Josh and Anna 57: Singing the I'm Stuck in the SHU Blues

[Expectopatronus]

2 hours ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

Who cares about an old fb page if he hasn’t accessed it since going to prison? She’s one of the most annoying people on YouTube.

I agree. What difference does it make if an old account is just sitting there? I wonder what her motivation was in reporting it? I would like to know the whys and wherefores of her obsession with the Duggar family as a whole. 

[Knight of Ni]

8 hours ago, Expectopatronus said:

I agree. What difference does it make if an old account is just sitting there? I wonder what her motivation was in reporting it? I would like to know the whys and wherefores of her obsession with the Duggar family as a whole. 

Its something to make content with. Click bait, but if it gets her views that's more $ in her pocket. 

[Gobsmacked]

29 minutes ago, Knight of Ni said:

Its something to make content with. Click bait, but if it gets her views that's more $ in her pocket. 

KJ only talks about sister wives these day. Can’t stand Cody Brown. What a weirdo. 

[Cam]

22 hours ago, Gobsmacked said:

KJ only talks about sister wives these day. Can’t stand Cody Brown. What a weirdo. 

Cody definitely has always been difficult to stomach. But then again, TLC actively courts those kinds of people for its shows. It’s been years since I briefly watched a few episodes, but occasionally a Sister Wifes headline pops up on my newsfeed, so I have a general idea of how things have gone. I never thought any of the wives would leave him, not so much because of him but because I thought they all loved the tv limelight so much. So I’ve been pleasantly surprised. Is Meri still with him? Or is only Robin left? 

 

Plural marriage is so very difficult for me to stomach. Would there be any women watching Sister Wifes thinking, “gee, that’s the lifestyle for me.” ?? It’s a sad existence for a woman and patriarchy at it’s worst. 

[Meggo]

1 hour ago, Cam said:

Cody definitely has always been difficult to stomach. But then again, TLC actively courts those kinds of people for its shows. It’s been years since I briefly watched a few episodes, but occasionally a Sister Wifes headline pops up on my newsfeed, so I have a general idea of how things have gone. I never thought any of the wives would leave him, not so much because of him but because I thought they all loved the tv limelight so much. So I’ve been pleasantly surprised. Is Meri still with him? Or is only Robin left? 

 

Plural marriage is so very difficult for me to stomach. Would there be any women watching Sister Wifes thinking, “gee, that’s the lifestyle for me.” ?? It’s a sad existence for a woman and patriarchy at it’s worst. 

I think only Robyn is left. Christine left first, then Jeanelle and then Meri most recently. While I can understand (in some ways - not for me, but I can kind of see it) the appeal of plural marriage (MAYBE) - I cannot understand the appeal of Kody. That guy is just an obnoxious, spoiled man-child. 

 

[gustava]

1 minute ago, Meggo said:

I think only Robyn is left. Christine left first, then Jeanelle and then Meri most recently. While I can understand (in some ways - not for me, but I can kind of see it) the appeal of plural marriage (MAYBE) - I cannot understand the appeal of Kody. That guy is just an obnoxious, spoiled man-child. 

 

Check out the FJ thread on Sister Wives.  Good read.

[Flossie]

1 hour ago, Cam said:

Cody definitely has always been difficult to stomach. But then again, TLC actively courts those kinds of people for its shows. It’s been years since I briefly watched a few episodes, but occasionally a Sister Wifes headline pops up on my newsfeed, so I have a general idea of how things have gone. I never thought any of the wives would leave him, not so much because of him but because I thought they all loved the tv limelight so much. So I’ve been pleasantly surprised. Is Meri still with him? Or is only Robin left? 

Meri has left.  She stuck around hoping that Kody would take her back, but he was "too disgusted" about her being blatently catfished which caused her to consider leaving him, etc.  So after Christine left and he got infuriated over it, Meri hoped he'd stop telling HER to just leave already.  Then Janelle left, and Kody was still mad about that, but he still kept telling Meri to leave him alone.  She finally took the hint and left.  Now it's just Kody and Robyn, and their kids.

