Webster4Eva 10: If Alyssa Doesn't Record It, Then Does It Really Exist?

[nelliebelle1197]

The existential question in a Bates woman's life.....

 

[CanadianMamam]

I like Zoey and Lexi’s room. There are a lot of drawers/cupboards so I am betting the toys are stored in there (it is what I do with my kids), plus the closed closet. The room is pretty and pink with rainbows and unicorns, which is the same theme as my daughter’s room and a pretty popular aesthetic with girls that age. There is lots of floor space for them to play, the room is pretty and neat. 

[Jackie3]

28 minutes ago, CanadianMamam said:

I like Zoey and Lexi’s room. There are a lot of drawers/cupboards so I am betting the toys are stored in there (it is what I do with my kids), plus the closed closet. The room is pretty and pink with rainbows and unicorns, which is the same theme as my daughter’s room and a pretty popular aesthetic with girls that age. There is lots of floor space for them to play, the room is pretty and neat. 

There's very little original about it. There are a million girls rooms just like it. Rainbows/unicorns? Hardly a unique theme.

I do wonder if the girls have ever sat on those hard blue plastic chairs. If so, how long did they sit there? How long would Alyssa sit there--they look very uncomfortable. Besides, in my experience, small children don't sit very long on the chairs adults buy for them.

Zoey and Lexi probably can't pull open any of those drawers, except the bottom row and maybe the one above it. They certainly can't pull out the long one beneath the bed.

Do the kids actually use that rocking horse? My kids stopped using them at around age 2. Zoey is nearly 3.5 and Lexi will be 5 in January, I believe. Time to pass it on to Maci.

Why are the books on a high shelf out of their reach?

I wouldn't call it a room that empowers or delights children--uncomfortable chairs, the books far out of the kids' reach, not many toys in sight, drawers too big or high for them to use. But to an adult, I think it would appear pretty.

Edited September 22 by Jackie3

[CanadianMamam]

2 minutes ago, Jackie3 said:

There's very little original about it. There are a million girls rooms just like it. Rainbows/unicorns? Hardly a unique theme.

I do wonder if the girls have ever sat on those hard blue plastic chairs. If so, how long did they sit there? How long would Alyssa sit there--they look very uncomfortable. Besides, in my experience, small children don't sit very long on the chairs adults buy for them.

Does it have to be unique? It is a children's room and I assume the girls like rainbows and unicorns. It is a generic, but pretty little girls room. 

I do agree about the chairs though. I don't think my children ever sit on chairs at home, except maybe the desk chair but even then they prefer to lay on the bed with their devices. But the chairs will make a fun surface for them to play with their Dolls 😂

[Jackie3]

Just now, CanadianMamam said:

I do agree about the chairs though. I don't think my children ever sit on chairs at home, except maybe the desk chair but even then they prefer to lay on the bed with their devices. But the chairs will make a fun surface for them to play with their Dolls 😂

We bought my oldest a tiny chair, back when we didn't know better. She did everything but sit in it. Climbed on it (and it was a rocker!), carried it around, plopped her dolls in it--but sit? never. Little kids don't sit much, unless they are looking at a device.

[JuanitaBanana]

Doesn't Alyssa have a loft that is used as a play room? It makes sense that she would keep all the toys in there instead of in the bedroom. That way the kids have less things to get distracted with and it's easier for them to fall sleep. I would put the books on a lower shelf but maybe they are the fancy books that she and John read to the girls at bed time? I think the room looks pretty and perfect for sleeping. 

[JermajestyDuggar]

I think I’m just tired of alyssa being obsessed with everything looking perfect. She’s just so obsessed with looks. How she looks, how her kids look, how their bedrooms look, how her house looks, how her schoolroom looks. She’s just so superficial. 

[Karma]

4 minutes ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

She’s just so superficial. 

It’s almost like she’s a #superficialtwit…

[CanadianMamam]

22 minutes ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

I think I’m just tired of alyssa being obsessed with everything looking perfect. She’s just so obsessed with looks. How she looks, how her kids look, how their bedrooms look, how her house looks, how her schoolroom looks. She’s just so superficial. 

That is the instagram culture though. The difference Alyssa is doing it on this massive scale and is monetizing it so she is even more obsessed with making it look perfect because that is her brand. I mean, I also think she is a superficial twit and she is my least favorite Bates daughter but I don't think she is any more image obsessed than the majority of people on Instagram. 

