Razing Ruth's niece adopted by same sex couple

[divadivine]

Does anyone know where the vacuum cleaner went? :lol:

Ummmm, that chick from Pure Freedom borrowed it, she said something about girl porn and Hoover... But she promised she'd bring it back soon. :lol:

[deelaem]

I give that flounce a 2 out of 10. The best one I ever saw was on a different blog, and some dude actually publicly asked the blog owner to delete his account as he wouldn't be needing it anymore, and this was done on a random comment thread that was completely unrelated to anything he had talked about. That's a hard one to top.

So do we need to implement a flounce-o-meter? :D

I found the vacuum cleaner... :chores-vacuum:

[kpmom]

Sadly, that flounce is probably worth barely a sliver of cake.

[divadivine]

I think it's time for me to take a step back and let you all get back to whatever you were doing before I interrupted your week. I apologize for stirring up a hornets' nest.

Damn, who pissed in his Wheaties?

Come back when you can stay longer.... or not.

[divadivine]

Sadly, that flounce is probably worth barely a sliver of cake.

Damn, you mentioned cake again.

I really shouldn't have eaten that half-priced Easter candy if cake was being offered.

This means I will have to workout for 30+ minutes on the Cybex Arc Trainer (AKA Big Bertha) again tomorrow. Big Bertha is a bitch, but she works that candy & cake right off my ass.

Have a blessed evening... enjoy the cake!

[B5SnowDog]

Damn, who pissed in his Wheaties?

Come back when you can stay longer.... or not.

Be careful... he's capable of interrupting our whole week with just a few posts. There's no telling what else he could do!!1!

[gustava]

Perhaps the "non-hetero" adoption is merely misdirection and FU to the parents and Issaih.

[theologygeek]

But she doesn't anymore!

Oh damn! I was just going to say the same thing. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

[Maul the Koala]

Oh damn! I was just going to say the same thing. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

I don't know why she's leaving or where she wants to go...

[theologygeek]

The fact that she adopted her child out to a gay couple is not surprising to me. From a ATIA POV, that child is undesirable as it was conceived in sin and is now further soiled by living in a home with gay people. I wondered if part of the reason Rachel placed the baby with this particular couple was to make her less likely to be taken back by the father and his family or her own screwed up family.

You bring up a very good point. Maybe Ruth's story is true. Who knows.

[theologygeek]

I don't know why she's leaving or where she wants to go...

I guess she's got her reasons but I just don't want to know...

[mrs]

Razing Ruth was one of the reason I joined here. I hope and do not think she is a shame. BUT I am very gullible!

As for they gay couple, my instinct when I read the post was that it was two men.

Also, I found a rather disturbing Razing Ruth Without Pity site(way to be original!) rrwithoutpity.WordPress.com

*side note, does anyone else read brokendaughters.wordpress.com? I think she is legit but this whole thread has me rethinking.

[Lostie]

Razing Ruth was one of the reason I joined here. I hope and do not think she is a shame. BUT I am very gullible!

As for they gay couple, my instinct when I read the post was that it was two men.

Also, I found a rather disturbing Razing Ruth Without Pity site(way to be original!) rrwithoutpity.WordPress.com

*side note, does anyone else read brokendaughters.wordpress.com? I think she is legit but this whole thread has me rethinking.

Ruth posted here about the Without Pity site a few months back. I think it's probably died since I just went and checked and it's still only has the same two posts it had back when she told us about it.

Edited for riffles

[mrs]

Ruth posted her about the Without Pity site a few months back. I think it's probably died since I just went and checked and it's still only get the same two posts it had back when she told us about it.

I must have missed it. I really want to think Ruth is real, I'm 99% sure she is who she says she is.

[ChickeyMonkey]

Go ask Alice, when she's ten feet tall... cue Jefferson Starship

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I love this song! I wish it were longer.

[muffynbear]

I think Ruth is real. Her drama with her family isn't that far fetched & trust me I KNOW drama. If you think Ruth's family drama is extreme then you should meet the people from my former church. People lead crazy lives. My former minister ( a supposed man of God) cheated on his wife with the ugliest woman in church. My best friend at church ran away from home because her born-again "Christian" stepfather was sexually harassing her. Said friend ended up turning to drugs, getting arrested etc. Maybe I'm jaded because I get paid to listen to people's problems all day, but I don't find Ruth's drama all that shocking. :confusion-shrug:

[Clementine]

A riveting tale, full of intrigue and fan-pleasing plot twists.

+1.

As for "not answering to e-mails".. I sent Ruth money through the tip jar on several occations ($20-$30) each time in 2009 or 2010. I know that it isn't much money at all at this day and age, but since Ruth wrote that she had something like $30 to live on every month, my small contribution doubled her monthly spending money and should have made some kind of difference.

I never got one word in reply. (But the money was claimed from my PayPal-account so I guess that she recieved them.) But about the same time she wrote in a comment that she "doesn't get much money at all from the tip jar".

Maybe she had better things to do than write a simple "thank you" in reply to a stranger in another part of the world who was sending her money.

And I figured that I had better things to spend my hard earned money on than sending it to a complete stranger in another part of the world, a person that I have no idea if she is for real or not.

Just my $0.02.

