Romantic History's Sarah Jane Leaves Husband- Part 3

[season of life]

Did any of Russ's Facebook friends ever ask what he means when he mentions FJ? No one commented on his post about being FreeJinger's worst dad. Do they know or are they smart enough not to care?

[EweSheep]

If they cared or curious enough, they would research his history in court records and make their own decisions whether or not he would be a good friend to stick with or keep their distance from him.

The ones that knew him well, pretty much describes it. They are no longer there for him, turning their backs on him or ignored him entirely. They are the smarter ones that don't buy his bull and the "poor me" rants.

 

 

[lawfulevil]

Russ's fantasy of the day he triumphs over the mundane need to get his shit together reminds me of the lyrics to "Big Rock Candy Mountain".

Quote

I'm bound to stay
Where you sleep all day,
Where they hung the jerk
That invented work
In the Big Rock Candy Mountains

 

[ellacinders]

I'm not so sure I'd be committed to the idea that Russ doesn't want to work, but it sure does make it easier to not have child support checks garnished from wages if Uncle Sam doesn't know where he works, or if he does.

On the other end, I am more bound to believe that Russ cannot keep a job as opposed to him not wanting a job.  And in a small town, it is probably even more difficult to attain a new position as not only his job history on paper follow him around, the word of mouth shares equally.

With all the Oscars brouhaha yesterday, I was thinking about that best Dad Oscar he recently received.  The Oscar is for acting.  

Not much of an honor in the parenthood realm, when you really think about it.

[Granwych]

I am so glad that there was no Facebook when I was a kid, or dd for that matter.  And if anyone I knew put up a post about farts that included me, picture or wording, I'd have to hurt them.   At least Lauren seems to love the loser she calls Dad.

[MakeitSew]

I agree that Russell may not be totally against work. I think he takes pride in working (see post from fall 2015, wherein he requests prayers while at a custody hearing and therein describes himself as being a 'hard worker') as long as he has work. When he's out of work, as is the case currently, he justifies it. Why work if you don't have to? It doesn't seem the future concerns him too much. If he's comfortable in the moment, why change things up? He will scramble to find something when he reaches his last ten bucks or when he gets an eviction notice. Until then, stay tuned for more selfies! Selfies at restaurants, shirtless selfies at home, selfies in the car and selfies with Lauren! Experience the many faces of Russell in a shameless Facebook selfie spree! 

How kind of him to enlighten his interested readers that he allegedly attended services at Harvest Bible Chapel on Sunday. IIRC, this is the same church that banned him from returning when he wouldn't "repent" of his affair with a married woman. 

It is also cheering to see that he has taken the advice of users here and cooked several homemade meals over the weekend. Though I hate to admit it, I can say with no snark that the spaghetti sauce does look good. 

 

[SweetFellowshipper]

I can't stop thinking about Russell and how angry he makes me. I think I have an issue, y'all.

[closetcagebaby]

1 minute ago, SweetFellowshipper said:

I can't stop thinking about Russell and how angry he makes me. I think I have an issue, y'all.

I feel ya. It's hard to not be amazed at someone who is just legitimately this terrible of a human. 

[SweetFellowshipper]

He had something on there recently that was all, "If I die, my one hope is that I don't vote Democrat after I'm dead and buried" or something.

Dude. That doesn't even MEAN ANYTHING. The stupid...it burnsss

[Firiel]

Even his memes can't spell:

Spoiler

 

[MakeitSew]

Eh, I prefer not to think of him if I can help it. I expect general daily stupidness from him. Its those weekly or semi weekly mind blowing acts of gross ignorance, hatred and narcissism that get to me.

[closetcagebaby]

12 minutes ago, Firiel said:

Even his memes can't spell:

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This actually is causing me pain. Schupe-style...*twitch*

[SolomonFundy]

That meme is precious. Aside from the fantastic abuse of the English language (Goddamn, Russ! Even a broken clock is right twice a day, and you couldn't land a correct use of "there" in THREE tries), the meaning of the meme is just... sad? Translated from the Russ, it basically says:

"Let's publicly acknowledge the type of single father who devotes their court-allotted time to their biological children in strict adherence to the court-mandated custody arrangement they share with their former partners. These single fathers would like to be celebrated for doing the absolute legal minimum for their children that is currently allowable by law. They are heroes because they wouldn't change their status as a non-custodial parent, even if they could."

Bonus assholery: Russell's kids are "cards" that were "dealt" to him. 

