Maxwell grandfather funeral

[Rainbowcolor]

Found a public blog so not breaking the link www.memorycatcherbykmc.blogspot.com. Look for June 2, 2014. It looks like he had military honors.

[Dru]

Thank you for this. I may have gotten a little misty eyed looking at the pictures.

It's interesting to see that even in a moment of great mourning Gigi expresses more genuine happiness and love than anyone in Steve's family can muster on their "happiest" day. I sincerely hope that she will move near Tami's family and live out her remaining years in joy.

[anjulibai]

Is it bad that one of the main things I noticed were the military women honoring Rex and all the women in pants that came?

There's something off about the looks on the Maxwell faces, and I can't really tell what it is. Perhaps it's just this is the first time I've seen them display totally unguarded emotion.

[usmcmom]

I too choked up at those photos. I'm so glad Teri's father was given such honors.

Both of my grandfathers and my father were buried with military rites and there really is nothing like it. At my father's funeral, my brother (a retired Army sergeant) presented the flag to my step mother. It was one of the most painfully beautiful moments of my life.

I'm sure the Maxwells all admired their father/grandfather and are grieving him but they may be conflicted. I have noticed with some conservative Christians that they seem to find grief to be in conflict with their beliefs. They seem to think they are not supposed to be sad at the loss of a loved one because they believe he/she has gone on to a better life; therefore, when they are overcome with the perfectly human emotions that come with death, they feel somewhat guilty. I wonder if this is what the Maxwell family is going through.

[MamaJunebug]

Is it bad that one of the main things I noticed were the military women honoring Rex and all the women in pants that came?

There's something off about the looks on the Maxwell faces, and I can't really tell what it is. Perhaps it's just this is the first time I've seen them display totally unguarded emotion.

Unguarded emotion, nobody standing behind Poor Sarah reminding them to SMILE.

Thank you rainbowcolor, what a find!

Things that give me hope: Aunt Tami had her arm around Gigi - this could mean Gigi's gone to stay with her other daughter for a while.

Sarah holding Ruthanne and gazing thoughtfully at the woman with the short-cropped hair. Is Sarah thinking, "Well, now, there's a lady who shows her nape and her collarbone and she doesn't seem diabolic at all ...."

Tami's Mr. is large and looks like he's probably a jolly person in some milieus. Ten-to-one odds he doesn't have green smoothies for breakfast or .... ever. Live a little, Gigi, when you get to Alabama!

Gigi bussing the African-American friend. Definitely not a family member, that one, but a very dear and treasured friend. Oooh, I used the f word!

Things that made me shrug, "well, they ARE his grandkids": The Maxwells nasalling out a farewell spiritual for Granddad.

Thing that gave me hope: Another grandchild - apparently son of Tami - singing and giving Christopher-at-the-piano a side-eye. "C'mon, cousin, give me my pitch, we practiced this....." I get the impression that Tami & family are joyful Christians who live in the world and do their best. May Poor Sarah and the Reversals visit them.....

Thing that left me feeling ... I dunno what: Teri looking so sad. She's been a willing participant in her husband's neurosis and the stunting of her children's growth, yet at the end of the day she's a depressive, college-educated, beloved daughter and was her husband even holding her hand, in either the graveside or chapel services? I feel for her, even as I distrust her through and through.

Thing that made me snicker: The Patriot Guard in attendance and commanding respect for the cortege. It HAD to be driving Steve nuts to know that these folks who have motorcycling as a hobby (ooh, the h word, hobby!) are doing good and honoring his father-in-law and bringing some good emotions to his mother-in-law and possibly even his wife.

Granddad realy was a warrior, wow, those medals. I think of the "family" photo Steve had done a couple years ago, where Granddad and Gigi are way off to the side, easily cropped out of the REAL family photo. Way to show respect for the man and the soldier, Steve.

Over all, though -- very nice documenting of what was obviously a wonderful send-off for Mr. Frazer and a comfort for Mrs. Frazer. Thanks again, Rainbowcolor!

