Lori Alexander 52: Looking for Debt-free Virgins Without Tatoos

[fluffy]

I asked whether Lori was still in Wisconsin because I wanted to be sure I had my facts straight because what I have to share -- from her own lips, so to speak -- is so utterly damning that I did not want to make a false allegation. Yes, I believed even Lori deserved that courtesy, but since I am sure she is still in the Northwoods, I will share what she wrote.

Lori has been on vacation for roughly eight weeks or so (maybe a little less). As we know, quite sadly her mother is dying back in California. You couldn't pay me to go on vacation when my parents were dying, especially if I were to receive a phone call of the sort Lori did from her mom recently: 

She later adds: 

The first day she was emotional. I don't even know what to say. She does not connect with others or experience emotions, love, caring the way many people do. You know when Lori's health suffered, her mom kept her kids and her dad literally sat at her feet to rub them. Her mother is dying and scared and Lori posts more racist clickbait from Wisconsin. It's always the ones who spout family values who seem to have none. 

[SilverBeach]

There is a hole in Lori Alexander's soul. My mother died this past February and I was there when she drew her last breath. I had been "emotional" long before that. Why isn't Lori's ass in California? Why isn't the whole family there? WTF?

[PinkPrincess0213]

Guys, Lori was honestly baffled by the reaction. I mean, she didn't WANT to cause any drama. It was just a quick harmless post.

This guy knows:

Wait. Doesn't Lori spend hours a day researching? But the big smart farmer man says that this was just a quck, five minute post. No offense meant.

Now my poor little female brain is confused....

[Red Hair, Black Dress]

Back in the day, straight out of grad school I taught for one year in a small Baptist junior college. It was very Southern Baptist,  fundamentalist.  Mandatory mid-day chapel (for an hour) on Wednesday, even for faculty.

I had students who were forced to attend by their parents. I had a husband wife duo, late 20s with 4 children, who both quit their jobs to attend school and just assumed the Lord would provide. I had 18 year old boys who bristled at the idea of a woman teaching them and generally ignored me.  I had 2 very, extremely butch lesbian students who the rest of the faculty thought were just sporty and athletic.  Completely ignoring the short man's haircut, mens clothes and shoes, and can of Skoal in the back pocket (you can tell by the ring) .

There was the usual talk at faculty meetings of the student who might be demon possessed because he fell asleep in class.  The teacher who caught her son smoking a joint and sent him to serious drug rehab because he was an addict.  Because as she said "mary jew wana" is the same as heroin.  There was the gossip about how so and so wasn't a real Christian and probably a sex pervert because he/she was seen coming out of an R-rated movie.  How thus and so was obviously an alcoholic because they were seen buying a bottle of wine,

Two things stand out and I should have taken a clue and quit immediately after the first but I needed a job. 

1)  Monday morning after the 1st weekend of the school year I was greeted by several people with "Is everything all right?" "We missed you on Sunday, but no one knew your phone number to call you"  "We just couldn't imagine what would make you miss it."  After I racked my brain as to whether there was some faculty event I'd missed on Sunday.  I asked what I'd missed.  "We didn't see you in church Sunday morning. Where were you? Oh I said, well..... um.. uh.... um..... you see ..... I'm Catholic.... Before I could get out another word the group literally drew back and said " Ca.. Ca...Catholic?  You're Catholic?!!" You'd have thought I'd announced I'd eaten roasted baby for breakfast and was making a hard-core porno in my spare time.

2) Several months go by and at lunch one day at the faculty table, the woman who ran the bookstore (wife of the history teacher) was discussing a female student who had been rushed to the hospital over the weekend.  This busy-body evil bitch was spreading the story that supposedly it was appendicitis but of course it was really the side affect of an abortion gone wrong. And of course the father was definitely the black student she was friends with. Then the evil bitch says "I'm praying that God makes her sterile for the sinful wicked thing she's done." Everyone, except me, at the table nods in agreement  I quickly pushed back my chair from the table and marched off. The student she was spreading lies about was one of mine. 

