Dateable Girls Shut Up/Justin Lookadoo MERGE

[happy atheist]

The Richardson, TX PTA sponsored a faith-based dating seminar presented by douchebag Justin Lookadoo.

http://gawker.com/motivational-speaker- ... 1464304493

Apparently dateable girls know how to shut up, while dateable boys "know they aren’t as sensitive as girls, and that’s okay. They know they are stronger, more dangerous, and more adventurous, and that’s okay. Dateable guys are real men who aren’t afraid to be guys."

So that's awesome.

Kids were walking out of the seminar, and giving poor Justin Lookadoo a hard time. They even started using #lookadouche, which is awesome.

lookadoo.com

rudateable.com

[2xx1xy1JD]

Is this a public high school? If so, why are they spending money on bringing in this guy, esp. since he (1) has a religiously-based speech and (2) doesn't have anything worthwhile to say?

I didn't shut up when I met my husband. In fact, I remember getting into long conversations and political debates.

I may have even opened my own bottle of ketchup.

[Ms Jess]

Glad those kids saw through him. What utter shite.

[happy atheist]

I may have even opened my own bottle of ketchup.

I take you're a man. :lol:

[docmom]

Wow, according to his criteria I am an undateable woman. That'll make my husband happy :)

[Peppercorn]

What's with these schools? They don't seem to vet their speakers much at all. Ooh, he's faith-based? Must be okay! Let's not bother checking whether he's also a gay-bashing* misogynist. Then after they get publicly called out, it's all "Oopsie, we made a mistake. Kinda."

Or worse, they knew what he was and hired him 'cause his rhetoric goes along with their faith-based sex ed quite well.

*to clarify: got that tidbit from reading an article on another website

[SteampunkLovelace]

THAT'S why I'm single! I have opinions while female! I will immediately shut up and make a sandwich.

[kpmom]

I saw this on Yahoo. What a jackass this man is. What qualifications do you need to be a motivational speaker anyway?

Good for those students. Supposedly he's never had a negative reaction before in any of his 4200 (like I believe that number) speeches.

It makes me feel better about the future of our country knowing these students are out there.

[defraudingjezebel]

I'm so glad that many of the students called out his BS. After reading his list of what makes a girl "date-able," it almost makes me think this version of "dating" is worse than courting. "Be mysterious"? "Don't ask him out"? Puh-lease.

[Trynn]

It's more the context that I dislike than the message. Sure if a person is constantly talking about themselves all. The. Time. then they may indeed need to learn to shut up. If that's what Lookado (that's just a fun name to say; lookadoo lookadu look 'a DYOU) was going for, that'd be fine.

It seems, though, that it only applies to women. Sigh.

I actually read his book in high school (I was super bored and had nothing else to read.) and the thing that stuck with me most was that girls should NEVER decide what she and her boyfriend are going to do on a date. Ever. She can make suggestions, but in the end it's always the guy's choice.

I remember thinking that was the worst bullshit ever.

[mastercleaner]

Oh my, he sure drew the short straw in the looks department!!

It seems all the mysoginists are not lookers. Between this guy, that Romeo weirdo and mike Jeffries from Abercrombie. Maybe that's why they're so awful.....

[curlytoes79]

I hate to pick on people's looks, but cripes. When you've got a face like Wallace Shawn, don't style your hair like John Lydon.

[happy atheist]

I hate to pick on people's looks, but cripes. When you've got a face like Wallace Shawn, don't style your hair like John Lydon.

I was thinking Guy Fieri for the hair, but yours works too.

[Peas n carrots]

#lookadouche :lol: :lol: :lol:

I have hope for the future of America.

So I took the quiz...guess what? U R DATELESS!!!11!

Being one of those ketchup opening bottle loud mouth tarts didn't stop me from getting married!

[happy atheist]

"Practice thinking about him."

The fuck?

[NotALoserLikeYou]

theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/11/christian-speaker-tells-public-school-students-how-to-be-dateable/281488/

'Christian' Speaker Tells Public-School Students How to Be 'Dateable'

According to Justin Lookadoo, "dateable" women "know how to shut up." He's given hundreds of speeches at public schools across the South.

Dateable girls know how to shut up. They don’t monopolize the conversation. They don’t tell everyone everything about themselves.

The Dateable girl let’s [sic] God run the world, and tells herself the truth–that all she can control is herself. She doesn’t imagine things to be more than they are.

Let him lead. God made guys as leaders. Dateable girls get that and let him do guy things, get a door, open a ketchup bottle. They relax and let guys be guys. Which means they don’t ask him out!!!

Men of God are wild, not domesticated. Dateable guys aren’t tamed. They don’t live by the rules of the opposite sex. They fight battles, conquer lands, and stand up for the oppressed.

Keep it covered up. Dateable guys know that porn is bad for the spirit and the mind. They keep women covered up.

In his book, Dateable, which he describes as a “#1 bestseller†and directs at teenage girls, Lookadoo writes, "Please, please don't tease us. To show us your hot little body … and then tell us we can't touch it is being a tease. You can't look that sexy and then tell us to be on our best behavior.â€

His talk at RHS was mainly aimed at the girls in the audience and how they should behave in relationships. When addressing the boys, he urged them to reject feminism and be macho:

Girls, he said, were their own worst enemies.

“The reason it’s so hard for you to succeed these days is not because of guys,†he said, “You’re doing it to yourselves.â€

Guys, he said, need to be manly.

