You May Have Worn The Prom Dress

[keen23]

I started the thread, so I'll share my Prom Dress picture. Dear Reader, I married him.

It was 1996. He was 18, I was 17. We'd been together for about 6 months in this picture. The dress cost $40 from the Filene's Basement $40 Prom Dress Sale.

[formergothardite]

14 minutes ago, keen23 said:

Yes, those are the infamous Steve Madden slide sandals on my feet. My favorite shoes in the 1990's.

Because they are awesome! 

I like your dress and the shoes! 

 

[Briefly]

Michelle's dress is something else! I don't mean that in a good way, it's kind of hideous!  Also, I'm not sure if it was George Takei or Brad Takei, George's husband. But one of them had a link to the "you may have worn the prom dress" blog on their facebook page yesterday.

[December]

On 4/8/2018 at 8:24 AM, Four is Enough said:

That armadillo dress of Michelle's gets uglier every time I see it. 

I couldn't place what it was reminding me of, I was thinking something fish-related... but armadillo is perfect! 

On 4/8/2018 at 2:56 PM, ElToro said:

Am I the only person who is really pleased she didn't know her husband at 18?

My husband has said he's glad we didn't meet until later, because I wouldn't have liked him in high school. I get that many people meet their perfect match in high school (I have a couple in my family that met in elementary school even). But thank goodness for the rest of us that it's not a requirement, or the selection would've been really miserable! 

[Ivycoveredtower]

not married or currently in a relationship but I doubt I'd be jealous of a prom date if I was. As for my own prom date haven't talked to him since HS graduation and if someone wants him well they are welcome to him. he was more then a bit of an ass. 

[ADoyle90815]

I'm not at all jealous of my fiancee's prom date since when he went to prom, I was just a little kid, and as far as my date goes, we were just platonic friends so there's no reason for anyone to be jealous of me. As with other friendships from high school/college, we just drifted apart and I haven't heard from him in years.

[lawfulevil]

Oh man. I had a high school boyfriend who married* a girl like this- she actually sent me death threats. I hadn't seen him (or lived in the same state) in years at that point and had more or less forgotten about his existence.

Dear high school flame's fiancee- despite what he apparently told you, I dumped him.

*She's since divorced him to marry her affair partner.

 

[Ozlsn]

2 hours ago, lawfulevil said:

Oh man. I had a high school boyfriend who married* a girl like this- she actually sent me death threats. I hadn't seen him (or lived in the same state) in years at that point and had more or less forgotten about his existence.

Dear high school flame's fiancee- despite what he apparently told you, I dumped him.

*She's since divorced him to marry her affair partner.

 

Good Lord. I had a couple of male friends at uni whose then-girlfriends/now-wives systematically got rid of every female friend their partners had before they got together, to the point that the last I heard the only women they socialised with were either her friends first or part of a couple they met after they got together. What was kind of amusing in retrospect was in their green-eyed haze they also ditched the gay women in our group (presumably just in case?) and that we (the group) had been friends for about 7 years at that point with zero romantic interest in each other (apparently the wives subscribed to the 'men and women can never be just friends' theory.) It did amuse me a couple of years ago when I was bored in a waiting room and on Facebook and discovered that one of them has a joint Facebook account with his wife, which she quite obviously maintains - presumably especially the friend requests as there were only two or three names (all male) that I could pick as coming from the husband's pre-wife life.  

On the positive side I don't think there were any death threats though! 

[jerkit]

I married my prom date lol.

[nokidsmom]

I didn't know Mr. No when he was 18 but from all accounts, he was not a jerk.  I was 13 at the time anyway.   He would have not been interested in me though I might have liked him.   Good thing we met 9 years later.   Mr. No. never went to his prom as it actually got cancelled.

My high school had two proms: for juniors and seniors.  I went to both so therefore the potential for not one but two insecure future  fiancees / wives  .   The first one was with a guy I knew from the high school band (went as friends) and the second was with my first bf, who was a hs grad and not from that school.   I never heard from junior prom guy's wife who incidentally don't live far from me.    Bf from senior prom never married so no worries there.  

I never linked going to prom with getting married but know that some high school classmates married their bfs/gfs from that time, who were also their prom date. 

 

[CarrotCake]

We don't have prom here but my boyfriend of 6 years was one of my sorority-sisters date on many of our data nights when they were still hooking up/casually dating.

I still hang out with here and I almost never think about it. Only when i complain about my boyfriend, I might say: sounds familiar? 

I know my boyfriend was a bit jealous in the beginning of the fact that I had been in a 4,5 years relationship since highschool where my ex also met my whole extended family etc. But this dissappeared over the years when he also met them and we moved in together etc. 

It was never as extreme as this blogger though, just a casual mention once or twice.

 

[Four is Enough]

I'm pretty sure I'd have dumped Mr. Four had we known each other in high school, because I had to go through that 'mistake" phase of choosing men, including the practice husband, before I would have chosen a nice guy, which Mr. Four is.

Now the woman I'd like to thank is the mysterious older woman who introduced him to lovemaking. She, uh, did a damn fine job. Just sayin'.