Kody spent so much time spreading his neediness around multiple women who used to beg for his attention, he didn't have to make compromises and work on his personality.  Now Robyn is stuck with a grown man who has the emotional maturity of a 12-14 year old.  Robyn, you wanted him.  You got him.  Now it's up to you to raise him right.

[Coconut Flan]

Please take the SW discussion to its home.  Thanks!

 

[JermajestyDuggar]

Josh and Anna both seem to want to be less public. Anna has mostly left social media plus she and the kids hardly appear in the SM of other family members. So KJ could be doing Josh a favor by getting it taken down. 

[marmalade]

12 hours ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

Josh and Anna both seem to want to be less public. Anna has mostly left social media plus she and the kids hardly appear in the SM of other family members. So KJ could be doing Josh a favor by getting it taken down. 

I bet Anna forgot it even existed. AFAIK, Smuggar never used it. As we now know, he preferred to spend his time on the dark web. 

[GreenBeans]

On 3/22/2023 at 1:58 PM, NoseyNellie said:

work in administration at a preschool and I field a lot of questions around registration.  We are PRE-school.. the goal is to help them prepare for SCHOOL!  So if you want a child to enroll in our 3 year old class the requirements are they must be 3 by Sept1 and they must be FULLY potty trained and wearing underwear( can handle all aspects-ups/downs of pants, wiping etc).

Wow, that is early. I mean most barely 3 year olds I know still wear diapers, or at least still have accidents and will not go to the toilet completely independently.

Also, what @Expectopatronus described seems crazy to me. Why and how would a 2/3 year old already know letters and writing (unless it was drilled into them by their parents or the child was extremely gifted)?

[NoseyNellie]

@GreenBeans we totally expect and anticipate accidents.  Those happen in 3/4/5 classes still.. And we still help with things, but we have to have the line in the sand that the kids be developmentally on their way and fully in underwear and primarily independent.  The only time it really has been an issue is with summer babies.  If parents are trying to hit that entrance at just turned 3 and they waited until the last minute to summer potty train. THOSE kids are the ones that make parents crazy!  lol  Its like they KNOW what mom and dad are doing and they balk the whole time. 

I have helped potty train more kids with my bribery tactics than anything.. and I am not ashamed to help parents.  We will have parents call us in the early summer and be freaking out that their 3 year old is just refusing to do it- and they do know they physically and emotionally are able to do it. I will have them bring the child to our summer open house.  Our facility has an AMAZING indoor play structure and a huge outdoor playground.  99% of the time they want to go into the playland.  1st I let them know it is only open when we start school-so that night it is not open to anyone.  THEN I simply take their hand and show them there are 2 sides.  THIS side ( much smaller) is the baby side.  This is for our babies and toddlers.  Anyone who is wearing a diaper has to play on this side.. Now THIS side.. this big climbing, colorful side is the big kid side.  This side is for the kids who are 3 years old and only wear big kid underwear.  This is a rule and we follow the rules.  And then I show them the outdoor playgrounds and show them the toddler playground and the big kid playground.  Usually that is all it takes and they want the big kid stuff and parents take it from there.  I did have 1 boy a few years ago that mom was ready to lose her mind.. kid was so smart but did not care and was like "Ah I will just play in my backyard then"🤣  Mom was so frustrated.  So I just said to him.. "School is fun.  Mom wants you to be here.  If you want to come you need to use the toilet like a big kid and wear underwear all the time.. If and when you show up ready to go to school with your paperwork I might have a special treat for you from my jar in the office"  
2 weeks later they show up to meet the teacher with their paperwork.. he comes to my line and says " I am in underwear, you have a treat for me?"  I said YEP!  I stepped from behind my desk, told everyone I would be right back, took his hand and we went to my office and I told him to take his pick from the office candy jar- full of great fancy chocolates. He grabbed one and said COOL!"  mom laughed as it was 1015am.. 2 years and he NEVER had an accident at all.. Just needed to get the right currency for him!  

