Lori Alexander: 63: Teacher of Foolishness

[lilwriter85]

1 hour ago, SongRed7 said:

I’m waiting for Lori to comment on the Lori Loughlin scandal. I know she thinks women going to college anyways is the worst ever, but she also commented at one point that she enjoyed watching Lori Loughlin  on various Hallmark programs. She said she seems like a “very wholesome and nice person.”  

If she comments, I think her take will be that ebil goverment and feminists corrupted Lori and her husband into believing that they should push their daughters into college and they did whatever it took to get the daughters in.  

I recall that Lori was recently hating on Hallmark because they featured gay characters in a movie. She may already given up on Hallmark altogether. I bet she has at least read one article on this scandal. On a related note, I glanced through Lori Loughlin's FB page and there were comments from people who said they thought she was a wholesome person who would have instilled good values to her daughters. I got the vibe that some conservative fans of Loughlin/Hallmark took a peak at some of the youtube videos that one of Loughlin's daughters did. 

[Lgirlrocks]

debbie, you are talking to the wrong person about manipulation. Lori poked a hole in her diaphragm so she could be a stay at home lazy sick person. Manipulating is almost like lying and we aren’t supposed to lie. 

[Briefly]

3 hours ago, SilverBeach said:

Somebody should tell Mr. SB that I've faded and he shouldn't sexually desire me because I'm past menopause and no longer fertile. After he got through laughing his ass off, he would check that person real good and let them know that he never wanted me to be just and incubator and that he finds me beautiful and sexy as hell. To be a woman in Lori Alexander's cult with the noxious beliefs about what that means, is horrible. I bet Kenny doesn't even want his ten minutes and lube anymore.

Probably TMI, but Mr. Briefly has been even more "attentive" since I got past menopause and don't have to deal with periods or PMS.  Lori is wrong about that, as well as just about everything else!

[ColeJo]

@Lgirlrocks Not to mention she manipulates the Bible to fit her agenda, which is the work of Satan. Satan twists scripture to accomplish evil and to corrupt God's actual plan for marriage.

 

[Hisey]

7 hours ago, lilwriter85 said:

My guess is they paid for the sons and by the time Cassi was there Ken had enough of the high tuition and expenses. 

Nope. Lori said that there was no point in paying for BIOLA when Cassi only wanted to be a wife and mother. They also repeatedly put their girls in public school while their sons were in private. 

[klein_roeschen]

I don't think we will hear anything about the scandal from her. I read here that she said to like movies and "Where the heart calls" with Lori L. She is a working mom, no matter how many roles of "good women" she portaied. And making a statement about that would opening up to much possible controvery for Lori and would exhaust her deleting finger to much. I don't think that she is smart enough of going the "oh my good, I didn't know my idol is married and mother, now I can never enjoy a movie with her" route and rant about working mothers and educating daughters again. But I think it would be different if Lori L. would have had sons and bribed their way into college.

I have a little confession to make, I actually snark watch "Where the heart calls" on Netflix. And while I tought the first session had some great potential (and another channel would have explored that potential), with the second session and onwarts, I only watch it to snark heavily while doing my nails. And the german dubbin is so bad. It premiered on Bibel TV (yes we have a small TV station dedicated only to christianity, where you can watch your daily catholic and protestand church services) as part to become more mainstream and attract more fiewers, but they don't have much money for the synch, so you get what you paid for.

[SongRed7]

15 hours ago, lilwriter85 said:

. She may already given up on Hallmark altogether

She still watches Hallmark.  In her newest video last week she stated such.  Like everything else, Lori says one thing and does another. Same think with TV I. General. She complains about it, but her words are hollow. 

[TeddyBonkers]

Ken, buddy, UR DOIN IT WRONG. I hate to be so indiscreet, but if I was finding more pleasure in chocolate than sex, it wouldn't be my fault- it would be my partner's. 

[Lgirlrocks]

Once again Lori you miss the mark on feminism. Feminism is equality for all. It’s not women wanting to be men. Women want to be treated with the same respect as men. They want to have equal pay to their male counter part if they both have the same qualifications. They want to be able to choose to be a stay at home mom, a working mom, a stay at home wife, a working wife, or a single career women. It’s all about choice. Women have always had to work, usually it was in the family trade. 

