Is Patriarchy a fetish?

[chiccy]

How many people here think that the "women's submission to a headship" culture is actually driven by a spirit of kinkiness? Obviously it's not outright BDSM in most of these cases, but I can't help but think that many of these women (and men!) may be getting off--at least somewhat--on the whole power play. Sure, they think it's in the Bible too...but it seems possible that many of these people are into it on a "personal" level, so to speak.

[MadameX]

I think the difference, at least for the women (aka the submissives, I suppose) is that they aren't necessarily making a choice to take on that role. They don't even know what they don't know about other options.

But I do think that you are probably onto something in some respects.

[socalrules]

I don't know if it is for those raised in it since they don't really know anything else. For those that go into it as an adult, I can definately see the fetish aspect. For the men, dominating a woman to the point where she is not allowed to have any thought different for her husband screams fetish. I am sure there are women that go into it as a adult and have a submission fetish because I do not understand wanting to be treated as property by my husband. I cannot see how any adult, who has lived a normal life up until that point, goes into this lifestyle without the fetish aspect, no matter how subconscious it may be.

[lexiloumarie]

I don't know if it is for those raised in it since they don't really know anything else. For those that go into it as an adult, I can definately see the fetish aspect. For the men, dominating a woman to the point where she is not allowed to have any thought different for her husband screams fetish. I am sure there are women that go into it as a adult and have a submission fetish because I do not understand wanting to be treated as property by my husband. I cannot see how any adult, who has lived a normal life up until that point, goes into this lifestyle without the fetish aspect, no matter how subconscious it may be.

I agree with all of this. For the first generation, it's definitely got to be considered a factor. The younger ones though have been conditioned to believe it's normal, so I'd almost wonder about a reverse effect kicking in, with women dominating in the bedroom more than we realize.

[Koala]

I don't know if it is for those raised in it since they don't really know anything else. For those that go into it as an adult, I can definately see the fetish aspect. For the men, dominating a woman to the point where she is not allowed to have any thought different for her husband screams fetish. I am sure there are women that go into it as a adult and have a submission fetish because I do not understand wanting to be treated as property by my husband. I cannot see how any adult, who has lived a normal life up until that point, goes into this lifestyle without the fetish aspect, no matter how subconscious it may be.

Totally agree. It's the kids that just break my heart :cry: Their idiot mothers, not so much.