Lori Alexander: 63: Teacher of Foolishness

[Lgirlrocks]

I’ll admit I do 90% of the cooking. I love to cook and take care of people. I don’t do it because I’m a women. My dad couldn’t cook much to save his life but he always kept us fed when my mom was working. We usually ate pizza, take out, or one of the things he knew how to cook grilled cheese and tomato soup. I work two twelves on the weekend and don’t cook much then. I either cook on my off days, do premade meals, or the bf cooks. It’s all about helping out.

im surprised that Lori who preaches about being a homemaker isn’t a decent one. I guess you don’t have to be if you oversee the maids. 

[refugee]

On 3/17/2019 at 11:52 AM, Red Hair, Black Dress said:

Given that this is Lori, I'd like to know her definition of porn.

Is it seriously hard core no dialog needed?  Is it porn with plot like Dirk Diggler makes in Boogie Nights?  Soft core Cinemax? Couples who seem to be naked under the covers?  Women in teeny bikinis? Any suggestive scene where it seems like the couple have or will have sex off screen?  Mention of a couple living together?

Train going into a tunnel?

:waggles Groucho Marx eyebrows:

[klein_roeschen]

1 hour ago, Lgirlrocks said:

I’ll admit I do 90% of the cooking. I love to cook and take care of people. I don’t do it because I’m a women. My dad couldn’t cook much to save his life but he always kept us fed when my mom was working. We usually ate pizza, take out, or one of the things he knew how to cook grilled cheese and tomato soup. I work two twelves on the weekend and don’t cook much then. I either cook on my off days, do premade meals, or the bf cooks. It’s all about helping out.

im surprised that Lori who preaches about being a homemaker isn’t a decent one. I guess you don’t have to be if you oversee the maids. 

I also do the cooking because I enjoy it, while my brother do the dishes and the cleanup afterwarts. When we where little and my mother had to work the weekends, she made a large pot of soup to last 2 days, that my father just warmed up. Or we had just sandwiches and one time even cornflakes with gravy for sunday breakfast, because he forgot to buy milk. My brother is able to make himself some eggs or roasted (fried?) potatoes for dinner and there is always some leftovers in the freezer and everything for sandwiches in the fridge, on the days I'm not cooking. Lori makes it sound like imminent starvation is looming in the corner if the woman is not cooking 3 meals a day.

[SuperNova]

Lori would probably love me if it weren't for that pesky athiest thing. I do most of the cooking and all of the dishes. I do all the laundry and the floors, clean the bathrooms, and anything else indoor related. I dress in long skirts that I sew myself and I don't wear make-up. I set table in the dining room almost every single night. Mr. Nova is the sole breadwinner. He mows the lawn and takes out garbage. He works on the cars and handles the heavy gardening like lawn mowing and hedge trimming. The only outside work I have is my hobby succulent garden.

We are traditionalists but it's not a lifestyle we promote. It's also not the way Lori paints it. For us, traditional roles have nothing to do with submission. I'm home full time because of chronic illness and we've learned to make the best of it. I narrowed my scope because I had to, not because a man put me here. But since I am home full time, I work as hard as my body lets me. If I'm too sick to cook and clean, no biggie. Mr will cook and do our laundry. We love and respect eachother. We don't make demands or have unreasonable expectations. We take good care of one another because that's what two people who choose to be together for love do.

[Timetraveler]

Lori is very annoying. So is she (well in my opinion). Dear god. "Don't completely surround yourself with feminist women".

[Frog99]

46 minutes ago, Timetraveler said:

Lori is very annoying. So is she (well in my opinion). Dear god. "Don't completely surround yourself with feminist women".

Good gravy. Whatever is the point of that babbling? Is being feminine the equivalent to twirling ones hair, giggling, gross over generalizations, and an inability to deliver any sort of concise and organized message? Is this a parody?? 

I never knew there were waves of feminism (until I happened upon Lori)- now that I do, I’m not sure I grasp why 4th wave feminism is bad. I absolutely believe that women should be empowered, that understanding intersectionality is important, that women should have voices in our political systems and businesses, and I believe that when it comes to parenting leave, etc, men should be encouraged to utilize the same leave and supports available to women. 

[PennySycamore]

4 hours ago, refugee said:

Train going into a tunnel?

:waggles Groucho Marx eyebrows:

The ending shot of North by Northwest immediately comes to mind.  

[wallysmommy]

LA quoting John MacArthur: "Nevertheless, many people today are enticed by the idea that God is speaking supernaturally through these frauds."

Who is the biggest fraud?  Lori Alexander.  Self-proclaimed Older Godly Mentor.  She who claims not to teach men, but engages in conversations with bigoted, racist, homophobic, misogynistic men.  I didn't put an "and" in that series because several or all of the adjectives apply to those idiots she fawns over.