Meant to talk about a true feminist? Look at the proverbs 31 women. Whether she had one field or many she still had her own business. It wasn’t her husbands. She not only ran her own business but she ran her household too. 

a women who works outside of the home is still a women. 

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Fuck you alyssa Roberts. You don’t know anything. Like I said above feminism is about choice. Women protested for your fight to chose. You like being able to stay home? Great glad you are able to do it. Your neighbor, a women, who has to work so her family can eat doesn’t get that choice. Luckily she is able to work. No one is trying to take away your privelege to stay at home. 

Btw people with no real argument or leg to stand on throw out really rude and mean comments. There is no need for that. If your point is proven wrong then admit it and move on. Name calling only makes things worse for you. 

I was called a murderer because I am pro choice. When having an argument with a guy about feminism he called me a gay, murdering, Democrat that voted for Hilary. Even though those things are true it did nothing to prove his point about feminism. 

A real Christian wouldnt call people names. They wouldn’t call people ugly. The Bible says you shall know them by their fruit. Jesus wanted equality for all. He stood up for women and children when they were thought of as second class. Just look at the women they wanted to stone because she slept with a married man. Oh wait I forgot only Paul counts in Lori’s world. If she acted like Jesus for a day she would die of frustration. 

[teachergirl]

I think we have established that Alyssa is a major troll if you click on her profile. I think we also agree that Lori is too stupid and vain to realize when she is being trolled

[SuperNova]

So what did Ken do to get Lori harping about porn again? Honestly, what's the big deal? I'm not making light of addiction but Lori makes it seem like looking at porn automatically makes a man an addict. I would also like to know if it's specifically porn or masturbation in general. 

[Red Hair, Black Dress]

Given that this is Lori, I'd like to know her definition of porn.

Is it seriously hard core no dialog needed?  Is it porn with plot like Dirk Diggler makes in Boogie Nights?  Soft core Cinemax? Couples who seem to be naked under the covers?  Women in teeny bikinis? Any suggestive scene where it seems like the couple have or will have sex off screen?  Mention of a couple living together?

[EmmaWoodhouse]

Lori's worldview has the same lack of nuance that I see in many of my fundie friends.  Catholicism = bad, feminism = bad, evolution = bad, homeschooling = good, SAHM = good... You can't even entertain the possibility of an idea other than your own because it's already forbidden territory.  It's a very sad way to live.

[Don'tlikekoolaid]

You might want to check out this hilarious new blog!!!  Which one of you is this!!!!  ?     Sorry not a link, I can’t with this phone.

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[WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?]

25 minutes ago, Don'tlikekoolaid said:

You might want to check out this hilarious new blog!!!  Which one of you is this!!!!  ?     Sorry not a link, I can’t with this phone.

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Is this Facebook page the same as the blog you found?

https://m.facebook.com/transformedhusband/

[EmmaWoodhouse]

5 minutes ago, WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo? said:

Is this Facebook page the same as the blog you found?

https://m.facebook.com/transformedhusband/

Judging from the picture, it looks like it might be this one.  Either way, this is the best thing I've seen all day.

https://www.facebook.com/thetransformedhusband/

[Don'tlikekoolaid]

17 minutes ago, EmmaWoodhouse said:

Judging from the picture, it looks like it might be this one.  Either way, this is the best thing I've seen all day.

https://www.facebook.com/thetransformedhusband/

It’s this one guys!

[Koala]

Ken once described Lori as "puritanical".  

@Ken might want to get your "puritanical" wife to scrub this comment that she "liked":

[WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?]

@Koala, didn't Lori use the phrase "pump him dry" when referring to marital sex? (Or maybe she quoted Michael Pearl saying that?) Either way, .

[Lgirlrocks]

she also: 

13 She seeks wool and flax, 

and works with willing hands. 

14  She is like the ships of the merchant; 

she brings her food from afar. 

15 She rises while it is yet night 

and provides food for her household 

and portions for her maidens. 

16  She considers a field and buys it; 

with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. 

17 She dresses herself with strength 

and makes her arms strong. 

18  She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. 

Her lamp does not go out at night. 

19  She puts her hands to the distaff, 

and her hands hold the spindle. 

