Lori Alexander 36: Still Confused on What Discipline Really Means

[AlwaysDiscerning]

I think this will get deleted

[Carol]

Someone posted on her latest disaster that her column was better than The Onion.  It got at least 7 likes, one of which was Lori's.

I finally found something on which Lori and I agree.  God, she's a dumbass.

 

ETA

It's now up to eleven, 9 likes, 1 love and 1 who gets the joke.

[SayWhat]

I believe this is my first time commenting on the crazy hypotricate that is Lori.    Lori pisses me off far more than any Dugger. (Duggers were my gateway fundie family with Bates being second) 

She is a classic manupilating bully, who puts other woman down to make herself seem superior.  IMHO she is the worst hypocrite out of all the fundies I have followed on FJ or known IRL. 

Hey Lori for what its worth, we have  a TO LIST on the refrig and my partner and I make notes of everything we want to  accompish.  It's a team thing, not a superiour - subordinate thing.  Lori wouldn't know what teamwork is.  Lori plays on team Lori.     

 

[AlwaysDiscerning]

Have you all seen this?

Sad Lady says:

December 29, 2017 at 7:46 am

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After 36 1/2 yrs of marriage, contempt is winning. I am dead tired of the mental manipulation. He tells me to get some friends and when I do, he criticizes and cuts them down. He blows up if I talk to anyone. It seems he wants to control everything I do. We need to help his ailing parents, but when I do he finds some reason to blow up over that. He can be the nicest guy when he’s in the mood and he usually acts very nicely around others. But when it’s just him and me, he flips. I know he’s probably an alcoholic. He says it’s only beer, but he drinks alone, most of the time he doesn’t seem too affected by it but some nights I can tell and he’s meaner than usual. I have always been here for him. We are self employed so we’re always together. I try to do things the way he wants but it’s getting harder to know what he wants because it always changes! And I have never talked about him to anyone because that would feel like betrayal. The only ones who know how things are, are our grown children because they saw it growing up. Yes I am growing bitter but I feel the life is being sucked out of me. I am losing interest in everything because, even though he tells me to get involved in things, I know he’ll turn it around on me.
I have tried to be the wife in 1 Peter, I have pleaded with God over this. I am driven to the point where I don’t even care anymore.

 

Lori Alexander says:

December 30, 2017 at 5:30 am

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It sounds like you do need to get involved in things, mainly with godly women who you can gain encouragement and support from even if he turns it around on you. You can kindly remind him that he was the one who encouraged you. Pray for an older, godly woman who you can spend some time with. Are you in the Word daily and finding your strength from the Lord? For He promises that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

As usual, No words of sorry or prayer for someone obviously in a lot of hurt. Rather its a semi-shame of "are you reading your bible". 

Sad Lady says:

December 30, 2017 at 8:02 am

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Am I betraying him if I talk to someone about him? He would be furious if he knew.
When I remind him that he encouraged me to do things, he denies it. He’s like a Dr Jekyll/Mr Hyde. I walk on eggshells, determining his mood. Do I obey him when he doesn’t want me to help his mother who needs to get to the Dr? Do I continue to tell white lies to others about him, like he asks?

 

Lori Alexander says:

December 30, 2017 at 8:51 am

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You don’t necessarily have to speak badly about him to get encouragement and advice. You can simply tell an older, godly woman that you are struggling in your marriage. She can’t change your husband with any advice she gives but she can encourage you with your behavior and how you respond to him.

The only time you should disobey your husband is if he asks you to do something evil or harmful so you must decide carefully if what he is asking you to do is one of these since God is clear in His Word that we are to be submissive and obey our husbands.

 

 

4 minutes ago, Carol said:

Someone posted on her latest disaster that her column was better than The Onion.  It got at least 7 likes, one of which was Lori's.

I finally found something on which Lori and I agree.  God, she's a dumbass.

LOL did she think that was a compliment? Does she not even know what The Onion is?

[Koala]

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Which of the following would cause a modern woman to be shamed for being a cross dresser?

Dressing up like a lumberjack? 

[Sarah92]

2 minutes ago, Koala said:

So my new nickname for her might just be Lumberjack Lori. Just because my manly, batman pj wearing, cross dressing self is feeling childish. 

[Carol]

10 minutes ago, Koala said:

 

Every photo of Ken reminds me of an 80's porn star. 

[Loveday]

I find myself wanting to shout out a Michael Kelso-like "BURRRRNNNN!" with this comment:

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What is the point of this post? Are you trying to tell women that they shouldn't wear pants? If so, you're being rather hypocritical. I've seen your Instagram and you wear pants AND shorts.

 

[TeddyBonkers]

1 hour ago, Sarah92 said:

So my new nickname for her might just be Lumberjack Lori. Just because my manly, batman pj wearing, cross dressing self is feeling childish. 

"I'm a Lumberjack and I'm okay, I sleep all night and delete all day!!"

I'm so sorry, Monty Python.

[Loveday]

7 minutes ago, TeddyBonkers said:

"I'm a Lumberjack and I'm okay, I sleep all night and delete all day!!"

I'm so sorry, Monty Python.

Thanks for the ear-worm! 

[Frog99]

@AlwaysDiscerning that exchange is so upsetting. Red flags all throughout and not a shred of empathy from Lori.  She’s married to an alcoholic and nothing in her attitude towards him is going to magically fix that. I hate how all of the responsibility for everything is put on the woman. 

@Loveday I just saw that response and had the same reaction! 

Lori also liked Thomas Ackerman’s comment. 

Her readers are so dumb. 

[refugee]

I feel for the Sad Lady. She can’t win for losing.  She described a classic abuser, and she sounds like she’s depressed, with no constructive way out except getting out of there. (Caveat: not a professional.)