[SuperNova]

1 hour ago, Timetraveler said:

Lori is very annoying. So is she (well in my opinion). Dear god. "Don't completely surround yourself with feminist women".

Sweet Rufus, deliver me from this drivel. This woman tops the list of people who like to hear themselves talk and that's an accomplishment considering some of the people we cover on FJ. What an absolute idiot. I could only stand about 30 seconds.

[Briefly]

6 hours ago, Lgirlrocks said:

I’ll admit I do 90% of the cooking. I love to cook and take care of people. I don’t do it because I’m a women. My dad couldn’t cook much to save his life but he always kept us fed when my mom was working. We usually ate pizza, take out, or one of the things he knew how to cook grilled cheese and tomato soup. I work two twelves on the weekend and don’t cook much then. I either cook on my off days, do premade meals, or the bf cooks. It’s all about helping out.

im surprised that Lori who preaches about being a homemaker isn’t a decent one. I guess you don’t have to be if you oversee the maids. 

I love to cook. So does Mr. Briefly. I made breakfast yesterday, we ate out for lunch and then just had cheese and crackers for dinner.  Today, he made breakfast. I had lunch with out daughter (we were shopping) and brought him a cheeseburger & fries. No idea on dinner yet!  I generally cook dinner, even though I work out of the home during the day. I don't mind, as Mr. Briefly works from home and does whatever household chore needs to be done during the day if he has time.  And the sky doesn't fall!

One of my favorite childhood memories is when our Dad had to take care of us when Mom was in the hospital. The memory is not good because of her being sick, but is good because Dad really could not cook to save his own life much less ours, but her tried. He made us french fries.  He managed to get the potatoes peeled and cut, and then he burned them.  We ate them anyway and it became a fun family story, Dad's burnt fries.  After he died, we realized that we really wanted homemade, burned fries.

Lori would probably had had a fit, Dad took care of us by himself for a few days.  He probably would have told her she was full of it and to shut up.

[Red Hair, Black Dress]

If Ken is making himself an omelet for dinner, then he's still doing exactly what he described about his earlier married life in that he fixed his own food after Lori fed the children.

I think Ken is making an omelet with a side of canned spray cheese and crackers and who knows what other junk food he enjoys. (Chips with French onion dip?  Super cheesy loaded nachos?  Bottle of beer?)

Since we see Lori filming her "you tubes" at 2 or 3 or 4 am maybe that's when she gets up.  I wonder what time she goes to bed?

I'm going to be a BEC about her new FB photo.  She looks so much older that in her previous one and you can tell her hair is badly home dyed -- the bottom is nearly black, while the top is a lighter brown.. It's still in dire need of deep conditioning.

[Free Jana Duggar]

1 hour ago, Briefly said:

I love to cook. So does Mr. Briefly. I made breakfast yesterday, we ate out for lunch and then just had cheese and crackers for dinner.  Today, he made breakfast. I had lunch with out daughter (we were shopping) and brought him a cheeseburger & fries. No idea on dinner yet!  I generally cook dinner, even though I work out of the home during the day. I don't mind, as Mr. Briefly works from home and does whatever household chore needs to be done during the day if he has time.  And the sky doesn't fall!

One of my favorite childhood memories is when our Dad had to take care of us when Mom was in the hospital. The memory is not good because of her being sick, but is good because Dad really could not cook to save his own life much less ours, but her tried. He made us french fries.  He managed to get the potatoes peeled and cut, and then he burned them.  We ate them anyway and it became a fun family story, Dad's burnt fries.  After he died, we realized that we really wanted homemade, burned fries.

Lori would probably had had a fit, Dad took care of us by himself for a few days.  He probably would have told her she was full of it and to shut up

I remember going on daddy daughter dates when my mom was out of town. It was great. I lived at home until I married at 21, and we still did one when I was engaged. Good times.

I also have a FB friend from high school who posts pics of him and the kids when mom is gone. He calls it "Daddy Rules" and lets the kids do stuff that Mom usually doesn't let them do like stay up late or eat junk etc.  (think Bill Cosby and the Dad is great! He gives us chocolate cake story).

 I don't know what she thinks when she sees the pics, but it's hilarious.

[Timetraveler]

Ohhh and these two. I am sorry, I will stop now,, this is a topic about Lori. I just have no words for so much smugness/stupidity.