[Milly-Molly-Mandy]

Wow 'give up' their spare time to look after their own children?! I wonder if they also 'give up' some of their own money to support their children

seriously wtf

[Jingerbread]

16 minutes ago, SolomonFundy said:

That meme is precious. Aside from the fantastic abuse of the English language (Goddamn, Russ! Even a broken clock is right twice a day, and you couldn't land a correct use of "there" in THREE tries), the meaning of the meme is just... sad? Translated from the Russ, it basically says:

"Let's publicly acknowledge the type of single father who devotes their court-allotted time to their biological children in strict adherence to the court-mandated custody arrangement they share with their former partners. These single fathers would like to be celebrated for doing the absolute legal minimum for their children that is currently allowable by law. They are heroes because they wouldn't change their status as a non-custodial parent, even if they could."

Bonus assholery: Russell's kids are "cards" that were "dealt" to him. 

To be fair, if a custodial parent won't allow more time, then can a non-custodial be blamed for doing the minimum?  The minimum here can also be a maximum.  I think we all know people in that position, who would love more than anything to get to see their kids more, and it's not fair to fault them when the other parent won't allow more than every other weekend.  One of my best friends is married to a man who realized that the more he fought for more time, the tighter he was making money in both his and his ex's household, and that the best thing he could do was to stop fighting, make things more peaceful, and enable his daughter to have more opportunities since money would be going to her instead of attorneys.  I don't think anyone would say he's doing the minimum by not seeing her more.  She's an older teenager now, and is very close to her dad.

Just to be clear! Russ is a shit when it comes to Rose.  He won't even try to establish paternity, and at this time, I'm not sure he has the legal right anymore.  It's not like he can't.  He just won't.  I can't remember what it's called, but I know some states have statutes where, if you don't try but can, and another man has stepped in, you lose legal rights.  I bet you he is thinking of another support order to dodge.

But I don't like the tone that parents should be given trophies for giving their spare time.  No, that's called PARENTING.  You don't GET spare time when you're a parent.  That's what you sign up for when you make choices that lead to parenthood.  That free time you think you have?  You're on call.  You don't get a trophy for meeting the needs of your child, but you deserve to be beaten with one for thinking you should get praise for DOING YOUR JOB AS A PARENT.

18 minutes ago, Milly-Molly-Mandy said:

Wow 'give up' their spare time to look after their own children?! I wonder if they also 'give up' some of their own money to support their children

seriously wtf

Child.  He won't do shit to establish paternity with his other child.

[helenprev]

14 minutes ago, Jingerbread said:

But I don't like the tone that parents should be given trophies for giving their spare time.  No, that's called PARENTING.  You don't GET spare time when you're a parent.  That's what you sign up for when you make choices that lead to parenthood.  That free time you think you have?  You're on call.  You don't get a trophy for meeting the needs of your child, but you deserve to be beaten with one for thinking you should get praise for DOING YOUR JOB AS A PARENT.

Yes, this, this, this!! That is what I was coming here to say but you said it far more eloquently than I could have done, Jingerbread.

[closetcagebaby]

6 hours ago, Jingerbread said:

To be fair, if a custodial parent won't allow more time, then can a non-custodial be blamed for doing the minimum?  The minimum here can also be a maximum.  I think we all know people in that position, who would love more than anything to get to see their kids more, and it's not fair to fault them when the other parent won't allow more than every other weekend.  One of my best friends is married to a man who realized that the more he fought for more time, the tighter he was making money in both his and his ex's household, and that the best thing he could do was to stop fighting, make things more peaceful, and enable his daughter to have more opportunities since money would be going to her instead of attorneys.  I don't think anyone would say he's doing the minimum by not seeing her more.  She's an older teenager now, and is very close to her dad.

Just to be clear! Russ is a shit when it comes to Rose.  He won't even try to establish paternity, and at this time, I'm not sure he has the legal right anymore.  It's not like he can't.  He just won't.  I can't remember what it's called, but I know some states have statutes where, if you don't try but can, and another man has stepped in, you lose legal rights.  I bet you he is thinking of another support order to dodge.

But I don't like the tone that parents should be given trophies for giving their spare time.  No, that's called PARENTING.  You don't GET spare time when you're a parent.  That's what you sign up for when you make choices that lead to parenthood.  That free time you think you have?  You're on call.  You don't get a trophy for meeting the needs of your child, but you deserve to be beaten with one for thinking you should get praise for DOING YOUR JOB AS A PARENT.

Child.  He won't do shit to establish paternity with his other child.

So much this! It's not as if he didn't know what he was signing up for. Doing the absolute bare minimum is never going to be cause for praise in my book. He's literally still a deadbeat. 

[Granwych]

2 hours ago, closetcagebaby said:

So much this! It's not as if he didn't know what he was signing up for. Doing the absolute bare minimum is never going to be cause for praise in my book. He's literally still a deadbeat. 

And a blowhard deadbeat at that.   Perfect example of the empty vessel making the loudest noise(forgive me if I've called him that already.)

[closetcagebaby]

Just now, Granwych said:

And a blowhard deadbeat at that.   Perfect example of the empty vessel making the loudest noise(forgive me if I've called him that already.)