2 weeks later the girl came to my office to get me to sign some forms as she was withdrawing from school.  I asked why.  She said "I know what they're saying about me and ABC (black guy friend), especially Mrs. X (evil bitch). It's not true, ABC is my friend since grade school, He drove me to the hospital because i was in such pain.  Good thing he did.  He's leaving school too. There's no way we can stay here.  All the teachers except you are giving me... us.... a hard time."  She was right, they were.  I heard them discussing how they needed to show her that her behavior was a sin, etc. etc, etc.

i was happy at the end of the year when my contract wasn't renewed so the nephew of the college president, newly graduated with a degree in Physical Ed,  could be hired to replace me as an English instructor. 

I heard several years later that the college pres. was fired by the SBC for embezzling funds.

Lori reminds of the evil bitch who was praying for my student to be sterile.

[feministxtian]

1 hour ago, fluffy said:

Lori has been on vacation for roughly eight weeks or so (maybe a little less). As we know, quite sadly her mother is dying back in California. You couldn't pay me to go on vacation when my parents were dying, especially if I were to receive a phone call of the sort Lori did from her mom recently: 

Y'all know I hated my mother, right? But in the SEVEN FUCKING YEARS I took care of her, we went on vacation ONCE. For a week. To Phoenix (fortunately it was in March). I went to work, came home, took care of the bitch, took care of my husband, took care of my kids and critters, went to bed, rinse and repeat. Taking care of her fucked our finances, my health (mental and physical), my marriage...yet I did it. Fucking Lori wouldn't DARE give up her goddamn "vacation" (from what? it's not like she does anything productive) for her mother. Goddamn cunt. 

[smittykins]

19 hours ago, Sarah92 said:

Consistent hypocrisy for the win! 

What she does is no different than a lot of female speakers. As far as I know many of them are women only speakers. They can't help it if a man sits in on a conference or asks them questions. What are they supposed to do? Ask them to leave and ignore them entirely? Lori certainly doesn't. 

Put up a sign that says “Wimmenz only”?

(I’m reminded of the ones I see at Walmart sometimes that say “Cashier is underage, please do not take alcohol through this lane.”)

[Pammy]

If I was Lori’s mother, I think I’d be more at peace without her drama and negativity. With my energy dwindling and my mind unreliable... maybe my husband and I are happy to say everything is fine and encourage her to vacation as normal?

[Alisamer]

1 minute ago, Pammy said:

If I was Lori’s mother, I think I’d be more at peace without her drama and negativity. With my energy dwindling and my mind unreliable... maybe my husband and I are happy to say everything is fine and encourage her to vacation as normal?

You may be right. If Lori was THERE, she'd be having horrible headaches and back problems and PAIN, OH THE PAIN... it's so bad she can only lie on the sofa having her feet rubbed while she posts on Facebook.

I'm no doctor, but she shows all the signs of being a borderline sociopath or at least narcissistic. She doesn't experience or understand human emotions the way other people do. She can't see when she contradicts herself, and can't understand why anyone would disagree with a single word that comes out of her mouth. She'd probably be baffled by the idea that maybe she should cut her months-long vacation short to spend more time with her ailing mother. Why should she do that? She truly doesn't understand. What's she going to do? Mom probably can't get up and cook for her, and dad is focusing on mom so he won't be rubbing Lori's feet. The housekeeper does the cleaning, and maybe mom isn't wanting to eat Instagram bread and a big week-old salad, maybe not even regurgitated soup. Lori hates to leave home, and would rather stay there and never go anywhere, you know? But now she's on vacation, sadly, so on vacation she'll stay. While her mom fades.

[Botkinetti]

I wonder if Lori feels more comfortable away because the rest of the family, particularly the older members are refusing to let her hold centre stage. I hope they are responding to her with withering , scornful looks and a “ whatever “ attitude when she attempts to make it all about LORI. 

Being around a death bed is exhausting and emotionally draining and other relatives may have lost any patience they may once have had to deal with her.

[usmcmom]

I think Lori hopes her mother passes away while Lori and Ken are on vacation. Imagine the very dramatic blog post that will bring for Lori's followers. She can write about the shock of it all and how she was so frantic she didn't even know what to pack as they rushed around trying to get home. 