[MamaJunebug]

usmcmom wrote:

I'm sure the Maxwells all admired their father/grandfather and are grieving him but they may be conflicted. I have noticed with some conservative Christians that they seem to find grief to be in conflict with their beliefs. They seem to think they are not supposed to be sad at the loss of a loved one because they believe he/she has gone on to a better life; therefore, when they are overcome with the perfectly human emotions that come with death, they feel somewhat guilty. I wonder if this is what the Maxwell family is going through.

Actually, some such Christians are as back-and-forth as any group of people in "do as I say, not as I do." A particularly bitter example from my own family's history: When my mother died, way too soon, a cousin who (somehow) is an ordained Lutheran minister reproached my grieving dad, 'We shouldn't be sad! We should be REJOICING! Aunt Junebug is in HEAVEN!"

A few years later, Rev. Cousin's brother died suddenly. Ohhhhh, the poor man was GRIIIIIEEEEEEVING ..... his mother said she'd never SEEN him so emotionally affected!!!!!!!

:wtf:

Best note of all: Rev. Cousin is fully retired now and nobody is in danger of his particularly stupid brand of preaching and teaching .... (yeh, I'm still a bit bitter. In part because "the wrong cousin died."

(Ok, that's enough about that :penguin-no: I will post no more.)

:angry-banghead:

(Junebug! Stop it!) :naughty:

[LurkerOverThePond]

There's something off about the looks on the Maxwell faces, and I can't really tell what it is. Perhaps it's just this is the first time I've seen them display totally unguarded emotion.

Exactly my thoughts as well. It's interesting to see them photographed by someone else, without the plastered Stepford-smiles and their normal happyhappyjoyjoy -filter. I wondered about the women in uniforms, too. Stevie must have disapproved them _so_much_.

Those were bittersweet pictures. I'm so glad to see how lovingly Aunt Tami seems to care for GiGi and this gives me great hope that she actually took her mother back to Alabama with her. I have always had a soft spot for Gigi, probably because she has always looked so genuinely lovely old lady whose smile reaches her eyes (something to think about, Stevie). She also very much resembles my own sweet late Grandma.

Rest in peace, Grandpa F. If there is a Heaven, I hope you don't have to share it with Stehovah.

edit. MamaJunebug was faster than I was.

[MamaJunebug]

Exactly my thoughts as well. It's interesting to see them photographed by someone else, without the plastered Stepford-smiles and their normal happyhappyjoyjoy -filter. I wondered about the women in uniforms, too. Stevie must have disapproved them _so_much_.

Those were bittersweet pictures. I'm so glad to see how lovingly Aunt Tami seems to care for GiGi and this gives me great hope that she actually took her mother back to Alabama with her. I have always had a soft spot for Gigi, probably because she has always looked so genuinely lovely old lady whose smile reaches her eyes (something to think about, Stevie). She also very much resembles my own sweet late Grandma.

Rest in peace, Grandpa F. If there is a Heaven, I hope you don't have to share it with Stehovah.

edit. MamaJunebug was faster than I was.

NO need to edit on my account, dear LurkerOTP!!! These thing can't be said enough. (HOPE! -- for Steve's family members)

[SPHASH]

A little off topic but in the pic with the Maxwell brothers standing behind the hearse, Chris and Nate are quite a distance from each other just like in the Sunday dinner one. Looking at the pics made me sad that Steve will probably get a send-off just like this. Yes he did serve our country but he's such an asshole. And the Maxwell brothers will never get an opportunity to serve cuz of him.

[Odd1Out]

Looks like a beautiful service. I'm glad it wasn't all about Steve Maxwell and Terie's sister and more family were part if it and made it all about Mr Frazer.

[ViolaSebastian]

You know, I wonder if any of the children have inherited Teri's depression...

[anjulibai]

You know, I wonder if any of the children have inherited Teri's depression...

Sarah. No doubt, whatsoever.

[ViolaSebastian]

Sarah. No doubt, whatsoever.

That just breaks my heart--it's a crime that they aren't allowing access (I get that she's an adult, but you know, Maxwell...) to anti-depressants and counseling. It could be very effectively managed if they'd just allowed her some options.

[Dru]

Sarah. No doubt, whatsoever.

Yeah, Sarah is clearly depressed but I wonder if that's not just situational rather than genetic. I'm shocked that all of the girls aren't ready to fling themselves in front of a bus to get it over with. I suppose the reversal girls a) don't know any better and b) still have hope that they'll get married one day. Sarah has clearly given up.

