partake because in the current climate I can't guarantee that everyone is a willing, happy participant, and without that it squicks me out. And that's my feelings on pr0n.

[Minerva]

FJ is not a hive vagina. Some people here are okay with porn and some are not. There's no consensus.

True that. I meant more like there's no unspoken rule against talking about it.

[TXDuck]

Nice passive-aggression. Just be aware that there are several people on this forum - myself included - that find porn to be highly offensive because it degrades women. You know, just like patriarchal religion does.

A lot porn does. A lot of porn doesn't. I know there a lot of people that find porn distasteful. But uh, at the risk of sounding more dismissive than I truly intend to be. So what? Don't watch. It doesn't really affect anyone else if someone watches/jokes about porn.

[Angri-la]

If I had to ask my husband about every decision, we would never get anything done. He is a wonderful man, but decisiveness is not his strong suit, which is why he married a bossy broad like me.

[Guest Anonymous]

A lot porn does. A lot of porn doesn't. I know there a lot of people that find porn distasteful. But uh, at the risk of sounding more dismissive than I truly intend to be. So what? Don't watch. It doesn't really affect anyone else if someone watches/jokes about porn.

It's not quite as simple as that if you take into account that some people are coerced into making porn. That's not okay and it's not a problem that "just not watching" will solve. I think you are being dismissive and trivializing some of the big issues in the porn industry.

**ETA: I know that some people are very careful about who they give their money to because of this. Again, I don't have a problem with it in theory, but the reality right now is that there are problems with consent, payment, etc. that need a lot of working on.

[TXDuck]

Perhaps. But there are studios with very good track records. While they aren't as well known as more problematic studios and amatuer projects (which can be above board too), they do exist. If you support them rather than eschewing all porn, wouldn't that go farther to help?

[Guest Anonymous]

Perhaps. But there are studios with very good track records. While they aren't as well known as more problematic studios and amatuer projects (which can be above board too), they do exist. If you support them rather than eschewing all porn, wouldn't that go farther to help?

Maybe it would, or maybe I would fall down on my researching skills and end up financially supporting something that I think is wrong. It's not worth the risk to me. That's my decision and I fully support other people making the right one for them when it comes to supporting ethical adult entertainment. I think the cause is good, I just don't trust myself or have the time to go through everything with a fine tooth comb the way I would have to in order to be comfortable, so I abstain.

**ETA: I don't think anyone has an obligation to support or consume any type of porn, which seems to be sort of what you're implying. Making the choice to not watch is entirely valid.

[Anxious Girl]

The real question here is: does every decision relate to him? Does HE have to consider HER in every decision HE makes? Oh, wait, I forgot, it's the patriarchy. It's all about the MENZ.

But don't forget; the white men have to share their privilages in the real world with minorities and women; making the white men feel powerless. So patriarchy is actually a good thing; because it makes people realize the importance of white men in society!!!!!!!!!!1111!!!!!!eleventy1! :roll: What about the people like me; who might not want to get married/don't want to exist in a married relationship thinking about their husband's needs every minute because they're big boys? C'mon, fundies; wake up and smell the real world outside of fundie dome.

[TXDuck]

It may look like I'm implying that but I assure you that isn't my intention. If you don't feel comfortable watching porn for whatever reason, then of course that's valid. But if you do like porn, there are ethical choices. That is all I intented to state.

Of course, none of this answers the "which porn furthers my husband's agenda" question which comes right before why do these people have an agenda instead of a partnership?

[BabyFullOfSin]

I tried this out on my headship this evening. He tired after the 9th leaf of spinach... Headshipping is such an exhausting job