Aunt Lori Alexander 21: Bringing About Gilead One Doodle at a Time

[quiversR4hunting]

1 hour ago, Koala said:

This woman has just asserted that her husband left her for dead.  Lori's response?

Not one shred of concern or compassion.  Just a link telling her that God hates divorce.

I have the screen shots, figured it will be gone at some point. 

[Maggie Mae]

I frequently quit reading this thread for weeks at a time. Lori makes me too angry and sad. But when I feel like being righteously angry at a stranger who has the one of the most infuriatingly incorrect blogs out there, Lori sure is consistent. 

I too feel some compassion for Lori, but I think it's because I've convinced myself that her brain tumor is the reason why she is the way she is. She's just so wrong about everything. But more than her wrongness, she's stupid in that she doesn't care to learn the right reasons or answers. If she wasn't religious, she'd probably have terrorized her local PTA or tried to run the school carnival or something. 

 

[AlwaysDiscerning]

1 hour ago, Koala said:

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I have already said- I have never commented on anything of Lori's, and I never will.  

That said, I wish her readers could see her beach comment.  The more I look at it, the more sinister it looks.  

Lori tries to present herself as the modest, discreet, godly woman, but she and Ken are clearly getting something from talking about "paddling" the bottoms of women on the beach.  And not only that, they are getting something from Lori saying it in front of her readers.

Same thing with the Josh Duggar screen grab.

Lori gossips about EVERY public figure she can find dirt on, but Josh Duggar commits heinous crimes, and she doesn't want it talked about?  I mean she literally said, I don't want this talked about.  As in, I want this covered up as much as possible.

I don't know what's going on in the chat room, but there's a reason Lori feels like she has to spend her whole day monitoring those women, and there's a reason she's saying things like that in front of them, but not in front of her other readers.

All of that complied with Ken's comments last year, make me think that there is something very sinister about these two.

It's very concerning.

 

 

Spread these links on all social media

https://thingsgodlywomensay.tumblr.com/post/161855702174/its-ok-to-gossip-about-women-but-not-josh-duggar

https://thingsgodlywomensay.tumblr.com/post/161854904129/paddling-bottoms-for-god

[Koala]

12 minutes ago, Maggie Mae said:

If she wasn't religious, she'd probably have terrorized her local PTA or tried to run the school carnival or something. 

Oh, she did that too.  

Lori Alexander:

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 I am the oldest of three girls.  I was bossy and controlling.  Ask my sisters.  They will tell you I always got my way.  (This is my official apology, Alisa and Debbi...I am sorry.  Will you forgive me for being such a bossy older sister?)  

When our Homeowners Association wouldn't allow basketball hoops in our driveway, guess who wrote the letter protesting and went around and got all the signatures...Me!  

When the dog below us yapped constantly, guess who called them all the time, left notes on their door, and wrote a letter telling them they better shut that dog up Or Else and got all the neighbors to sign it...Me!  

Ask my children how controlling I was...They had to sneak junk food, so I wouldn't get mad at them.  I think they were actually afraid of me, which I don't necessarily think is bad.  Kids should have a deep respect for authority.

That's the thing about Lori.  She was trying to control people long before the tumor. 

[IrishCarrie]

Huge, huge hugs to all of you who've captured the screenshots and posted them here.

I hate Lori with the fury of a nova and I refuse to read her blog or Facebook as I don't want her to have the clicks. Unfortunately I'm also utterly obsessed with the vicious, miserable, evil loonie and I obviously have to get my fix somewhere...*waves frantically*..."Hey Free Jinger!"

You guys tickle my pickle 

[Maggie Mae]

1 minute ago, Koala said:

That's the thing about Lori.  She was trying to control people long before the tumor. 

Well, yeah. But I think the inability to learn and some of the weirder things she does - like "stop tricking me with your questions, I'm talking about this thing I didn't make clear" comes from the tumor. I know that Ken says she didn't change, but would he know, really? They have most fucked up relationship.

 

[AlwaysDiscerning]

Georgia says:

June 15, 2017 at 9:09 am

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Hi. I’m really struggling with submission in one thing lately. If my husband wants to move, do we just move? Even if I don’t want to? He hates his job, he’d like the opportunity in a town far from here. I was born here, and our kids have lived here all their life so far. Our kids are very angry at the idea of moving, and I’m not thrilled about it either. Do we really uproot our kids from the only life they’ve known, just because my husband is chasing the hope of finally having a job where he likes his co-workers?

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Lori Alexander says:

June 15, 2017 at 9:31 am

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Yes, Georgia, you follow your husband wherever he wants to go. My mother had to leave her many siblings, parents, and childhood friends when she had me, her firstborn, and move across the country. The Lord has blessed her with a wonderful life! Support and encourage your husband and go where he goes.

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Ken says:

June 15, 2017 at 10:00 am

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Georgia, you are to follow your husband to his new job and teach the kids how important family, and doing things God’s ways are. But you can also gently point out to your husband the pain and turmoil you feel it may cause your family to move and perhaps show him areas you can cut back on financially to make the move to a new job not so attractive. Maybe even start a home based job.