Her followers will give her extra sympathy for having to endure the stress of travel on top of a parent's death. She can make it all about Lori and that will make her soooo happy. 

She is vile. 

[wallysmommy]

"There's enough material here for an entire convention." -- The Psychiatrist -- Fawlty Towers -- referring to Basil Fawlty.  The same could be said about Lori Alexander.  

[SongRed7]

11 hours ago, fluffy said:

 

She later adds: 

The first day she was emotional.

Later in the post she also describes how she literally had no friends at all from Kindergarten through HS and that she was bullied.  I think this explains, in part, why she is so against public school or school of any type. It has more to do with her poor associations, rather than her ongoing argument that anything other than homeschooling is un-Christian.

I also think this admission shows that she was a difficult person from the get-go.  I certainly do not support bullying at all, but there must have been something constant about Lori (bossy? Air of superiority?) that caused her never to form positive relationships with anyone....and the ones in her adult life being so difficult.   JMHO

 

 

[AlwaysDiscerning]

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Last week, she wanted to make sure I was okay due to the contentious comments I had received from my viral post. I assured her that I was fine. Even on her deathbed, she wanted to make sure I was alright! She has fully supported me in my ministry. In fact, she was the one who bought me “Created to Be His Help Meet” many years ago. It even changed her marriage in her old age. It’s never too late to grow in Christ and become what He has called us to be.

Unbelievable. Her viral post was one of the last things they talked about. 

[kpmom]

5 minutes ago, SongRed7 said:

Later in the post she also describes how she literally had no friends at all from Kindergarten through HS and that she was bullied.  I think this explains, in part, why she is so against public school or school of any type. It has more to do with her poor associations, rather than her ongoing argument that anything other than homeschooling is un-Christian.

 

 

 

She says that, but she has also posted a picture of herself as either Homecoming Queen or part of the Homecoming Queen's court.

IDK about her school, but at mine those girls were usually the popular ones.  I think she also mentioned she was a cheerleader (correct me if I'm wrong).  They were always the popular ones, too.

Unless it was a "Carrie" situation and her classmates were hoping to spill animal blood on her head?

[AlwaysDiscerning]

How also do you have the frame of mind to write a post about your mom in what seems like a mere hours or days since she passed. I would be crying to much to get past the first sentence, but no prob for unemotional Lori. 

Oh I read again and I guess she wrote the post up before she died. 

[SongRed7]

Just now, kpmom said:

She says that, but she has also posted a picture of herself as either Homecoming Queen or part of the Homecoming Queen's court.

IDK about her school, but at mine those girls were usually the popular ones.  I think she also mentioned she was a cheerleader (correct me if I'm wrong).  They were always the popular ones, too.

You are right! I forgot all about that. So she's just playing the "I was an outcast card" so people feel sorry for her. Worse! 

I'm not a violent person, but she makes me want to throat punch her daily.

 

[Imrlgoddess]

3 minutes ago, kpmom said:

She says that, but she has also posted a picture of herself as either Homecoming Queen or part of the Homecoming Queen's court.

IDK about her school, but at mine those girls were usually the popular ones.  I think she also mentioned she was a cheerleader (correct me if I'm wrong).  They were always the popular ones, too.

Unless it was a "Carrie" situation and her classmates were hoping to spill animal blood on her head?

There's often the comparison to the Mean Girls movie...and that comes to mind again here.  I can totally see Regina George soaking up the attention at the end of the movie and playing the "I was victimized" card.  No regard to what she put multiple students and teachers through for years.  I can definitely see Lori as the classic popular bitch that no one really liked and the moment she gets her comeuppance, she's the bullied one.  Classic manipulation.  She's coldhearted for sure.

I keep thinking maybe this is her coping mechanism..."if I can't see it, it isn't real."  After my dad passed away a few years ago my husband called me out for not being "emotional enough" at the funeral.  He never saw me afterward at home when I broke the fuck down.  The way we were raised was: you show no outward negative emotion period, now it's a glitch.  There's nothing I can do about it, something awful happens and I just shut down.  Usually 24-48 hours later when I'm alone I lose it completely.  I want to feel sorrow for this woman...but she's such a manipulative creature, I can't do it.    