[Meggo]

58 minutes ago, NoseyNellie said:

@GreenBeans we totally expect and anticipate accidents.  Those happen in 3/4/5 classes still.. And we still help with things, but we have to have the line in the sand that the kids be developmentally on their way and fully in underwear and primarily independent.  The only time it really has been an issue is with summer babies.  If parents are trying to hit that entrance at just turned 3 and they waited until the last minute to summer potty train. THOSE kids are the ones that make parents crazy!  lol  Its like they KNOW what mom and dad are doing and they balk the whole time. 

I have helped potty train more kids with my bribery tactics than anything.. and I am not ashamed to help parents.  We will have parents call us in the early summer and be freaking out that their 3 year old is just refusing to do it- and they do know they physically and emotionally are able to do it. I will have them bring the child to our summer open house.  Our facility has an AMAZING indoor play structure and a huge outdoor playground.  99% of the time they want to go into the playland.  1st I let them know it is only open when we start school-so that night it is not open to anyone.  THEN I simply take their hand and show them there are 2 sides.  THIS side ( much smaller) is the baby side.  This is for our babies and toddlers.  Anyone who is wearing a diaper has to play on this side.. Now THIS side.. this big climbing, colorful side is the big kid side.  This side is for the kids who are 3 years old and only wear big kid underwear.  This is a rule and we follow the rules.  And then I show them the outdoor playgrounds and show them the toddler playground and the big kid playground.  Usually that is all it takes and they want the big kid stuff and parents take it from there.  I did have 1 boy a few years ago that mom was ready to lose her mind.. kid was so smart but did not care and was like "Ah I will just play in my backyard then"🤣  Mom was so frustrated.  So I just said to him.. "School is fun.  Mom wants you to be here.  If you want to come you need to use the toilet like a big kid and wear underwear all the time.. If and when you show up ready to go to school with your paperwork I might have a special treat for you from my jar in the office"  
2 weeks later they show up to meet the teacher with their paperwork.. he comes to my line and says " I am in underwear, you have a treat for me?"  I said YEP!  I stepped from behind my desk, told everyone I would be right back, took his hand and we went to my office and I told him to take his pick from the office candy jar- full of great fancy chocolates. He grabbed one and said COOL!"  mom laughed as it was 1015am.. 2 years and he NEVER had an accident at all.. Just needed to get the right currency for him!  

Preschool, daycare, early childhood carers - are MAGICAL I tell you. I used to joke with my cousin that I was just going to drop my son off to her one weekend with a TON of spare clothes and pick up a potty trained child at the end of it (she was an Early Childhood Educator who had been working in daycare since she could work). Honestly - daycare taught my son how to nap, taught him not to bite people, taught him that yogurt was in fact food - MAGICAL people... 

[Four is Enough]

One of mine was just too lazy to use the toilet. His birthday was in July.. so we made him stay in the baby pool at the swim club we attended. When he pitched a fit, I told him he had to be fully in use of the toilet for both types of excretions.. Next day, he started with big boy pants and never looked back.  You gotta know what'll make him go.

[JermajestyDuggar]

All I will say is that some kids are much much easier than others. My 8 year old had a pee accident this morning. It’s more about not wanting to stop what he’s doing to go pee. He’s been the hardest child to potty train. I’ve never seen anything like him. 

[BlackberryGirl]

Our autistic grandberry WILL NOT…just won’t. He pees, semi reliably, but hell to the no on poop. A couple days ago he said he will poop on the potty when he’s 6.  Sigh.. he’s 5 now. School is trying, we are trying.. every damn method. I’ve potty trained 5 kids this is ridiculous.  

[EmiSue]

4 hours ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

All I will say is that some kids are much much easier than others. My 8 year old had a pee accident this morning. It’s more about not wanting to stop what he’s doing to go pee. He’s been the hardest child to potty train. I’ve never seen anything like him. 

My 8 year old struggles occasionally too. He has adhd and I think he's just too distracted sometimes. But as his mom, it's maddening.