I don't think it can be said enough!

Does he not realize that when he yells and throws tantrums about just how great and unappreciated he is that is just draws attention to how much he sucks?

[Granwych]

2 minutes ago, closetcagebaby said:

I don't think it can be said enough!

Does he not realize that when he yells and throws tantrums about just how great and unappreciated he is that is just draws attention to how much he sucks?

I guess it illustrates that negative attention is better than none at all.  And ol' Rusty should know.

[nausicaa]

10 hours ago, SolomonFundy said:

That meme is precious. Aside from the fantastic abuse of the English language (Goddamn, Russ! Even a broken clock is right twice a day, and you couldn't land a correct use of "there" in THREE tries), the meaning of the meme is just... sad? Translated from the Russ, it basically says:

"Let's publicly acknowledge the type of single father who devotes their court-allotted time to their biological children in strict adherence to the court-mandated custody arrangement they share with their former partners. These single fathers would like to be celebrated for doing the absolute legal minimum for their children that is currently allowable by law. They are heroes because they wouldn't change their status as a non-custodial parent, even if they could."

Bonus assholery: Russell's kids are "cards" that were "dealt" to him. 

Yeah Jingerbread sort of touched on this, but how is this meme unique to single dads? Don't married parents also have less free time on the weekends because they need to take care of their kids? Excuse me, "there kids."

[fundiefan]

That meme quite literally hurts. It is every kind of wrong.

It's so Russ.

[closetcagebaby]

50 minutes ago, fundiefan said:

That meme quite literally hurts. It is every kind of wrong.

It's so Russ.

Can I submit this to be the next thread title? I can't think of anything more perfect.

[EweSheep]

42 minutes ago, closetcagebaby said:

Can I submit this to be the next thread title? I can't think of anything more perfect.

Go for it!

Statutes of limitation to establish paternity is two years, that is if no other man claimed him. Remember, SJ was married to David at the time when R was born so by the eyes of law, David is the parent and can claim R as his child on his income taxes. 

Here quote from the IL laws:

Quoting 750 ILCS 45/8. Statute of limitations.

(a)

(1) An action brought by or on behalf of a child, an action brought by a party alleging that he or she is the child's natural parent, or an action brought by the Department of Healthcare and Family Services (formerly Illinois Department of Public Aid), if it is providing or has provided financial support to the child or if it is assisting with child support collection services, shall be barred if brought later than 2 years after the child reaches the age of majority; however, if the action on behalf of the child is brought by a public agency, other than the Department of Healthcare and Family Services (formerly Illinois Department of Public Aid) if it is providing or has provided financial support to the child or if it is assisting with child support collection services, it shall be barred 2 years after the agency has ceased to provide assistance to the child.
(2) Failure to bring an action within 2 years shall not bar any party from asserting a defense in any action to declare the non‑existence of the parent and child relationship.

(3) An action to declare the non‑existence of the parent and child relationship brought under subsection (b) of Section 7 of this Act shall be barred if brought later than 2 years after the petitioner obtains knowledge of relevant facts. The 2‑year period for bringing an action to declare the nonexistence of the parent and child relationship shall not extend beyond the date on which the child reaches the age of 18 years. Failure to bring an action within 2 years shall not bar any party from asserting a defense in any action to declare the existence of the parent and child relationship.

(4) An action to declare the non‑existence of the parent and child relationship brought under subsection (b‑5) of Section 7 of this Act shall be barred if brought more than 6 months after the effective date of this amendatory Act of 1998 or more than 2 years after the petitioner obtains actual knowledge of relevant facts, whichever is later. The 2‑year period shall not apply to periods of time where the natural mother or the child refuses to submit to deoxyribonucleic acid (DNA) tests. The 2‑year period for bringing an action to declare the nonexistence of the parent and child relationship shall not extend beyond the date on which the child reaches the age of 18 years. Failure to bring an action within 2 years shall not bar any party from asserting a defense in any action to declare the existence of the parent and child relationship.

(b) The time during which any party is not subject to service of process or is otherwise not subject to the jurisdiction of the courts of this State shall toll the aforementioned periods.

(c) This Act does not affect the time within which any rights under the Probate Act of 1975 may be asserted beyond the time provided by law relating to distribution and closing of decedent's estates or to the determination of heirship, or otherwise.

 

[Jingerbread]

6 hours ago, closetcagebaby said:

So much this! It's not as if he didn't know what he was signing up for. Doing the absolute bare minimum is never going to be cause for praise in my book. He's literally still a deadbeat. 

I don't think he's even doing the minimum.  Is he contributing a dime to Lauren's expenses?  I don't see how he can be when he won't keep a job.  He's doing the fun stuff and leaving the expenses to her mother.  He is definitely still a deadbeat.