[Jana814]

Thanks for the link!! I wonder how Steve felt cause he wasn't in control of the funeral.

[Justme]

Thanks for sharing. I noticed how Tami had her arm around Gigi in most of the pictures. Hopefully, Gigi will stay with her for a while.

[rural juror]

I wonder if Joseph or John ever wished they could join the military, especially after an event like this. They seem like they types who would enjoy it (maybe Jesse too).

[anniebgood]

When my stepdad was laid to rest, we had military honors for him because he served as a CPO in the Navy during WW2 on a fast frigate. He was buried in one of the large Catholic cemeteries here in the Los Angeles area. When the bugler played taps, a whole group of men who were at another funeral across the road, turned and saluted. It made me cry, my brother, my cousin, and my nephew all of were in the service or out, saluted as well. It was a good sendoff.

When I saw the young woman in the flag ceremony I wondered what Steve must have thought? Chris looked pretty broke up in the photo where they were praying. Perhaps because when he was young and had a grampy he could play with.

Thank you for sharing the link.

[Jana814]

Thanks for sharing. I noticed how Tami had her arm around Gigi in most of the pictures. Hopefully, Gigi will stay with her for a while.

I hope that also. Maybe if she goes & stays w/ Tami for a while she will realize what she missed out on for many years.

[lilith]

It just blows my mind the Maxwells haven't mentioned this on the blog. Gigi and Grandpa lived next door, for gods sake, this must be a huge and emotional event for them.

They even mentioned Grandpa in their Memorial Day post but didn't mention his death.

This is a family that documents dusting the ceiling fans, making burrito filling for the eleventy hundredth time, documents every time Uriah has a minor maintenance procedure. All posted about in detail with posed photos. But they don't mention the death of Teri's father, the man who has lived next door to them for years? They mention the deaths of random "elderly" who they preach at, but both Steve and Teri's parents have recently died without being mentioned or memorialised.

You'd think they would at least mention that Grandpa was now with Jesus, just to give Steve an opportunity to ask if we all knew where we are going when we die.

The posed happy pictures from Sunday dinner are really creepy when one knows they were taken two days after Grandpa's funeral.

[Coco]

I too choked up at those photos. I'm so glad Teri's father was given such honors.

Both of my grandfathers and my father were buried with military rites and there really is nothing like it. At my father's funeral, my brother (a retired Army sergeant) presented the flag to my step mother. It was one of the most painfully beautiful moments of my life.

I'm sure the Maxwells all admired their father/grandfather and are grieving him but they may be conflicted. I have noticed with some conservative Christians that they seem to find grief to be in conflict with their beliefs. They seem to think they are not supposed to be sad at the loss of a loved one because they believe he/she has gone on to a better life; therefore, when they are overcome with the perfectly human emotions that come with death, they feel somewhat guilty. I wonder if this is what the Maxwell family is going through.

My grandpa, too. He was a WWII pilot in the Pacific. At his funeral no one could keep a dry eye while taps was played. There is nothing like it. Reading these tributes too, especially today on the 70th anniversary of D-day. Those were men.

[Sister Mozz]

In the 7th picture down (the prayer picture), one of the Maxwell guys who is standing has his arm around a woman wearing a pink shirt and black cardigan. It's definitely not Sarah or Mary. Is it Anna? She looks so different! If not Anna, who could it be? Considering they are Maxwells, that is an awful familiar way to comfort a cousin or a non-relative female! :o

[SPHASH]

Steve's latest Seriously post is about DEATH!

[SPHASH]

In the 7th picture down (the prayer picture), one of the Maxwell guys who is standing has his arm around a woman wearing a pink shirt and black cardigan. It's definitely not Sarah or Mary. Is it Anna? She looks so different! If not Anna, who could it be? Considering they are Maxwells, that is an awful familiar way to comfort a cousin or a non-relative female! :o

It's Anna. I noticed Teri was holding on to the arm of her military escort. I hope Steve went into a tailspin over it.

[anjulibai]

Steve's latest Seriously post is about DEATH!

Link please! :D