[Loveday]

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I’ve been writing my thoughts about her in my head since that day and decided I would do it now, when my dad could read it to her instead of waiting until she passes away into the arms of Jesus (which may be too late by the time I publish this since the hospice nurse said she only has a few days left to live).

As hard as it would be for me (and I know that it's not something everyone can do, we all handle this sort of thing in very different ways), I would move heaven and earth to be the one to read such a letter to my own mother when her time comes. Even if I couldn't read such a letter, I would at least BE there for her last days.   And when I first read this, I actually yelled at my monitor, 'Get your ass back to California, Lori, and do it yourself!'

But then I came here and read comments like @Alisamer's : 'If Lori was THERE, she'd be having horrible headaches and back problems and PAIN, OH THE PAIN... it's so bad she can only lie on the sofa having her feet rubbed while she posts on Facebook,' and @Botkinetti's: 'I wonder if Lori feels more comfortable away because the rest of the family, particularly the older members are refusing to let her hold centre stage. I hope they are responding to her with withering , scornful looks and a “ whatever “ attitude when she attempts to make it all about LORI,' and I realised the last thing that family needs right now is the drama queen that is Lori there in their midst.

[molecule]

38 minutes ago, AlwaysDiscerning said:

Unbelievable. Her viral post was one of the last things they talked about. 

Convenient how even in an otherwise decent and positive post, Lori manages to casually mention her viral post, isn't it?

[Alisamer]

I'm also wondering if maybe Lori hasn't been subtly (or not) TOLD to stay on her vacation. After all, she has before said that she blames her mother's illness on wearing nail polish. Maybe they're tired of her black salve and Einkorn bread and "If you'd eat organic $14 butter like I do..." stuff, along with all the rest of her drama. Anything anyone does that isn't what Lori says to do (despite what Lori actually does) is up for comment or "rebuke". I wouldn't be surprised if someone's blown up on her at some point. She's at least hinted that she blames her mom's actions for her illness.

[polecat]

1 hour ago, SongRed7 said:

Later in the post she also describes how she literally had no friends at all from Kindergarten through HS and that she was bullied.  I think this explains, in part, why she is so against public school or school of any type. It has more to do with her poor associations, rather than her ongoing argument that anything other than homeschooling is un-Christian.

I also think this admission shows that she was a difficult person from the get-go.  I certainly do not support bullying at all, but there must have been something constant about Lori (bossy? Air of superiority?) that caused her never to form positive relationships with anyone....and the ones in her adult life being so difficult.   JMHO

I think Lori is, as usual, lying. Lying Lori has also gone on at length about how she bossed everyone around, was on the homecoming court, etc. If there was any bullying at Lori's school, I suspect Lying Lori was the bully -- not the victim.

Spoiler

There's a kid in our neighborhood like that. He is a huge kid -- probably 250# and tall for his age. When he was in 6th grade, he physically attacked a much, much smaller 3rd grader, beat the poor kid black and blue and left him with a bloody nose. Another kid jumped into the fray to defend the smaller kid, punched giant kid, and GK ran off home. Sure enough, not 10 minutes later, here comes GK's dad bellowing about how all the kids in the neighborhood are always bullying his kid, how his kid is a helpless, defenseless little angel who would never do any wrong, and if anyone's kids EVER mess with his kid again, he's suing everyone's parents. Blah. 

Just this summer, I caught GK hurling chunks of concrete into my yard, aiming at my picture window. I was actually AFRAID to go tell him off -- first because he's much bigger than me and could beat ME into a pulp and second because I didn't want to get sued by his dad. How effed up is that? But that's exactly the kind of person I think Lori was as a child.

Anyway. 

My heart hurts for Lori's mom and their family today. Unlike Lori, I AM an emotional person, maybe too emotional. When my mom called to tell me she had MDS, I heard it in her voice, that she was dying, even though she insisted she was fine, would be fine, that it was highly treatable. Sigh. As soon as I hung up, I went straight to my husband and collapsed in these huge, wracking sobs. He had no clue what was happening because I couldn't even talk. But I knew she was dying. I knew my mom wasn't going to live much longer.