But overall, a man’s job is so much apart of his life and from it comes the blessings to the family. So a husband must be able to make this important decision for his life, and God’s design for him to lead and provide for the family. Imagine going to a job you do not enjoy every day for 9-10 hours when you could have been in one you do enjoy and is advancing your career. Moving does not mean forever… many do go back home in a year or two, right back to the same job but with higher pay because they missed him. Unless you are ready to move they often times do not pay you what you are worth.

 

Moving just so her husband will like his co-workers? How silly. Wherever you go there you are and it could be has interpersonal problems if he is just moving to get away from people. If that is the case, he will have the same problems on next job. How about the husband learn to be content where he is? Women are told we have to do that. Did Georgia say the job will provide more money? Ken is assuming it will.  

[Koala]

Dear Georgia,

Ken and Lori argue over Cheez Whiz and what time his lemonade is delivered.  

They aren't able to help you.  They can't even help themselves.

Sincerely,

TheyHaveAShittyMarriage

[quiversR4hunting]

1 hour ago, quiversR4hunting said:

I have the screen shots, figured it will be gone at some point. 

 

And Crystal's comments are gone. Lori Alexander should never give marriage advice. 

Remember to use Lori Alexander or Transformed Wife or Always Learning (or combinations) if you want people to be able to Google her awful works .

If Crystal reads her I hope she realizes she did the right thing and regular people will applaud her for getting out. I don't know a Catholic priest that would agree to stay with an abuser. I have also heard Catholic priests congratulate people in their 2nd marriage. 

Someone up thread has said they have been humbled by divorce after their strict black and white views. I too have changed my view of divorce. I haven't been divorced but I understand more and more why people get divorced and I'm not talking about a marriage with abuse. Sometimes the damage is to great from the "little" lies and half truths or too much martial or family neglect (as in not paying attention, not neglect that includes abuse).

 

[Koala]

And while I'm on it...

Lori:

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Can you all buy this book and read it?

Dear Lori, 

I know this will come as a great shock to you, but many of your readers don't even have the $6 to buy a book for themselves.  To do so, would be to take food off their table.

You see, not everyone has a seemingly limitless supply of money, that allows them to purchase the various items you advertise on your Instagram.  

While I am sure you can't fathom a wallet that doesn't allow for a book purchase, they do exist, especially for people living the kind of lifestyle you encourage.

No education + early marriage + 1 income + no birth control = no money for buying things Lori Alexander wants you to buy.  Not always, but often.  

Signed- 

That's How Money Works

 

[AuntKrazy]

1 minute ago, quiversR4hunting said:

Someone up thread has said they have been humbled by divorce after their strict black and white views. I too have changed my view of divorce. I haven't been divorced but I understand more and more why people get divorced and I'm not talking about a marriage with abuse. Sometimes the damage is to great from the "little" lies and half truths or too much martial or family neglect (as in not paying attention, not neglect that includes abuse).

 

Me too.  I must have come across as such a self-righteous prig when I was young and just regurgitating this line of thought.  I wish I could apologize to so many people for my callousness and insensitivity.  

I keep trying to find compassion and kindness for Lori because she must be hurt to be so angry and bitter, but I just keep seeing red instead.

[AlwaysDiscerning]

9 minutes ago, Koala said:

Dear Lori, 

I know this will come as a great shock to you, but many of your readers don't even have the $6 to buy a book for themselves.  To do so, would be to take food off their table.

And as I have said before if she really cares about helping people she  would make it free or give the money she makes to charity.

[Curious]

46 minutes ago, AlwaysDiscerning said:

Georgia says:

June 15, 2017 at 9:09 am

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Lori Alexander says:

June 15, 2017 at 9:31 am

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Ken says:

June 15, 2017 at 10:00 am

Moving just so her husband will like his co-workers? How silly. Wherever you go there you are and it could be has interpersonal problems if he is just moving to get away from people. If that is the case, he will have the same problems on next job. How about the husband learn to be content where he is? Women are told we have to do that. Did Georgia say the job will provide more money? Ken is assuming it will.  

 

Ken at least gave a nuanced answer, suggesting she CAN talk to her husband about her and their children's feelings.  Lori was just NO!

[desertvixen]

Wow, I go away for a few weeks and Lori goes off the rails.

Can someone post the Wonder Woman doodle? (Although I hate to break it to the commenter, just because they didn't show it doesn't mean that Diana and Steve didn't get down after that kiss.)

[Curious]

Right now we come up 5 and 6 on the first page of a google "Lori Alexander."   Instead of coming straight to threads here, googling and clicking one of the links will raise us up higher.  This is why Ken was afeered for his business when the thread Lori Alexander is a fucking monster was on page one for quite some time. 

It's pretty hard to get a new site on the first page unless you have a lot of traffic.  We do offer blogs here, so if someone wanted to start a blog, doing it here you would benefit from our already large visitor pool.