[JuanitaBanana]

It reminds me of a joke I saw on fecebook... 

"Of course I only post filtered photos taken from my best angle. If you want to see me look like a mess come to my house....and bring tacos."

[JermajestyDuggar]

6 minutes ago, CanadianMamam said:

That is the instagram culture though. The difference Alyssa is doing it on this massive scale and is monetizing it so she is even more obsessed with making it look perfect because that is her brand. I mean, I also think she is a superficial twit and she is my least favorite Bates daughter but I don't think she is any more image obsessed than the majority of people on Instagram. 

I wouldn’t say the majority of people on instagram. I would say the majority of popular influencers. But I think there are a lot of people on instagram nowhere near as superficial as alyssa. Myself included. 

[CanadianMamam]

3 minutes ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

I wouldn’t say the majority of people on instagram. I would say the majority of popular influencers. But I think there are a lot of people on instagram nowhere near as superficial as alyssa. Myself included. 

Maybe different circles? My friend group definitely tend to be guilty of “showing the best”. Craft projects, our houses looking nice, etc. I mean there is the occasional “life is hard post” with tired faces and lots of laundry, but social media is definitely cultivated. 
 

we bought a house a couple years ago and when I took pictures of the kids room, I staged them. Toys in nice places, beds all made, books neatly organized. Not what it looks like day to day, but what I wanted to show. 

[Phyllis_Stein]

I don't think a child's room, or any room for that matter, needs to look original. Not everyone has the will, talent, or time to come up with something unique and special. it's really not necessary for a happy life or childhood. However, I am truly sick of that particular trendy aesthetic. I'm not a fan of the dusty/beigy pinks and other muted pastels that this group is all in on. I can't wait for this phase to be over. I know a lot of people love it. It's just my personal taste and tolerance level. 

[Queen Of Hearts]

10 hours ago, Jackie3 said:

There's very little original about it. There are a million girls rooms just like it. Rainbows/unicorns? Hardly a unique theme.

 

And the reason there are a million girls rooms like that is because THAT'S WHAT MILLIONS GIRLS LIKE!   I have a daughter who loves that stuff despite my not pushing it on her.  It is simply what she has always loved, the same with her friends.  Frankly, I applaud Alyssa for having a room that is decorated in a way kids would like rather than in the sterile, all-white rooms you see so often on Instagram.

[SassyPants]

1 hour ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

I think I’m just tired of alyssa being obsessed with everything looking perfect. She’s just so obsessed with looks. How she looks, how her kids look, how their bedrooms look, how her house looks, how her schoolroom looks. She’s just so superficial. 

I think fundamentalism breeds and reinforces superficiality. What kind of relationship can one parent have with 9, 12 or 19 children? How much time are you actually spending with 4 little girls under 7, when you have a big, White House that is immaculate at all times, Plus daily exercise?  How has no one spilled anything on one of those white, DINING room chairs? And all that coffee consumption? When I was diagnosed with sinus tachycardia which affected my BP, the first thing the cardiologist told me was to stop drinking caffeinated coffee.

Just like the shitty homeschooling all these people received, superficial.

[Jackie3]

38 minutes ago, SassyPants said:

 And all that coffee consumption? When I was diagnosed with sinus tachycardia which affected my BP, the first thing the cardiologist told me was to stop drinking caffeinated coffee.

Just like the shitty homeschooling all these people received, superficial.

I don't know why she thinks everyone is interested in her cups of coffee every day. And McD's coffee too! It just doesn't make for interesting content. Lots of people drink coffee.

That white dining room (excuse me "dinning room") completely baffled me. I remembered what it was like to eat with small children. How is it possible that room stays clean? 

3 hours ago, JuanitaBanana said:

I would put the books on a lower shelf but maybe they are the fancy books that she and John read to the girls at bed time? I think the room looks pretty and perfect for sleeping. 

I can't think of any reason to keep books out of the hands of children. I don't know what a "fancy book" is, but the ones on her shelf looked like regular books to me.

[CanadianMamam]

22 minutes ago, Jackie3 said:

 

I can't think of any reason to keep books out of the hands of children. I don't know what a "fancy book" is, but the ones on her shelf looked like regular books to me.

I had some books that were special. A few Dr. Seuss books from my father's childhood, some that were signed by my cousin the illustrator, etc. Those books were kept on a higher shelf when my children were little.

