Forgiven Former Feminist...

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http://forgivenformerfeminist.blogspot.fi

Found this gem via Homemaker by Choice. I have to hit the hay but it looks like it's read-worthy.

[Austin]

It's definitely snark-worthy.

Yet another one. . .

[lovefromgirl]

Go into your bathroom or your purse, get out your make-up bag, and open it up. What do you see? In dumping out mine I found: powder, chap-stick, brown eye shadow, brown eyeliner, brown mascara.

When I dump out my makeup bag, my meds fall out. Now, if we're talking what's scattered on the counter, and what's in the big silver box... it's not so much "enhancing my natural beauty" as "convincing the public I'm not a zombie". There are days when, if I don't bother with any makeup, you would be justified in wondering whether I will eat your brains.

It almost feels like a joke blog. Romance novels are porn? Check. Makeup is ebil? Check. Letter to future husband? Check. Link graphics everywhere? Check check check check check.

Thankfully, I have a good friend and mentor who asked me, "Is that how you would walk before the King of Kings?"

I would totally work it for the King of Kings. Ultimate runway, no? The un-baby shower sounds like fun, too.

[B5SnowDog]

When I dump out my makeup bag, my meds fall out.

I don't have a purse or a make-up bag. Or make-up.

In dumping out mine I found: powder, chap-stick, brown eye shadow, brown eyeliner, brown mascara.

That seems like a lot of brown.

[grovelina]

The family that I nanny for welcomed their third baby, Miss Becky. She is a beautiful 7lbs 11oz, with a full head of dark curly hair, and very healthy lungs.

What is this? a nanny? Why isn't she home under the umbrella of her father's authority? Also, the description of the baby and her thoughts on the child made me both hopeful and sad. I worry for a girl described as having healthy lungs since it won't be long before they squelch her voice and shove her in a little box. However, the FFF was ok with falling in love and college. Maybe she's not quite so far from feminism as she would have us think!

[Distant Lines]

Go into your bathroom or your purse, get out your make-up bag, and open it up. What do you see? In dumping out mine I found: powder, chap-stick, brown eye shadow, brown eyeliner, brown mascara.

Man, she would hate my makeup collection. I have an entire little rolling table of four drawers dedicated to my makeup.

Why is it so bad to enhance your beauty? Does she or other people ever stop to think that some people don't wear it to impress a guy or other people but because they like how it looks? I like makeup and playing around with it. I like the fact that it makes me look older than a teenager because I'm more than a few years removed from being 16. It really isn't a bad evil thing. It's just fun sometimes for us girls, and even some guys.

[slickcat79]

There was a thread on her awhile back.

Opinion was mixed on whether or not she's legit.

[Boltingmadonna]

Aiee, the pink and black plaid, the pink letters on black . . . my eyes!! What falls out of my bag? Notebook and pen case--most important. A couple of maps, a fabric thermal sleeve for my coffee mug so I won't use up zillions of cardboard ones, a buff for keeping hair out of my face when the wind blows, a TLS giveaway pocket diary from 2001 that still has all my addresses in it, a fabric shopping bag that rolls up small, my phone . . . yeah, stuff. But no makeup. I admire people who can use it as an artform, but it drives me bugfuck to have stuff on my skin. Also, it gets into my eyes and mouth, stings, and tastes nasty. So, am I walking with Jeebus because I am allergic to foundation? That doesn't seem fair.

On to the part that really makes me mad: again, the equation of romance novels with porn. No. Just, no. Yes, there are some lines of romance now that feature explicit sex scenes. But many still don't--and even when there's sex, it is sexy WORDS. It's not some girl getting schtupped six ways from Sunday in ways that expose her to disease, injury, and humiliation. No women were harmed by the typing of words. And, in addition, erotic content in romance novels is quite different from the gonzo shit so often featured in male-oriented pornography. Most romance novels feature a bizarre form of sexual pursuit called a RELATIONSHIP. There is mutual enjoyment, consent, and pleasure, accompanied by conversation, bonding, and maybe a shopping trip or two. Show me some male porn that contains all these things, and I will watch it. A lot of women read romance novels because they find it enjoyable to imagine a better life than is currently available to many of us. Fundiedom would like you to know that even dreaming of being treated like a human being or (gasp) enjoying sex is a sin, goddammit.

[valsa]

So, why am I writing about romance novels? There is a great deal of "literature" out there now. And I am going to call it for what it is: pornography for women.

No, see, I have pornography for women. Guess what? It's actual pornography!

As for the make up- I don't use any. I have chapstick and that's it. Doesn't make me anywhere near holy.

[FeministShrew]

I've been single for 7 months. I could totally use some lady porn, but I'd probably fall asleep reading/watching. A romance novel just ain't gonna cut it for me - she must have lived a sheltered life if it works for her! :lol:

No makeup in my purse. Pens, checkbook, wallet, old receipts, & my precious tube of Burt's Bees lip balm. What makeup I own is on a shelf in the bathroom covered in a thin layer of dust. If Jebus wanted to see me in makeup, I would have been born with tattooed eyeliner & he wouldn't have made me so prone to sweating.

[rock_girl]

I hate people who talk about natural beauty and look down on women who use cosmetics. About half of those douches are men and the other half are women who are incredibly attractive without makeup. Some of us need a little help, ok? I have blonde eyelashes. They're very long, and (I think) very nice when coated with mascara, but without the wicked tube of sin I'm just another creepy Warhol lookalike.

This woman sounds ridiculous. I want to think that she is a joke. Why do feminists need to be forgiven? We should be encouraged and given lots of free pie.

[Anise]

I hate people who talk about natural beauty and look down on women who use cosmetics. About half of those douches are men and the other half are women who are incredibly attractive without makeup.