What is that saying about putting up with the pain of staying until the pain of staying becomes greater than the pain of leaving?

otoh, I know people who stay in a bad situation because they get so much mileage out of whining and martyrdom. The thing they don’t seem to realize is that onlookers (like their offspring and friends and relatives) are more likely to find it annoying than inspiring.

[AlwaysDiscerning]

She just deleted Jenny. Can't have it pointed out that Lori wear shorts?

 

 

LOL says she wears pants but with a long feminine shirt over them? That plaid shirt is not long nor feminine!

 

[Hisey]

If you look on her Amazon book page, the picture of Lori in the low cut blue shirt is up. Not very modest. But it's feminine, so maybe that makes it OK. 

[fluffy]

Chicks in the chatroom are struggling to comprehend the post, too. She doesn't think for more than a few seconds about what she posts and then mayhem! 

[Imrlgoddess]

Lori's out will always be:  "Ken said I could! Ken likes it. I'm obeying my husband."  She's untouchable because she's Biiiibbbblical. By her logic a woman can do the shopping dressed like a south side pro on a busy Saturday night... it's all good if her husband told her it's OK. I mean, it's not like he asked her to rob a bank or anything.  Now if it was a single woman with a career, then she's clearly a Whore of Babylon. She's got no husband to instruct her! 

The defining factor?  Did you actively *choose* to put on those leggings with that plaid?  Or are you following orders like a good girl? 

 

[lilwriter85]

5 hours ago, Frog99 said:

I think her fangirls have no ability to see what a hypocrite she is simply because she posts what they want to hear- it’s an echo chamber for them. And who on earth is that Dalrock? He seems to have some major issues. 

I think this too. In terms of blog/FB content she posts a lot of things that they agree with and like right away. But, they don't have the ability to see that she doesn't practice many of the things she preaches/encourages. She does posts about how people can be frugal and live on one income and the fangirls praise her and give examples of the things they do. However, we all know Lori ain't really frugal. She has expensive clothes and shows, expensive makeup, and vacations a few months out of the year.

Sometimes she doesn't always dress that modest and the fangirls ignore that. We all know Lori will not start wearing skirts or dresses full time. The only types of fangirls who might notice that are extreme fundie types. I don't know if she has fangirls in that category. Many of her fangirls appear to be fundie lite or Evangelical.

[Sarah92]

I honestly can't be bothered a whole lot with what people wear. I don't go gadding about getting into other peoples business or looking in their windows (cough cough pointed look at Lumberjack Lori) to see what's in their wardrobe. I care more about what's in their hearts. Sure I don't want to see anyone's private bits but most people cover everything  anyways so I don't worry about it. 

Honestly my style is so fluid in one week I might go through: hipster lumberjack in plaid, head to toe in black with dark lipstick, pretty in pink with flowers and sunshine, or a dress and heels. I'm an adult woman and can wear what I want. I'm not cross dressing just because I'm not always dressed in flowers and rainbows. I don't need a man with a 70s porn stache telling me what to wear. 

[Koala]

When did the navy shirt pic go up on Amazon?  It says Sep., but I haven't noticed it before.  

[jerkit]

I dress like a millennial, hipster, lesbian lol. I’m so basic.

[Koala]

My lord, she will argue with anyone over anything...

Reader:

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This is true. But we have to remember that just being home isn’t enough, being JOYFULLY at home is what makes the difference.

Lori immediately fires back:

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 I wasn't "joyfully at home" while I was raising my children because I was so sick...

Funny that, because yesterday she had the following exchange with a reader:

Lori:

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Your home must have lacked joy, Steph. I raised my children without sleepovers and none of them rebelled. A home that teaches Christ without a lot of laughter and joy but with just strict rules is destined for failure.

Why must she constantly contradict herself??

3 minutes ago, jerkit said:

I dress like a millennial, hipster, lesbian lol. I’m so basic.

I dress like a mom.  I admit it.  Leggings and sweaters, jeans and t-shirts.  I keep a very minimalist wardrobe.  I try to shop for cute styles, but things that look good on the hanger, look blah when I try them on.  I need to do something about myself...  My hair is graying quite a bit, so I guess I actually look like an old mom.  Not sure when that happened.  Anyway...

I don't dress like a lumberjack, so I guess there's that.

[Loveday]

7 minutes ago, jerkit said:

I dress like a millennial, hipster, lesbian lol. I’m so basic.

I had to read this twice. I thought you wrote, 'I dress like a millionaire, hipster, lesbian..."

[SilverBeach]

There should be a picture of Lori next to the word contradiction in the dictionary. She appears to have no memory of her prior statements, or she just makes shit up as she goes along. Something is wrong with her. Ken should stop her from embarrassing herself. 

[Sarah92]

14 minutes ago, jerkit said:

I dress like a millennial, hipster, lesbian lol. I’m so basic.

I definitely have those days lol. I don't know what that looks like for you but I know I definitely look in the mirror and see it some days. 

[lilwriter85]

1 hour ago, SilverBeach said:

There should be a picture of Lori next to the word contradiction in the dictionary. She appears to have no memory of her prior statements, or she just makes shit up as she goes along. Something is wrong with her. Ken should stop her from embarrassing herself. 

I sometimes wonder if Ken ever gets tired of the shit that he has to deal with because of Lori's blog and social media activity. He white knights her all the time and I don't think he's happy to do it all the time.  Lori said on a radio show a couple of years ago that Ken encouraged her to start a blog. My theory is Ken encouraged that in hopes that it would keep her out of his hair. But, she can't always fight battles on her own and he is dragged into it. I'm sure he is also constantly embarrassed by Lori. It seems there is something keeping him from telling her to stop.