[Sheltie]

I didn’t see all these problems with the room I guess.  I didn’t really care that much or put that much thought into it.  I clicked on the pics, looked at them and forgot about it and moved on.

[Maggie Mae]

42 minutes ago, Jackie3 said:

I can't think of any reason to keep books out of the hands of children. I don't know what a "fancy book" is, but the ones on her shelf looked like regular books to me.

Maybe they are special to Zoe or Lexi, and keeping them up high keeps them out of toddler's mouths. They can probably use the chair to reach them.  Or if they are the longer stories they read together at night, having them out-of-reach means that they go back into their place and stay there. 

 

12 hours ago, Jackie3 said:

not many toys in sight,

I think they have a play room, leaving the bedroom for sleeping, changing, and probably time-outs. 

[JuanitaBanana]

51 minutes ago, Jackie3 said:

I don't know why she thinks everyone is interested in her cups of coffee every day. And McD's coffee too! It just doesn't make for interesting content. Lots of people drink coffee.

That white dining room (excuse me "dinning room") completely baffled me. I remembered what it was like to eat with small children. How is it possible that room stays clean? 

I can't think of any reason to keep books out of the hands of children. I don't know what a "fancy book" is, but the ones on her shelf looked like regular books to me.

When you have 2 children with a big age gap and one loves reading books and the other one loves to eat them or draw on them. My daughter has received a lot of books as presents from family and some have beautiful illustration and fancy paper. It's better to keep those away from little hands and crayons. 

[Jackie3]

5 hours ago, JuanitaBanana said:

When you have 2 children with a big age gap and one loves reading books and the other one loves to eat them or draw on them. My daughter has received a lot of books as presents from family and some have beautiful illustration and fancy paper. It's better to keep those away from little hands and crayons. 

It would be so easy to keep those books away from Maci, but still be accessible to the 3, 4 and 6-year old. Put them in a drawer. Put them on top of a dresser. No need to put them so high that all four kids can't reach them.

5 hours ago, Maggie Mae said:

Or if they are the longer stories they read together at night, having them out-of-reach means that they go back into their place and stay there. 

They look like ordinary picture books.

Edited September 22 by Jackie3

[Karma]

In today’s story she’s packing for the family to go away to a wedding. I have to agree with her, packing cells are a game changer. Back in the before time, when we could travel overseas every year, we used them. So convenient, easy when having multiple stops, and no more rummaging in the suitcase to find that missing eg box of tablets or phone charger.  Everything has its place. 

[Sheltie]

1 hour ago, Jackie3 said:

It would be so easy to keep those books away from Maci, but still be accessible to the 3, 4 and 6-year old. Put them in a drawer. Put them on top of a dresser. No need to put them so high that all four kids can't reach them.

They look like ordinary picture books.

You must have had a traumatic experience with a book on a shelf for this pic to have been so triggering for you.

[MomJeans]

Alyssa is superficial, but I think a lot of this is a reaction to her own childhood.

She is probably giving her daughters what she (Alyssa) always wanted.  That boring beige schoolroom - awful for those of us with good educations and and understanding of early childhood education, but still a vast improvement over the chaotic dining (dinning) room table that was Alyssa's "school room."

A little girls' room with a muted rainbow on the wall and a clean lonely toy. Boring as hell to my eyes but likely a dream to Alyssa, always sharing dirty toys, climbing over clutter and junk as a kid.  Kelly Jo's decorating was limited to white nationalist memorabilia (confederacy room).

[AussieKrissy]

9 hours ago, SassyPants said:

I think fundamentalism breeds and reinforces superficiality. What kind of relationship can one parent have with 9, 12 or 19 children? How much time are you actually spending with 4 little girls under 7, when you have a big, White House that is immaculate at all times, Plus daily exercise?  How has no one spilled anything on one of those white, DINING room chairs? And all that coffee consumption? When I was diagnosed with sinus tachycardia which affected my BP, the first thing the cardiologist told me was to stop drinking caffeinated coffee.

Just like the shitty homeschooling all these people received, superficial.

I often think that too when I saw the other day here posting that she was doing a deep houseclean I was like phhhhhmmmm another day of no real meanigful contact or interaction with your kids. Alyssa states that she gets anxious when the house is messy, this could stem from her childhood. I hope this is just a minor stress and not something that will take over her whole life to the detriment of her and her children. I hope that she is able to recognise if it is or does become a problem and seek help.