:oops:

I do think that women shouldn't have to feel like they are not beautiful until they hide their face behind some makeup. And if I actually put in the effort to put something on my face, I'd rather look like I went to that effort instead of pretending I normally look this way. :P

[rock_girl]

:oops:

I do think that women shouldn't have to feel like they are not beautiful until they hide their face behind some makeup. And if I actually put in the effort to put something on my face, I'd rather look like I went to that effort instead of pretending I normally look this way. :P

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Oh, I don't think women should be obliged to wear makeup, and I'm constantly irritated by the fact that we live in a world in which appearances count for so much. But without exception, those who are vocal about silly women and their silly makeup are men (who then treat women who aren't perfectly groomed as though they're invisible) or women who are naturally very attractive.

That said, except for everyday wear which is basically tinted moisturiser and mascara, when I put on makeup I want to look like a drag queen.

[jenny_islander]

I must be ultra super extra special pure because I haven't worn makeup in years.

Oh, wait, I don't wear it anymore because having anything touching my face for more than a second makes me break out. I can get away with pure almond oil, only on my dry spots, and I am resignedly awaiting the day I develop sensitivity to that too.

--Forgiven and Still Feminist :dance:

[LucySnowe]

I own one lipstick. I would use it more if I could ever remember where the damn thing is....

Having read more of Fake Former Feminist's blog, I suspect that her home life was chaotic - I think her mother has been divorced six times? - and she is desperately craving stability. What better than a movement which promises, follow these rigid gender stereotypes and you will be rewarded?

[bananacat]

I'm on my phone right now so I can't find the link, but I know there was a study that showed that both men and women can't accurately judge when a woman is wearing makeup. It's because most makeup is concealer, foundation, blush, etc and not necessarily bright red lipstick or green eyeshadow. When men insist that they prefer the natural look, it is usually rooted in misogyny just as much as the men who insist on wanting every woman to wear makeup. Wear it or don't; it's your face.

[Gil]

I still think she's fake. This is the one who got inducted into a band of bra-burning feminists at...the University of Texas, right?

[LucySnowe]

I still think she's fake. This is the one who got inducted into a band of bra-burning feminists at...the University of Texas, right?

Texas A&M, yep, that's the one. And she Read All The Literature, even though she sounds as though she's read nothing but fundie propaganda.

eta, words have specific meanings

[luckystone]

I don't have a purse or a make-up bag. Or make-up.

Haha me neither.

I'm would read it, but she's too fake and stupid for me, so I don't know where she's going with the make-up thing.

[ElphabaGalinda]

Texas A&M, yep, that's the one. And she Read All The Literature, even though she sounds as though she's read nothing but fundie propaganda.

eta, words have specific meanings

I think she's fake too...you don't just get inducted into bands of bra burning feminists...just doesn't happen. She sounds like one of those fundies that says they were a drug addicted satanist prostitute before they found Jesus. You know, the ones who read all the propaganda about the evils of something, but know nothing about the actual thing

[MonkeyMomma]

Regarding the un-baby shower ... where did her "friend" find a "doctor" to perform a tubal at age 25 with no kids? 'Cause if it's true, she needs to be giving out referrals. Do you realize how hard it is to find a doctor that will sterilize a young, childless woman? I've got friends who will travel far and pay cash for that shit!!

[slickcat79]

Yeah, she is hard to take seriously. She also said that she managed to graduate college but was pissed at the world for never teaching her things like sewing on buttons or boiling an egg :? Because those things are clearly impossible to teach yourself.

Regarding the un-baby shower ... where did her "friend" find a "doctor" to perform a tubal at age 25 with no kids? 'Cause if it's true, she needs to be giving out referrals. Do you realize how hard it is to find a doctor that will sterilize a young, childless woman? I've got friends who will travel far and pay cash for that shit!!

Yes, please! I would be extremely interested in that information.

[Gil]

I think she's fake too...you don't just get inducted into bands of bra burning feminists...just doesn't happen. She sounds like one of those fundies that says they were a drug addicted satanist prostitute before they found Jesus. You know, the ones who read all the propaganda about the evils of something, but know nothing about the actual thing

I'm still waiting for my introduction into the bra-burning band. I expect it'll be happening shortly.

[luckystone]

Regarding the un-baby shower ... where did her "friend" find a "doctor" to perform a tubal at age 25 with no kids? 'Cause if it's true, she needs to be giving out referrals. Do you realize how hard it is to find a doctor that will sterilize a young, childless woman? I've got friends who will travel far and pay cash for that shit!!

Wow, that sounds highly suspicious. I have heard women in their 30s have trouble getting them, even if they have kids. And women in their 40s with grown-up kids don't exactly find it easy either. You hear lots of stories from women and doctors about this and it's a pretty clearly-stated policy at a lot of clinics. I would be very surprised a doctor would perform that. But we already know this blogger is fake.

[desertvixen]

On to the part that really makes me mad: again, the equation of romance novels with porn. No. Just, no.

Wish fulfillment, but not porn. They write porn for women - I own some, and enjoy it (only generally the written stuff seems to always be called erotica).

Most romance novels feature a bizarre form of sexual pursuit called a RELATIONSHIP. There is mutual enjoyment, consent, and pleasure, accompanied by conversation, bonding, and maybe a shopping trip or two.

This.

Oh, I don't think women should be obliged to wear makeup, and I'm constantly irritated by the fact that we live in a world in which appearances count for so much. But without exception, those who are vocal about silly women and their silly makeup are men (who then treat women who aren't perfectly groomed as though they're invisible) or women who are naturally very attractive.

Thank you! Clearly, it's my makeup collection that keeps me from being a super feminist.