 

[Marly]

This makes me so mad! As if feminists can't be feminine.   Feminism wants women to be able to be what and however they want to be, instead of women being chained to the very few option the patriarchy forces on them. It is about freedom of choice, and that's what these pro-patriarchy people don't seem to understand.
I'm a feminist. I'm also quite feminine. I also take care of most of the household chores. However, no one forced those roles and chores on me. My SO and I communicate about chores and who does what. When I was working on my graduate thesis last year, he did most of the household chores. Now I'm at home, looking for a job, while he has a very demanding internship, so we decided together that I would take on most of the household chores until I find a job. When I have a job, we re-evaluate and redistribute the chores. And about the femininity, my SO couldn't care less. He likes "tomboy" looks, but he much more prefers me to like what I wear and feel comfortable in what I wear. I like (colorful) dresses, skirts, leggings, heels, cute boots and sneakers, lace, floral patterns, make up, and everything pink. But there are also days when I don't feel like wearing make up, or don't feel like dressing up, and that is perfectly fine too. The main thing is that nobody forces me to be feminine or not, but that I can choose to be however I want to be, and that that can differ per day.

[klein_roeschen]

1 hour ago, Marly said:

This makes me so mad! As if feminists can't be feminine.   Feminism wants women to be able to be what and however they want to be, instead of women being chained to the very few option the patriarchy forces on them. It is about freedom of choice, and that's what these pro-patriarchy people don't seem to understand.

I'm disappointed to see such young women with that opinions. Our mothers, grandmothers and great-grandmothers fought for the freedom and choices we now have. You want to dress in skirts and dresses, with long flowy hair, nice make-up and high heels? Fine, wear it with pride if you want, but don't expect every other woman to do the same and don't expect a pat on the head for being so feminine. And we can talk about feminism again when they traveled around the block a few times and loose some of their privilege. That can be very eye opening.

[kpmom]

39 minutes ago, klein_roeschen said:

 And we can talk about feminism again when they traveled around the block a few times and loose some of their privilege. That can be very eye opening.

Very true.  But, as we've seen with Lori, it doesn't always end up that way.

I'm always a little surprised at people Lori's age who don't seem to have been touched by life.  There is nothing introspective in the least about any of her posts.

She's had some health scares, she's lived with physical pain, she's lost a parent.  But, none of these things have made her more compassionate or less black and white.  Quite the opposite.

 

[Liza]

On 3/25/2019 at 4:08 AM, kpmom said:

I'm always a little surprised at people Lori's age who don't seem to have been touched by life.  There is nothing introspective in the least about any of her posts.

She's had some health scares, she's lived with physical pain, she's lost a parent.  But, none of these things have made her more compassionate or less black and white.  Quite the opposite

I believe that Lori remains unaffected because she lacks compassion and empathy.  Of course, she does care about what has happened to HER, but ONLY to her.  The world revolves around Lori.  Lori is right and everyone else (who doesn't agree with her) is wrong. 

It's not so much an age thing as it is a lack of compassion & empathy.  She sees everything in black & white/right or wrong and from her OWN view ... or views that support her twisted thinking.   

[louisa05]

I've not been posting lately, but Lori's blog post today set me off....ugh. 

But first, on the floral print blouse twins up there...I'm a very feminine feminist. I love to cook and bake. I love pink. I prefer skirts and dresses and pretty clothes. I enjoy makeup. I refuse to go out in sandals without a pedicure (at home ones, thank you very much). But I also love baseball, understand football, and almost have a master's degree (alas, it will never be finished...). And the latter is much thrown into doubt in our current culture because of the first. There is a perception in too many circles that you can't be feminine and smart. And you certainly can't be feminine and know what pass interference is. Two young women in my family, both just turned 24, have very much fallen into the can't be feminine and smart and very intentionally dress and carry themselves so as not to be perceived as too feminine because they want to fit into the nerd culture that is telling them makeup and any effort put into a hairstyle and pretty clothes are only for shallow women. One used to love doing her nails--and was talented at it. That girl's at home manicures were artwork. She quit as peers told her it made her seem dumb. The other got a great haircut that also helped her look her age at the time she was preparing to enter the job market (poor thing is an engaged 24 year old college graduate and looks about 14). Several peers reacted negatively--it was "too trendy" and "too girly", therefore not smart seeming,  for it to be that "put together".  and she let it grow back out into a shapeless mess as fast as possible. That perception definitely is out there. And it is not feminist. And we actually need to fight it if we believe in choice as a part of feminism. Never mind the connotations of finding anything perceived as feminine to be stupid or shallow--if "feminine things" are automatically stupid and shallow while "masculine things" are the standard, we are nowhere near equality. 

On to Lori's reader who is forever punishing herself because she had premarital sex....