 

[older than allosaurs]

Molecule said:
 

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I do think there's a good bit of fear, too. She was desperate to save her marriage--not because she valued her marriage, but because she didn't want to be seen as a divorced woman.

Plus, I sometimes think her health has made her soul-desperate. She is afraid of dying, and she's trying to make up for all the years she was a bad wife so she can get into heaven. She latched onto the one thing in the bible she thought she could understand (Titus 2) and made that her personal mission for the rest of her life.

 

I agree and think this is a factor in a lot of black-and-white, my-way-or-the-highway thinking. We build walls of doctrine to keep out the uncertainty of success and certainty of mortality that scares us.

I know I was way more outwardly certain about how to do marriage when my marriage was slowly falling apart than I am now, when my second marriage is stable and happy. I was desperate to believe that if I followed a recipe for a good relationship instead of trusting my own common sense, I could make everything ok. I didn't want my kids to see how bewildered and clueless I really felt. The worst thing about my attempts was that in the process I modeled for my daughters how to make excuses for emotional abuse and gas-lighting from parents and partners. They have paid the price in their own early adult relationships and I will regret my part in that forever.

 

 

[molecule]

Today's doodle: If a wife doesn't suffer by staying with a husband who is caught up in adultery or pornography, she is eternally damning him to hell.

[AuntKrazy]

12 minutes ago, molecule said:

 

"A way for them to rescue their husbands from their sin" sounds like outright blasphemy to me.  I had a theology professor who always used to point out that the method of salvation determines the method of sanctification. This reads as Lori is saying husbands are saved and sanctified by their wives instead of by faith in Jesus.

Christian evangelical doctrine is that the only one capable of rescuing us from our sins is God, which is why evangelical churches include doctrinal statements about the presence and power of the Holy Spirit in the work of regeneration (that is, saving faith).  

[AlwaysDiscerning]

Grrrrrrr, so pissed off. I just caught something else deleted from yesterday. 

Do you all remember this?

Well, last night or this morning I saw Liz response to that. It was just something like I didn't say you called them that but it sounds like you imply women are inferior. Well stupid me I didn't capture her response and now its gone. 

What does Lori say....about how feminine women never try to get the last word. 

She got the last word in perfectly here. Makes Liz look stupid. 

 

26 minutes ago, molecule said:

Today's doodle: If a wife doesn't suffer by staying with a husband who is caught up in adultery or pornography, she is eternally damning him to hell.

 

Again too we are to rescue men from their sin! A tall order for the supposed weaker sex. Which the hell is it? Are women weak or are we warriors rescuing men from sin?!!

[delphinium65]

6 minutes ago, AuntKrazy said:

A way for them to rescue their husbands from their sin" sounds like outright blasphemy to me.  I had a theology professor who always used to point out that the method of salvation determines the method of sanctification. This reads as Lori is saying husbands are saved and sanctified by their wives instead of by faith in Jesus.

But...I thought each person is supposed to be responsible before God for his or her own sin?  Huh, guess I can go find someone to blame for whatever my eternal destiny ends up being. 

[quiversR4hunting]

@AlwaysDiscerning I missed that screen shot too.

I do have 2 other screenshots of Liz. I like Liz and how dare Liz for saying we need to look at the context behind what is written! That is not what the all might teacher Lori Alexander (is a monster) says!!!

[Chocolatedefrauded]

I'm so confused, Lori. Men are supposed to be the leaders so how can a wife lead her husband out of sin? Women are weak & easily deceived so how can we know what is truly sin if our leader insists on doing something? We must trust our husband in all things, right? He must know better than women what sin is, right?

[Hisey]

I think we should create a page where all these screencaps can be kept. either here on FJ or elsewhere. It is a shame to let them disappear into an abyss or just remain on a certain person's computer. Then when we are showing someone (a newsite, for example, or a vulnerable woman following Lori's teachings) how damaging Lori can be, we can point them to one place. Not everyone has the time or the itnerest to scroll backwards through these threads. Let's make it easy for them.

The suicide one, the incest one. . .everything together in one place.

Mods, do you think there could be a folder or thread dedicated to educating people about Lori, a respository for all the screencaps we've caught? If only one abused wife saw it, and stopped feeling badly about failing to win her husband without a word, it would be time well spent.

[AlwaysDiscerning]

1 minute ago, Hisey said:

I think we should create a page where all these screencaps can be kept. either here on FJ or elsewhere. It is a shame to let them disappear into an abyss or just remain on a certain person's computer. Then when we are showing someone (a newsite, for example, or a vulnerable woman following Lori's teachings) how damaging Lori can be, we can point them to one place. Not everyone has the time or the itnerest to scroll backwards through these threads. Let's make it easy for them.

 

Here you go

https://thingsgodlywomensay.tumblr.com/

I am overwhelmed sifting through the ones I captured yesterday to get them up. 

[EowynW]

Her theology is from the pit of hell. Nowhere does it say in the Bible that women rescue their husbands from their sin. You lie, foolish woman.