But as the weeks passed, she held on. In fact, she seemed to be doing okay even though she was struggling, fading, as it were, right before our eyes. I convinced myself that she'd be okay.

So we went on vacation. We'd literally never gone away, my husband and I, since we'd gotten married. It was our first solo vacation since having kids, so nearly a decade. We had a wonderful time together, but the morning we were supposed to leave, we got the phone call. I left my mom with an "I love you," but it didn't ease the pain, the devastation, that my mom had died, and I wasn't there. 

Maybe Lori, as a cold, unemotional person, has found it easier to compartmentalize her fears and concerns. Maybe she's deep in denial like I was. I think I want to think the best of her right now ... but damn, it's hard sometimes. It's hard this time. Because every time she writes or says something, she reveals more of who she really is. And who she really is is not a good person. 

[Imrlgoddess]

@polecat your spoiler is exactly how I think Lori was as a youngster. 

Some people just make it really hard to feel anything other than contempt for them.  

[Koala]

I am floored.  The hospice nurse has informed them that her mother has days left to live. 

In spite of that news, Lori has:

-Remained on vaction

-Wasted a ridiculous amount of time trying to draw attention to her VIRAL post.

-Made pointless posts on Instagram (telephone booths/mailboxes/pads & tampons).

-Sent Ken off to 2.0 to argue w/ a bunch of random strangers.

All of those things are mind boggling/shocking/horrible- but here's the REAL kicker:  Due to her illness, Lori's mom lost her ability to read some time ago.  Lori said so, when she was explaining how important it was to have her mom read her book before she lost her sight.

In today's post, Lori says:

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Last week, she wanted to make sure I was okay due to the contentious comments I had received from my viral post.

The ONLY way Lori's mom would know about any of this, would be if Lori told her.  And she did.  Because she has no heart/soul/brain.  She is just a monster!  How on earth could you tell a dying woman such a thing?  Who would even care???  

This reminds me of when her mom was first ill, and Lori took a video of her defending her first VIRAL post.  It was something she never had to know about, and shouldn't have been burdened with, but Lori wants attention until the very last possible second.  

She is a disgusting excuse for a human being, and I am so sorry that her family has to deal with her ridiculousness during this time.

I am usually the type that will say, "Hey, we may disagree, but when you're going through something like this, let's put our differences aside, and tell me how I can help you."  Lori?  I am just sickened by her lack of care for her mom.

So with that said, I wish peace and comfort for Lori's mother and her family.  And Lori?  I wish for once that you would think of someone other than yourself.

[usmcmom]

This whole thing is kind of triggering for me but I can't step away. 

My mother in law passed away eleven months ago. My father in law passed three months ago - both died from cancer. We have done the hospice care and the bedside waiting.  My husband was in fear of losing his job but he still sacrificed so much to care for his parents. It has been one of the hardest years of our marriage but we stuck around through the ugly stuff. My sister in law gave herself a pass because she "doesn't do well in hospitals."  It made me so angry that she would not help her brother carry the burden. 

Here's the thing. This was my husband's step dad - the only dad he ever knew - but there were other kids that could have been doing the caretaking. My husband did more for a man who didn't share his blood than Lori is doing for her own mother. 

Also, my mother in law never liked me but it broke my heart when she was near the end of life. She was an amazing grandmother to my kids and she was my husband's mother so I held her hand and whispered to her when my husband was away and others would not.  My kids deserved to know their grandmother was being comforted. I mention that because it merely seems like the human thing to do - nothing extraordinary - yet Lori cannot do that  

This is such a complicated and sad thing when someone is at the end of lfe. My daughter handled it very clinically, but...she's an oncology nurse.  She taught us about the term "Actively Dying," and walked us through this journey.  She grieved, of course, but watching her help her grandparents was a beautiful gift - to see her nurse's heart in action.  

I hope Lori's mother has kind hearted and tender people at her bedside.  It is probably a relief for all involved that Lori is not there.  Let her stay in her vacation home, write in her notebooks and delete comments.  Everyone will be better off.

Sorry for the rambling. This makes me sad. 

Also, Lori is a monster. 

[VaSportsMom]

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