I could rant about this all day. That woman feels that level of shame because her evangelical culture told her to. I have problems with how secular culture approaches sex right now. An 8th grader in our confirmation class asked a really disturbing question last week---"why does everyone say we HAVE to have sex before marriage now?". She wasn't talking about her peers; she was talking about the constantly preached idea that not doing so will ruin a relationship. If we believe in choice and bodily autonomy, we shouldn't be telling people that premarital sex is required any more than we should be telling them it will ruin their lives. (And I personally believe that 13 year olds should be told that not having sex is absolutely okay!).  A friend of mine has two daughters and having grown up evangelical has a hard time with this whole thing. We had a long conversation about it once and at the end of the day, she's trying to figure out how to communicate to her girls that it's okay to wait and in her opinion preferable (not necessarily for marriage, btw--but the youngest was 14 when we had this conversation) but that sexual activity is not, as she was taught, "the unforgivable sin". And this woman Lori is quoting clearly was taught that it is. And that's the reason it has damaged her marriage, not anything she did. It's sick. It's a hard line to walk with teens, just as my friend figured out. As she said in that conversation, "don't have sex, it will ruin your life" is kind of the easy way out of difficult and nuanced conversations. But it is a very damaging way out. 

[polecat]

Well, I'm not feminine, but I'm not masculine, either. I'm just me. Maybe we don't have to put a label on everything -- and that's okay. I spent my childhood and teens having it drilled into my head that I was wrong, that something was wrong with me, that I was going against God, that no man would ever want a woman as "unfeminine" as I am -- and I struggled for a long, long time with that. 

But so what if I laugh too loud? So what if I don't wear makeup? So what if sunblock comprises the total of my skincare routine? So what if I don't even remember the last time I did my hair? So what if I wear jeans and hoodies and trainers? Who tf cares? I'm comfy, and that's what matters.

[louisa05]

13 minutes ago, polecat said:

Well, I'm not feminine, but I'm not masculine, either. I'm just me. Maybe we don't have to put a label on everything -- and that's okay. I spent my childhood and teens having it drilled into my head that I was wrong, that something was wrong with me, that I was going against God, that no man would ever want a woman as "unfeminine" as I am -- and I struggled for a long, long time with that. 

But so what if I laugh too loud? So what if I don't wear makeup? So what if sunblock comprises the total of my skincare routine? So what if I don't even remember the last time I did my hair? So what if I wear jeans and hoodies and trainers? Who tf cares? I'm comfy, and that's what matters.

If that's who you want to be, then that's who you are. But just let those of us who do like to express ourselves in a more feminine way be who we are, too. I've spent most of my adult life being told that women like you are somehow smarter, deeper and better than me. Because the 5-10 minutes I spend putting on make up in the morning apparently eliminates any time to be well informed, well read or able to think critically. 

In this culture, women are damned if they do too little, and damned if they do too much. We can be not feminine enough just as much as we can be too feminine. I've never found that magic middle, I guess.  But, let me tell you, in some academic circles, you'd be way more welcome than I ever have been. I've often been told that I "don't look smart enough". One woman in a graduate seminar informed me that she couldn't believe I understood the material because my clothes were too put together. At a select summer seminar for history teachers once, a guy at the meet and greet when we all arrived told me I looked too nice to be qualified to be there. That's just two examples. 

[Petronella]

4 hours ago, klein_roeschen said:

You want to dress in skirts and dresses, with long flowy hair, nice make-up and high heels? Fine, wear it with pride if you want, but don't expect every other woman to do the same and don't expect a pat on the head for being so feminine.

Yes, that’s exactly it. It’s not enough for them to have the freedom to do it. They also want the affirmation of everyone agreeing they’re doing the best thing, which would be shown by everyone else doing it too. And that is simply no one’s place to expect from the rest of the world.

[louisa05]

@polecat I also neglected to say that hoodies are my weakness. I may be a girly girl, but I'm also cold all the time. I own a ridiculous number of hoodies. I'd count but that would be embarrassing. The only thing that comes close to the number of hoodies I own would be the number of cute summer dresses. But hoodies beat them. 

Because, shockingly enough to the must- be -totally -feminine brigade as much as to the must- not -be- feminine- at- all brigade, you can actually do both. You can wear a dress and read a book. You can do your nails and understand a box score. And the notion that we can't do those things at the same time is part of the problem. No equality in that. 

[Koala]

Lori's latest video explaining why Lori Loughlin should still be on Hallmark.  In her view, it's common for rich people to buy their kid's way through life.  Anyways, it's TOTALLY no fair that Lori A. can't finish her series.  Besides, Lori Loughlin is feminine, so they should definitely keep her!  Even if she has to go to jail first.

But don't you worry- she's not losing any sleep over this.  

Lori Alexander is complaining about a woman NOT being able to get a job.  Oh, the irony. ?

One of the (ignored) comments:

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The Transformed Wife so you’re totally against moms working unless they’re actresses in your silly hallmark tv shows. Logic not available

 

[delphinium65]

Teaching a man, Lori?  Shame, SHAME!  

[SweetLaurel]

32 minutes ago, delphinium65 said:

Teaching a man, Lori?  Shame, SHAME!  

Translated - there is no such thing as marital rape - enjoy yourself, boy!  Have at it!  She doesn't matter!   Who cares what she wants or  needs - just make sure you pray while pounding her.  It's Godly sex, after all!