[Briefly]

Did not go to my prom and don't regret it! I probably would not have liked Mr. Briefly when he was 18 - even at 21 when I met him, he was pretty rough around the edges and really thought it was a compliment to whistle and yell at women when he was working on construction sites/parking lots.

[feministxtian]

My husband's x-wife is a lot like the chick in the essay...but here's the thing...they were highschool sweethearts and he was her first (she wasn't his). Anyway, the marriage didn't last. By the time I came along, they'd been divorced about 4 years by then...but she chose to tell me "I'll always love D, he was my first, my first love". I told her that if she had loved him so damn much she wouldn't have treated him like her personal ATM and maybe they'd still be married. This was also the woman, who, when she called me a bitch, I told her, "no honey, I'm not A bitch, I am THE BITCH and don't you fucking forget it". (and yes, she was and is a JW, but she only obeys the rules when it suits her)

[FeministShrew]

I didn't go to prom, but I did go to the 9th grade Dinner Dance twice, which was a big deal in my junior high, once with a 9th grader when I was in 8th grade, & again in 9th grade. I'll try to find the photos of the godawful dresses after work.

I will say that the guy I went with in 8th grade, who supposedly had a major crush on me, is now an out & proud gay man & activist.

The guy I went with in 9th grade was a sweet, nerdy trombone player who was at least 6 inches shorter than me. He's still not tall, but is now a fitness buff who teaches spinning classes, runs marathons, and is ripped. But, he's also kind of a jerk, who has left a string of broken hearts in our hometown. Two years ago he married a woman 15 years younger than him and they have a one year old son. Oddly enough, we reconnected on FB years ago because he worked with my cousin, and when he saw me on her friends list he told her I was his first love (first I ever heard of that, lol). We were both single at the time, but he quickly lost any romantic ideas about me when he found out I'm a full-blown liberal atheist. He's a solid Southern Baptist conservative.

@Seculardaisy I love that dress!

[Anonymousguest]

On 4/8/2018 at 9:25 PM, VVV said:

OK, that is actually the first time I have seen the recipe for tater tot casserole and it looks completely revolting.

Me too! @JillRodsEyeliner is that the actual recipe or just snark? 2lbs of ground turkey to 6lbs of tater tots and 4 cans of cream of crap soup? That can't be real, right? 

[Ivycoveredtower]

33 minutes ago, Anonymousguest said:

Me too! @JillRodsEyeliner is that the actual recipe or just snark? 2lbs of ground turkey to 6lbs of tater tots and 4 cans of cream of crap soup? That can't be real, right? 

nope it's real here is the recipe from the Ellie blog. 

http://www.duggarfamilyblog.com/2011/10/duggars-tater-tot-casserole.html

[Ozlsn]

My one regret about not meeting my husband when he was 18 is not getting to see the metal perm he had going at that age. He had the remnants at 23 when we met but shaved his head a year later and stayed that way.

[Hane]

Here’s the thing about this ridiculous essay:  Not every breakup is OMG THE DRAMA because S/HE WAS THE *WORST*!!!!1!11!!! Before marriage, people often date people who turn out not to be right for them, and then the relationship peters out or there’s an amicable split.

[Anonymousguest]

5 hours ago, Hane said:

Here’s the thing about this ridiculous essay:  Not every breakup is OMG THE DRAMA because S/HE WAS THE *WORST*!!!!1!11!!! Before marriage, people often date people who turn out not to be right for them, and then the relationship peters out or there’s an amicable split.

I married young so I didn't date very many people before my husband, but I didn't have any horrible and traumatic break ups. There were some tears with a couple of the guys, but they dried and we moved on. My friend circle in highschool was small and tight and we all dated each other and even now 30+yrs later we still all get together every few years (we are all in different states). 

[Ivycoveredtower]

I came across this actually on accident ( I was watching inside edition video's.) so the crazy lady and her probably also crazy fiancee did an interview with inside edition as did the Prom date. i love the girl he took to prom her answers are so great. 

 

[JMarie]

On 4/7/2018 at 5:16 PM, Seculardaisy said:

Here, you can snark on mine. GREEN. I remember I thought this was the most beautiful dress on earth.  In keeping with the theme of this thread, unlike the author of this article - I am married to my prom date all of these years later.

I like your dress!  I went to high school in the '80s and still believe a "proper" prom dress must have a nice full skirt.

[MarblesMom]

On 4/8/2018 at 12:33 AM, JillRodsEyeliner said:

Jim Bob and Michelle voted prom king and from queen of the ATI conference in BiG Sandy.

WTF is she wearing?  Why is the person in the wheelchair cropped out?

[Ivycoveredtower]

29 minutes ago, MarblesMom said:

WTF is she wearing?  Why is the person in the wheelchair cropped out?

that was at Jill's wedding the person in the wheelchair is Cathy Derick's mom. 

[mollysmom]

On 4/6/2018 at 5:07 PM, Hane said:

Life experience and a period of independence are absolutely invaluable.

Yes! Yes! Yes! I agree a million percent!!!