“Somewhere between the modern church and the feminist movement, guys turned into pansies,†he said. “Stand up and be a man! Do something with your life!â€

It says he was talking against bullying but why is he allowed to come and shame women, bash feminism (ie equality), and talk about churches?

[Peas n carrots]

theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/11/christian-speaker-tells-public-school-students-how-to-be-dateable/281488/

It says he was talking against bullying but why is he allowed to come and shame women, bash feminism (ie equality), and talk about churches?

One of the Gawker commenters noted that this speaker probably does more of the smaller community public schools and church circuits. Clearly his message isn't welcome in places that are more liberal.

Girls, he said, were their own worst enemies.

“The reason it’s so hard for you to succeed these days is not because of guys,†he said, “You’re doing it to yourselves.â€

Guys, he said, need to be manly.

READY TO RAGE :pull-hair: Fuck him. How are us females our worst enemies by wanting to be treated as capable, intelligent human beings instead of helpless, close mouthed airheads? Methinks if there are men that have a problem with that it is a personal issue. I would never want to be with someone who didn't value me for who I am.

[slh12280]

That stupid quiz says I am dateable. Why no date then? :cry:

[Peppercorn]

Here are a few choice quotes from Lookadouche's "Dateable" books:

“Now I’m not trying to fill you full of downers and hand you a knife, but you need to understand that when you take on the role of the guy (asking out, calling, paying, etc.), not only do you mess up your dating relationship but you also mess up your spiritual relationship by telling God you just don’t trust him. Don’t get caught in the lie. It isn’t okay for girls to be guys.â€

“The sexual revolution had its whack at destroying the relationship between men and women. As believers we now have the chance to restore that. Find out what God planned for guys and girls and start acting more like the girl God created–tender, soft, gentle, and lovable…In everything you do, think feminine. Think girly.â€

“Whoever asks, pays. The hunter-gatherer male is fulfilled when he is allowed to hunt and gather with his wallet for the female of his dreams. The Dateable female does not take this gift away from the male, even if she disagrees with the rule. She knows that if it’s a rule, it must be right. Note: If he is not fulfilled by this part of the ritual, then he is not man enough to date her.â€

“What happens is that if he isn’t finding out that he is man enough, he snaps into his feminine side. Don’t worry – it’s not a gay thing – we all have masculine and feminine sides. But this guy goes into that mode and never snaps out of it. He stays safe, comfortable, risk-free.â€

“Then there is the ‘I was born gay’ argument. Well, poop on that.â€

[Peas n carrots]

Here are a few choice quotes from Lookadouche's "Dateable" books:

“Now I’m not trying to fill you full of downers and hand you a knife, but you need to understand that when you take on the role of the guy (asking out, calling, paying, etc.), not only do you mess up your dating relationship but you also mess up your spiritual relationship by telling God you just don’t trust him. Don’t get caught in the lie. It isn’t okay for girls to be guys.â€

“The sexual revolution had its whack at destroying the relationship between men and women. As believers we now have the chance to restore that. Find out what God planned for guys and girls and start acting more like the girl God created–tender, soft, gentle, and lovable…In everything you do, think feminine. Think girly.â€

“Whoever asks, pays. The hunter-gatherer male is fulfilled when he is allowed to hunt and gather with his wallet for the female of his dreams. The Dateable female does not take this gift away from the male, even if she disagrees with the rule. She knows that if it’s a rule, it must be right. Note: If he is not fulfilled by this part of the ritual, then he is not man enough to date her.â€

“What happens is that if he isn’t finding out that he is man enough, he snaps into his feminine side. Don’t worry – it’s not a gay thing – we all have masculine and feminine sides. But this guy goes into that mode and never snaps out of it. He stays safe, comfortable, risk-free.â€

“Then there is the ‘I was born gay’ argument. Well, poop on that.â€

Oh, if the world was only so black and white. It would make dating so.fucking.easy.

I'm about as soft and tender as a shoe soul. I know MANY women like this and most of us are in successful marriages. Then again, we aren't married to entitled, self centered douchebags either.

Just another asshole reinforcing the "bro" culture message in Christian packaging.

[Ari]

The weirdest thing here is that it's like he's trying to talk straight and push all these old-fashioned manly values, and then he keeps using the word "guys" in a way that makes him sound like a 14-year-old girl. It's so awkward.

[Evilbad]

What a turd. He's like that old guy trying to be hip and talk to kids. Kind of like whomever it was that developed "Captain Planet". You failed, buddy.

[2xx1xy1JD]

Of course he's a turd, but my bigger concern is the school officials.

WHY are all these PUBLIC schools paying him to speak?

Are their test scores so perfect that they don't need the class time? Do they have so much money in their budgets that they can spend it on a turd? Do these teachers and administrators have a firm grasp of the First Amendment, and do they realize that pushing religious messages at public school students is unconstitutional?

Does anyone bother to research and vet speakers before they are invited? What on earth would convince anyone that a guy who blames girls for being a tease and says "poop on that" to the idea that some people are born gay can in any way speak about bullying? Why on earth would a public school be concerned with giving dating advice?

Basically, the problem is bigger than this one turd.

[happy atheist]

Found this on wikipedia:

Nearly all African hunter-gatherers are egalitarian, with women roughly as influential and powerful as men.

So his hunter-gatherer metaphor doesn't really work.

[BurntHoney]

He made the front page of Salon. LOVE the comments from the kids.

http://www.salon.com/2013/11/14/high_sc ... _him_down/