[ChickeyMonkey]

I'm thinking 2 dads too. The kind of dad they WISH they had....people I know who are "gay" that are women use lesbian its what they prefer. But I always thought homosexual meant either sex, but since women want the lesbian term used I always think men when I hear homosexual. In my head I keep picturing a couple like the one from "Modern Family" LOL.

If her parents are anything like the couple in Modern Family, Ruth & Rachel have nothing to worry about.

[NurseNell]

*side note, does anyone else read brokendaughters.wordpress.com? I think she is legit but this whole thread has me rethinking.

It's pretty easy to document that family and there have been witnesses to some of the abuse. I definitely believe them.

[valsa]

+1.

As for "not answering to e-mails".. I sent Ruth money through the tip jar on several occations ($20-$30) each time in 2009 or 2010. I know that it isn't much money at all at this day and age, but since Ruth wrote that she had something like $30 to live on every month, my small contribution doubled her monthly spending money and should have made some kind of difference.

I never got one word in reply. (But the money was claimed from my PayPal-account so I guess that she recieved them.) But about the same time she wrote in a comment that she "doesn't get much money at all from the tip jar".

Maybe she had better things to do than write a simple "thank you" in reply to a stranger in another part of the world who was sending her money.

And I figured that I had better things to spend my hard earned money on than sending it to a complete stranger in another part of the world, a person that I have no idea if she is for real or not.

Just my $0.02.

I don't see how not reacting to a donation the way you think she should has anything to do with her being real or not. Every single year after Christmas, Dear Abby's advice column gets several letters about people who are pissed off because they didn't get a "thank you" letter after giving someone gifts. I'm pretty sure all those people who didn't send "thank you" letters are still real though, so I don't see a correlation between the two.

[LucySnowe]

My concerns stem from the fact that, despite claiming that her followers are her "closest thing to friends," she (at least in the handful of cases I'm aware of) doesn't respond to people who send her donations and short notes of encouragement, and she didn't (in the one case I'm aware of) acknowledge an email from a person from a similar background who wrote to offer friendship and support.

I'm not saying I don't buy her explanation about being busy with school, but if she's getting enough donations that she can't keep up with the "thank yous," she's clearly making a lot more money than I would have thought. And it seems to me that a woman with no close friends would appreciate the opportunity to connect with her supporters, especially those who actually understand what she's been through.

Again, none of this is conclusive, and there is plenty of evidence suggesting that Razing Ruth is legit, but these issues, coupled with the others I mentioned, make me less certain about the blog's legitimacy than I was when I first included it on my Duggar information page.

EDITED to add, "coupled with the others I mentioned."

I can't see either of these things as evidence for anything, frankly. It took me six months to write all my wedding thank-you cards, even though I didn't have many gifts and wasn't working full-time for most of that period, and I currently need to respond to a lovely e-mail from someone from my past who got in touch with me out of the blue, which I have left languishing in my inbox for three months. For both of these, I have no reason other than that I am a lazy, ungrateful bitch. And I certainly do not have the very legitimate excuse of a pregnant sister to look after.

Another topic that's been bandied about is that of consistency. Personally, I'd be more concerned if everything always matched up. That would imply that there's a standard script. Real life is messier, and I just ran into a situation myself where I was asked 'so what were your goals when you began this project?' and I learned that what I said back then was different than what I was remembering I'd said.

So I'm on the 'I think she's legit, but there is simply no way to ever really know on the internet' side of the fence. (Even if Ruth spoke to Alecto, what could that prove? - any information we already know is there on the blog, and anything we don't know couldn't be independent verified.)

[SpeshulTaterTot]

Like most of you I have my doubts, but I think she's real. I've been told that if my life was a movie people would think it's too much drama to be realistic, and I think my life is pretty normal and boring. With Ruth's extra-ordinary story, of course it's hard for people to believe what she writes.

I also have a hard time responding to eMails, which is a bad habit, but there you go. It doesn't mean that I don't really exist, it just means I get busy.

[Clementine]

I don't see how not reacting to a donation the way you think she should has anything to do with her being real or not. Every single year after Christmas, Dear Abby's advice column gets several letters about people who are pissed off because they didn't get a "thank you" letter after giving someone gifts. I'm pretty sure all those people who didn't send "thank you" letters are still real though, so I don't see a correlation between the two.

It doesn't. But it made me realize how utterly naive I was to sent $$$ to a complete stranger from the Internet that I don't know and don't even know if she's real or not.

Plus, I think it's rude to not bother to reply when people send you gifts or donations and I have stopped being generous to people who don't show me the courtesy to be nice in return. Just a personal pet peeve of mine.

I took my cash and sent it to the local cat shelter (that I know actually exists since I used to volunteer there) and got a auto-generated reply/thank you in return.

[Iamthatbean]

If her parents are anything like the couple in Modern Family, Ruth & Rachel have nothing to worry about.

I probably refer to myself as gay as often as I do lesbian. Homosexual has an icky feel to me because of how I was raised.

[FlorenceHamilton]

It sort of bothers me that so many people who gave a few dollars to Ruth are so wigged out the she did not send you a personal thank you. I don't think that she needs to run around and thank everyone personally for every kindness that keeps her afloat. She writes and shares her story. We all get to see how Ruth is getting by and what she does to survive. I know that she is grateful for the help.

I have had email contact with Ruth. What surprised me was how careful I was about concealing my own identity. My real first name did come out of the interaction. I do not have the reasons that Ruth has, but still on the internet...you can call me Florence.