20 She opens her hand to the poor 

and reaches out her hands to the needy. 

21  She is not afraid of snow for her household, 

for all her household are clothed in scarlet.

22  She makes bed coverings for herself; 

her clothing is fine linen and fpurple. 

23  Her husband is known in the gates 

when he sits among the elders of the land. 

24  She makes hlinen garments and sells them; 

she delivers sashes to the merchant. 

25 Strength and dignity are her clothing, 

and she laughs at the time to come. 

26  She opens her mouth with wisdom, 

and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. 

27  She looks well to the ways of her household 

and does not eat the bread of idleness. 

28  Her children rise up and call her blessed; 

her husband also, and he praises her:

[AuntKrazy]

Most recent doodle:

 

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Like many of Lori's writings, it starts with something that is true on the surface:  when we allow behaviors about anyone to bug us, we can lose our joy.  However, it quickly takes a turn into bad relationship advice.  

There is a difference between open, vulnerable communication with one's spouse.  The problem is that Lori does not know how to have deep, meaningful conversation.  (this is also evidenced by the "surprise him out of the blue with questions about porn" post today as well.

The only thing on display today is an avoidance of communication in marriage.  Once again I'll say:  No wonder all their marriages are miserable.  There is no healthy conflict resolution.  Lori's marriage advice is a recipe for co-existing under one roof.  This is why "commands"  and "obey" have much more validity in her paradigm than "love".

When my husband's behavior impacts me, we talk about it.  Just like when mine impacts him.  We want to live a life of togetherness rather than co-existence, so we communicate to grow together.  

[wallysmommy]

I find this latest trend of posts to be “I think thou doest protest too much.” Something happened to start this tangent.

[SongRed7]

45 minutes ago, AuntKrazy said:

The only thing on display today is an avoidance of communication in marriage.  Once again I'll say:  No wonder all their marriages are miserable.  There is no healthy conflict resolution.  Lori's marriage advice is a recipe for co-existing under one roof.  This is why "commands"  and "obey" have much more validity in her paradigm than "love".

This 100%.  In Lori's world, you either nag your husband to death or  you just shut up and smile and never discuss anything.  This is not how mature adults --Christian or otherwise -- behave.   And the "gotcha" surprise question is idiotic. Like some of her wise readers have said, what you should do is have deep meaningful  conversations about a range of issues before marriage.    Is there a possibility things might come out later? of course!  But people also grow and change and what happens on day one of any marriage might be different on day 7,300.  But at some level you have to trust instead of playing high school gotcha games. 

 

 

 

 

[livinglongerthanyou]

From her blog post today: "I could have easily written a post titled, “Women Prefer Men Who are Tall, Handsome, and Wealthy” but this is stating the obvious"

And there we have it. This is the absolute insight into Lori's shallow character. This is what she wanted in a husband. She can't fathom that most people are attracted to the heart of another person. Such a tragic way to view the world. 

[kmachete14]

TBH I sort of agree with Lori's post today, but only because in the f*cked up world of Fundieland, one you're married, you have no voice and must obey your husband.

I have slept with men, including my now fiancé, who clearly had misconceptions about sex from porn. However, since I'm not a voiceless fundie wife, and also I didn't think it was a sin to know my own body in the first place, I was able to communicate with them about what I liked and how the female body actually worked. Their misconceptions were shattered and they learned valuable lessons I hope they carried through to their next relationships.

However, a fundie woman probably a) doesn't know what makes herself tick b) can't speak up if her husband is demanding a certain sex fantasy from porn to be acted out c) would be shocked to find out such non-vanilla things existed and be soooo uncomfortable/traumatized and d) can't take it upon herself to make demands, stop her husband from his "addiction," or even teach/suggest to him things to do instead!! 

So in the shitty situation that you are choosing a husband that you must obey, then yes, you want a husband with limited sexual experience/ no exposure to porn. I do think it is in the best interest of the types of girls who may be reading Lori's blog to find a man who has never watched porn. 

There is also the fact that porn can be considered unethical for so many other reasons (that have to to do with, gasp, feminism) that would blow Lori's mind and probably make better arguments from our POV, but to misogynistic men who would probably blame exploited 18 year olds for their own exploitation, they don't matter.