I homeschooled my sons to protect them from porn

[Jana814]

I imagine most public school system have much better filters against porn than she has on her home computer.

Speaking of porn at school, I met one homeschooling mother who assured me that our local school system showed porn as part of their family life curriculum. I told her that wasn't our experience, but I don't think she believed me. I got the impression she would have thought any accurate information about sexuality was porn.

I think your a right about the filter!! I can't believe this woman actually believes that!!

[AtroposHeart]

Lori's boys are going to have so many issues with women. I know many second-wave feminists were against porn, but when it comes down to it, the purity culture can teach women's bodies are as dirty and filthy as porn can.

In many ways it is worse.

Just look at the modesty survey

[mockingbird]

Oh, Lori. I have some news for you:

c-glb-_heEg

[gardenvarietycitizen]

Even without filters I would hope most schools have their computers out in a public area like the public library does (our library doesn't have filters). Merely putting the computers under the eye of both peers and the librarian cuts down on a lot of porn viewing - and as a bonus, if you find the patron who is WILLING to view porn right out there in the open with the librarian looking on, you have the hardcore issues people handily self-selecting themselves for further scrutiny.

I think there's some legitimate point about the wider availability of porn (and harder core violent varieties of porn in particular) on the internet in modern times leading some people to problems, and I'll admit I do have a problem with it from some feminist angles too, but likely the danger of your kid finding the porn is at HOME or on their own smartphones more than any computers at school.

Keep the family computer in the living room where it's obvious if anyone is using it, at least then your kid will need to get creative to find the private time on there at 2 AM or whenever you're asleep. Same theory as the library.

Meanwhile... there was no internet porn when I was a kid (not until college at least and then it was all about alt.sex.binaries), I found my first porn in the form of smutty novels owned by my father. I can't remember why I was looking in his drawer but there was a book in there, text only but wow, what text. :shock: Motivation to learn new words.

Also for some reason I have no idea about, there was a book (again, text) in my SCHOOL LIBRARY that was called "You can read porno with junior high school level English!" It was wayyyyyy back in the stacks, I would not be caught checking it out in a million years, but let's just say it was a nice education in new words in BOTH my languages... :lol:

[jenny_islander]

I imagine most public school system have much better filters against porn than she has on her home computer.

Speaking of porn at school, I met one homeschooling mother who assured me that our local school system showed porn as part of their family life curriculum. I told her that wasn't our experience, but I don't think she believed me. I got the impression she would have thought any accurate information about sexuality was porn.

Whenever I hear about parents like that I think about a friend of my niece who confided in me that she and her childhood best friend had accidentally taken each other's virginity. They had been raised in the variety of purity culture in which the parents believe that if they just plain don't allow any mention of sex in the house, EVER, then their kids won't have sex. So picture two preteens in the back yard, while their moms are talking over coffee in the front of the house . . . they're playing doctor, just like they used to, but nobody has ever explained to them why it now feels so different--or why they really, really need to stop.

Turns out that instinct can get the tab into the slot without any knowledge whatsoever.

Luckily she didn't get pregnant. But he knew juuust enough to connect what they had done with the constant vague but dire warnings about sin, after the fact, and because they were both children of purity culture he thought he had made his very best friend irrevocably filthy and untouchable. He never breathed a word of what had happened to anyone, but he never went near her again. Couldn't even look at her without fighting tears.

Her parents never had a clue. Five years on, and they still thought she was a virgin. Just, you know, a virgin who hardly ever smiled anymore and had inexplicably dropped her lifelong best friend. She actually overheard them talking about her sudden change in mood and her mother had said that OBVIOUSLY it couldn't be boy trouble because her little girl wasn't old enough to think about boys!

The happy ending is that she did get over what they did to her--started a family, got a job. I see her around now and then.

[Sumeri]

Actually, as far as I can tell, at the schools my sons attend, there is far less bullying than when I was a kid (and being bullied.) I have actually seen kids bend over backwards to help accept new kids - even those with obvious problems.

That's been my experience exactly, and we live in a rather backwards, small city in the middle of the United States.

Also, in our district the kids are given computers for their personal use from Sophomore year on WITH Internet access, and no porn is available. Sorry, Lori.

[ILoveJellybeans]

Whenever I hear about parents like that I think about a friend of my niece who confided in me that she and her childhood best friend had accidentally taken each other's virginity. They had been raised in the variety of purity culture in which the parents believe that if they just plain don't allow any mention of sex in the house, EVER, then their kids won't have sex. So picture two preteens in the back yard, while their moms are talking over coffee in the front of the house . . . they're playing doctor, just like they used to, but nobody has ever explained to them why it now feels so different--or why they really, really need to stop.

Turns out that instinct can get the tab into the slot without any knowledge whatsoever.

Luckily she didn't get pregnant. But he knew juuust enough to connect what they had done with the constant vague but dire warnings about sin, after the fact, and because they were both children of purity culture he thought he had made his very best friend irrevocably filthy and untouchable. He never breathed a word of what had happened to anyone, but he never went near her again. Couldn't even look at her without fighting tears.

Her parents never had a clue. Five years on, and they still thought she was a virgin. Just, you know, a virgin who hardly ever smiled anymore and had inexplicably dropped her lifelong best friend. She actually overheard them talking about her sudden change in mood and her mother had said that OBVIOUSLY it couldn't be boy trouble because her little girl wasn't old enough to think about boys!

The happy ending is that she did get over what they did to her--started a family, got a job. I see her around now and then.

Yeah, I can totally see that happening-its not like animals give their kids the sex talk, and they still find out how to have sex, its instinct.

This is what happens when you keep teenagers uninformed about sex, and teach them that sex is dirty and you have to be a virgin or you are filthy and no man would ever want you....this sort of guilt.

This is also probably why fundies are so worried about siblings defrauding eachother...

[theCR]

WAITTTT My boyfriend and his best friend were both homeschooled their entire schooling (until college) They both watch porn all the time and have been doing so since about 13. They both come from fundie-lite families. My boyfriends mother kicked him out of her house at 17 for watching porn.

homeschooling dosn't keep porn away if anything it makes it easier. Especially if they do the homeschooling on the computer, BF would have his school work up and porn in the background.

This lady is an idiot

[CelticGoddess]

Damn. I went to the wrong school. I even lived in the heathen Chicago Suburbs and spent all my formative years there. Bloody hell. I miss all the good stuff. I never got my toaster (for being part of the lesbian agenda), and I missed out on the porn.

[Hane]

Oh, Lori. I have some news for you:

c-glb-_heEg

OT: One day at work several months ago, one of the guys started singing this under his breath--and it turned out I had tickets to go see Avenue Q that very night! We spent a productive afternoon tossing around references to it whenever other people were out of the room.