[Meggo]

My 10 year old hasn't had a dry night more than 2 nights in a row - EVER. He still wears a pull up at night... 

[JermajestyDuggar]

12 minutes ago, Meggo said:

My 10 year old hasn't had a dry night more than 2 nights in a row - EVER. He still wears a pull up at night... 

I assume my 8 year old will wear night time pull ups until he’s 10. Maybe longer. We’ll see.

[Chickenbutt]

My youngest was 5 and still wetting the bed and wetting his pants. I casually mentioned it to the pediatrician and she immediately sent him to the Pediatric Urologist and he was found to have a urethral valve that was not functioning properly. He ended up have a Transurethral Resection of a Posterior Urethral Valve. Keep your pediatricians in the loop. 

[Gobsmacked]

1 hour ago, Chickenbutt said:

My youngest was 5 and still wetting the bed and wetting his pants. I casually mentioned it to the pediatrician and she immediately sent him to the Pediatric Urologist and he was found to have a urethral valve that was not functioning properly. He ended up have a Transurethral Resection of a Posterior Urethral Valve. Keep your pediatricians in the loop. 

Hope you don’t mind me asking but does your son have Situs invertus? My oldest boy had this done aged 3. It’s a sign and symptom of SI. 

[Chickenbutt]

No. He had several issues as an infant but that was never one of them. Ask anything. I don't mind

[MomJeans]

9 hours ago, EmiSue said:

My 8 year old struggles occasionally too. He has adhd and I think he's just too distracted sometimes. But as his mom, it's maddening.

My 9 year old ADHD daughter has to be reminded to use the restroom still.  She's doing camp all summer, and I am worried she will be too distracted to remember to use the restroom.  I'm seriously wondering if we should use a discreet alarm or something.  At school she only uses the restroom enough because she is bored. 

When she was diagnosed at 7, my first thought was "This was why potty training was such hell."  And it was kind of a relief that I wasn't a terrible Mom.  Because everyone else's daughters potty trained in a few weeks at age 3, and we barely made it to the first day of kindergarten. We did half day Pre-K because she wasn't potty trained yet. 

[takers401]

5 minutes ago, MomJeans said:

My 9 year old ADHD daughter has to be reminded to use the restroom still.  She's doing camp all summer, and I am worried she will be too distracted to remember to use the restroom.  I'm seriously wondering if we should use a discreet alarm or something.  At school she only uses the restroom enough because she is bored. 

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You might want to look into a Wobl Watch. It looks like a normal watch but allows you to set alarms that can vibrate or beep to remind your child to go to the bathroom. I believe the waterproof watch has 9 alarm settings. It can be a bit of a pain to get set up, but once you've got the set up sequence down it gets easier.

[Meggo]

12 hours ago, Chickenbutt said:

My youngest was 5 and still wetting the bed and wetting his pants. I casually mentioned it to the pediatrician and she immediately sent him to the Pediatric Urologist and he was found to have a urethral valve that was not functioning properly. He ended up have a Transurethral Resection of a Posterior Urethral Valve. Keep your pediatricians in the loop. 

Yep - talked to our doctor, who sent us to a pediatric specialist for this, who did an ultrasound and some stool testing and he's physically just fine. He has developmental delays so that could be contributing to this. We had one of those sensors that wake the ENTIRE neighborhood up when there is wetness in pants and it drove all of us nuts and made us all SO crabby. 
I did wonder if using the pull ups was actually prolonging the problem (like maybe if he physically woke up from the wetness, it would help him get into the pattern of NOT peeing?) but since he crawls into my bed most nights too - the amount of laundry between making sure HIS bed is dry every morning and MY bed is dry every morning - sounded like a little bit off hell, frankly. And he sleeps like a drunk ocotopus looking for his keys (and in a queen sized bed) so putting those little mats under him won't work either since he is EVERYWHERE in bed. 
Ugh - I guess pull ups are my lot in life for now. 
The doc said if it didn't bother HIM (my son) there wasn't any real motivation on his part. There are meds he can take - but again - nothing is WRONG with him - he just hasn't caught up yet.